Day: January 23, 2024

Where To Meet Women In Person & How To Pitch a First Date To Them

Wondering where to meet women in person? Struggling with online dating?

Did you know 39% of all new relationships begin online.

Despite the ostensible ease of online dating, most people dislike a matrix of 1s and 0s determining their love lives.

According to Pew Research, 45% of current users reported feeling frustrated with dating apps like Tinder and Bumble.

Singles both young and old miss the flirty ways of old.

They miss approaching a woman in a bar and chatting her up or getting set up via a mutual friend.

As online dating monopolizes our dating lives we’re beginning to over-rely on the ease of dating apps to find romantic partners.

This is bad.

It’s bad because in reality, only men in the top 10 percentile receive 58% of all matches.

And even those guys have to deal with the reality that only 50% of Tinder users have ever gone on a date with a match. That’s because dating apps are primarily used for non-dating purposes such as procrastination and boosting one’s self-confidence.

I guess what I’m trying to say is that online dating can be frustrating.

The massive frustration-fest that is reducing your entire being into a card in an endless deck of other romantic resumes is making people nostalgic for the old days.

But how do we get back to the old days?

How do you meet women in person?

It’s that question we’ll tackle in this article.

We’ll ditch the dating apps and help you get back to meeting women organically (IRL) again.

Where To Meet Women In Person

But before you can start meeting women in the real world you have to determine which type of women you want to meet.

Are you only into punk women or are you more into Lululemon wearing yoga yuppies?

Your type determines where you’ll go looking.

So take a second and ask yourself the following questions:

Which qualities in past relationships did I enjoy the most?
What does my ideal partner look like?
What hobbies do I want to have in common with my future partner?
How do I imagine my perfect relationship to look like?

Go so far as to write down the answers to these questions as you work towards building your perfect woman. Use the answers as a reference and a framework to help decide where to invest your time in meeting women.

Did you ask yourself these questions?

Great.

Now it’s time to get out there and meet your ideal partner.

Here are some of the best places to meet women (depending on the type you’re looking for).

Tap Your Social Circle

Your friends know exactly who you are.

They know your type, schedule, past relationships, and most importantly know exactly who to hook you up with.

Your friends should be your go-to source when trying to find a compatible partner.

But having your friends hook you up with someone is only as helpful as the size and willingness of your social circle.

Sometimes you have to take a more sinuous route to meet your one and only. That means making friends first.

Surround yourself with friends that have similar interests. Even if you meet 10 guys that love bouldering as much as you do, chances are they know women with similar interests. These women are in a sense pre-screened. If they’re friends with your friends chances are you’ll get along with them as well.

To really tap this social circle tell your friends you’re single and ready to date.

Explicitly ask them to set you up with a friend or acquaintance (just don’t ask them Michael Scott style).

And hey if you don’t want to explicitly ask, that’s fine too.

Naturally, as your social circle grows you’ll organically put yourself in a position to meet more and more women.

Where to Meet Women in Person: Meetups

For me, this is by far the best way to meet new women.

Imagine being surrounded by dozens of women that have your exact interests.

That’s what Meetup does for you.

Meetup is a social media platform that allows users to arrange in-person events.

To give you a glimpse of some of the groups you can join on Meetup here are just a few of the most popular NYC-based groups.

Some other popular groups include:

Open Source Gallery
Startup Hustle
Silent Disco
Taco Night!
Cultural Events In English Or Spanish
Books and the City
New York Futsal

To be clear, Meetups are NOT designed to meet fellow singles.

They’re not romantic events, but rather are mostly platonic (however there are plenty of events that are explicitly for singles or speed dating).

But that’s fine.

Your job is to put yourself in a position where you’re surrounded by like-minded individuals.

Do that by thinking about your hobbies and which hobbies you’d like to potentially do with a partner.

Once you’ve found that hobby simply search for a group on Meetup. Chances are there will be a number of single women in that hiking, skiing, or volleyball group you just joined.

And hey even if there aren’t you’ll meet like-minded friends, expand your circle, and will soon be introduced to female friends of friends that share similar interests.

Sometimes you need to take a roundabout way to meet women.

That’s okay.

What’s most important is that you surround yourself with compatible women.

You can also dig through Facebook Groups to find other social groups.

I recommend finding just one group and attending at least a few sessions. If you’re struggling to motivate why not invite a friend to join you?

If you aren’t in love with this new group and if there aren’t any women in it, move on to the next one. At the very least it’ll help refine your social skills and you’ll get to do something you love.

Not a bad consolation prize is it?

Event For A Social Cause

Are you passionate about something?

Wouldn’t it be awesome to meet someone as passionate about this cause as you are?

Maybe it’s a political rally, protest, or you’re just going to an event supporting local artists and businesses. Whatever the case, surrounding yourself with people who get fired up about the same things you do is always a good idea.

Co-Ed Sports League

The quickest and best way to bond with someone is to go through something with them.

Maybe that’s a difficult experience, a Tough Mudder, or a competition of some sort.

Bonding over a coffee is one thing, but bonding over a game-winning hit in the 9th inning is something altogether different and powerful.

So why not choose the latter?

Get that heart racing and pheromones secreting when you join a co-ed sports league.

There are most likely plenty of volleyball, kickball, soccer, tennis, softball, cornhole, etc. around you.

If you live in a major city check out Volo for co-ed leagues.

What’s so great about co-ed sports is that they’re really just an excuse to move around and meet new people.

Co-ed sports have a super open, relaxed vibe that is receptive to everyone regardless of how fast their fastball is.

Even if you’re not athletically inclined join a co-ed group like kickball or cornhole to get out of the house and meet new people.

Chances are you’ll make some friends and meet single women. If there aren’t any single women on your team, no worries, you’ll have a chance to bond with women on other teams during games or after while grabbing a post-volleyball beer or two.

Group Workout Class

Stop wondering where to meet women in person and hit up your gym.

Chances are your gym has weekly or daily group workout classes.

Yoga, cycling, and Zumba classes are all probably offered at your gym.

You just need to join a class and start chatting up fellow sweaty people.

What’s so great about these classes is that depending on the class you join it might just be full of women.

For example, the picture depicts a room full of women doing yoga.

If you join a yoga class you’ll no doubt be surrounded by healthy, beautiful women in spandex.

Doesn’t sound like a bad way to unwind.

But don’t let the views make you stagnant. Remember that your mission isn’t to find eye candy but to meet women IRL.

That means chatting them up before and after class.

If you don’t know what to say, start with the basics such as:

Hey is this where yoga class is taking place?
Have you taken a class with this teacher before, how did you like it?
Wow, that class was wild, I’ve never done a Holy Moly position before.
I never thought yoga would be so difficult, yet rewarding, is this your first class I don’t think I’ve seen you before?

It’s easy to chat with women if you have something in common.

This goes for any event you two attend whether it be a Meetup, PTA meeting, party, FB group meetup, co-ed sports league, etc.

If your gym doesn’t offer workout classes simply have a quick Google search for workout classes in your area. Generally speaking the more “feminine” the classes the higher volume of women attendees.

Dance Class

Talk about classes packed with women.

Dance classes are a great-freakin’ idea.

First off, most classes don’t require you to bring a female partner. If this is the case you’ll most likely trade partners thus exposing you to a variety of women.

I’d recommend taking a ballroom type of dance which requires you to dance with a partner.

Some styles include:

Salsa
Waltz
Tango
Samba
Rumba
Swing
Bolero
Mambo

Chances are you’ll have your pick of a number of salsa classes in your area as it’s generally the most popular style of dance in the states.

Dancing is perhaps the most organic way to meet single women. Not only are you forced to interact but you two do so in an inherently sexy fashion.

Bodies close, hands touching lower back, spinning, twirling, and moving in unison. It’s simply sexy.

As you begin to make friends and pick up dancing why not ask one of your partners or a group of new friends to go dancing one night?

Even if you magically don’t make friends or meet single women you can always hit up a club on your own and impress single women with your dancing skills.

What’s so great about Latin dance culture is that it’s expected that men will ask women to dance. And just because you’re dancing with someone doesn’t mean it’s sexual. Hell, it may not even be considered odd to ask someone’s girlfriend to dance (just be respectful).

This is a great culture to get into as people are generally warm and willing to meet new people.

Volunteer

Talk about a warm, loving, receptive environment.

Meeting new people can be scary, especially if they’re single women.

The best places where to meet single women aren’t always obvious.

The obvious places would be a singles party or speed-dating. But that doesn’t make them the best.

Wouldn’t it be better to meet women that you already know have shared interests, are kind, passionate, and care about their community?

I know where these women are.

They’re volunteering.

If you want to start volunteering check out a website like this one to find a group near you.

The good thing about volunteering (apart from helping those in need) is that volunteer groups are generally full of women. You’ll have no problem bonding with these single women over your shared desire to improve the world.

House Parties/Dinners

Not all parties are created equally.

For example, a gala event, corporate party, or event hosted by a bar or club are vastly different in milieu than a friend’s party or dinner party.

Why?

Because everyone you know at the house party is friends of friends or acquaintances. They’ll generally be more casual affairs where people are more receptive to meeting new people.

If you haven’t been to a house party recently why not tell your friends you’re thinking of hosting one.

You can tell them to invite a friend or two and that they’ll be music, food, etc.

Being the host is always a good idea and makes it super easy to mingle.

Plus if you host a party you’re guaranteed to receive an invite to the next dinner party, party, or social event one of your attendees has.

If you don’t want to throw a house party you can always be the catalyst and invite a bunch of friends to hit a bar. Tell them to each invite a female friend and have a good time.

Best Places To Meet Women Speed Dating

So far we’ve detailed how to meet women at places that aren’t explicitly romantic.

Now it’s time we had a look at the most explicitly “romantic” place on our list.

Speed dating is exactly what you think it is.

A place where you’re going to go on rapid 5-minutes or less dates with a bunch of strangers.

It gives you a chance to meet a host of women in a short period of time.

Generally speaking, speed dating works like this.

1) Men are required to move around and have brief dates with women.

2) Once a bell rings women will stay seated and men will move on to the next table.

3) Each attendee uses a scorecard to score their date.

4) If you and your date each give the other favorable marks the organizer will set you up on a second date at the event itself or will provide you with the other person’s personal information so you can contact them later on.

Oh, and of course, you’ll have a drink or two to wet your tongue and give you the courage needed to do away with any awkwardness dating a string of strangers may give you.

Ladies Nights

If speed dating is too on the nose for you, why not hit up a ladies night with a friend?

Browsing the bars with single ladies can be tedious. It’s loud, smells weird, is usually stickier than you’d like it to be, and the ratio probably leans male.

But that all changes on ladies night.

Wednesdays or Thursdays are when the bars treat ladies how they should be treated (kinda). Two-for-one specials abound, ladies enter free, and men follow.

Now, ladies nights aren’t for everyone.

If you don’t want to meet women at bars, then for sure this isn’t for you.

However, if you are going to take a chance and chat up some lovely strangers at a bar, ladies night is when you should do it.

If you’re interested in finding a younger woman who is ready to mingle, Thursday nights at a bar near you are a solid option. But I don’t advise going alone. Why not team up with a wingman or better yet, a wingwoman?

A platonic female friend will give you access to groups of women you otherwise may have never approached. It’s easier for a female to break the ice with another female than a man.

Let your female friend break the ice so that you don’t come off as a creep.

At Work

Nowadays meeting your partner in the workplace feels like a big no-no. There are HR hazards you can run into, there’s a risk being fired, or at the very least risk making her feel super uncomfortable.

Here’s the thing.

Meeting your partner at work used to be super common. Hell, even a 2017 study found that 15% of respondents met their romantic partner at work. Even the Obamas met while working at a Chicago law firm.

Sure there may be some hurdles you’ll have to jump over but meeting your new partner at work just makes sense.

I mean think about it.

You’re around your co-workers all the time.

You’re working on cool projects together, eating lunch together, bonding constantly – why shouldn’t you naturally develop feelings for a co-worker?

However, if you are going to date a co-worker there are some rules you should keep in mind.

Don’t Get Too Flirty Online

Chances are your company has access to all the messages you’ve sent via your email and other mediums of correspondence. That means if you’re getting all hot and heavy via email your boss can find each and every email.

Not only is it awkward but it may be evidence they can use to fire you for inappropriate behavior.

Start With Lunch

When asking out a co-worker never go 0-100. Should your date request backfire things could get awkward real fast.

So start with a platonic lunch. Ask her if she has any lunch plans and start to eat lunch with her on a regular basis. Ask her to hit up new restaurants in the area as you two make lunchtime your own.

This is a low-stakes way to build a connection and have some alone time.

Don’t Let Your Romance Impact Job Performance

I have no idea how Jim and Pam got any work done; oh wait, they didn’t.

You won’t be productive if your crush is always sitting five feet away from you. Be able to keep your eyes on the prize without letting your work suffer. If that means physically moving to another place to be away from her so you can concentrate do what needs to be done.

Ask Her Out If You’re 95% Sure She’ll Say Yes

Misreading the signs you think a woman from across the bar is sending is one thing. Misreading the signs from that woman in accounting is another. Only risk becoming a pariah if you’re near certain she’ll say yes.

When asking her out use a TDL and ensure her that even if she says no nothing will change between the two of you and you won’t be weird at work.

Also, be sure to check your company’s dating policy before asking her out.

This is a tricky situation, so tricky that Harvard Business Review decided to write about it.

Church Groups

If you’re religious there may be no better place to meet single compatible women than at a church group.

If your religion is near and dear to your heart it makes sense to surround yourself with like-minded individuals. Churches are teeming with events that are perfect to find fellow single believers.

The more you get involved in the church the greater your odds of finding someone with your values.

It’s difficult to find a religious partner nowadays (especially if you’re in a major city). That’s why you’ll instantly connect with fellow single churchgoers.

And hey if there aren’t any single women at your church, consider attending more events that will put you in contact with women from other churches. Join church groups and volunteer when possible to expand your social circle.

Tips To Approach Women

Now that we’ve covered where you should go to meet women, it’s time to talk about how to interact with them.

You didn’t think we’d tell you the best places to meet women without telling you how to chat them up did you?

As daunting as it sounds talking with women IRL is likely to have a much higher success rate than chatting them up online.

Think about it.

When you’re online, you’re one of the hundreds of men waiting to chat with this woman. Not only do you have to compete with other men but with all of life’s other distractions. It’s only too easy for her never to respond (or even match with you).

But in person, she can’t ignore you.

She’s forced to have a conversation with you (however brief) where she can quickly get an idea of who you are and why you’re so awesome.

But that doesn’t mean all IRL conversations work out.

Here are some tips to help you quickly build chemistry and get the girl.

Change Your Mindset

Too often when students of mine flirt in person they have this win-or-lose attitude.

It’s either they get the number or nothing.

This is a terrifying situation to put yourself in. With only two outcomes there’s too much pressure to perform. It’s this pressure that leads too many men to never even approach a woman.

That’s a loss.

If you approach her you’ve already won, because you were able to do something most men didn’t do.

The hard part is simply saying something.

Another mindset tip is to not go in with the goal of flirting. Instead, you’re simply there to have a conversation. Frame the potential interaction to be as low-stakes as possible. This will make you a better conversationalist and increase the odds of your actually opening your mouth.

Never Approach From Behind

You never want to approach another human from behind.

Something in the reptilian part of our brain absolutely hates when we’re approached from behind especially when the person doing the approaching is a stranger.

Before you talk to her make sure you make eye contact and approach from the front. You want to make sure she sees your approach from afar.

Get Someone To Introduce You

The initial interaction is terrifying. Breaking the ice can be super awkward -so let someone else do it for you.

If you have a mutual friend or gregarious companion allow them to go in first and introduce you to the group. This takes away all the awkwardness of having to dive in head first.

This is why it’s always a good idea to meet new people IRL with a friend by your side. No one likes going it alone so why not team up with a social friend?

Ask Questions

When it comes to building relationships and influencing people listen to the age-old advice of Dale Carnegie.

“Talk to someone about themselves and they’ll listen for hours.”

Author of How To Win Friends And Influence People Carnegie has perfected the art of quickly building relationships.

His main pieces of advice are as follows:

Listen 75% of the time
Genuinely care
Use their name
Talk about things they care about

If I were to distill his teachings into one actionable piece of advice it would be ask questions about things they care about.

Get them talking about something they love and they’ll never shut up.

Ask questions until you find a commonality. Then ask follow-up questions and make it known that you have that interest in common. Riff on that and you are sure to have a killer conversation that may well end in getting a number.

Complement Anything But Her Looks

Too many guys approach with a crappy one-liner or tell her how gorgeous she is.

Don’t do that.

Instead focus on anything that isn’t her face, breasts, or perfectly proportioned hips to waist ratio.

Something like:

“Wow I’m impressed by your beer choice, everyone here seems to be drinking IPAs except us.”

“Hey I’m Jeff, I just had to say I’m digging the Dave Matthews t-shirt”

“I just had to say that I appreciate you trying to get the party started. If you someone to destroy the dancefloor with I’m here for you.”

Be creative and remember that you win by just saying something.

Interact With The Group

Approaching her directly can feel a bit obvious. Only talking to her while all her friends stare at this strange guy who is clearly trying to flirt with their friend can be awkward.

So why not include the entire group?

If you only befriend the woman you’re persuading the group may feel animosity towards you because you’re stealing their friend away.

So instead of singling her out, integrate yourself into the entire group.

Once her friends approve of you, your chances of chatting her up and scoring a number increase exponentially.

TDL

Let’s imagine that you heeded all the previous steps.

You…

1) Identified your ideal woman

2) Found the type of places your ideal woman could be found at

3) Approached her and started to get your flirt on

Now what?

If the conversation is going well it’s time to ask for her number OR use a TDL.

TDL stands for time, date, and location.

Using a TDL is the only correct way to ask a woman out.

That’s because a TDL is a concrete date request.

You’re not just asking, hey wanna go out sometime?

Rather you’re defining what that sometime looks like, where it is, and what you’ll do.

Here’s an example of what a TDL looks like…

It’s been great talking to you and I’d love to see you again. How about this Sunday we can play mini golf at Tigre’s at 4.

Here we see the time (4), date (Sunday), and location (Tigre’s).

Spelling out your date gives her a concrete request she can either accept or reject.

This is a straightforward way to ask her out and move the relationship forward.

If you don’t feel comfortable asking her out there and then, get her number and text her the TDL a day later.

Now That You’ve Met Women Meet Your Coach

Dating Decoded

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To teach you how to quickly find highly compatible women in just weeks and become the most eligible bachelor in town you’ll team up with romantic experts, each skilled in their own unique area to support you.

Our Team

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Brooke, and Audrey are mock date specialists. Go on a practice date with them (and receive feedback) before your next date
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Where to Meet Women Other Than Bars (Best Places to Meet Single Women)

When mulling your brain over where to meet women, your first choice may be the most obvious one — bars.

Bars have long been viewed by many people as the best place to meet women. However, there are several caveats that come with choosing bars as your primary spot to meet a long term girlfriend.

Look, I’m not saying that going to a bar is a bad idea when you’re single and hoping to find a long-term relationship. Bars are a great place to find someone to ask on a date because other singles usually go to bars with the intention of meeting someone.

But even though you can find a bevy of eligible women at a bar on a Friday or Saturday night (or really any night of the week depending on the city), the single women you find at a bar may not always align with the intention of finding a long-term relationship.

Who Is Your Ideal Girlfriend?

If you’re in marketing you probably know what a buyer persona is.

Well, imagine making a buyer persona, but replace the buyer with a girlfriend.

Look, it’s difficult to know where you’re going if you don’t have a destination in mind. Knowing where to meet women is one thing, knowing where to meet your ideal woman is another.

In our program, Dating Decoded, part of the learning process requires men to create this document.

In it, you’ll explore your past relationship history to uncover the preferred traits you’re looking for in a partner as well as the less desirable traits you’d like to avoid based on who you’ve attracted in the past. This will create a clear road map so you can strategically select locations where your ideal partner is likely to be located.

Once you have these places, don’t waste your time going to bars or places you know your perfect woman doesn’t frequent.

Instead, only go to places where you’ll find your ideal woman.

Where to Meet Women Place #1: In-Person at a Friend’s Event

Despite what movies and sitcoms may have us believe, meeting the love of your life is rarely an act of serendipity.

In fact, a majority of people tend to meet their significant other through friends, according to this study. A survey of 2,373 people between the ages of 18-34 found that most people had met their significant other through mutual friends. In fact, according to the study, 40% of people said they were platonic friends with their current girlfriend or boyfriend before taking things to a romantic level.

If you want to meet a woman in-person at a friend’s event — assuming it is a trusted friend — consider letting your friend know that you’re single and hoping to meet someone. They may be able to practice their matchmaking skills to expedite the process.

As far as where to meet single women goes, parties are the best. Even if your co-workers invited you to the party, you can always stay for an hour and then leave. The best way to increase the odds of meeting someone is to meet lots of people.

And don’t worry too much about the approach at a party. You both are there because you probably have a friend or acquaintance in common. Just ask her how she knows the host and go from there.

And if you find yourself going on a date with a friend or someone you already know, click here to learn more about talking points and how to keep things from becoming awkward.

Place #2: Through Dating Apps

Dating apps have arguably taken center stage when it comes to modern dating culture. Less than a decade ago, people cringed at the idea of having to explain to their friends that they were going on a date or had met their significant other through online dating.

Today is a totally different story. Dating apps are a great tool for meeting compatible women. This is why I have my clients download not one, but 5 different apps when they first start dating.

The top two dating apps to find eligible singles looking for long-term relationships are Bumble and Hinge.

Bumble is an app that requires women to make the first move. This means that the woman has to send the initial message after you match. (Click here to learn how to respond to a woman’s first message on Bumble). Hinge uses the idea of meeting through mutual friends by sending you matches based on your Facebook friends list.

Perhaps you attach some sort of stigma to dating apps – but don’t. Nowadays, dating apps are accepted and used by the majority of singles. To back up that claim we’ve found that about 40% of all new relationships start online.

And why wouldn’t they when we’re always on our devices?

When you download a dating app you’re instantly exposed to an infinite number of romantic prospects. You just need to create a profile that will get your profile swiped right on.

Need some pointers on creating a great dating app profile? Recently, my friend was kind enough to share his tips for creating one of the best Bumble profiles for men.

NOTE: emlovz offers unlimited profile reviews. Having an eye-catching profile is paramount to getting matches, that’s why we refine and optimize profiles on the daily.

Place #3: Social Media Sites Like IG

This method can be tricky. Women you come across on social media sites like Facebook, Twitter and Instagram may or may not be looking for a relationship. With dating apps, you know automatically that women are interested in at least getting to know someone. But randomly hitting up a girl on social media can make you come off as creepy if you don’t make moves strategically.

Below are a few pointers on how to snag a date with a woman via social media.

Take a Gander at The Ladies in Your Friends’ Social Circles

Sure, you could just message random strangers, but that runs the risk of looking SUPER WEIRD, and there’s a good chance the woman in question would never even look at or accept your message.

Look at the friends of your friends instead. Reach out to your mutual connection to see what their story is, and you’ll be able to gauge whether or not it would be a good move to message her yourself or have your friend either set you two up or have both of you meet at an event they’ll be attending.

Like Their Responses, Posts, or Tweets

Whether it’s on Facebook, Twitter or Instagram, you can easily like a comment or post made by a friend-of-a-friend. This is also a great way to transition into a one-on-one conversation with the person via private message.

For example, if they made a joke or referenced a movie or TV show you like, you could message them something like this:

“Lol-love what you said about [insert joke or movie reference here]–hilarious! Noticed you’re friends with Jake. He and I used to work together —small world. How do you guys know each other?”

Using this strategy allows you to get to know someone and gauge whether or not they’d be interested in going on a date. It doesn’t make you come off as weird or creepy, because you happened upon them in a semi-organic way.

Reach Out To Women You Met On Dating Apps

In one week the average woman will receive more likes, matches, and messages than you’ll receive in three months.

This is because men outnumber women on dating apps like Tinder 9-to-1. If you message her and she checks her phone two days later, chances are your message will be buried under 20 or so other messages from men who are equally appealing.

Lucky for you, she probably attached her IG to her dating profile.

Be sure to message her on the dating app first but if she doesn’t reply after 3 tries, hit her up on IG. Slide into her DMs and comment on her profile. Ask her a question or make a witty comment to grab her attention. Unless she’s an influencer, I guarantee she receives fewer messages on IG than via dating apps.

We teach an entire module on this in our best-in-class coaching program, Dating Decoded. Learn more in our free masterclass here.

Place #4: A Group Workout Class

Talk about a twofer!

Going to a group workout class is a great way to meet women and get in shape.

Along with the physical benefits that come with exercise, there are many mental health benefits to working out as well. Exercise releases feel-good hormones in the brain known as endorphins. These endorphins can lead to a decrease in stress and over time can improve your overall confidence.

And when you’re feeling happy and secure, it’s naturally a lot easier to approach women you’re attracted to.

Don’t know how to approach a woman in your workout class? Use one of these openers.

Wow, what a class! Steph really was working us today.
You killed it today!
Have you taken any of the other classes here?
**Ask her about a technique, how she’s fueling herself, where she bought her mat

Place #5: Yoga

Yoga has a different vibe than a workout class.

For one, your average yoga class is at least 75% women making it super easy to meet single ladies.

Also, yoga classes are just more laid back than a CrossFit workout class.

Yoga-goers are much more receptive to chatting up with strangers pre or post-workout.

Slowly build a rapport with this woman before asking her out.

Place #6: Religious Circles/Events

Religious circles are some of the strongest social groups around.

These are like-minded people that share many of the same core values. Plus, they’re tight-knit, loving communities that are full of social events.

Try attending more social events put on by your religious institution. One of the easiest ways to meet fellow believers is to attend a volunteer event.

And hey even if this event isn’t widely attended by single women you can still 1) take pride in giving back and 2) meet people that know single women.

One takeaway from this article should be to network, network, network. The more people you know the wider your net is being cast. Exposure will lead you to meet the woman that you’ll someday call yours.

Place #7: Adult Sport League

Piggybacking off of group workout classes is co-ed adult sports leagues.

Meeting women through social sports is a great way to get exercise, participate in — or revisit — something you’re passionate about.

Simply do a Google search of co-ed adult sports leagues or co-ed social sports in your area, and you’ll be able to find anything from softball to badminton teams.

It’s also a good idea to ask your circle of friends if they participate in any adult sports leagues. If they do, you won’t have to worry about going into the first day not knowing anyone.

Place #8: Business Networking Events

I know, I know, a networking even isn’t the sexiest of places to meet single women – but that doesn’t mean it’s a bad place to meet women.

On the contrary, a networking event is like speed dating, but actually probably less awkward.

Think about it.

You’re going to a place where the goal is to be social. This is a gold mine.

It doesn’t really matter that the explicit purpose of the event is professional. What matters is that you put yourself in a position to quickly crack a joke or two, build a little bond, and get her contact information. Later on you can shoot her a message and ask her on a date. When asking her out, tell her this isn’t a business meeting, but a date. Be upfront. Tell her something like, I know we met in a professional setting, but I felt a connection with you and want to explore that, if you felt the same way, let’s *TDL*.

Just be sure to be respectful and if she says no walk away with dignity. The worst thing you can do is creep her out and then make a bad name for yourself and company.

Place #9: A Meetup.com Event

Meetup is a website and app that allows people throughout your community to create groups and events based on particular interests. These interests can range from dive bars to cooking classes, to book clubs, to — well, basically anything under the sun.

People often don’t know each other when first attending an event, so you don’t need to feel awkward. It’s also a great way to get to know people without the added pressure to be an official date.

Place #10: On Vacation

If you’re going on a solo adventure or planning something with fellow singles, a vacation can be one of the best ways to meet women.

Sure, it may not be as likely that a romance across the country or abroad will lead to anything long-term, but it can be a great way to practice approaching women and increase your confidence. Here are a few things to keep in mind if you are planning to go this route:

Look into things like singles packages or young adults-only hotels
Be sure that you are with people who understand your intention to meet women and who will be cool with it
Avoid making these moves on a family vacation

Place #11: Speed Dating

Yes, speed dating is one of the best places to meet women because of it’s efficiency.

Speed dating is a great option to get face-to-face with single women without the pressure of a full-on date. This form of dating gives you the opportunity to have several short conversations with women during a single evening (sometimes in just a couple hours).

You can Google “speed dating events near you” and find a variety of options. The aforementioned Meetup.com often has speed dating events, and Eventbrite is another great place to find speed dating options near you.

Place #12: Street Fairs or Festivals

When you’re looking to meet women in the spring or summer, there are usually a variety of street fairs and festivals going on, regardless of which area you live in.

Again, Meetup.com and Eventbrite are great places to look for these types of events. Facebook also lists events near your area and you can Google local calendars of events that are easy to browse.

Where to Meet Women Place #13: At Work

Yes, it is not always so taboo to date a colleague. Given that we tend to spend the majority of our day at work, it’s not surprising that this could be a place for attraction to bloom.

Most workplaces do not have a strict policy against colleagues dating, as long as it is not between a supervisor and a subordinate.

But before you consider getting down to a different type of business with a woman at work, check out my article: 7 Rules to Follow When Dating a Coworker.

Where To Meet Single Women Place #14: While Picking The Best Avocado

Meeting women at the supermarket seems like something that was popular in the 50s or in rural Sicily, but no, even you in your urban area can meet women at the grocery store.

Here’s how it’s done.

1) Go every week at the same time.

2) Look for women grocery shopping together (a sign they’re single)

3) Look for wedding rings

4) Hang out by the produce (it’s where people spend the most time and where it’s easiest to strike up a conversation… My grandmother taught me how to choose the best broccoli, go with this one)

5) Check her out in the checkout line (lines can be long, the perfect time to meet a stranger)

Why You’re Not Meeting Women

Why you’re struggling to meet women might not be that easy to answer. It might not be a question of you going to the wrong places, but something else is going on.

Here are some reasons you may find yourself in a state of chronic singlehood:

You’re Not Financially Ready

Maybe you’re single because you think you can’t afford to date. Don’t think that you need to spend $100+ on every first date. We teach men how to spend no more than $20 on a first date.

But what about second dates?

We recommend the second date be 100% free.

You Don’t Believe In Yourself

Have a little faith my man. I guarantee there’s someone out there that’ll love to make you their man. But it’s not just gonna happen for you. The universe doesn’t have favorites. Make your own luck.

Social Situations Are Difficult

Dating is awkward nowadays. The rules are changing every week, most first dates are basically blind dates, and you have to someone magically build a connection with a total stranger.

Our curriculum addresses dating anxiety. We also have Renee, a licensed therapist on our team to help you build dating confidence.

You’re Not Emotionally Ready

Maybe you’re still getting over an ex, have an avoidant attachment style, or you’re just super anxious from work. Whatever the case, you need to make room in your mind and heart to let someone else in.