Wondering how to make her fall in love with you?
When you meet someone that you connect with on a physical and intellectual level, it’s a wonderful feeling. You feel tickled as butterflies whir in your stomach. Suddenly the sun shines a little brighter, birds (and other woodland creatures) sing lilting melodies and the cement steps you usually bound up on the way to your office have transformed into the marshmallow texture that accompanies Cloud Nine.
Ok…maybe that’s a bit dramatic, but you get the point.
Falling in love is a wonderful feeling — especially when it is reciprocated. However, you can’t force the girl you’re dating to catch up to your feelings immediately. Still, there are several steps you can take to increase your chances of her falling in love with you.
But first things first…
How Long Have You Been Dating?
Did you just start dating or has it been a couple months? Are you exclusive?
When you first meet a woman you like, it’s easy to get caught up in the feelings that accompany infatuation. Infatuation is a short-lived, insatiable desire for a person that can last a few weeks to a handful of months in a relationship.
Some people confuse infatuation with actual love. In reality, infatuation is the product of feel-good hormones that are released in the brain after meeting someone you find particularly desirable.
Although infatuation feels great (and, yes, people that eventually fall deeply in love experience infatuation early on), it’s important that you know it can cloud your thinking.
So if you’re wondering how to make her fall in love with you and you’re not exclusive or have literally been on only a couple dates, cool your jets. Focusing on one woman you just met leads to things like chasing or getting friendzoned.
That’s why, if you’re not exclusive with this woman, it’s important that you keep your options open. In other words, you need to MegaDate.
What is MegaDating?
MegaDating is a dating strategy that involves dating several different people at once in order to diffuse energy by keeping your social calendar full. MegaDating is a process that shows you firsthand that you have a lot of options in the dating world. Thus, you don’t need to chase after women or settle for the mediocre.
In fact, MegaDating is likely to inspire an unconscious sense of competition in women that will make them chase you.
MegaDating is not about being a player or sleeping around. It’s simply about putting yourself out there and practicing your dating strategy so that you can have the luxury of being selective and find the highest quality and most compatible partner.
Why Does MegaDating Work?
Before my 100-date experiment, I had gone from one monogamous relationship to the next. I found myself single and wondering if love would ever truly happen for me. In fact, I wondered in love even existed.
I used MegaDating as my main strategy during my experiment and discovered so much about dating and also myself. By the end of the experiment, I had a long-term partner who I’m still happily enjoying a relationship with years later. MegaDating allowed me to get outside of my comfort zone and discover what I truly wanted in a relationship.
So if your relationship is still in the non-exclusive, infantile stages, consider MegaDating.
Now that we’ve gotten that out of the way, let’s move on to exactly how to make her fall in love with you.
How to Make Her Fall in Love with You Step #1: No Pressure
Don’t pressure her. I can’t emphasize this enough – even if you can’t stop thinking about her!
You can’t force love, so don’t try to. Some guys think that pressuring a woman to reciprocate feelings or “put a label on it” will expedite what they’re trying to achieve. But this tactic is counterintuitive.
My friend was in an exclusive relationship with a guy for a few months. They had instant chemistry and she even described their happenstance encounter as a sort of “love at first sight” kind of thing. They did the whole shebang, becoming Facebook official and committing to a serious relationship in just a few weeks.
But here’s the thing. Once the inebriating feeling that comes with infatuation, i.e., “the honeymoon phase” had waned, my friend felt like she was experiencing a full-on hangover.
She realized she didn’t know that much about this guy and had allowed herself to rush into something too soon. Red flags emerged (he was possessive and jealous) and the relationship basically imploded.
Furthermore, she always felt a bit on edge during the relationship because things moved so fast.
Nothing kills the mood like anxiety. So don’t pressure her.
Moreover, when you pressure a girl into a relationship or constantly try to push things forward, you can come off as clingy.
How to Avoid Being a Stage-Five Clinger
No one wants to garner the title of “stage-five clinger.” Avoid doing the following things in a relationship if you don’t want to come off as a stage-five clinger:
- Avoid having sex too soon (or hold off on sex the next time)
- Don’t love bomb her
- Don’t bombard her with texts
- Spend time with friends outside of your relationship
- Savor your alone time
- Increase your self-confidence. Check out my articles on How to Be Confident When Dating a Girl You Like and Why Feeling Worthy Will Help You Attract Any Woman for in-depth tips
- Like I said before, MegaDate if you want to increase your desirability in the dating world and stay out of the friendzone
How to Make Her Fall in Love with You Step #2: Listen
Listen to her. I mean, REALLY listen.
One way you can signal to a woman that you are actively listening to her is through eye contact.
Eye contact is extremely important when it comes to dating because it lets her know that you are listening and engaged with her.
If you’re nervous on a date, you may be tempted to look away from her, but that’s a big dating DON’T. When you aren’t making eye contact, it can come off as rude or like you’re not interested in her.
Take Note of Her Interests
When you actively listen to a woman, you can racket up information on her interests and use this to build trust and rapport. Create compelling date ideas that adhere to her interests and get creative. Trust me, listening and fun dates that adhere to her interests go a long way.
How to Make Her Fall in Love With You Step #3: Be There
More importantly, be there when she needs you. If something bad happens or she needs a shoulder to cry on, show up. Let her know she’s a priority through your actions. When you’re in a relationship, you want someone you can count on. Showing her that you’re able to show up for her is huge when it comes to building a long-term, solid connection.
How to Make Her Fall in Love with You Step #4: Be Chivalrous
They say that chivalry is dead. Want to make her fall in love with you? Make it your mission to prove to her that chivalry is alive and well.
Why Do Women Appreciate Chivalry?
When you’re chivalrous, you show a woman that you are a gentleman and willing to go the extra mile for her. Moreover:
- Chivalry takes work
- Women appreciate a man who offers a sense of protection
- Chivalry is synonymous with respect
- Men who are chivalrous exude strength, which is something that women appreciate
- Finally, men who are chivalrous are good planners because they ask women on dates that have a clear TDL
TDL? What’s that? Glad you asked.
The Power of a TDL
This is such a potent tool when it comes to sweeping a girl off her feet and even getting a woman to fall in love with you.
Men who use a TDL are better at building trust and rapport with a woman. A TDL is an acronym used to describe the three critical components of a date request’s call-to-action, the time, the date, and the location of the date. The “T” in TDL stands for the “Time” the date will take place. When asking for a date, you must give a woman the time you’d like to meet with her so that she knows whether she is available at that time or not. The “D” in TDL stands for the “Date.” When asking for a date, you must give a woman the date you’d like to meet her on so that she knows whether she is available on that date. The “L” in TDL stands for the “Location.” When asking for a date, you must give a woman the location you’d like to meet her at so that she knows whether or not she can meet you at that location.
How to Make Her Fall in Love with You Step #5: Take Trips
Take trips with her. Going out of town and enjoying new experiences together is a great way to bond. Moreover, offering her a new experience in an exotic place is bound to sweep her off her feet.
How to Make Her Fall in Love Step #6: Make Her Feel Special
Make her feel like she’s the only one in the room. Obviously, this means no flirting with other girls or checking other girls out. Don’t be shy about your feelings. If you’re completely enchanted by her, let her know that with active listening and amazing eye contact. Tell her how great she looks and how lucky you feel to be spending your time with her.
You can even say something like, “You know, when I’m with you, sometimes I forget there’s anyone else in the room.”
Make Her Fall in Love with You By Hiring a Dating Coach
Every situation is different. What works for some situations may not work for yours.
If you want in-depth, expert dating advice tailored to your situation and goals, head over to my calendar and book a 1-on-1 Skype session with me today! During our session, we will create an action plan based on your dating roadblocks and help you crush your goals FAST.
I’ve helped men across the globe find lasting love. I’d like to do the same for you.
Talk to you soon!