It's Emyli again, America's online dating coach for men & women. You're watching EmLovzTV, your place to be if you are trying to meet and attract the perfect partner. Are you in search of the best dating strategy? Have you heard of the concept of "megadating"?
People always ask me "what dating approach should I take to find the perfect partner?" My answer is always: Megadating. During my 100 date experiment, I used this dating strategy to find my perfect partner. Guess what, you can to.
What is Megadating?
Mega-Dating is the process of dating several people at the same time in order to diffuse your energy and increase your self-confidence.
Why Should You Megadate?
There are many benefits of Mega-Dating, all of which will help to improve your dating outcomes.
What are the Top 8 Benefits of Megadating?
Megadating reduces anxiety so you don’t go all Stage-5 Clinger on “The One” & blow your chances with them.
Megadating helps you to avoid settling for mediocre and expands your likelihood of finding AND attracting “The One.”
BTW: “settling” is MUCH worse than you think…
”Settling” can lead to:
an unhappy relationship.
an unfulfilling marriage.
a negative environment for children.
and often divorce.
Megadating helps you to naturally embrace the notion that there are “Plenty of Fish in the Sea.”
Truly understanding the notion that “There Are “Plenty of Fish in the Sea” is important in managing your energy so you don’t go all psycho-stalker when you meet what appears to be “The One.”
P.S. I know this because I’ve been one.
Megadating increases self-confidence. This is why Megadating is the best dating strategy out there.
Dating a lot of people at one time will fill up your social calendar. This naturally makes you feel popular and in-demand.
Being busy subconsciously communicates your value to those you are dating, therefore making them want to spend more time with you.
If you are trying to avoid the friendzone with someone you are already interested in, then Megadating will help to stimulate a subconscious competition inside of that person and make them naturally more interested in you.
Megadating lessons the pain and fear of rejection. This is another big reason why Megadating is the best dating strategy out there.
If you’re dating 5 people at one time and 1 of them rejects you, you still have 4 other people to spend time with so the rejection doesn’t sting as bad.
In fact, sometimes you don’t even really notice it.
You’re using leverage, not tricks.
Megadating is natural. It does not involve “playing games” or unethical PUA tactics.
Megadating naturally creates an environment that promotes your own value.
Megadating purposely fills up your schedule to stimulate competition in your dating partners.
Practice makes perfect.
When you date a lot, you get really good at it.
*And this is important because:
If you meet “The One” while you’re Megadating, you’ll be ready for it.
And when you date a lot, you begin to see recurring patterns in the types of people you choose, which helps you to pinpoint problem areas in your selection process.
Megadating helps you to re-assess whether you’re attracting quality matches.
If your quality isn’t as high as you’d like it to be, perhaps it’s time to shake things up with a new dating attraction strategy.
Megadating is fun!
Every date is a new adventure.
A new chance to glimpse another person’s world.
An opportunity to see what your life could be like if you were a part of theirs.
If your current dating strategy isn't fun, it's probably not your best dating strategy. Doing anything that's fun always feel like less work.
What Happens to People Who Don’t Megadate?
They often get all wrapped up in “The One” or a person they think is “The One.” They end up blowing the opportunity because they turn into Stage-5 Clingers. All of that pent-up energy does nobody any good.
Or they end up settling for a partner that is not “the one” because they don’t know what’s out there.
And the perfect person could have been that next date but they’ll never know because they just took the first thing they got and didn’t put in any more work.
And the perfect person could have been THAT NEXT DATE, but they’ll never know because they just took the first thing they got and didn’t want to put in any more work.
Don’t you want to be able to say…
“I know—without a shadow of a doubt—that this person, the person I’ve decided to marry and have a family with is ‘The One’… because I made sure of it."
Men vs. Women in Megadating - Dispelling Myths
Men naturally tend to Megadate and are often heralded as “pimps” when they do.
Women naturally tend to seek monogamous relationships and are heralded as “sluts” is they date a lot.
Are You A Slut If You Megadate?
First of all, the term “slut” is a dinosaur of a word used by fearful people who either:
A) Have already settled for less than they deserve
B) Or are too scared to try and find it
And these insecurities cause them to use the term “slut” naively, to project their own fear.
But if you don’t want to sleep with the people you date, you don’t have to.
Megadating is not about sex.
You can still date multiple people at once and wait until you’ve truly found “The One.”
30-Day Megadate Challenge
Take the 30 Day Megadate Challenge and Date 15 people in 30 days.
Go on 10 dates
Every date should be less than an hour
Try stacking dates, one right after the other (I used to do 2/day on weekend days)
Use the Megadate Scorecard to document your dates
Compete with friends to see who can get the most dates
P.S. Have a dating conundrum that you'd like to talk face-to-face about? Let's Skype chat about it one-on-one, because I love helping smart, hardworking people like you create dating strategies for difficult obstacles.