2 First Date Tips for Men that Work
Do you have a first date coming up? Looking for some tips? Not sure whether to take her to dinner, for a coffee, on a hike, or something else? If you talk with 10 dating coaches, chances are you’ll get different answers. However, after my 100 date experiment in 2011, the answer was very clear to me. Here are a couple of my favorite first date tips that will lead you to what needs to be your goal – securing date #2.
1. First dates should under 1 hour with no more than $10 to $15 spent out of your pocket. That’s right guys – don’t even think of inviting her to dinner. Not only is a first date dinner an unnecessary spend of money, but you aren’t making her work for much. Going to dinner with you should be a prize that she can win after two previous interactions with you.
So what can you do for under 1 hour that’s no more than $15? Lots of things. Invite her to coffee, but just don’t sit in the coffee shop – go out for a walk and explore your city. You could take her for a single drink at a nice lounge near where she lives. Maybe you can find something from her online dating profile that she enjoys doing that is under $15.
2. Another one of my first date tips for gys is to let her know during the beginning of date #1 that you have something planned in about one hour. Doing this will relieve any timing related pressure on the both of you. Plus, it makes you look social and fun- that you have a base of friends or something important you have to do.
NOTE: It’s really important that you actually have something planned with friends after this 1 hour date. Why? Well, if you are enjoying your time with her, you could invite her to join your next activity. Women love spur of the moment opportunities. Plus she probably planned an initial couple of hours of her time for your date anyway. The great news is, her coming along with you ultimately means a guaranteed second date.