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“How should I explain my lack of relationship history to a woman?” I’ve received this question often. If you’re asking this question yourself, it may come as a surprise that......Keep Reading
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Are you new to dating and not sure where to start? Maybe you’re a dating veteran, but just can’t find Ms. Right? Whatever the situation, you’ve landed on my website because you want to attract more women, learn how to avoid the friendzone, or reach goals like getting a girlfriend or finding a wife. And you’re not alone – thousands of men land on my website each month looking for the most recent, cutting edge dating tips for men.
Hiring a qualified dating coach for men can cut down on the amount of time it would normally take you to reach these goals. However, not all dating coaches are created equal. Make sure you choose a coach who is qualified – like me, they’ve done the real life work, and can use their past experiences to create rock-solid strategies for their clients. As promised, here are 3 ways a qualified dating coach can help you:
Are you wondering why only 1 of 50 women respond to your online dating messages? Did you land here looking for online dating tips to increase this low 2% response rate? If so, you found the right site. Every day, I help single men navigate the treacherous waters of online dating. I’m here to support you whether you’re looking for my personal help as your dating coach, or if you just want to browse my online dating articles.
First things first- online dating is super competitive. As a dating coach, I’ve seen it all. You need to be smart and tactful to stand out from the thousands of single men in your city who are all competing for the same high quality women. Most attractive women receive up to 50 to 100 messages per day. Do you think they have time to read all these messages? Of course not! So here are a couple of my favorite online dating tips to help you get started:
1. In your first 10 words to her, you need to convey commonality and relate through shared interests. I know what you are thinking: “Emyli, does this mean I need to read through her entire profile?” Nope – be smart with your time. Most dating sites have an “interests” section – just scroll there to do some quick recon work. She’s more likely to click on your message if she sees in the message preview area that you have something in common with her.
For example, do you both love the musician Drake? If so, ask her what her favorite Drake song is. Then back it up with your favorite is and why, so she knows you aren’t full of it. And guys, don’t lie or force something that isn’t there. It will only lead to a failure.
2. One of my favorite online dating tips is teaching my mega-messaging strategy! Mega-messaging is the process of messaging many women at the same time, with the goal soon thereafter, Megadating. Understand that online dating is a numbers game. The more women you effectively message means the more responses you get. Period. So how can I help you save time and energy when messaging hundreds of women? Download my mega-messaging template here.
Do you have a first date coming up? Looking for some tips? Not sure whether to take her to dinner, for a coffee, on a hike, or something else? If you talk with 10 dating coaches, chances are you’ll get different answers. However, after my 100 date experiment in 2011, the answer was very clear to me. Here are a couple of my favorite first date tips that will lead you to what needs to be your goal – securing date #2.
1. First dates should under 1 hour with no more than $10 to $15 spent out of your pocket. That’s right guys – don’t even think of inviting her to dinner. Not only is a first date dinner an unnecessary spend of money, but you aren’t making her work for much. Going to dinner with you should be a prize that she can win after two previous interactions with you.
So what can you do for under 1 hour that’s no more than $15? Lots of things. Invite her to coffee, but just don’t sit in the coffee shop – go out for a walk and explore your city. You could take her for a single drink at a nice lounge near where she lives. Maybe you can find something from her online dating profile that she enjoys doing that is under $15.
2. Another one of my first date tips for gys is to let her know during the beginning of date #1 that you have something planned in about one hour. Doing this will relieve any timing related pressure on the both of you. Plus, it makes you look social and fun- that you have a base of friends or something important you have to do.
NOTE: It’s really important that you actually have something planned with friends after this 1 hour date. Why? Well, if you are enjoying your time with her, you could invite her to join your next activity. Women love spur of the moment opportunities. Plus she probably planned an initial couple of hours of her time for your date anyway. The great news is, her coming along with you ultimately means a guaranteed second date.
“The action plan we created together during my first session really paid off! You helped me realize that I had to love myself first and really accept my own unique style. Well here I am 12 months later, not only engaged (my original goal) but I just got married to the most amazing, beautiful woman!!! Thank you so much for everything. You might not always realize how much impact your words may have but they sure made a difference for me. Thank you.” – Saad
“Emyli’s training materials, her “academy” series, are actually quite inexpensive and very much worth it for people, specifically men, who lack polish around the opposite sex or who could use a refresher after an extended period away from the front lines.” – Ted S.
“Thank you so much, Emyli, for your time, care, concern and insights over the last number of months. It has been a real pleasure chatting with you. I have very much enjoyed our time together. Hopefully I will demonstrate that I have learned a few things from our Skype talks, the relationship academy lessons and your weekly emails.” – Justin K.
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