Day: January 29, 2024

What The Best Dating App of 2024 Is According To Dating Coaches

Everyone wants to meet their future spouse at the supermarket. Or at the arboretum. Or the music festival.

We incessantly romanticize about how the universe will look favorably upon us and give us the luck we need to unexpectedly bump into our soul mate.

It’s a cute fantasy.

The thing is… it’s propaganda.

I mean, sure, it’s perfectly possible for you to meet your next partner at yoga class, but odds are you won’t.

According to a study conducted by eHarmony and London’s Imperial College Business School, researchers found that:

“Around a third (32%) of relationships started between 2015 and 2019 started online, compared to only 19% between 2005 and 2014.”

However, they’re not the only ones who found that dating apps are the most popular way to meet a significant other. A 2017 Stanford study found similar results. A 2017 survey of American adults found that:

“…about 39 percent of heterosexual couples reported meeting their partner online, compared to 22 percent in 2009.”

So maybe it’s time to stop hanging around bars during ladies-night and instead work those fingers muscles by swiping right.

According to Pew Research, there’s a pretty good chance your next girlfriend is on Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, or another of the many dating apps out there. And let’s be serious, if Pew says it’s true, it probably is.

But with a myriad of dating apps out there, how are you to know which one you should be on?

To find out, I asked three emlovz dating coaches and one former emlovz coach what the best dating app of 2024 is.

Their responses were all kind of the same, but instead of stealing their shine, I’ll just let them tell you who the winner is.

First up is emlovz’s co-founder, Emyli…

She’s been a major fan of Hinge for a while now.

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Hinge because it allows you to message without matching and has a large following (lots of people on it). I recommend it because it’s the #1 source of dates for my coaching students. Being able to message gives them full control over how many messages they send, which ultimately equates to being able to predict the number of dates they go on.
The second best app is Bumble because it has the most attractive users. Men don’t always love it though because women don’t often message at all, so even if you match, it’s rare to get into messaging with a woman on Bumble. But it’s important to diversify your outreach and seeing as how the most attractive singles are on Bumble, it’s the second best app in my opinion.

Let’s talk about these two apps for a second.

The first is Hinge.

Hinge claims to be the only dating app “designed to be deleted.”

By this, they mean that their goal is to actually hook you on love rather than hook you on the chase.

Other apps are built to addict their users whereas Hinge (argues) that it’s built to find love rather than increase its user base. Whether you believe them or not they back up this claim in their features.

Some Hinge highlights include:

— Exhaustive filter preferences (filter users by religion, politics, drug habits, height, education, etc.)

— Users have to answer at least 3 prompts meaning that you can’t get away with not writing a bio like you would on Tinder

— Only 10 likes a day, cause Hinge doesn’t think dating should be your only hobby

— Nudge feature that reminds users to reply to messages

— Hinge has found that “3 out of 4 first dates would like to see each other again”

— Video prompts, audio prompt responses, and polls are added to profile to further humanize the user

Sign up for Hinge if you’re looking to get serious about a relationship. Most users that are done with Tinder graduate to Hinge.

Our next dating coach & matchmaker is Jackie…

Jackie’s a millennial and former emlovz coach that knows her way around a dating app or two. She recommends two apps you’ve probably heard of to all her clients.

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Hinge – Men can like a photo or comment, without matching with a girl, so she may see it and change her mind if she hadn’t already matched with him. “Most Compatible” matches are recommended, which may persuade a date.
Bumble – Best quality matches currently. Women have to reach out first, so it’s more likely that you will secure a date if you begin talking.

Shocker.

Look, Hinge reigns supreme.

As Jackie says the ability to like or comment on a photo is massive. It gives guys a chance to showcase their character and humanize themselves before even matching. Not only this but it uses an award-winning algorithm to find suitors that are hyper-compatible.

emlovz co-founder, Thomas…

Tom is a co-founder of emlovz and provides dating strategies and insight from a male’s perspective.

So you might think he’d choose an app like Tinder or The League.

Nope.

Instead, Tom’s choice for the best dating app of 2024 is Bumble.

Bumble was founded by Whitney Wolfe (as seen above) after she had already co-founded Tinder.

She left to found a feminist dating app that would be everything that Tinder isn’t — at least in name. Ya see, Wolfe was sexually harassed by Tinder employees and actually sued the company. It was this experience that inspired the ethos and many female-first features of Bumble.

Tom likes that app because the milieu is of a higher quality than you’d find on other apps.

The singles on Bumble are slightly older than Tinder users (though many use both apps), and more self-aware, know what they want, and are willing to tell you about it.

Tom also likes Bumble because it offers a wealth of information to users. It allows users to highlight their personality and humanize themselves so they’re not just another card in a deck of thousands. Men and women also link to their IGs or provide enough info so that finding their IG is a breeze.

Why is that important, though?

If you’re strategic, a single person can slowly build up their Instagram and eventually, in a slow roll, build up a new dating funnel from Instagram.

We’ll teach male and female students not only how to optimize their Bumble account but also how to optimize their IG account so they can begin to attract women on one of the most used social media apps of them all.

NOTE: As you’re probably aware Bumble is most known for its messaging dynamic. Unlike just about every other app on the market, with Bumble, women are in control and must message first.

However, that isn’t the app’s only notable feature.

Bumble Highlights

— Women message first

— Matches expire after 24 hours if the conversation hasn’t been initiated

— More free matches than most other apps

— Travel mode

— Spotlight

— SuperSwipes

— Community guidelines that take a stand against ghosting, standing up dates, or doxxing

— Using AI to enhance profiles by way of photos manipulation or auto-generated text is forbidden

— Actively combats spam and scam accounts

Similar to Hinge, most Tinder users will find their way to Bumble after they’re tired of chasing false leads.

Now let’s hear from our last dating coach, Audrey…

Audrey recommends an app that you’ve definitely heard of before.

That’s right folks, that means four swipes right for Hinge.

Every single guy and girl should be on Hinge.
I have by far heard the most success stories from this app and I believe its layout allows people to find true connections and romance. I think people are encouraged to be their most genuine and unique on Hinge rather than trying to come off as the most attractive guy/girl in the world.
Because you can respond to different prompts and photos, people are able to connect and relate to one another on the most mundane and random things. I think those simple connections are what spark fun relationships.

Well, there you have it folks.

When it comes to dating apps, Hinge is the winner.

Best Dating App of 2024: Hinge

What Now?

I think you know what to do now. Download Hinge and get your flirt on.

But what if you don’t know how to get the most from dating apps?

Seeing as how online dating is the most common way to meet your romantic partner, that’d be an issue.

Luckily I have a solution.

Dating Decoded

This will give you ample potential partners to compare and contrast so you can refine not only your dating skills but also who your ideal partner is.

To teach you how to quickly find a highly compatible partner in just weeks and become the most eligible single in town you’ll team up with romantic experts, each skilled in their own unique area to support you.

Our Team

Emyli, co-founder, curriculum developer, head coach, and I host coaching sessions every week
Thomas, co-founder, and coach. He’ll lead the biweekly Man Cave event where men come together to talk dating, bond with one another, and support other single men
Brooke, and Audrey are mock date specialists for men. Go on a practice date with them (and receive feedback) before your next date
Darshil is our mock date coach for women. Go on a practice date with them (and receive feedback) before your next date
Renee is our anxiety dating coach. As a licensed therapist she knows the steps needed to turn you into a cool, calm, and collected dater
Hailey is your new stylist. She’s worked with celebs from every industry and is now about to raid your closet
Tilly is our holistic sex & intimacy coach. She’ll help you get the most out of your sex life so you and your partner are happier between the sheets
Mia is our social media expert. Revamp your Facebook and Instagram profiles with her help and start meeting singles online

Our Community

And look, we realize that the single life can be difficult. If accepted into our coaching program, Dating Decoded, you’d be joining a community of supportive singles and coaches who are there to listen, support, and encourage you as you navigate the single life.
Our program offers every student a lifetime membership (as if you’ll need it) so the support won’t stop until you’ve found your ideal partner.
If you’re ready to find your forever partner, book a Zoom session with our team today. Together we’ll talk about your dating history, goals and show you how our program, Dating Decoded, can help you find your ideal partner.
Learn how our students have already improved their dating lives.

How to Break Up with Your Girlfriend in Person

Breaking up is never easy, even if the relationship has long run its course.

If you’re wondering how to break up with your girlfriend in person, you’re not alone. Having the big “breakup conversation” and taking the proper steps following that conversation (exchanging of things, etc.), can create a great deal of anxiety.

However, even though a breakup is likely unpleasant, no matter how you approach it, it doesn’t have to be terrible. Below are my expert tips on how to break up with your girlfriend. I’ll also provide some advice at the end of this article on moving on following your breakup.

How to Break Up with Your Girlfriend Step #1: The Convo

When the time comes to have the breakup conversation, always keep compassion in mind. Be prepared for tears and questions about what went wrong. Keep the conversation honest and heartfelt. She may ask you what she could have done differently or what you would like her to do in order to salvage the relationship.

The truth is, when you know it’s time to break up with someone, you just know. The fact that you have discovered that the two of you are no longer compatible does not detract from your girlfriend’s value as a person.

However, breakups often take a big hit to our self-esteem. Rejection sucks no matter who you are. And a breakup is the ultimate rejection. It’s important to let your girlfriend know that the breakup is not a reflection on her as a person. Furthermore, it doesn’t mean that you are blind to her many wonderful attributes.

Sometimes two people are simply not meant to make it long-term. Sadly, one person often realizes that first instead of both parties seeing it at the same time. Hence, completely mutual breakups are a rarity.

The Bachelor Formula

Ok, this might sound silly, but hear me out.

On shows like The Bachelor and The Bachelorette, certain season leads really get it right when it comes to ending a relationship with compassion. Granted, these people are dating 23 people at the same time and I’m guessing that’s not your scenario (if so…congrats??), but the point still stands.

I noticed while watching Bachelorette Becca Kufrin’s season that she was very good at ending things with guys. She didn’t make excuses, was really open and honest and also wasn’t afraid to let her emotions show. Even though you know that you will be happier ending the relationship, it’s ok for it to be painful and for your girlfriend to see that this is hard for you as well.

A lot of times Becca would tell guys how she just “couldn’t get there” or “be on the same page” as the guys who wanted the relationship to last. I think telling someone that you simply can’t meet them where they are with feelings or saying that the chemistry just isn’t what it should be is better than a cliched “it’s not me, it’s you.”

One More Example

Another great example of handling a breakup with compassion was on Nick Viall’s season of The Bachelor where he ended things with Rachel Lindsay. I really like that he made a point to let her know how amazing she is and that his feelings toward her as a person and the amount of respect and care he had for her hadn’t changed. They just simply weren’t right for each other long-term.

Again, I know it may be silly for me to reference a reality television show for a breakup article but look at the body language. It’s exactly the way you should look and talk when you’re ending a relationship with someone in a kind, heartfelt way.

And, yes, no matter how you do it, it’s likely that your girlfriend is going to be hurt and shed some tears. But in the long run, the way you handle the breakup will make it much easier for her as she moves forward.

Step #2: Choose a Neutral Location

Technically, this is step one for how to break up with your girlfriend in person, but I really wanted to get the conversation part out of the way first.

When it comes to the “where” of how to break up with your girlfriend in person, don’t choose your apartment. Pick a neutral location that offers privacy. Something like a somewhat secluded park could be a good choice. If it’s a neutral setting, do it close to her home.

Of course, breaking up at her place would make the most sense. You can breakup and if things turn ugly or uncomfortable, you can leave. Breaking up at your place doesn’t give you an out. You can’t leave her crying on your couch and say that you’re just gonna run out for milk. Never breakup with her at your place.

Step #3: Make Exchanging of Things Easy

When it comes to wondering how to break up with your girlfriend in person, you may also be wondering how to give her back her things.

Make it easy for her. If she left things like clothes or a toothbrush at your place, put it in a box somewhere and have it ready for her. If you have a garage, this could be a good choice for her to grab and go.

You can also ask her if she prefers for you to drop off things with a roommate while she’s at work, leave things in her mailbox etc.

And when it comes to your items, ask her about doing the same. Make it a situation where it is easy and convenient but (hopefully) doesn’t have to involve much interaction so that she can focus on healing instead of seeing you again.

Step #4: Reestablishing a Friendship

If you don’t want to lose a friendship with her, explain that you think the two of you are better off as friends.

Often, we enter into a relationship with someone who is intellectually compatible but, when it comes to romance, the chemistry simply isn’t there.

Let her know you would love to remain friends if she’s open to it. However, be prepared that this may be too difficult for her. Moreover, don’t try to pick up a friendship right after you’ve broken up.

Give her a couple of weeks to heal after the breakup and then try to reestablish the friendship.

But when you do…

Step #5: Give Her an Exit Strategy

This step on how to break up with your girlfriend also applies to the part about meeting in a neutral location for the actual breakup.

Listen up:

Whether you’re meeting up to try and reestablish the friendship or meeting up for the actual breakup drive in separate cars.

You need to give her the option to bail out solo if things become overwhelming.

Step #6: Get on the Ball

Once you’re sure you want to break up, do it quickly. Don’t let the feeling linger for weeks. It’s painful for both of you. Women are intuitive and will notice something is off.

Moreover, the longer you wait the more likely she is to get upset at you. She may wonder why you dragged your feet instead of ripping the band-aid off.

I know it’s difficult. But trust me, the longer you let this drag on, the worse it will be for both of you.

Step #7: Use A Lot of “I” Statements

Using “I” statements are very important when it comes to how to break up with a girlfriend in person. When you use an “I” statement, you take the weight of responsibility off of the other person.

For example, saying “I don’t like who I have become in this relationship” is much different than saying “Being with you makes me feel bad” or “You’ve made me feel like a person I don’t like.”

Remember, you want to avoid the “It’s not you, it’s me” cliche (because everyone has heard that one), but you still want to get the same sentiment across.

Now that you know the steps when it comes to how to break up with your girlfriend in person, let’s look at what to do after the breakup.

Healing After Heartbreak

One of the many reasons you might be hesitant to breakup is because you know it’s going to suck, not just for her but for you as well.

It’s not like you’re 100% over this person. You’re going to feel bad and will need time to heal. You may be avoiding the severing of this relationship to avoid this wave of pain.

It might be easier for you to end things (something you will do inevitably) if you have 1) a plan and 2) a timeline.

First the plan:

Spend two weeks doing whatever you want. Feel free to Netflix and chill solo with some pizza
Work out. Exercise relieves stress
Hang out with friends and family twice a week (fill in those social gaps that she once filled)
Realize you may miss her ever if you’re the one breaking up with her

Finally, when you’re ready to get back out there, start MegaDating.

Secondly, let’s answer the question, how long does it take to get over a breakup?

It’s not like day one after the breakup you’ll feel liberated and ready to take on the world.

By breaking up with someone you uproot your entire life (depending on how intertwined you two were). There will suddenly be a massive chunk of your life missing.

I guarantee that even though you initiated the breakup there will be moments of regret.

You will have fleeting moments when you want to get back with her. So how long will these thoughts and feelings of regret last?

Look, everyone has their own timeline. Factors such as if there was cheating involved, how long the relationship lasted, who broke up with whom, and how intertwined your lives were will all play a part in the healing process.

Research says it’ll take anywhere from two weeks to a year and a half to get over a breakup.

My guess though is that considering you broke up with her it’ll take a solid month before you start feeling like yourself again.

Expedite the healing process by:

Quitting her cold turkey (limit the interactions and unfollow her on SM, tell her you’ll do this to help get over her)
Fill in the social gaps (reconnect with friends and family, fill up your social calendar)
Workout
Pick up a new hobby and dive into it

What is MegaDating?

MegaDating is when you date multiple people at the same time in order to diffuse energy by keeping your social calendar full. MegaDating shows you firsthand that there are plenty of fish in the sea. Moreover, it offers an abundance mindset. Instead of feeling like you have to chase after one woman in case she turns out to be “the one,” you’ll hang out with several interesting women at once.

Why Does MegaDating Work?

This forces you to be more selective when it comes to picking a partner. Furthermore, you avoid settling for the mediocre. Perhaps that’s part of the reason you are breaking up with your girlfriend now.

Did you feel like you were settling? Are you afraid that breaking up means never finding anyone else? Do you think it may be better to be in an unsatisfactory relationship than no relationship at all?

Don’t feel embarrassed if you’ve felt this way. A lot of men and women do, actually, but this line of thinking isn’t going to help you achieve happiness in your romantic life. That’s why MegaDating is so effective.

I used MegaDating as my main strategy during my 100-date experiment. It led me to a long-term, satisfying relationship. Years later, my boyfriend and I are still going strong.

It worked for me and it can work for you too!