Why Don’t You Offer More Pay-Per-Session Coaching Options?
The reason I don’t offer more a-la-carte services is because back when I used to, I observed a low level of impact on my clients. One or two sessions was rarely enough time to get my clients to their goals because love just isn’t a quick fix. Anything worth having takes time, hard work and personal development.
Do You Offer Any OTHER Pay-Per-Session Options?
I offer an online dating profile assessment, which is a pay-per-session option. This is a 50 minute session where I review a client’s online dating profile and provide simple, actionable feedback on photos, self-summary, and messages.
I offer this package for online dating profiles because the steps required to optimize a profile are logical (not emotional) and the photos and self-summary can be optimized in one sitting. Unlike more complex coaching needs, the online dating assessment session is an easy way to get outside feedback from a woman.
Can You Coach Me On My Messages?
People who want to develop their messaging skills, should consider more advanced online dating packages where we can work together over a period of several weeks. Learning how to message women effectively on dating sites and dating apps is a muscle that needs to be developed over time.
Real Love Takes Time & Effort
Think about how much time you put in to find your current job or to graduate from college. Would you consider either of those things more or less important than finding true love?
Dating Isn’t Taught In Schools
Without being taught how to date in school, how can you know that you’re really doing a good job? How can you ensure that your dating formula is set up correctly? That the steps you’re following now are actually leading you down the path to Mrs. Right? Can you be sure? Did you have strong role models growing up that you could learn from? I know I didn’t have great role models and I would not have found love without a specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and timely dating plan. Wouldn’t you agree that the process of attracting the perfect person, keeping the relationship healthy, and ensuring that you don’t settle for less than you deserve likely takes time, dedication, and hard work?
Do You Offer Text Coaching?
Yes, but only when you sign up for my VIP coaching program. In some cases, I allow my signature program clients to add text coaching to their package for a flat fee.
Regarding text message coaching as a standalone option, I don’t coach that way only. This is because in order for you to have success, you need to build a strong foundation from which to date from. We need to work together in the beginning to identify what’s been holding you back from finding love until now. We have to learn how to communicate effectively together and we have to understand how we both see the dating world so we don’t lose value in the 2-dimensional relationship that text coaching provides.
Why Should I Do 3 or 12 Months Of Coaching? I Don’t Need That Much Help.
The most successful athletes in the world had coaches by their side the entire way. Maybe they didn’t need the help… I suppose you could argue that point… but if that’s true then why were the coaches there every step of the way? For example, in baseball there are a variety of specific coaches like hitting coaches, pitching coaches, base-stealing coaches, infield coaches and outfield coaches? Aren’t these professional athletes already at the top of their game? Maybe… so what’s the point of having so many coaches? The answer is that raw talent is not the same as a refined skill. Raw talent that isn’t developed almost always fails to deliver positive outcomes. It’s like having a tool in your tool belt that could do the job only you don’t know how to operate it. Dating coaching is very similar. It’s a process of taking those raw interpersonal talents and developing them to get you to your goals. It’s also about identifying your weaknesses and then creating strategies to avoid or overcome them so they stop holding you back from love.
How much success have you had in the last 90 days?
What if you could be in a relationship that really excited you in the next 90 days? What is the likelihood you will get there if you base your next 90 days of dating on your past relationship/dating history? If you see a clear vision of a very different future relationship in the next 90 days, then what is your plan to get there? These are all questions I would ask before thinking that you only need one or two sessions with a dating coach.
Why My Clients Are Successful
I work with clients who understand the value of having someone in their corner to push them, to provide an effective dating framework, and to share insights into what’s happening with particular partners and situations while they are on their dating journey. Similar to sports coaches, who exist most importantly at the elite athletic level, I work with people who understand that to be the best and attract the best, they must continually push the envelope to improve.
The Opportunity Cost of Not Committing Fully
In order for you to find real, lasting love, you have to prioritize the learning of how to find and keep love. You have to spend time and energy on it. You have to confront uncomfortable obstacles and step way outside your comfort zone. While everyone feels committed on January 1st, most lose their motivation by January 21st. The same is true in coaching. You are very likely to experience the same phenomenon. So, what is going to guarantee you get through it and achieve real, lasting success in love?
Your commitment to yourself.
Protecting Yourself From Failure
When you commit to changing your life, you need to protect yourself from failure when the going gets tough. Often, making a financial investment in yourself that is uncomfortable, can help to compel you to see yourself through obstacles to ensure your return on investment.
An Example From My Experience
I often think about my time in school at Cal Berkeley. Three weeks into my classes, I wanted to quit. I was certain that admissions had made a mistake on me, that I could never be as smart as the other kids in class.
Overcoming The Fear Of Failure
I was terrified of failure but I was even more terrified of what would happen to me if I didn’t graduate. I had student loans that I couldn’t pay off without that degree and ultimately I had no other choice but to move forward, directly through the pain. I couldn’t avoid it, I couldn’t get around it, I had to go straight through the fire. It was harder than anything I’ve ever done but I did it. I more than did it. I crushed it. Because I had no other choice.
The Genius of Eminem
One of my favorite song lyrics is from 8mile. When Eminem says “Success is my only mother-bleeping option, failure’s not.” But it’s not always so easy as a song lyric because when you get to that point in life that he’s describing and you don’t have an easy way out, it’s scary. Really scary. And I get it. And that is the only reason I got through it, because I had no other option.
You Need Skin In The Game
So I can’t make it easy for you. I can’t say, “yeah, I’ll coach you once or twice and make any kind of meaningful difference…” because I won’t. Because it’s not about me. It’s about you. You have to put some skin in the game. You have to protect yourself from failure. Because it’s a hell of a lot easier to quit when the going gets tough. It’s way easier. But I’m not in the business of failure.
Failure Is Not An Option
If you’re going to fail, I don’t want to work with you. I want those people who want love so bad that they can’t imagine a life without it and they will not quit until they have it. That’s the person I want to work with. It is that person that I can promise will find the love they seek.
And I’m so lucky to get to be a part of their journey. To walk beside them on their path. That’s what I’m here for. To support you through the process. To provide insights, strategic advice and even just to listen when you need it. But I’m not here to be your band aid. I’m not here to take your money and then let you fail. That has no value for me.
Service, Not Sales
I could easily offer a smaller, less intensive package to sell you and I’d probably get more transactions because of it but the problem is that I wouldn’t be serving you. I already know how that story ends. If I make it easy for you to say yes, then guess how easy it will be to stop when the going gets tough. Because you don’t have enough skin in the game because I let it be an easy decision.
My goal is to serve my clients at the highest level, and create a deep, lasting change in their lives. If you’re serious about attracting your perfect partner, and changing your love life in a deep and meaningful way, then I can help. If you’re looking for a quick fix solution that doesn’t make a huge impact in your love life, then I’m not the coach for that.
If you have more questions about the coaching program that I haven’t answered, then let’s set up a time to talk. Let me know how I can best serve you.