When mulling your brain over where to meet women, your first choice may be the most obvious one — bars.

Bars have long been viewed by many people as the best place to meet women. However, there are several caveats that come with choosing bars as your primary spot to meet a long term girlfriend.

Look, I’m not saying that going to a bar is a bad idea when you’re single and hoping to find a long-term relationship. Bars are a great place to find someone to ask on a date because other singles usually go to bars with the intention of meeting someone.

But even though you can find a bevy of eligible women at a bar on a Friday or Saturday night (or really any night of the week depending on the city), the single women you find at a bar may not always align with the intention of finding a long-term relationship.

Who Is Your Ideal Girlfriend?

If you’re in marketing you probably know what a buyer persona is.

Well, imagine making a buyer persona, but replace the buyer with a girlfriend.

Look, it’s difficult to know where you’re going if you don’t have a destination in mind. Knowing where to meet women is one thing, knowing where to meet your ideal woman is another. 

In our program, Dating Decoded, part of the learning process requires men to create this document.

In it, you’ll explore your past relationship history to uncover the preferred traits you’re looking for in a partner as well as the less desirable traits you’d like to avoid based on who you’ve attracted in the past. This will create a clear road map so you can strategically select locations where your ideal partner is likely to be located.

Once you have these places, don’t waste your time going to bars or places you know your perfect woman doesn’t frequent.

Instead, only go to places where you’ll find your ideal woman.

Where to Meet Women Place #1: In-Person at a Friend’s Event

Despite what movies and sitcoms may have us believe, meeting the love of your life is rarely an act of serendipity.

In fact, a majority of people tend to meet their significant other through friends, according to this study. A survey of 2,373 people between the ages of 18-34 found that most people had met their significant other through mutual friends. In fact, according to the study, 40% of people said they were platonic friends with their current girlfriend or boyfriend before taking things to a romantic level.

If you want to meet a woman in-person at a friend’s event — assuming it is a trusted friend — consider letting your friend know that you’re single and hoping to meet someone. They may be able to practice their matchmaking skills to expedite the process.

As far as where to meet single women goes, parties are the best. Even if your co-workers invited you to the party, you can always stay for an hour and then leave. The best way to increase the odds of meeting someone is to meet lots of people.

And don’t worry too much about the approach at a party. You both are there because you probably have a friend or acquaintance in common. Just ask her how she knows the host and go from there.

And if you find yourself going on a date with a friend or someone you already know, click here to learn more about talking points and how to keep things from becoming awkward.

Place #2: Through Dating Apps

Dating apps have arguably taken center stage when it comes to modern dating culture. Less than a decade ago, people cringed at the idea of having to explain to their friends that they were going on a date or had met their significant other through online dating.

Today is a totally different story. Dating apps are a great tool for meeting compatible women. This is why I have my clients download not one, but 5 different apps when they first start dating.

The top two dating apps to find eligible singles looking for long-term relationships are Bumble and Hinge.

Bumble is an app that requires women to make the first move. This means that the woman has to send the initial message after you match. (Click here to learn how to respond to a woman’s first message on Bumble). Hinge uses the idea of meeting through mutual friends by sending you matches based on your Facebook friends list.

Perhaps you attach some sort of stigma to dating apps – but don’t. Nowadays, dating apps are accepted and used by the majority of singles. To back up that claim we’ve found that about 40% of all new relationships start online. 

And why wouldn’t they when we’re always on our devices?

When you download a dating app you’re instantly exposed to an infinite number of romantic prospects. You just need to create a profile that will get your profile swiped right on.

Need some pointers on creating a great dating app profile? Recently, my friend was kind enough to share his tips for creating one of the best Bumble profiles for men.

NOTE: emlovz offers unlimited profile reviews. Having an eye-catching profile is paramount to getting matches, that’s why we refine and optimize profiles on the daily. 

Place #3: Social Media Sites Like IG

This method can be tricky. Women you come across on social media sites like Facebook, Twitter and Instagram may or may not be looking for a relationship. With dating apps, you know automatically that women are interested in at least getting to know someone. But randomly hitting up a girl on social media can make you come off as creepy if you don’t make moves strategically.

Below are a few pointers on how to snag a date with a woman via social media.

Take a Gander at The Ladies in Your Friends’ Social Circles

Sure, you could just message random strangers, but that runs the risk of looking SUPER WEIRD, and there’s a good chance the woman in question would never even look at or accept your message.

Look at the friends of your friends instead. Reach out to your mutual connection to see what their story is, and you’ll be able to gauge whether or not it would be a good move to message her yourself or have your friend either set you two up or have both of you meet at an event they’ll be attending.

Like Their Responses, Posts, or Tweets

Whether it’s on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram, you can easily like a comment or post made by a friend-of-a-friend. This is also a great way to transition into a one-on-one conversation with the person via private message.

For example, if they made a joke or referenced a movie or TV show you like, you could message them something like this:

“Lol-love what you said about [insert joke or movie reference here]–hilarious! Noticed you’re friends with Jake. He and I used to work together —small world. How do you guys know each other?”

Using this strategy allows you to get to know someone and gauge whether or not they’d be interested in going on a date. It doesn’t make you come off as weird or creepy, because you happened upon them in a semi-organic way.

Reach Out To Women You Met On Dating Apps

In one week the average woman will receive more likes, matches, and messages than you’ll receive in three months.

This is because men outnumber women on dating apps like Tinder 9-to-1. If you message her and she checks her phone two days later, chances are your message will be buried under 20 or so other messages from men who are equally appealing.

Lucky for you, she probably attached her IG to her dating profile.

Be sure to message her on the dating app first but if she doesn’t reply after 3 tries, hit her up on IG. Slide into her DMs and comment on her profile. Ask her a question or make a witty comment to grab her attention. Unless she’s an influencer, I guarantee she receives fewer messages on IG than via dating apps.

We teach an entire module on this in our best-in-class coaching program, Dating Decoded. Learn more in our free masterclass here.

Place #4: A Group Workout Class

Talk about a twofer!

Going to a group workout class is a great way to meet women and get in shape.

Along with the physical benefits that come with exercise, there are many mental health benefits to working out as well. Exercise releases feel-good hormones in the brain known as endorphins. These endorphins can lead to a decrease in stress and over time can improve your overall confidence.

And when you’re feeling happy and secure, it’s naturally a lot easier to approach women you’re attracted to.

Don’t know how to approach a woman in your workout class? Use one of these openers.

• Wow, what a class! Steph really was working us today.
• You killed it today!
• Have you taken any of the other classes here?
• **Ask her about a technique, how she’s fueling herself, where she bought her mat

Place #5: Yoga

Yoga has a different vibe than a workout class.

For one, your average yoga class is at least 75% women making it super easy to meet single ladies.

Also, yoga classes are just more laid back than a CrossFit workout class.

Yoga-goers are much more receptive to chatting up with strangers pre or post-workout.

Slowly build a rapport with this woman before asking her out.

Place #6: Religious Circles/Events

Religious circles are some of the strongest social groups around.

These are like-minded people that share many of the same core values. Plus, they’re tight-knit, loving communities that are full of social events.

Try attending more social events put on by your religious institution. One of the easiest ways to meet fellow believers is to attend a volunteer event.

And hey even if this event isn’t widely attended by single women you can still 1) take pride in giving back and 2) meet people that know single women.

One takeaway from this article should be to network, network, network. The more people you know the wider your net is being cast. Exposure will lead you to meet the woman that you’ll someday call yours.

Place #7: Adult Sport League

Piggybacking off of group workout classes is co-ed adult sports leagues.

Meeting women through social sports is a great way to get exercise, participate in — or revisit — something you’re passionate about.

Simply do a Google search of co-ed adult sports leagues or co-ed social sports in your area, and you’ll be able to find anything from softball to badminton teams.

It’s also a good idea to ask your circle of friends if they participate in any adult sports leagues. If they do, you won’t have to worry about going into the first day not knowing anyone.

Place #8: Business Networking Events

I know, I know, a networking even isn’t the sexiest of places to meet single women – but that doesn’t mean it’s a bad place to meet women.

On the contrary, a networking event is like speed dating, but actually probably less awkward.

Think about it.

You’re going to a place where the goal is to be social. This is a gold mine.

It doesn’t really matter that the explicit purpose of the event is professional. What matters is that you put yourself in a position to quickly crack a joke or two, build a little bond, and get her contact information. Later on you can shoot her a message and ask her on a date. When asking her out, tell her this isn’t a business meeting, but a date. Be upfront. Tell her something like, I know we met in a professional setting, but I felt a connection with you and want to explore that, if you felt the same way, let’s *TDL*.  

Just be sure to be respectful and if she says no walk away with dignity. The worst thing you can do is creep her out and then make a bad name for yourself and company.

Place #9: A Meetup.com Event

Meetup is a website and app that allows people throughout your community to create groups and events based on particular interests. These interests can range from dive bars to cooking classes, to book clubs, to — well, basically anything under the sun.

People often don’t know each other when first attending an event, so you don’t need to feel awkward. It’s also a great way to get to know people without the added pressure to be an official date.

Place #10: On Vacation

If you’re going on a solo adventure or planning something with fellow singles, a vacation can be one of the best ways to meet women.

Sure, it may not be as likely that a romance across the country or abroad will lead to anything long-term, but it can be a great way to practice approaching women and increase your confidence. Here are a few things to keep in mind if you are planning to go this route:

• Look into things like singles packages or young adults-only hotels
• Be sure that you are with people who understand your intention to meet women and who will be cool with it
• Avoid making these moves on a family vacation

Place #11: Speed Dating

Yes, speed dating is one of the best places to meet women because of it’s efficiency.

Speed dating is a great option to get face-to-face with single women without the pressure of a full-on date. This form of dating gives you the opportunity to have several short conversations with women during a single evening (sometimes in just a couple hours).

You can Google “speed dating events near you” and find a variety of options. The aforementioned Meetup.com often has speed dating events, and Eventbrite is another great place to find speed dating options near you.

Place #12: Street Fairs or Festivals

When you’re looking to meet women in the spring or summer, there are usually a variety of street fairs and festivals going on, regardless of which area you live in.

Again, Meetup.com and Eventbrite are great places to look for these types of events. Facebook also lists events near your area and you can Google local calendars of events that are easy to browse.

Where to Meet Women Place #13: At Work

Yes, it is not always so taboo to date a colleague. Given that we tend to spend the majority of our day at work, it’s not surprising that this could be a place for attraction to bloom.

Most workplaces do not have a strict policy against colleagues dating, as long as it is not between a supervisor and a subordinate.

But before you consider getting down to a different type of business with a woman at work, check out my article: 7 Rules to Follow When Dating a Coworker.

Where To Meet Single Women Place #14: While Picking The Best Avocado

Meeting women at the supermarket seems like something that was popular in the 50s or in rural Sicily, but no, even you in your urban area can meet women at the grocery store.

Here’s how it’s done. 

1) Go every week at the same time.

2) Look for women grocery shopping together (a sign they’re single)

3) Look for wedding rings

4) Hang out by the produce (it’s where people spend the most time and where it’s easiest to strike up a conversation… My grandmother taught me how to choose the best broccoli, go with this one)

5) Check her out in the checkout line (lines can be long, the perfect time to meet a stranger)

Why You’re Not Meeting Women

Why you’re struggling to meet women might not be that easy to answer. It might not be a question of you going to the wrong places, but something else is going on.

Here are some reasons you may find yourself in a state of chronic singlehood:

You’re Not Financially Ready

Maybe you’re single because you think you can’t afford to date. Don’t think that you need to spend $100+ on every first date. We teach men how to spend no more than $20 on a first date.

But what about second dates?

We recommend the second date be 100% free. 

You Don’t Believe In Yourself

Have a little faith my man. I guarantee there’s someone out there that’ll love to make you their man. But it’s not just gonna happen for you. The universe doesn’t have favorites. Make your own luck.

Social Situations Are Difficult

Dating is awkward nowadays. The rules are changing every week, most first dates are basically blind dates, and you have to someone magically build a connection with a total stranger.

Our curriculum addresses dating anxiety. We also have Renee, a licensed therapist on our team to help you build dating confidence.

You’re Not Emotionally Ready

Maybe you’re still getting over an ex, have an avoidant attachment style, or you’re just super anxious from work. Whatever the case, you need to make room in your mind and heart to let someone else in.

Dating Decoded

Interested in learning how we here at emlovz can help you?

We teach our students the shortcut to finding their ideal match by MegaDating. MegaDating is our dating philosophy and it shapes everything we teach here at emlovz. Simply put MegaDating is dating prolifically with the specific goal of going on 20 dates in 90 days. This will give you ample women to compare and contrast so you can refine not only your dating skills but also who your ideal partner is.

To teach you how to quickly find highly compatible women in just weeks and become the most eligible bachelor in town you’ll team up with romantic experts, each skilled in their own unique area to support you.

Our Team

• Emyli (me), co-founder, curriculum developer, head coach, and I host two coaching sessions every week
• Thomas, co-founder, and coach. He’ll lead the biweekly Man Cave event where men come together to talk dating, bond with one another, and support other single men
• Brooke, and Audrey are mock date specialists. Go on a practice date with them (and receive feedback) before your next date
• Darshil is a confidence coach, wingman, and all around great guy to have on your team. As a one-time student, now a teacher, he knows what you’re going through and how to get the most from your dating life

• Hailey is your new stylist. She’s worked with celebs from every industry and is now about to raid your closet
• Tilly is our holistic sex & intimacy coach. She’ll help you get the most out of your sex life so you and your partner are happier between the sheets
• Renee is our anxiety dating coach. As a licensed therapist she knows the steps needed to turn you into a cool, calm, and collected dater
• Mia is our social media expert. Revamp your Facebook and Instagram profiles with her help and start meeting women online

Our Community

And look, we realize that the single life can be difficult. If accepted into our coaching program, Dating Decoded, you’d be joining a community of supportive men and coaches who are there to listen, support, and encourage you as you navigate the single life.

Our program offers every student a lifetime membership (as if you’ll need it) so the support won’t stop until you’ve found your ideal partner.

If you’re ready to find your forever partner, book a Zoom session with our team today. Together we’ll talk about your dating history, your goals and show you how our program, Dating Decoded, can help you find your ideal partner.

Learn how our students have already improved their dating lives.