Hinge vs. Tinder: Which One Should You Swipe Right On?
Going dutch vs. footing the entire bill, ghosting or telling her to her face that she’s not right for you, Hinge vs. Tinder.
Choice abounds in the modern dating scene. To not make an ass of yourself, you must know how to match each context with the correct choice.
Going dutch makes sense after a few dates, but not on the first, second, or third. Ghosting can minimize awkwardness but doesn’t the person being snubbed deserve a proper explanation? Hinge is the app that’s designed to be deleted, while Tinder is the most swiped right on app in the United States.
There is no one size fits all option when it comes to dating. No one dating policy or dating app should be too heavily leaned on.
There are dozens of pressing dating issues, but perhaps none more so than dating applications.
New data released from Pew Research last week confirms just how common dating app usage is. 48% of Americans ages 18-29 have at one time used a dating app. For Americans ages 30-49 that number is 38%. But just because Americans are using these apps doesn’t mean we have a love affair with them.
Pew Research found that of Americans that have used a dating app in the past year, 45% of them were made to feel even more frustrated with their dating life because of these apps. 4 in 10 of all users reported that their overall dating app experience was in fact negative.
Part of America’s collective frustration with online dating comes from our inability to choose the right application.
Every app is designed for a specific type of user. Match for example targets singles ages 50 and over while Happn positions itself as the ideal app for those in their late 20s and early 30s. What we’ll take a look at today are two of the most disruptive dating applications in the game.
Hinge vs. Tinder
Hinge and Tinder are two very different dating apps.
Tinder, for example, was released in 2012 and quickly became known as a hookup app. Initially, it lived up to its reputation. In the early stages of its genesis, 90% of its users were college students ages 18-24. Most college students aren’t really interested in building lifelong romantic relationships. Academics is a priority, students have too little money for actual dates, and cheap beer and hormones are free-flowing.
College campuses are where you get your freak on not where you look for your future wife (not these days at least). But by 2014 its perception had drastically changed. Only 50% of its users were of collegiate age and other dating apps had helped curb dating app stigma. One of these apps was Hinge.
Hinge differs in its approach to online dating (or so it claims). The app is ostensibly “designed to be deleted.” Instead of giving a user free reign of who they choose to swipe right or left on, Hinge limits users to friends of FB friends (but more on that later). Hinge has been around for nearly as long as Tinder, but hasn’t been able to amass nearly as many users. Only after Pete Buttigieg let slip that he met his now-husband on the application did singles flock to Hinge.
So who exactly uses these apps?
Tinder is the most popular dating in the United States with 7.86 million users in the US alone. Active Tinder users log in about 4 times a day and collectively swipe more than 1.6 billion times a day. Users are overwhelmingly young. 39% of its users are 18-24 while 41% are 25-34 years of age. And as to be expected men vastly outnumber female users, with estimates being as high as 9 men for every one woman on Tinder.
Yes, a crap ton of people use Tinder.
But swiping left and right and actually going out with a match are two different things. Studies show that while Tinder is the most popular dating app, it’s viewed more so as a game than as a tool to meeting fellow singles. A recent study found that only 50% of users have ever gone on a date with a match.
So how does this compare to Hinge?
As of late Oct 2018 Hinge had been downloaded 4.2 million times in the US. Thanks to former Mayor Pete, that number is now expected to be between 5-6 million. Reputable sources reporting Hinge’s gender breakdown are difficult to find but it’s a safe bet to say that at least 60% of its users are men.
While Hinge doesn’t like to make known data surrounding its gender breakdown and demographics, it does however offer a quantified insight into the quality of Hinge dates. In 2018 Hinge launched the feature, “We Met.” The feature is tasked with gathering information about Hinge dates.
After exchanging contact information via the app, Hinge will ask users if they went on a date and how likely they’d be to see their date again. During Beta trials, they found that 90% of users that went on first dates reported having excellent dates and that 72% said they’d like to go on yet another date.
How Tinder & Hinge Work
For naive daters yet to strike up an affair via Tinder or Hinge, let’s dig into how these apps actually work.
Tinder’s interface is simple and superficial. It reduces each user to a set of playing cards. Each profile is comprised of up to 9 photos and accompanied by an optional written biography. Users have the option of swiping left (rejection) or right to accept certain profiles. Only profiles of women of a certain age and proximity to you will be shown -you set the age and distance preferences.
Free Tinder users have about 50-100 free right swipes before their swipes dry up and are required to wait for 12 hours. If 100 swipes isn’t enough for you, considering upgrading your account to Tinder Plus.
Users are only notified once someone your right swipe has been reciprocated by another user. Once you match, you’ll be able to send that all important Tinder first message.
Also, you’ll never be notified when you’ve been rejected -one of the many perks of using dating apps. Unlike Bumble, matches aren’t erased after a certain period of time.
Hinge, on the other hand, will only connect you with friends of your FB friends. It digitizes the old school approach to dating -that we are most likely to meet our partner through a friend. Unlike Tinder’s interface, Hinge users are required to fill in a fairly detailed bio.
Hinge’s interface is set up in such a way that to see more photos you must also scroll past written bio blurbs (aka, hinge prompt responses), thus tempting users to read up on users rather than just salivate over their photos.
Which One’s Right For You?
That all depends on what you’re looking for. Are you a younger guy in search of a quick shag or are you tired with dating around and want to focus on building a serious relationship?
This isn’t to say that you can’t find a woman looking to settle down on Tinder, there are just more women with this romantic goal on Hinge. Tinder users that want more than a quick hookup are fairly easy to identify -usually because they’ll tell you what they’re looking for.
Female Tinder users have a habit of explicitly writing what they’re looking for, especially if their romantic goals are finding a significant partner. Generally speaking, women that pen lengthy bios are more interested in settling down than those with laconic bios.
If you want to find a girlfriend, download the “app designed to be deleted.” Hinge claims it wants to find you a girlfriend, but in truth, its interface does little to facilitate meaningful conversations or introduce you with compatible singles. Despite this, Hinge still registers more singles in search of ending their seemingly endless search for lasting love than most other dating apps.
Now that you know which app is right for you, it’s time to talk strategy. First, Tinder.
As we’ve already discussed, Tinder is dominated by dudes. In reality, all dating apps are virtual sausage fests, that’s just how it is. So what do you need to do to stand out?
Our own research shows that about 75% of men send “hey” or a variation as a first message. You want to stand out? -easy, don’t do what everyone else is doing. Your first message should be informed by her profile. Latch onto a commonality she lists in her profile and ask her about it. That’s what a quality first message looks like.
Should she mentions she’s a reader, simply ask what she’s currently reading or what she plans on reading next. If you glean that she’s a serial traveler ask her about her bucket list destinations. Making conversation with a stranger is easy when their profile briefs you on who they are.
See the screenshot below for a quality opening line and follow-up commonality question.
But even before a message can be sent there must be a match. Tinder is notorious for being the most shallow dating app on the market. Superficiality is baked into the app. There’s no way around it. But no worries, just assemble a dope roster of Tinder pics that’ll make any Tindrella swipe right. But how?
There are a few cardinal rules to keep in mind when selecting photos from your library. Here they are:
No selfies. A selfie is the visual equivalent of “hey.” Selfies are easy to take, make you look like you have no friends, and are definition basic.
Keep the shirt on. It just looks douchey. Shirtless photos, otherwise known as “thirst traps” are widely disliked by females.
Don’t obscure your face. She’ll only go out with you if she knows what you look like.
Group pics should never be your initial photo.
Don’t wear the same clothes in multiple photos. Just wear a different shirt.
Travel shots receive high grades, especially international ones. Don’t be afraid to flaunt your jetsetter lifestyle.
How does this strategy change when it comes to using Hinge?
The same rules apply when it comes to selecting your photos. The main difference comes down to messaging etiquette. Tinder users can afford to be a bit more direct. Should your directness not work out you’ll simply be ghosted -this isn’t the case for Hinge.
If your aggressive messaging tactic isn’t going over well, you might hear about it. Remember that Hinge connects you to friends of your FB friends. Should a friend of a friend be peeved out by your messages you might end up hearing about it. Edit, revise, and clean up naughty messages before sending them via Hinge.
This Is The Beginning
Hinge vs. Tinder… who won?
Now that you’ve got the winning app downloaded, it’s ready to create your profile, start messaging women, and ultimately going on dates IRL.
It’s a lot to take in. But don’t worry, you don’t have to go it alone.
Book a 1-on-1 new client Skype session now with yours truly. Together we’ll talk about the necessary steps you must take in order to accomplish your romantic goals. I’ve helped hundreds of men go from zero dates to MegaDating to finding a partner in just a few months. That’s what my 3 month Signature coaching program is all about.