Day: November 28, 2023

Dil Mil is a dating app that caters to South Asian singles.

Its founder, KJ Dhaliwal founded the app after he saw that his friends and family were struggling to find romantic partners. KJ makes up part of the more than 30 million Indian diaspora around the world. He knew how difficult it was to find someone that shared his values and understood his culture while living as an expat in the UK. So he decided to bring the single South Asian community together by creating Dil Mil.

Dil Mil is quickly becoming one of the most used apps for those of South Asian descent (although it is mostly used by Indians).

In this article, we’ll dive into its features, price, number of users, and other important information that will help you decide whether you should download it or not.

What Is Dil Mil

Dil Mil is a dating app targeting singles of South Asian descent no longer living in South Asia. The only South Asian country where you can use Dil Mil is India, but this is a rather new development.

Most users are of Indian descent however, the app is welcome to users of all backgrounds, South Asian or otherwise.

The app was released about 5 years ago and is still slowly gaining users.

While Dil Mil can be used for casual dating purposes, the app encourages “strong, fulfilling, and meaningful relationships.” You can see this in the many ways it allows users to customize their profiles.

Signing Up

Dil Mil is a niche app that clearly understands its audience.

During the sign-up process you’re asked to provide certain information unique to the South Asian community.

Apart from providing the basics such as age, location, and professional background, you are also asked to provide information on your ‘community.’

Your chosen community will pop up in your profile. You are also able to filter singles via community if you’re using the paid version of Dil Mil.

After you choose your community, you’re asked rapid-fire questions. Be careful how you respond. Your choices will be posted in your profile, however, they can’t be used to filter users.

Next you’ll be asked to choose 3 personality traits.

Dil Mil offers dozens of options for you to choose from, some of them being specific to the South Asian culture. These traits include:

• Cricket fan
• Garba
• Raas

Initially, you can only choose three. However, after creating your profile, you’re able to choose up to 18 traits. I recommend choosing no more than 10. Choosing 18 takes up a lot of space in your profile that users will scroll past anyway. Best to choose only your top 3-5 features so they pop out.

Next, you’re asked to upload up to six photos. Photos must clearly show your face. Dil Mil doesn’t allow users to upload photos where they use glasses, hats, or other accessories that might obscure their face.

Should you desire, you can also fill out a brief bio, respond to prompts, and record a brief message.

Some prompts include:

• I nerd out on…
• Never have I ever…
• My most useless skill is…
• What I’m looking for in my jalebi baby…
• I’ll treat you like biryani instead of plain rice if…
• On mental health day I…

Dil Mil Cost

After filling out my profile, I was presented with the screen below.

Although Dil Mil claims the app is free, upon completing my profile I was not presented with a free option. It appeared as though the only way to use the app was to pay for it.

The pricing tiers are as follows:

• $59.99/ 1 month
• $33.33/month for 3 months
• $21.67/month for 6 months

Again, Dil Mil says that it offers a free version, however, it has decreased functionality.

For example, matches are not instantaneous via the free app. The free version is set up in such a way that it teases you into paying for the VIP Elite membership. Its lack of capabilities means it’s almost useless as a free version.

Compared to other apps, the Dil Mil cost is substantially higher than apps like Tinder and Bumble.

How It Works

Dil Mil works like Bumble and Tinder.

You’re shown a bunch of profiles and are asked to swipe right for a like and left for a pass.

Once you have a match you will be notified and you can start to chat.

However, there are some other unique ways you can get in touch with the lovely singles found on Dil Mil.

Dil Mil Features

Dil Mil has a ton of unique features that set it apart from other apps.

The coolest feature might just be Mil & Chill.

It’s a live chat option welcome to all users (I’m assuming restricted by area, but I could be wrong). Here people are welcome to chat about whatever they want.

There are also conversation-specific groups. Other Mil & Chill groups include:

• Guys Only
• Something Real
• Foodies
• Brown People Problems
• New Dil-ers

The coolest thing about this feature is that sure you can talk to people you have yet to match with and feel a part of a community, but even more so you can click on anyone’s profile and choose to like them. This group chat feature can’t be found on any other major dating apps. To be fair, most group chats aren’t very deep or active, but it still gives you a chance to learn a little bit more about someone prior to swiping left or right on their profile.

This feature builds community and is a decent way to meet people quickly.

Dil Mil also has an Elite Picks section (for paying users). Elite Picks are full of women the app deems to be highly desirable. It refreshes every 24 hours. You’re able to swipe right on as many users as you’re interested in.

Never before have I seen an app that allows you to filter users based on where they were raised or their religion. 

The Raised In filter allows you to choose to only connect with users who were raised in the US, Canada, UK, Austrailia, or India.

The Religion category covers a broad range of religions. Users can swipe right on everyone from Sikhs, and Jains, to Parsis, and Christians.

Like Tinder and Bumble you can send Super Likes and Boosts. Super Likes indicate that you’re super into someone and makes you “3x more likely to match versus the normal Like” according to the app.

A Boost will allow you to skip the line so that your profile is at the top of the queue for an hour.

Dil Mil Curiosities

Dil Mil is clearly trying to innovate.

Not only is it designed with South Asian singles in mind, but it has some fairly interesting features and quirks that are worth pointing out.

Are these nuances a plus? I’ll let you decide.

If you scroll down on someone’s profile you’ll be provided with a mouthful of information.

Some info is expected such as one’s love language, diet, drinking habits, and other lifestyle details.

But then there are some offbeat details provided such as:

• Response rate
• Last time user was active
• Popularity

I’m puzzled as to why such information is provided.

This isn’t need-to-know information, nor is it information that users will really take into account when swiping. Sure, it may give us more details about how they interact with the app, but it certainly wouldn’t dictate whether I swipe left or right.

If anything, I think the response rate and last time active details could serve to annoy users should they see that a user has used the app, but has not responded to them.

As for the Popularity percentile, this will only serve to hurt a user’s feelings and perhaps deter them from swiping right on someone simply because of how desirable other people perceive them to be. The popularity score is basically Tinder’s ELO score. Tinder disputes even having an ELO score, and if they do have one, it’s certainly not available to users.

An oddball feature I do, however love is Dil Details. 

Here you’ll find the dating stats you wish you had access to on Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge.

You’ll have access to:

• Likes received
• Where you’re most popular
• The sign that swipes right on you most often
• Profile optimization recommendations
• The average age of people that like you
• Super likes received
• Request received

Anyone that has ever used a dating app has wanted to quantify their success. Dil Mil does that for you with Dil Details.

Dil Mil Number of Users

It’s always difficult to pin down just how many users a dating app has.

Here’s what we found with Dil Mil.

Dil Mil claims to have over 2 million users worldwide.

This claim is semi-backed up if we look at how many times it’s been downloaded on Google Play (over 1 million downloads). It’s been downloaded over 11,000 times in the Apple Store.

Dil Mil Search Filters

Despite having a ton of users, Dil Mil has one major flaw. It doesn’t allow you to choose to search for users who live within a set distance from you.

For example, if I want to search for people based on geographic area, these are my options:

Unlike Tinder, for example, you can’t search for users that are within ‘x’ number of miles from you.

This leads users to match with people that live hundreds if not thousands of miles away, ultimately wasting everyone’s time.

That being said, if you live in a city with a large population of South Asians, such as SF or NYC, this may not be a problem for you. Also, if you’re willing to relocate to be with a partner, this may not be a problem for you.

Is Dil Mli Worth It?

Yes and no.

It all depends on what you’re looking for.

If you only want to date South Asian women from specific backgrounds, then it sounds like Dil Mil is worth a shot. 

But remember that Dil Mil is only popular within major cities. If you’re not located in a city or area with a large South Asian population, you will only match with users from other counties or states. 

It all depends on what you’re looking for in a partner, and what you’re willing to sacrifice to be with them.

My suggestion is not wholly to rely on any one dating app. 

If dating a woman of South Asian descent is important to you, for sure download Dil Mil, but it shouldn’t be the only dating app on your phone. There are also plenty of women who satisfy your criteria on apps like Tinder and Bumble. The sheer number of users on these apps make them must-downloads. You may also consider downloading Hinge which also allows you to filter users via ethnicity. Hinge even allows users to search for singles of South Asian or Southeast Asian ethnicities.

Dating Decoded

It’s tough meeting women on apps like Dil Mil and in person. 

At emlovz we teach our students the shortcut to finding their ideal match by MegaDating. MegaDating is our dating philosophy and it shapes everything we teach here at emlovz. Simply put MegaDating is dating prolifically with the specific goal of going on 20 dates in 90 days. This will give you ample women to compare and contrast so you can refine not only your dating skills but also who your ideal partner is.

To teach you how to quickly find highly compatible women in just weeks and become the most eligible bachelor in town you’ll team up with romantic experts, each skilled in their own unique area to support you.

Our Team

• Emyli (head coach), co-founder, curriculum developer, head coach, and I host two coaching sessions every week
• Thomas, co-founder, and coach. He’ll lead the biweekly Man Cave event where men come together to talk dating, bond with one another, and support other single men
• Cat, Brooke, and Audrey are mock date specialists. Go on a practice date with them (and receive feedback) before your next date
• Hailey is your new stylist. She’s worked with celebs from every industry and is now about to raid your closet
• Tilly is our holistic sex & intimacy coach. She’ll help you get the most out of your sex life so you and your partner are happier between the sheets
• Aundrea is an award-winning fitness coach. Are you ready to eat right and build muscle?
• Mia is our social media expert. Revamp your Facebook and Instagram profiles with her help and start meeting women online

Our Community

And look, we realize that the single life can be difficult. If accepted into our coaching program, Dating Decoded, you’d be joining a community of supportive men and coaches who are there to listen, support, and encourage you as you navigate the single life.

Our program offers every student a lifetime membership (as if you’ll need it) so the support won’t stop until you’ve found your ideal partner.

If you’re ready to find your forever partner, book a Zoom session with our team today. Together we’ll talk about your dating history, your goals and show you how our program, Dating Decoded, can help you find your ideal partner.

Learn how our students have already improved their dating lives.

Want 11 Bumble hacks for better results on the popular, female-driven dating app? Then read this. Bumble was launched in late 2014 and has quickly emerged as Tinder’s stiffest competition. Just a few short years after its inception and Bumble now has 40 million registered users to its name and can boast having created 2 billion matches and counting.

The app that’s been billed as the ‘feminist’s answer to Tinder’ is designed with women in mind. This female-first attitude should be a signal for men to jump on board as well. Bumble has one of the highest percentages of female users among popular dating applications. But just because there are a lot of female users doesn’t mean it’ll be easy to land a match.

Bumble almost seems to reward the male user by requiring that women message first. But to enjoy such a luxury, you must first find your match. Augmenting your number of matches is easy when you invest time into applying effective bumble hacks. There are a lot of swipe-right worthy bachelors out there –apply the following hacks to become one of them.

Bumble Hacks for Guys

#1: Consult the Experts About Your Profile Photos

There are dozens of Bumble hacks that users can implement to make their profiles more attractive like: wear different clothes in each photo, tell a unique story with every pic, play sports, etc.

I’ll refrain from a deep-dive into profile dos and do nots at the moment. Instead I want to offer you some much more obvious advice. Instead of pondering alone or with a male buddy if your Bumble pictures are up to snuff, why not ask a female friend?

Men can spend their entire lives trying to get into the mind of a female and never reach their goal. Instead of attempting this out of body experience, why not just ask a few female friends what they think of your photos? Ask at least five female friends to evaluate your profile. Should they all decide that certain photos aren’t working for you, have them browse through your photo library to find photos that will surely get you the matches you’re yearning for.

If you’re thinking to yourself “Emyli, I don’t have many women friends to consult with.” Not to worry.

There are two ways we help men choose the best possible photos for their Bumble profile.

1) Drop photos you’re considering uploading into our online community where they will be almost instantly reviewed by coaches and fellow students.

2) Our program, Dating Decoded uses a tool that enables women within your desired age range to score your photos and provide detailed feedback. If you ever wanted the real and unbiased opinion of random women on how your photos look, here is your chance.

#2: Show, Don’t Tell

A crucial error that many a man has made while filling out their Bumble bios is treating it like a resume instead of a playful hook. Vomiting a litany of your likes and dislikes isn’t what women want to read -that’s great that you love The Office, so does everyone else.

Instead, highlight what makes you unique in brief and humorous fashion. Channel your inner writer and dangle bits of interesting information about yourself to the reader. Don’t reveal you’re entire life story, but provide just enough so that they’ll give you that much sought after swipe right.

#3: Give Your Swipe Finger A Rest

If you’re a prolific swipper, Bumble will never throw you a bone. If you’re hooked there’s no reason to naturally boost women that have liked you to the front of the deck. However if you can abstain from swiping for a couple of days, Bumble will place you on a direct collision course with women that have already liked you.

No one has quite yet decoded Bumble’s match algorithm. Though it seems that if users play coy, the application’s algorithm will note that a user is losing interest and will in effect relieve you of having to swipe for hours to find a match.

Apart from conning the algorithm, there’s another reason to limit your time on Bumble. Even though the most popular way to meet someone is online, the majority of romantic relationships still begin offline.

We love online dating because it’s quick, easy, and convenient, but we shouldn’t wholly rely on dating apps to find a romantic partner.

Be sure to get out of the house at least once a week and put yourself in a position to meet women IRL.

That means meeting new people at trivia, going to parties, joining a gym, enrolling in a co-ed sports club, speed dating, or engaging in one of the many other ways we have to meet women IRL.

If you don’t know where to start, I recommend thinking of your ideal partner and then imagining where she spends her free time. Then simply frequent those places.

#4: Integrate Spotify

If Bumble adds a feature as specific as integrating Spotify, you should utilize it. Bumble wins when users match with a greater frequency. Linking Instagram and Spotify accounts as well as filling out all profile information is an easy Bumble hack to implement.

Spotify is an app worth connecting to your Bumble account because of its unique ability to tell a story about your character. You can slot in photos and pen an award-winning profile blurb and still not reap the benefits that Spotify offers.

There’s no denying that music has an incomparable way of bringing people together. Bonding over a mutually appreciated song or discovering a jam thanks to someone else is an easy way to form a positive association between you and the song in question.

#5: Connect Your IG

Along with linking your Bumble account to Spotify you should also link it to IG.

Your job here is to supply her with as much information about yourself as possible. The more she knows about your the better the odds are that she’ll agree to date you. Link to your IG and keep the material fresh. Post at least once every two weeks.

Linking your IG also means that when you ask for her number, she won’t first ask to see your IG. Women are cautious to go out with strangers. She’ll do her due diligence before meeting up with some guy she met on Bumble.

#6: Include Education and Profession In Bio

It’s no secret that women find a well-educated man with a well paying job attractive. Where you went to school and your profession are both signs of social status. Being that plugging in these pieces of information takes all of ten seconds, you’d be remiss to leave these spaces blank.

If you need further convincing, check out my other article on Disclosing Your Education On Your Dating Profile.

#7: Find Your Swipe Zone

Amassing matches is well and good, but if you’re not making the romantic transition from the virtual to real life what’s the point? Founder Whitney Wolfe says that the best time to get your swipe on is 6 p.m. – Bumble’s happy hour. And in our experience you’re much more likely to transcend the conversation beyond the walls of a smartphone and into the real world if you immediately begin chatting with a match as opposed to waiting. Be sure you’re getting your swipe on at 6. Not only this but when a woman reaches out, respond to her in a timely fashion (not immediately, but within a few minutes). If you wait too long you might just get buried under the dozens of other messages she receives on a daily basis.

Matches that wait longer to respond accumulate a certain amount of digital dust that obscures their initial luster. Chatting it up immediately after a match is made is a humanizing feature. Being on Bumble during rush hour also allows you to sustain a conversation long enough to retrieve a woman’s contact information, or more importantly, set a TDL with her before the initial conversation ends. This is much more appealing than waiting hours upon hours to have your messages responded to.

The last benefit of being on Bumble during peak hours is that the competition won’t drown you out. If you wait a day or so to respond to your match’s message you‘ve allowed others to receive a head start on the race towards a date. Female Bumble users will generally be talking to more than one guy at the same time. Waiting to respond to a message allows someone else a head start in building a connection.

Bumble Hacks for Guys #8: Get Verified

Catfishing is quickly becoming an American pastime. With users being able to upload any photo of their choosing to the application, you can’t always be sure that the person you’re looking at is the one you’ll be meeting up with should you decide to do so.

Bumble is the only dating application that verifies its users. While there are no statistics to back this, it should make sense that the odds of landing a date are better for verified users. The non-invasive user identification process requires nothing more than snapping a selfie. In a matter of minutes, Bumble employees will evaluate the photo and determine whether it matches the person in your profile pictures.

#9: Speed Dating

Speed dating is a scary prospect – that’s probably why you’re provided with a drink or two when signing up.

Yet while terrifying, it makes a lot of sense. In just 60 minutes you’re guaranteed to meet a dozen or so women. Bumble took this age-old practice and digitized it.

Now, every Thursday at 7 p.m. users can log in and speed date for an hour.

It works like this…

Once paired with a fellow single person (you’re not guaranteed a certain number of dates) you have three minutes to talk to this person. And by talking, I mean messaging. No video chat, no audio.

These are also blind dates. You won’t see her photo or even her name until the end of the date.

After it’s over you’ll only be presented with a single photo and be asked whether you want to match or not. At the end of the hour, you’ll learn if the women you’ve chatted with have matched with you.

Our students have had great success with Speed Dating as it gives them a chance to showcase their personality. Once you let your personality shine through and come across as a normal guy, chances are she’ll swipe right.

#10: Send A Compliment

Few dating apps offer users the chance to send a message prior to a match.

Bumble now grants users this ability with their compliment feature.

Click the heart icon to send a 150-character compliment.

The compliment will last in her inbox for 24 hours. If she responds you two are matched.

You receive one free compliment a day (you cannot collect compliments). Should you want to purchase them, they’ll run you $3.33 should you purchase 30.

#11: Stop Saying Hi

While it may be refreshing to have a woman initiate a romantic conversation, this doesn’t mean that men are completely off the hook. Instead of mirroring her hello with one of your own, put some thought into your message and make yourself standout.

Let her profile provide clues as to how to respond. Address something you learned in her profile rather than reply in a generic fashion. But what if her profile doesn’t offer any information to latch onto? In that case ask a penetrating question that’ll reveal her personality. If you’re wondering what such a question looks like, take a note from the aforementioned “36 Questions That Lead To Love” article. Here are some of my favorites:

• Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
• When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
• What is your most treasured memory?
• Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share…”
• If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

For extra help with responding to women on bumble, check out my previous article on How to Respond to a Woman’s First Message on Bumble.

#12: Avoid The Selfie

Selfies are easy to post on a dating profile. We all have legions of selfie photos just waiting to be posted on social media or used on dating application. But just because they’re readily available doesn’t they’re effective.

According to a study released from the upstart dating application, Hinge, selfies were 40% less likely to receive a like than others types of photos. Men are recommended to upload a photo that displays them occupying a large body of space, ideally in an upward ‘V’ formation. This is opposed to having your arms crossed, face obscured, or smiling into the camera.

#13: Ask Her Out First, But Also Get Her Phone Number

Convincing a woman to go out with you is all about building trust. The application medium is a safe place for her to screen you before meeting in the flesh. Even if you’re vibing on the application, be sure to first setup a TDL first. Once she’s accepted your date invitation, ask her for her phone number.

If she’s accepted your TDL and given you her phone number, it’s likely she won’t flake out on you the morning of your date. Keep in mind, some women won’t feel comfortable handing out their number until they’ve met up in person.

If she turns down your first request for her number, say this “I understand right now you might not be comfortable enough to give me your phone number. But I think it would be good to exchange numbers just in case one of us is running late (won’t be me) or something unexpected happens with the date location not being open for some reason.” 

#14: Use a Dating Coach

At emlovz teach our students the shortcut to finding their ideal match by MegaDating. MegaDating is our dating philosophy and it shapes everything we teach here at emlovz. Simply put MegaDating is dating prolifically with the specific goal of going on 20 dates in 90 days. This will give you ample women to compare and contrast so you can refine not only your dating skills but also who your ideal partner is.

To teach you how to quickly find highly compatible women in just weeks and become the most eligible bachelor in town you’ll team up with romantic experts, each skilled in their own unique area to support you.

Our Team

• Emyli (me), co-founder, curriculum developer, head coach, and I host two coaching sessions every week
• Thomas, co-founder, and coach. He’ll lead the biweekly Man Cave event where men come together to talk dating, bond with one another, and support other single men
• Cat, Brooke, and Audrey are mock date specialists. Go on a practice date with them (and receive feedback) before your next date
• Hailey is your new stylist. She’s worked with celebs from every industry and is now about to raid your closet
• Tilly is our holistic sex & intimacy coach. She’ll help you get the most out of your sex life so you and your partner are happier between the sheets
• Aundrea is an award-winning fitness coach. Are you ready to eat right and build muscle?
• Mia is our social media expert. Revamp your Facebook and Instagram profiles with her help and start meeting women online

Our Community

And look, we realize that the single life can be difficult. If accepted into our coaching program, Dating Decoded, you’d be joining a community of supportive men and coaches who are there to listen, support, and encourage you as you navigate the single life.

Our program offers every student a lifetime membership (as if you’ll need it) so the support won’t stop until you’ve found your ideal partner.

If you’re ready to find your forever partner, book a Zoom session with our team today. Together we’ll talk about your dating history, your goals and show you how our program, Dating Decoded, can help you find your ideal partner.

Learn how our students have already improved their dating lives.