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Online Dating

Tips to Get More Matches on Dating App Hinge

Top 11 Tips to Get More Matches on Dating App Hinge

Emyli Lovz | Online Dating | No Comments

Dating apps have taken over from mainstream online dating sites and can be one of the most effective ways to meet your ideal partner – if you know how to…

The Top 5 Dating Apps of 2017 – Beyond Tinder

Pauline Plott | Online Dating | No Comments

Today’s article is a guest post by London based dating guru Pauline Plott. More author information below.  —— Have you ever been on a Tinder swiping binge and thought there…

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How to Ask a Girl Out Online

Emyli Lovz | Online Dating | No Comments

Hey guys, it’s Emyli here. Today’s topic is on how to ask a girl out online. As a personal dating coach in San Francisco, I get asked for tips on…

Strategy

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How to End a First Date

Emyli Lovz | First Date | No Comments

First dates can be pretty awkward, especially when winging it. From learning how to keep the conversation going with her or how to make her laugh, to figuring out how…

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Texting Before the First Date: Risks, Rewards, and Spike-Filled Pits

EmLovz Graduate (Anonymous) | First Date | No Comments

Congratulations! Someone has responded to one of the four hundred online entreaties you sent to people who’ve caught your interest on an online dating site. It is not easy to…

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How to Make Conversation on a First Date

Emyli Lovz | First Date | No Comments

Hi Guys, it’s Emyli again. I want to tackle how to make conversation on a first date. Have you ever been on a first date where the conversation came to…

First Date

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How to Select Your Ideal Partner – Moving Beyond Pinups and Fantasy

EmLovz Graduate (Anonymous) | Strategy | No Comments

Most people don’t really know where they’re going and are using a bad map to get there. Read the title and then forget it. There is no such thing as…

How to Play Hard to Get With a Girl

How to Play Hard to Get With a Girl

Emyli Lovz | Strategy | No Comments

When I was a single woman, I hated it when men would play games with me. At the same time though, I had to acknowledge that being too available was…

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How To Tell If She Has A Boyfriend

Emyli Lovz | Strategy | No Comments

Hey, everyone–Emyli here! Do you want to know how to tell if a she has a boyfriend? Is it hard to pick out the single women from a group of girls at a…

Confidence

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Coping with Dating Rejection: Rolling with the Shots

EmLovz Graduate (Anonymous) | Confidence | No Comments

Let us cut directly to the chase: if you suspect that this article will feature some variant on getting back up on the horse you just got knocked off of,…

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How to Not Be Nervous on a Date

Emyli Lovz | Confidence | One Comment

Hey Guys, it’s Emyli here, America’s Dating Coach for Men. I’m excited to talk to you on something that affects almost everyone across the board—feeling nervous on a first (or…

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Why Am I Still Single

Emyli Lovz | Confidence | No Comments

I completely understand why it may be hard to ask yourself the burning question of why am I still single? This often has to do with facing a certain reality…

Conversation

How to Keep a Conversation Going with a Girl Over Text

How to Keep a Conversation Going with a Girl Over Text

Emyli Lovz | Conversation | No Comments

Hey there, it’s Emyli–America’s #1 Dating Coach and founder of EmLovz.com. Today, I’m excited to talk about how to keep a conversation going with a girl over text. It’s a…

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How to Keep the Conversation Going With a Girl on a Date

Emyli Lovz | Conversation | No Comments

You’ve worked up the courage to talk to her, and somehow built up the inner strength to ask her out on a date. At this point, instead of feeling relieved,…

How to Start a Conversation with a Girl You Like In Person

How to Start a Conversation with a Girl You Like In Person

Emyli Lovz | Conversation | No Comments

Hi! It’s Emyli, founder of Emlovz.com and America’s online dating coach. Today, we’re going to go over something that’s pretty darn important when it comes to dating, and that’s how…

Relationships

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Stay at Home Date Idea: Spicing Up Movie Night

Jake Tillerson | Relationships | No Comments

While home theaters are generally considered “man-cave” domain, they are useful for the entire family. One of the best uses is for a stay at home date idea with your…

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Worried You’re Not Good Enough in Bed?

Maj Wismann | Relationships | No Comments

As human beings, we’re gifted with an ability to think, reflect and evaluate. This truly is a gift but in some cases – more often than not, actually, when it…

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How Long Does It Take to Get Over a Breakup?

Emyli Lovz | Relationships | No Comments

Hi guys! It’s me, Emyli—founder of Emlovz.com and America’s Dating Coach for Men. Today, I want to talk about dealing with the end of a relationship. Specifically, the aftermath of one,…

Attraction

How to Turn a Woman on While on a Date

How to Turn a Woman on While on a Date

Emyli Lovz | Attraction | No Comments

As a dating strategist with plenty of dating experience under my belt, I know a lot about how guys work–and what works on us women when it comes to romance….

Flirting Signals

Emyli Lovz | Attraction | No Comments

It’s Emyli again, America’s Dating Coach for Men. Is there a girl who you think might be flirting with you….but you aren’t too sure? Wanna know some obvious, and some…

4 Ways to Escalate Sexual Attraction Authentically by Reversing Expectations

Emyli Lovz | Attraction | No Comments

It’s Emyli again, America’s female dating coach for men & women. You’re watching EmLovzTV, your place to be if you are trying to meet and attract the perfect partner. Wanna know…

Health

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How to Get Rid of Acne Like a Boss

Emyli Lovz | Health | No Comments

It’s Emyli again, America’s online dating coach for men & women. You’re watching EmLovzTV, your place to be if you are trying to meet and attract the perfect partner. Today…

How to Lose Weight with Body for Life

Emyli Lovz | Health | No Comments

It’s Emyli here, America’s Online Dating Coach. Would you agree that fitness is important for dating? Well I’d say so. Attraction stems from physical appearance so you want to ensure…

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Why Tough Mudder is Great for Singles & Relationship Types

Emyli Lovz | Health | No Comments

Emyli here, America’s Online Dating Coach. Last month, Tom and I completed the hardest physical and mental challenge we have ever done. The experience completely transformed our relationship, which is why…

SF Bay Area

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The Top 5 Strategies To Finding A Long Term Relationship in the San Francisco Bay Area

Emyli Lovz | SF Bay Area | No Comments

Are you looking for love, marriage, or a long term relationship here in the San Francisco Bay Area? Let me re-frame that…..are you STILL looking for love, marriage, or a long…

Who Pays on a First Date in the Bay Area Men or Women

Who Pays on a First Date in the Bay Area, Men or Women?

Emyli Lovz | SF Bay Area | No Comments

During my 100 date experiment back in 2011, I quickly discovered that the first date bill could be pretty awkward. Some guys had no problem picking it up, while others…

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11 Reasons Why You Need A San Francisco Dating Coach

Emyli Lovz | SF Bay Area | No Comments

Every now and then I think the Bay Area should really be called the Bae Area. Yet for many singles it’s not – but it could be. Dating is hard,…

3 Ways a Dating Coach for Men Can Help You

Are you new to dating and not sure where to start? Maybe you're a dating veteran, but just can't find Ms. Right? Whatever the situation, you've landed on my website because you want to attract more women, learn how to avoid the friendzone, or reach goals like getting a girlfriend or finding a wife.

A qualified dating coach for men can cut down on the amount of time it would normally take you to reach these goals. However, not all dating coaches are created equal. Make sure you choose a coach who is qualified - like me, they've done the real life work, and can use their past experiences to create rock-solid strategies for their clients. As promised, here are 3 ways a qualified dating coach can help you:

  1. A qualified dating coach acts as your personal dating consultant. They will fully listen as you explain your current challenges and roadblocks. They will create realistic, individualized strategies for you to follow. They'll also analyze all of your previous dating patterns and trends, which may uncover subliminal reasons why you may be failing.
  2. A qualified dating coach holds you accountable for reaching your goals. They will not let your potential limiting beliefs or bad habits get in the way. They give you an outside, objectionable opinion that you may not always agree with. Last, but not least, they limit any change-pain by creating logical, step by step action plans.
  3. A qualified dating coach will speed up your success rate. You might be asking me what this means? Well, for example, let's say that you want to learn how to play poker (with an end goal of having a side income). And let's say you decide to learn this new game all by yourself. Chances are you'll lose a lot of money with this trial and error strategy. The same goes for dating - it's a skill, and it must be learned. Having a dating coach for men at your disposal to ask how, why, when, and what is a surefire way for you to increase your odds of getting date #2, date #3, and eventually to your goals.

2 Online Dating Tips That Will Get You Responses

Are you wondering why only 1 of 50 women respond to your online dating messages? Did you land here looking for online dating tips to increase this low 2% response rate? If so, you found the right site. Every day, I help single men navigate the treacherous waters of online dating. I'm here to support you whether you're looking for my personal help as your online dating coach, or if you just want to browse my online dating articles.

First things first- online dating is super competitive. As a San Francisco Dating Coach, I've seen it all. You need to be smart and tactful to stand out from the thousands of single men in your city, who are all competing for the same high quality women. Most attractive women receive up to 50 to 100 messages per day. Do you think they have time to read all these messages? Of course not! So here are a couple of my favorite online dating tips to help you get started:

1. In your first 10 words to her, you need to convey commonality and relate through shared interests. I know what you are thinking: "Emyli, does this mean I need to read through her entire profile?" Nope - be smart with your time. Most dating sites have an "interests" section - just scroll there to do some quick recon work. She's more likely to click on your message if she sees in the message preview area that you have something in common with her.

For example, do you both love the musician Drake? If so, ask her what her favorite Drake song is. Then back it up with your favorite is and why, so she knows you aren't full of it. And guys, don't lie or force something that isn't there. It will only lead to a failure.

2. One of my favorite online dating tips is teaching my mega-messaging strategy! Mega-messaging is the process of messaging many women at the same time, with the goal soon thereafter, Megadating. Understand that online dating is a numbers game. The more women you effectively message means the more responses you get. Period. So how can I help you save time and energy when messaging hundreds of women? Download my mega-messaging template here.

2 First Date Tips that Work

Do you have a first date coming up? Not sure whether to take her to dinner, for a coffee, on a hike, or something else? If you talk with 10 dating coaches, chances are you'll get different answers. However, after my 100 date experiment in 2011, the answer was very clear to me. Here are a couple of my favorite first date tips that will lead you to what needs to be your goal - securing date #2.

1. First dates should under 1 hour with no more than $10 to $15 spent out of your pocket. That's right guys - don't even think of inviting her to dinner. Not only is a first date dinner an unnecessary spend of money, but you aren't making her work for much. Going to dinner with you should be a prize that she can win after two previous interactions with you.

So what can you do for under 1 hour that's no more than $15? Lots of things. Invite her to coffee, but just don't sit in the coffee shop - go out for a walk and explore your city. You could take her for a single drink at a nice lounge near where she lives. Maybe you can find something from her online dating profile that she enjoys doing that is under $15.

2. Another one of my first date tips is to let her know during the beginning of date #1 that you have something planned in about one hour. Doing this will relieve any timing related pressure on the both of you. Plus, it makes you look social and fun- that you have a base of friends or something important you have to do.

NOTE: It's really important that you actually have something planned with friends after this 1 hour date. Why? Well, if you are enjoying your time with her, you could invite her to join your next activity. Women love spur of the moment opportunities. Plus she probably planned an initial couple of hours of her time for your date anyway. The great news is, her coming along with you ultimately means a guaranteed second date.

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