We’ve all been there – wanting to find love, but it’s just not happening. You scratch your head and wonder why it’s so difficult. After all, the movies and TV shows all make it look so easy, right? Heck, even the prostitute in the classic movie, Pretty Woman, found a billionaire to love and they lived happily ever after.
So why isn’t it happening for you?
First, just know that you aren’t alone. There are countless singles in the world who feel exactly the same way you do.
You might be young and want to find someone to marry and have a family with. Or, you might be newly divorced and have no idea where to start to find your next relationship.
Either way, you could probably use some help. And that’s why you should consider working with a dating coach.
You might be thinking… a dating coach? Why do I need one of those? And where do I even find one? Where do I even look? Do I need a dating coach near me, or can I find one anywhere?
There are so many questions you probably want answered before you decide to hire a dating coach. So, let’s start by talking about why you would even need to hire dating coach in the first place.
Why You Should Work With a Dating Coach
Many men believe that working with a dating coach signifies some sort of “weakness” on their part. This couldn’t be farther from the truth! It’s actually a sign of strength to admit that you could use a little help. Here are some common reasons you might want to work with a dating coach:
Too Little Time
You’re a very busy person. You have a demanding career, and at the end of the day, the last thing you want to do is go looking online for someone to date. You need to strategize with a coach to structure your limited time on dating sites and apps. I can show you how to be effective and save time concurrently.
Unfocused About Who You’re Looking For
You might not have a clue about who you think you should be dating. You might think you do, but a coach will really help you get clear on the RIGHT type of woman you should be going after.
Poor Online Dating Results
Not everyone is great at writing an online dating profile. I admit – it’s not easy! And that’s okay. If you’re not getting women to respond to your messages, let a dating coach re-write it and see how your success improves.
You’re Shy or Have Awkward Social Skills
Not everyone can be an extrovert or the life of the party. And that’s perfectly fine. Just because you’re shy or might have a hard time making small talk, calming your nerves, or first, second, or third date activities doesn’t mean you can’t have a great dating life. Let a coach help you with that.
Opposite Sex Confuses You
I know, I know, women can be confusing! Men are women are quite different, and if you’re having a hard time reading women or figuring them out, then a dating coach can help you with that as well.
You Have Low Self Confidence
Women are attracted to men who are confident, and if you feel like you don’t have much of that, a dating coach can certainly help you work on yourself and project a better image on a date.
You’ve Never Had a Long Term Relationship
Maybe you’ve never even had a relationship before, and you don’t know where to start. A dating coach is a wealth of knowledge about what a healthy and happy relationship looks like, and they can teach you.
You Found a Match and Want to Keep Her
Maybe you were lucky enough to find a great woman, but you’re afraid you’re going to blow it with her. A dating coach can be there for you every step of the way to make sure you do the right things. That’s why I run a 3 month coaching program – to ensure your long term success every step of the way.
Now that we know the importance of having a dating coach by your side, let’s look at why you don’t need to hire a dating coach near you.
Did You Know There Are Virtual Dating Coaches Who’ll Meet You Online via Skype?
Technology has certainly transformed our everyday lives. You might not be old enough to remember a life without the internet, but then again you might be.
In the old days, if you wanted to find a dating coach, you probably would have to look in the yellow pages of the phone book, but you probably still wouldn’t find any listed. Even if you did, you would be limited to finding a dating coach near you.
But now your options are limitless. You could live anywhere in the world and work with a dating coach half way across the globe. Technology has made it incredibly convenient.
If you’re not familiar with Skype, don’t worry. It’s not that difficult to figure out. You can download it on your laptop or smart phone.
Here are some tips for you to use Skype if you’ve never done it before.
For your laptop:
- First, open your internet browser, and go to Skype.com. This will bring you to the Skype home page on their website.
- Next, click the “download” button on the Skype home page to open the download page. When you do this, Skype will begin the download on to your computer.
- Finally, just select “save to disk,” and you’re done.
Once you have it downloaded, find the Skype icon on your computer. It will most likely be on your desktop, so it shouldn’t be difficult to find. It is a big light blue icon with an “S” in it. Click on it to open up Skype.
Then, you will have to choose a Skype ID. For example, if your name is John Smith, you might choose something like “jsmith” or “smith1990.” You can also put your photo on there and fill in some biographical information such as your birthday, location, and other information like that if you want to.
Next, check your webcam to make sure it is working properly.
You can call anyone who is in your contact list. So, what that means, is that you will have to get your coach’s Skype ID (or vice versa) so you can call each other.
Skype offers several options. You can call and just use the audio component (just like making a phone call but talking through your computer instead). You can even call a land line if you want to. To do these, you choose who you want to call, and then you simply click on the telephone icon, and it will make the call.
I always have my clients use the video feature. In order to make a video call, you will need to click on the video icon. From there, it will dial your contact and they will also have to have their video feature on so you can see them.
For your phone:
The process is pretty similar to what I just described above. First, make sure your mobile device has a front facing camera. Got to your apps store and find Skype, and then install it. The Skype website will also send you a download link to your mobile phone number if you’d rather do it that way. Next, open up your app and then follow the same directions I gave you for your laptop.
Today Your Options are Limitless
If you’re searching google for a “dating coach near me”, you might be limited to one or two – or even zero. There may be many of them in a place like New York City or Chicago, but what if you live in a small or mid-sized city in Montana? The chances are very small that you would ever find a dating coach near you.
But if you search google for “dating coach for men”, for example – you’ll notice there is a pleathora of online coaches who will work with you. Each one might even have a different specialization, which is great. For example, you probably already know that I only work with men.
Choose a Dating Coach Who is Well Rounded
As I mentioned earlier, you want to find a dating coach with experience. If you limit your search to dating coaches in your city, they might not be properly qualified to help you. They should be able to:
- Diagnose your dating struggles
- Help you construct online dating profiles that get matches
- Show you how to craft compelling messages on dating sites that get responses and dates
- Help you set up a perfect first date that saves you time and money
- Deliver ideas for physical second date ideas that escalate the relationship
- Teach you text message strategies and how to follow up properly after your dates
- Have a strategy that makes them unique. Mine is MegaDating
Do you research. Does the dating coach you’re about to hire create blog articles for their website? How many do they have? At minimum, they should be posting 1 article every week. This guarantees they stay on top of their game. Here at EmLovz we post up to 5 articles every week! We gather information from our clients, and turn their issues into blogs (without naming any names :))
You Should Find a Dating Coach Who Has What You Want
As mentioned above, with the invent of Skype, you’re now able to sift through hundreds of potential dating coaches that’ll meet you online. Here comes the tough part, so try this example out..
If you were wanting to hire a financial advisor, would you hire one with a low balance in their bank account? Of course not! You’d want to hire someone who really knows what they’re doing with money, right? And if they can’t do it for themselves, how can they do it for you?
The same is true for a dating coach. It’s best to find someone who has been through it and has had success. Not only that, but make sure you get a feeling that they are currently working with a handful of clients. You want to know that your dating coach has potentially solved the issue you’re struggling with for a previous client of theirs.
Also, it’s 2019 now. Make sure the dating coach you select is heavily versed in online dating sites and apps.
Ask your coach a variety of qualifying questions. If you’re seeking a long term girlfriend, wouldn’t it make sense to find out if the coach you’re about to hire is in a long term relationship?
A Major Reason Why You Should Hire a Virtual Dating Coach
Our lives are so busy these days that most of us don’t want to add one more thing to our “to do” list – especially if it includes leaving the house or staying out later after work than you need to.
When you work virtually with a dating coach, you can talk to them from wherever there’s an internet connection. You could be feeling sick and want to discuss your issues under a cozy blanket. That’s not something you can do if you have to go to her brick and mortar office.
Besides just being able to talk to your dating coach from anywhere, anytime, let’s also just take a look at some other reasons why it’s not 100% necessary to hire a dating coach near you.
No Commuting or Wasting Money on Ubers or Lyfts
Let’s face it – car payments, gas, insurance, and the wear and tear on a car is expensive. So, if you are working with a dating coach near you, that means you have to spend extra money getting there.
Even if you don’t own a car (maybe you live in a big city), you would still need to spend money on an Uber or Lyft to get there. And let’s say you live in New York City, you know that the time it takes to get from one side of the city to the other can be forever. And that is lot of time and money that you don’t need to be spending.
So, that’s another great reason that you should not be looking for a dating coach near you. You will actually save money, because Skype is free! Why would you ever want to spend the extra effort to leave your house when you don’t need to?
The Bottom Line
If you have been considering the possibility of working with a dating coach, hopefully I have given you enough reasons to actually pursue it. Everyone wants to find someone to spend their life with, and a coach can certainly maximize your odds of finding that special someone that you can spend happily ever after with.
I help dozens of men each month reach their dating goals. And you could be next. It doesn’t matter where you live. As long as you speak English, I’d be happy to help you – go ahead and book a New Client Skype Session with me today.
During this intro session, we’ll diagnose your dating history, discuss your dating goals, come up with an action plan, and see if my 3-Month coaching program is right for you.