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Online Dating

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How to Write a Compelling First Message on a Dating Site or App

Emyli Lovz | Online Dating | No Comments

So you’ve both swiped right, and it’s a perfect match. Surely, it’s a cake walk from here on out, right? Well, not so fast. The truth of the matter is…

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7 Tips to Get More Matches on Dating App Bumble

Emyli Lovz | Online Dating | No Comments

After a bit of a rocky start, the world has wholeheartedly embraced online dating with open arms. What once seemed strange, risqué and oh-so-desperate has turned very mainstream, as such…

Tips to Get More Matches on Dating App Hinge

Top 11 Tips to Get More Matches on Dating App Hinge

Emyli Lovz | HP Featured Article, Online Dating | No Comments

Dating apps have taken over from mainstream online dating sites and can be one of the most effective ways to meet your ideal partner – if you know how to…


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6 Modern Dating Rules for Millennials

Emyli Lovz | Strategy | No Comments

Dating as a millennial can be a tricky road to navigate. Modern dating rules for millennials are couched in a language that subscribes to first date hookups, ghosting and stress….

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Top 5 Reasons to Fix Your Finances Before Searching for Love

Emyli Lovz | Strategy | No Comments

In a perfect world, all of us are financially stable, debt-free and even becoming wealthy by the time we hit our 30s. In the real world, however, things aren’t so…

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A Man’s Guide to Being Single on Valentine’s Day

Ted Stalcup | Strategy | No Comments

For a great many single people, whether they care to admit it or not, Valentine’s Day is one of the worst days of the year. The supermarket is full of…

First Date

Texting a Woman After the First Date

Rules for Communicating and Texting a Woman After the First Date

Ted Stalcup | First Date | No Comments

Imagine, you begin to have dating success. You finally get someone to reply to your online dating messages. You will exchange some messages and you will find yourself a real…

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How to End a First Date

Emyli Lovz | First Date | No Comments

First dates can be pretty awkward, especially when winging it. From learning how to keep the conversation going with her or how to make her laugh, to figuring out how…

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Texting Before the First Date: Risks, Rewards, and Spike-Filled Pits

Ted Stalcup | First Date | No Comments

Congratulations! Someone has responded to one of the four hundred online entreaties you sent to people who’ve caught your interest on an online dating site. It is not easy to…


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Dating Ghosting : What It Is & Why You Shouldn’t Do It

Sheena Cunning | Confidence | No Comments

You may not have personally experienced dating ghosting first hand, or done it yourself, but you may have had someone do it to you or someone you know. Stats say…

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7 Ways to Manage Dating Stress and Feel Under Control

Emyli Lovz | Confidence | No Comments

As wonderful as dating can be, there’s also no doubt it can be deeply stressful. If your dating life is going well, then you don’t think about it— everything is…

2018 Dating Challenge

Your 2018 Dating Challenge

Emyli Lovz | Confidence | No Comments

We all know it’s true: new year’s resolutions rarely work. Yet as 2018 nears, we’re all hopeful for a fresh start, and chances are you’ve probably made a few yourself….


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7 Simple Rules for Texting a Woman You Like

Emyli Lovz | Conversation | No Comments

Hey guys! Today, I’d like to share my 7 simple rules for texting a woman you like. But before I get into it, I’d like us all to take a…

How to Keep a Conversation Going with a Girl Over Text

How to Keep a Conversation Going with a Girl Over Text

Emyli Lovz | Conversation | No Comments

Hey there, it’s Emyli–America’s #1 Dating Coach and founder of Today, I’m excited to talk about how to keep a conversation going with a girl over text. It’s a…

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How to Keep the Conversation Going With a Girl on a Date

Emyli Lovz | Conversation | No Comments

You’ve worked up the courage to talk to her, and somehow built up the inner strength to ask her out on a date. At this point, instead of feeling relieved,…


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A Man’s Guide to Gift Giving in New Relationships

Matt LaClear | Relationships | No Comments

So, you’ve been following Emyli’s dating advice and got yourself a girlfriend! Congratulations! And now you somehow stumbled on this article to learn the basic rules for gift giving in…

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Stay at Home Date Idea: Spicing Up Movie Night

Jake Tillerson | Relationships | No Comments

While home theaters are generally considered “man-cave” domain, they are useful for the entire family. One of the best uses is for a stay at home date idea with your…

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Worried You’re Not Good Enough in Bed?

Maj Wismann | Relationships | No Comments

As human beings, we’re gifted with an ability to think, reflect and evaluate. This truly is a gift but in some cases – more often than not, actually, when it…


How to Turn a Woman on While on a Date

How to Turn a Woman on While on a Date

Emyli Lovz | Attraction | No Comments

As a dating strategist with plenty of dating experience under my belt, I know a lot about how guys work–and what works on us women when it comes to romance….

Flirting Signals

Emyli Lovz | Attraction | No Comments

It’s Emyli again, America’s Dating Coach for Men. Is there a girl who you think might be flirting with you….but you aren’t too sure? Wanna know some obvious, and some…

4 Ways to Escalate Sexual Attraction Authentically by Reversing Expectations

Emyli Lovz | Attraction | No Comments

It’s Emyli again, America’s female dating coach for men & women. You’re watching EmLovzTV, your place to be if you are trying to meet and attract the perfect partner. Wanna know…


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How to Deal with Hair Loss and Reverse Balding for Men in their 20’s and 30’s and Beyond

Guest Expert | Health | No Comments

As a adolescent and teenager I always wondered what I’d look like in my 20’s and 30’s. I figured I’d maintain my handsome looks and continue to attract women just…

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How to Get Rid of Acne Like a Boss

Emyli Lovz | Health | No Comments

It’s Emyli again, America’s online dating coach for men & women. You’re watching EmLovzTV, your place to be if you are trying to meet and attract the perfect partner. Today…

How to Lose Weight with Body for Life

Emyli Lovz | Health | No Comments

It’s Emyli here, America’s Online Dating Coach. Would you agree that fitness is important for dating? Well I’d say so. Attraction stems from physical appearance so you want to ensure…

SF Bay Area

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The Top 5 Strategies To Finding A Long Term Relationship in the San Francisco Bay Area

Emyli Lovz | SF Bay Area | No Comments

Are you looking for love, marriage, or a long term relationship here in the San Francisco Bay Area? Let me re-frame that…..are you STILL looking for love, marriage, or a long…

Who Pays on a First Date in the Bay Area Men or Women

Who Pays on a First Date in the Bay Area, Men or Women?

Emyli Lovz | SF Bay Area | No Comments

During my 100 date experiment back in 2011, I quickly discovered that the first date bill could be pretty awkward. Some guys had no problem picking it up, while others…

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11 Reasons Why You Need A San Francisco Dating Coach

Emyli Lovz | SF Bay Area | No Comments

Every now and then I think the Bay Area should really be called the Bae Area. Yet for many singles it’s not – but it could be. Dating is hard,…

3 Ways a Dating Coach for Men Can Help You

Are you new to dating and not sure where to start? Maybe you're a dating veteran, but just can't find Ms. Right? Whatever the situation, you've landed on my website because you want to attract more women, learn how to avoid the friendzone, or reach goals like getting a girlfriend or finding a wife.

A qualified dating coach for men can cut down on the amount of time it would normally take you to reach these goals. However, not all dating coaches are created equal. Make sure you choose a coach who is qualified - like me, they've done the real life work, and can use their past experiences to create rock-solid strategies for their clients. As promised, here are 3 ways a qualified dating coach can help you:

  1. A qualified dating coach acts as your personal dating consultant. They will fully listen as you explain your current challenges and roadblocks. They will create realistic, individualized strategies for you to follow. They'll also analyze all of your previous dating patterns and trends, which may uncover subliminal reasons why you may be failing.
  2. A qualified dating coach holds you accountable for reaching your goals. They will not let your potential limiting beliefs or bad habits get in the way. They give you an outside, objectionable opinion that you may not always agree with. Last, but not least, they limit any change-pain by creating logical, step by step action plans.
  3. A qualified dating coach will speed up your success rate. You might be asking me what this means? Well, for example, let's say that you want to learn how to play poker (with an end goal of having a side income). And let's say you decide to learn this new game all by yourself. Chances are you'll lose a lot of money with this trial and error strategy. The same goes for dating - it's a skill, and it must be learned. Having a dating coach for men at your disposal to ask how, why, when, and what is a surefire way for you to increase your odds of getting date #2, date #3, and eventually to your goals.

2 Online Dating Tips That Will Get You Responses

Are you wondering why only 1 of 50 women respond to your online dating messages? Did you land here looking for online dating tips to increase this low 2% response rate? If so, you found the right site. Every day, I help single men navigate the treacherous waters of online dating. I'm here to support you whether you're looking for my personal help as your online dating coach, or if you just want to browse my online dating articles.

First things first- online dating is super competitive. As a San Francisco Dating Coach, I've seen it all. You need to be smart and tactful to stand out from the thousands of single men in your city, who are all competing for the same high quality women. Most attractive women receive up to 50 to 100 messages per day. Do you think they have time to read all these messages? Of course not! So here are a couple of my favorite online dating tips to help you get started:

1. In your first 10 words to her, you need to convey commonality and relate through shared interests. I know what you are thinking: "Emyli, does this mean I need to read through her entire profile?" Nope - be smart with your time. Most dating sites have an "interests" section - just scroll there to do some quick recon work. She's more likely to click on your message if she sees in the message preview area that you have something in common with her.

For example, do you both love the musician Drake? If so, ask her what her favorite Drake song is. Then back it up with your favorite is and why, so she knows you aren't full of it. And guys, don't lie or force something that isn't there. It will only lead to a failure.

2. One of my favorite online dating tips is teaching my mega-messaging strategy! Mega-messaging is the process of messaging many women at the same time, with the goal soon thereafter, Megadating. Understand that online dating is a numbers game. The more women you effectively message means the more responses you get. Period. So how can I help you save time and energy when messaging hundreds of women? Download my mega-messaging template here.

2 First Date Tips that Work

Do you have a first date coming up? Not sure whether to take her to dinner, for a coffee, on a hike, or something else? If you talk with 10 dating coaches, chances are you'll get different answers. However, after my 100 date experiment in 2011, the answer was very clear to me. Here are a couple of my favorite first date tips that will lead you to what needs to be your goal - securing date #2.

1. First dates should under 1 hour with no more than $10 to $15 spent out of your pocket. That's right guys - don't even think of inviting her to dinner. Not only is a first date dinner an unnecessary spend of money, but you aren't making her work for much. Going to dinner with you should be a prize that she can win after two previous interactions with you.

So what can you do for under 1 hour that's no more than $15? Lots of things. Invite her to coffee, but just don't sit in the coffee shop - go out for a walk and explore your city. You could take her for a single drink at a nice lounge near where she lives. Maybe you can find something from her online dating profile that she enjoys doing that is under $15.

2. Another one of my first date tips is to let her know during the beginning of date #1 that you have something planned in about one hour. Doing this will relieve any timing related pressure on the both of you. Plus, it makes you look social and fun- that you have a base of friends or something important you have to do.

NOTE: It's really important that you actually have something planned with friends after this 1 hour date. Why? Well, if you are enjoying your time with her, you could invite her to join your next activity. Women love spur of the moment opportunities. Plus she probably planned an initial couple of hours of her time for your date anyway. The great news is, her coming along with you ultimately means a guaranteed second date.

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