Why Should I Do 3 Months Of Coaching? I Don’t Need That Much Help.
The most successful athletes in the world had coaches by their side the entire way. Maybe they didn’t need the help… I suppose you could argue that point… but if that’s true then why were the coaches there every step of the way? For example, in baseball there are a variety of specific coaches like hitting coaches, pitching coaches, base-stealing coaches, infield coaches and outfield coaches. Aren’t these professional athletes already at the top of their game? Maybe… so what’s the point of having so many coaches?
The answer is that raw talent is not the same as a refined skill. Raw talent that isn’t developed almost always fails to deliver positive outcomes. It’s like having a tool in your tool belt that could do the job only you don’t know how to operate it. Dating coaching is very similar. It’s a process of taking those raw interpersonal talents and developing them to get you to your goals. It’s also about identifying your weaknesses and then creating strategies to avoid or overcome them so they stop holding you back from love.
How Much Success Have You Had in the Last 3 Months?
What if you could be dating a few women (or even be in a very early relationship) that you’re really excited you in just 3 months? What is the likelihood you will get there if you base your next 3 months of dating on your past relationship/dating history? If you see a clear vision of a very different future relationship in the next 3 months, then what is your plan to get there? These are all questions I would ask before thinking that you only need one or two sessions with a dating coach.
Real Love Takes Time & Effort
Think about how much time you put in to find your current job or to graduate from college. Would you consider either of those things more or less important than finding true love?
Dating Isn’t Taught In Schools
Without being taught how to date in school, how can you know that you’re really doing a good job? How can you ensure that your dating formula is set up correctly? That the steps you’re following now are actually leading you down the path to Mrs. Right? Can you be sure? Did you have strong role models growing up that you could learn from? I know I didn’t have great role models and I would not have found love without a specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, and timely dating plan.
Wouldn’t you agree that the process of attracting the perfect person, keeping the relationship healthy, and ensuring that you don’t settle for less than you deserve likely takes time, dedication, and hard work?
Do Your Signature Program Clients Receive Email Support In Between Weekly Sessions?
Clients have the option to upgrade their Signature program to include email support between sessions.
Do You Offer In-Person Coaching Options?
I offer a variety of in-person options for my Signature Program clients, including mock-dates, weekly coaching sessions, and an eight hour 1-on-1 workshop. My fees adjust for these in-person options- and I’m happy to explain in further detail during our introductory New Client Session. Keep in mind that I live/work in San Francisco, so if you’re not local, you’ll need to plan on flying into SF to meet me.
Can You Coach Me On My Messages?
People who want to develop their messaging skills should consider my coaching program where we can work together over a period of several weeks. Learning how to message women effectively on dating sites/apps is a muscle that needs to be developed over time.
Where Can I Find Testimonials Of Your Previous Coaching Clients?
Here’s my internal review page where you can view what some of my previous clients have to say about working with me.
Do You Work With Men of a Certain Age?
I’ve worked 18 year old men all the way up to 72. It’s broad, I know. But dating is something that can be mastered at any time in life. As long as you’re willing to put in the hard work, I’m happy to be your coach.
Why Should I Hire a Dating Coach over a Matchmaking Service?
For a few reasons. One being the cost. I can teach you everything you need to know for a fraction of what you would pay to even the most affordable Matchmakers. Most matchmaking packages can cost upwards of $10,000 for a period as short as 3 months but how can you be assured they’ll find you quality matches right away? Chances are you’ll end up paying for their service for 6 months. Doing the math, that’s a $20,000+ price tag. And what if they’re unsuccessful? You’re then stuck in the same dilemma you were in when you signed up with them.
I would also argue that Matchmakers are essentially modern day recruiters. They spend all their time convincing singles to date their clients. They aren’t up to speed on date locations, date rules, conversation strategies, escalation techniques, and probably know nothing about online dating.
I know it’s cliche, but here’s an analogy to sum this up: Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.
What If I Want to Speed Up the Signature Program?
Using historical data from previous clients, for best case results – I recommend the Signature Program duration to stay at 3 months. With that said, if you’re in a super hurry, I’m happy to discuss creating a custom program with you during our New Client Session.
Why My Clients Are Successful
I work with clients who understand the value of having someone in their corner to push them, to provide an effective dating framework, and to share insights into what’s happening with particular partners and situations while they are on their dating journey. Similar to sports coaches, who exist most importantly at the elite athletic level, I work with people who understand that to be the best and attract the best, they must continually push the envelope to improve.
The Opportunity Cost of Not Committing Fully
In order for you to find real, lasting love, you have to prioritize the learning of how to find and keep love. You have to spend time and energy on it. You have to confront uncomfortable obstacles and step way outside your comfort zone. While everyone feels committed on January 1st, most lose their motivation by January 21st. The same is true in coaching. You are very likely to experience the same phenomenon. So, what is going to guarantee you get through it and achieve real, lasting success in love?
Your commitment to yourself.
Protecting Yourself From Failure
When you commit to changing your life, you need to protect yourself from failure when the going gets tough. Often, making a financial investment in yourself that is uncomfortable, can help to compel you to see yourself through obstacles to ensure your return on investment.
An Example From My Experience
I often think about my time in school at Cal Berkeley. Three weeks into my classes, I wanted to quit. I was certain that admissions had made a mistake on me, that I could never be as smart as the other kids in class.
Overcoming The Fear Of Failure
I was terrified of failure but I was even more terrified of what would happen to me if I didn’t graduate. I had student loans that I couldn’t pay off without that degree and ultimately I had no other choice but to move forward, directly through the pain. I couldn’t avoid it, I couldn’t get around it, I had to go straight through the fire. It was harder than anything I’ve ever done but I did it. I more than did it. I crushed it. Because I had no other choice.
The Genius of Eminem
One of my favorite song lyrics is from 8mile. When Eminem says “Success is my only mother-bleeping option, failure’s not.” But it’s not always so easy as a song lyric because when you get to that point in life that he’s describing and you don’t have an easy way out, it’s scary. Really scary. And I get it. And that is the only reason I got through it, because I had no other option.
Failure Is Not An Option
If you’re going to fail, I don’t want to work with you. I want those people who want love so bad that they can’t imagine a life without it and they will not quit until they have it. That’s the person I want to work with. It is that person that I can promise will find the love they seek.
And I’m so lucky to get to be a part of their journey. To walk beside them on their path. That’s what I’m here for. To support you through the process. To provide insights, strategic advice and even just to listen when you need it. I’m not here to take your money and then let you fail. That has no value for me.