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Throughout my tenure as a dating coach, there is one query that tends to come up over and over again — how to not freeze up on a date. Whether you’re…
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3 Ways a Dating Coach for Men Can Help You
Are you new to dating and not sure where to start? Maybe you’re a dating veteran, but just can’t find Ms. Right? Whatever the situation, you’ve landed on my website because you want to attract more women, learn how to avoid the friendzone, or reach goals like getting a girlfriend or finding a wife. And you’re not alone – thousands of men land on my website each month looking for the most recent, cutting edge dating tips for men.
Hiring a qualified dating coach for men can cut down on the amount of time it would normally take you to reach these goals. However, not all dating coaches are created equal. Make sure you choose a coach who is qualified – like me, they’ve done the real life work, and can use their past experiences to create rock-solid strategies for their clients. As promised, here are 3 ways a qualified dating coach can help you:
- A qualified dating coach for men acts as your personal dating consultant. They will fully listen as you explain your current challenges and roadblocks. They will create realistic, individualized strategies for you to follow. They’ll also analyze all of your previous dating patterns and trends, which may uncover subliminal reasons why you may be failing.
- A qualified dating coach holds you accountable for reaching your goals. They will not let your potential limiting beliefs or bad habits get in the way. They give you an outside, objectionable opinion that you may not always agree with. Last, but not least, they limit any change-pain by creating logical, step by step action plans.
- A qualified dating coach will speed up your success rate. You might be asking me what this means? Well, for example, let’s say that you want to learn how to play poker (with an end goal of having a side income). And let’s say you decide to learn this new game all by yourself. Chances are you’ll lose a lot of money with this trial and error strategy. The same goes for dating – it’s a skill, and it must be learned. Having a dating coach at your disposal to ask how, why, when, and what is a surefire way for you to increase your odds of getting date #2, date #3, and eventually to your goals.
2 Online Dating Tips for Men That Will Get You Responses
Are you wondering why only 1 of 50 women respond to your online dating messages? Did you land here looking for online dating tips to increase this low 2% response rate? If so, you found the right site. Every day, I help single men navigate the treacherous waters of online dating. I’m here to support you whether you’re looking for my personal help as your dating coach, or if you just want to browse my online dating articles.
First things first- online dating is super competitive. As a dating coach, I’ve seen it all. You need to be smart and tactful to stand out from the thousands of single men in your city who are all competing for the same high quality women. Most attractive women receive up to 50 to 100 messages per day. Do you think they have time to read all these messages? Of course not! So here are a couple of my favorite online dating tips to help you get started:
1. In your first 10 words to her, you need to convey commonality and relate through shared interests. I know what you are thinking: “Emyli, does this mean I need to read through her entire profile?” Nope – be smart with your time. Most dating sites have an “interests” section – just scroll there to do some quick recon work. She’s more likely to click on your message if she sees in the message preview area that you have something in common with her.
For example, do you both love the musician Drake? If so, ask her what her favorite Drake song is. Then back it up with your favorite is and why, so she knows you aren’t full of it. And guys, don’t lie or force something that isn’t there. It will only lead to a failure.
2. One of my favorite online dating tips is teaching my mega-messaging strategy! Mega-messaging is the process of messaging many women at the same time, with the goal soon thereafter, Megadating. Understand that online dating is a numbers game. The more women you effectively message means the more responses you get. Period. So how can I help you save time and energy when messaging hundreds of women? Download my mega-messaging template here.
2 First Date Tips for Men that Work
Do you have a first date coming up? Looking for some tips? Not sure whether to take her to dinner, for a coffee, on a hike, or something else? If you talk with 10 dating coaches, chances are you’ll get different answers. However, after my 100 date experiment in 2011, the answer was very clear to me. Here are a couple of my favorite first date tips that will lead you to what needs to be your goal – securing date #2.
1. First dates should under 1 hour with no more than $10 to $15 spent out of your pocket. That’s right guys – don’t even think of inviting her to dinner. Not only is a first date dinner an unnecessary spend of money, but you aren’t making her work for much. Going to dinner with you should be a prize that she can win after two previous interactions with you.
So what can you do for under 1 hour that’s no more than $15? Lots of things. Invite her to coffee, but just don’t sit in the coffee shop – go out for a walk and explore your city. You could take her for a single drink at a nice lounge near where she lives. Maybe you can find something from her online dating profile that she enjoys doing that is under $15.
2. Another one of my first date tips for gys is to let her know during the beginning of date #1 that you have something planned in about one hour. Doing this will relieve any timing related pressure on the both of you. Plus, it makes you look social and fun- that you have a base of friends or something important you have to do.
NOTE: It’s really important that you actually have something planned with friends after this 1 hour date. Why? Well, if you are enjoying your time with her, you could invite her to join your next activity. Women love spur of the moment opportunities. Plus she probably planned an initial couple of hours of her time for your date anyway. The great news is, her coming along with you ultimately means a guaranteed second date.
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A Few of My Client’s Reviews:
“The action plan we created together during my first session really paid off! You helped me realize that I had to love myself first and really accept my own unique style. Well here I am 12 months later, not only engaged (my original goal) but I just got married to the most amazing, beautiful woman!!! Thank you so much for everything. You might not always realize how much impact your words may have but they sure made a difference for me. Thank you.” – Saad
“Emyli’s training materials, her “academy” series, are actually quite inexpensive and very much worth it for people, specifically men, who lack polish around the opposite sex or who could use a refresher after an extended period away from the front lines.” – Ted S.
“Thank you so much, Emyli, for your time, care, concern and insights over the last number of months. It has been a real pleasure chatting with you. I have very much enjoyed our time together. Hopefully I will demonstrate that I have learned a few things from our Skype talks, the relationship academy lessons and your weekly emails.” – Justin K.
“It was very insightful to explore my patterns of dating and the types of men I date through the worksheets and lectures provided. Emyli is very genuine and takes an overall interest in helping you meet your dating goals.” – Brooke C.
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