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3 Ways a Qualified Dating Coach Can Help You

Are you new to dating and not sure where to start? Maybe you're a dating veteran, but just can't find Ms. Right? Whatever the situation, you've landed on my website because you want to attract more women, learn how to avoid the friendzone, or reach goals like getting a girlfriend or finding a wife.

A qualified dating coach can cut down on the amount of time it would normally take you to reach these goals. However, not all dating coaches are created equal. Make sure you choose a coach who is qualified - like me, they've done the real life work, and can use their past experiences to create rock-solid strategies for their clients. As promised, here are 3 ways a qualified dating coach can help you:

  1. A qualified dating coach acts as a consultant. They fully listen to their client's challenges and roadblocks. They create individualized dating strategies for their clients to follow. They also look at trends in their client's past dating partners which may uncover reasons why they may be failing.
  2. A qualified dating coach holds their clients accountable for reaching their goals. They will not let limiting beliefs or bad habits get in the way. They give their clients an outside, objectionable opinion that they might not always agree with. Last, but not least, they limit any change-pain by creating logical, step by step action plans.
  3. A qualified dating coach speeds up their clients success rate. You might be asking me what this means? When you decide to do anything in life on your own, you must learn along the way. Same with dating - you learn by trial and error. Having a dating coach at your disposal to ask how, why, when, and what is a surefire way for you to increase your odds of getting date #2, date #3, and eventually to your goals.

2 Online Dating Tips That Will Get You Responses

Are you wondering why only 1 of 50 women respond to your online dating messages? Did you land here looking for online dating tips to increase this low 2% response rate? If so, you found the right website. Every day, I help single men navigate the treacherous online dating game. The good news is - there is a systematic process you can learn to improve your results.

First things first- online dating is super competitive. As a San Francisco Dating Coach, I've seen it all. You need to be smart and tactful to stand out from the thousands of single men in your city, who are all competing for the same high quality women. Most attractive women receive up to 50 to 100 messages per day. Do you think they have time to read all these messages? Of course not! So here are a couple of my favorite online dating tips to help you get started:

1. In your first 10 words to her, you need to convey commonality and relate through shared interests. I know what you are thinking: "Emyli, does this mean I need to read through her entire profile?" Nope - be smart with your time. Most dating sites have an "interests" section - just scroll there to do some quick recon work. She's more likely to click on your message if she sees in the message preview area that you have something in common with her.

For example, do you both love the musician Drake? If so, ask her what her favorite Drake song is. Then back it up with your favorite is and why, so she knows you aren't full of it. And guys, don't lie or force something that isn't there. It will only lead to a failure.

2. One of my favorite online dating tips is teaching my mega-messaging strategy! Mega-messaging is the process of messaging many women at the same time, with the goal soon thereafter, Megadating. Understand that online dating is a numbers game. The more women you effectively message means the more responses you get. Period. So how can I help you save time and energy when messaging hundreds of women? Download my mega-messaging template here.

2 First Date Tips that Work

Do you have a first date coming up? Not sure whether to take her to dinner, for a coffee, on a hike, or something else? If you talk with 10 dating coaches, chances are you'll get different answers. However, after my 100 date experiment in 2011, the answer was very clear to me. Here are a couple of my favorite first date tips that will lead you to what needs to be your goal - securing date #2.

1. First dates should under 1 hour with no more than $10 to $15 spent out of your pocket. That's right guys - don't even think of inviting her to dinner. Not only is a first date dinner an unnecessary spend of money, but you aren't making her work for much. Going to dinner with you should be a prize that she can win after two previous interactions with you.

So what can you do for under 1 hour that's no more than $15? Lots of things. Invite her to coffee, but just don't sit in the coffee shop - go out for a walk and explore your city. You could take her for a single drink at a nice lounge near where she lives. Maybe you can find something from her online dating profile that she enjoys doing that is under $15.

2. Another one of my first date tips is to let her know during the beginning of date #1 that you have something planned in about one hour. Doing this will relieve any timing related pressure on the both of you. Plus, it makes you look social and fun- that you have a base of friends or something important you have to do.

NOTE: It's really important that you actually have something planned with friends after this 1 hour date. Why? Well, if you are enjoying your time with her, you could invite her to join your next activity. Women love spur of the moment opportunities. Plus she probably planned an initial couple of hours of her time for your date anyway. The great news is, her coming along with you ultimately means a guaranteed second date.

3 Ways a Qualified Dating Coach Can Help You

Are you new to dating and not sure where to start? Maybe you're a dating veteran, but just can't find Ms. Right? Whatever the situation, you've landed on my website because you want to attract more women, learn how to avoid the friendzone, or reach goals like getting a girlfriend or finding a wife.

A qualified dating coach can cut down on the amount of time it would normally take you to reach these goals. However, not all dating coaches are created equal. Make sure you choose a coach who is qualified - like me, they've done the real life work, and can use their past experiences to create rock-solid strategies for their clients. As promised, here are 3 ways a qualified dating coach can help you:

  1. A qualified dating coach acts as a consultant. They fully listen to their client's challenges and roadblocks. They create individualized dating strategies for their clients to follow. They also look at trends in their client's past dating partners which may uncover reasons why they may be failing.
  2. A qualified dating coach holds their clients accountable for reaching their goals. They will not let limiting beliefs or bad habits get in the way. They give their clients an outside, objectionable opinion that they might not always agree with. Last, but not least, they limit any change-pain by creating logical, step by step action plans.
  3. A qualified dating coach speeds up their clients success rate. You might be asking me what this means? When you decide to do anything in life on your own, you must learn along the way. Same with dating - you learn by trial and error. Having a dating coach at your disposal to ask how, why, when, and what is a surefire way for you to increase your odds of getting date #2, date #3, and eventually to your goals.

2 Online Dating Tips That Will Get You Responses

Are you wondering why only 1 of 50 women respond to your online dating messages? Did you land here looking for online dating tips to increase this low 2% response rate? If so, you found the right website. Every day, I help single men navigate the treacherous online dating game. The good news is - there is a systematic process you can learn to improve your results.

First things first- online dating is super competitive. As a San Francisco Dating Coach, I've seen it all. You need to be smart and tactful to stand out from the thousands of single men in your city, who are all competing for the same high quality women. Most attractive women receive up to 50 to 100 messages per day. Do you think they have time to read all these messages? Of course not! So here are a couple of my favorite online dating tips to help you get started:

1. In your first 10 words to her, you need to convey commonality and relate through shared interests. I know what you are thinking: "Emyli, does this mean I need to read through her entire profile?" Nope - be smart with your time. Most dating sites have an "interests" section - just scroll there to do some quick recon work. She's more likely to click on your message if she sees in the message preview area that you have something in common with her.

For example, do you both love the musician Drake? If so, ask her what her favorite Drake song is. Then back it up with your favorite is and why, so she knows you aren't full of it. And guys, don't lie or force something that isn't there. It will only lead to a failure.

2. One of my favorite online dating tips is teaching my mega-messaging strategy! Mega-messaging is the process of messaging many women at the same time, with the goal soon thereafter, Megadating. Understand that online dating is a numbers game. The more women you effectively message means the more responses you get. Period. So how can I help you save time and energy when messaging hundreds of women? Download my mega-messaging template here.

2 First Date Tips that Work

Do you have a first date coming up? Not sure whether to take her to dinner, for a coffee, on a hike, or something else? If you talk with 10 dating coaches, chances are you'll get different answers. However, after my 100 date experiment in 2011, the answer was very clear to me. Here are a couple of my favorite first date tips that will lead you to what needs to be your goal - securing date #2.

1. First dates should under 1 hour with no more than $10 to $15 spent out of your pocket. That's right guys - don't even think of inviting her to dinner. Not only is a first date dinner an unnecessary spend of money, but you aren't making her work for much. Going to dinner with you should be a prize that she can win after two previous interactions with you.

So what can you do for under 1 hour that's no more than $15? Lots of things. Invite her to coffee, but just don't sit in the coffee shop - go out for a walk and explore your city. You could take her for a single drink at a nice lounge near where she lives. Maybe you can find something from her online dating profile that she enjoys doing that is under $15.

2. Another one of my first date tips is to let her know during the beginning of date #1 that you have something planned in about one hour. Doing this will relieve any timing related pressure on the both of you. Plus, it makes you look social and fun- that you have a base of friends or something important you have to do.

NOTE: It's really important that you actually have something planned with friends after this 1 hour date. Why? Well, if you are enjoying your time with her, you could invite her to join your next activity. Women love spur of the moment opportunities. Plus she probably planned an initial couple of hours of her time for your date anyway. The great news is, her coming along with you ultimately means a guaranteed second date.

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“It was very insightful to explore my patterns of dating and the types of men I date through the worksheets and lectures provided. Emyli is very genuine and takes an overall interest in helping you meet your dating goals.”

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