You’ve been using Bumble and getting matches isn’t a problem for you. Not only that, but the ladies are initiating conversations with you on the popular, relationship-oriented dating app. The matching and messaging aren’t a problem. However, you’re having trouble figuring out how to end a Bumble conversation so that you can get to know your matches in the real world.
If you’re having trouble figuring out how to end a Bumble conversation, you’re not alone. As a dating coach, I receive a lot of questions from my clients on this very subject. It has become commonplace in the dating world to engage in longwinded conversations that eventually devolve into nothing.
In this article, I’ll let you in on an expert strategy that will help you end a Bumble conversation and land more dates.
How to End a Bumble Conversation By Using a TDL
If you want to land more dates you need to use a TDL. I always recommend this to my male clients and guess what?
Every client I’ve worked with who wasn’t getting dates before we started working together was failing to use TDLs when asking women out. Similarly, every client who learned to use and consistently employ the use of TDLs after working with me has ended up getting more dates with beautiful women–some of them have even gotten more dates than they know what to do with.
Ok Great. So What is a TDL Exactly?
A TDL is an acronym used to describe the three critical components of a date request’s call-to-action, the time, the date, and the location of the date. The “T” in TDL stands for the “Time” the date will take place. When asking for a date, you must give a woman the time you’d like to meet with her so that she knows whether she is available at that time or not. The “D” in TDL stands for the “Date.”
When asking for a date, you must give a woman the date you’d like to meet her on so that she knows whether she is available on that date. The “L” in TDL stands for the “Location.” When asking for a date, you must give a woman the location you’d like to meet her at so that she knows whether or not she can meet you at that location.
Why is This So Important?
Women are used to having men ask them out by asking the following things:
- “Hey, want to grab a drink sometime?”
- “Wanna get together this weekend?
- “Wanna hang out?”
- “Wanna grab a coffee?”
- “Hi there, let’s get together”
Ugh! This is honestly infuriating for women because it leads to an inevitable back-and-forth. Even if a woman wants to go on a date with a guy, she’s going to be very annoyed at scrambling to figure out one another’s schedules to do little more than grab a beer.
That’s why a TDL is so important. It’s the best way to end a Bumble conversation. Moreover, it shows initiative. And guess what?
Women Love Initiative
In general, women love a man who takes initiative — and using a TDL does just that.
It really sucks the romance out of everything when you leave plans up to her or play a back-and-forth game of: “What do you want to do?” “I don’t know, what do you want to do?”
Aside from setting up a time, date and location, make sure that the girl you’re asking out knows 100% that this is a date.
If the girl you’re asking out on a date for the first time is someone you met through a dating site or app, then it should be pretty clear that things are going to be romantic. But you still want to make sure you insert the big “D” into the conversation. For example, after plans are set, say something like, “Great. I’m really looking forward to our date on Wednesday.”
If the girl you’re asking out on a date is someone that you already know or met out and about, it’s especially important that you make it clear you want to take her out on a date and not take her out as a friend. If you fail to communicate the word “date”, it will only increase the chances of you scratching your head again asking yourself why she friendzoned you.
Here are some examples of do’s and don’ts when it comes to asking a girl out on a date — and making sure she knows it’s a date:
- Do: “I’d like to take you on a date.”
- Don’t: “You wanna hang out sometime?”
- Do: “I’m looking forward to our date on Saturday.”
- Don’t: “Cool, I’ll see you then.”
- Do: Make sure that she knows that the day or evening is a one-on-one type deal
- Don’t: Make your first date a group thing, ask her to invite friends or let any of your own friends tag along
Make the Date Idea Compelling
Another rule of thumb for using a TDL is to craft a compelling date idea. Don’t simply ask a woman to meet you on Saturday at 1 pm for a coffee at Starbucks. That’s lame. Before you end a Bumble conversation, you should assess a woman’s interests and figure out a date that speaks to these interest. To make it really compelling, try to come up with a date that offers her an experience she’s never had before.
For example, let’s say that you live in San Francisco like me. And let’s also say that she is new to San Francisco. Moreover, she’s a self-proclaimed choc-a-holic.
One great, compelling date idea would be to split a sundae at Ghiradelli Square.
Along with being the perfect spot for a decadent sundae or piece of chocolate, Ghiradelli Square is a hotspot for tons of shops and 5-star restaurants. It’s located on the west side of Fisherman’s Wharf, which also happens to be a favorite spot in San Francisco, whether you’re a tourist or a local.
Moving Forward: My Blueprint for the First Three Dates
Now you know how to end a Bumble conversation successfully in order to get more real-life dating experiences. But that’s only the first step of dating success.
The first three (yes, THREE) dates with a person are crucial when it comes to determining whether or not you two have long-term potential. Because this is so important, I developed a blueprint for the first three dates:
- Date 1: Something casual like a happy hour or coffee. The date should not exceed an hour and shouldn’t cost more than $15. The goal of the first date is to build trust and rapport (more first date tips here).
- Date 2: Something active and free. The goal of the second date is to escalate sexual tension. If you need help coming up with second date ideas, check out my article on Top 20 Fun Date Ideas That Don’t Cost Money.
- Date 3: This is the date where you can pull out all the stops with a romantic dinner. It is during the third date that you assess whether or not the two of you are a good fit when it comes to morals and values. If you are, you may consider eventually becoming exclusive. Need help determining this on your date? Check out my Third Date Questions to Ask a Woman When Searching for a Real Relationship.
Make Every Bumble Conversation a Winner
You know how to use a TDL to end a Bumble conversation. But are you getting as many matches on conversations as you could be? What I mean is, have you used good strategies when it comes to creating a Bumble profile? A great profile is going to get you the best possible matches. This increases your chances of not just landing dates — but attracting women who you can have great relationships with. Check out my article on a great Bumble profile example for men for more tips.
Learn the dos and don’ts of creating an online dating profile (along with some other online dating tips) by checking out my Top 10 Online Dating Tips for Men.
Don’t Rely Solely on Bumble
Bumble shouldn’t be the only tool in your dating arsenal. If you want to find a long-term relationship and crush your dating goals, you should be putting yourself out there in a variety of ways. This includes using other dating apps, meeting through friends, attending social events, trying speed dating, and more.
Putting yourself out there will help you date not just one woman, but several at the same time in order to diffuse energy and keep your social calendar full. This strategy — my top recommendation to all my male clients — is known as MegaDating.
What is MegaDating?
Practice makes perfect. This is true in dating and other areas of life. If you want to become really good at something, you should be doing it over and over again. Enter MegaDating.
MegaDating is a dating strategy that involves dating several different people at the same time. By filling up your social calendar, keeping your dating funnel full, and opening yourself up to a variety of interesting experiences, you naturally increase self-esteem and reduce the stress that often accompanies dating.
And since you’ll be dating multiple people, the pain of rejection is lessened. Megadating shows you that there truly are plenty of fish in the sea and you don’t have to settle for a mediocre partnership.
Attract the Woman of Your Dreams
Now you know how to end a Bumble conversation, along with some expert strategies that will help you in the dating world. But do you want more specific help just for you? Do you have struggles that are unique to you?
I’m here to help you find the woman of your dreams by creating an individualized dating plan tailored to your needs. I’ve helped men all around the world find lasting love and I can do the same for you.
Ready to get started? Head over to my calendar and book a new client 1-on-1 Skype session with me today!
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