Getting over a divorce can seem like an intimidating feat. No one anticipates a divorce when they get married. To go from building a life with someone to dividing everything you share (and, in many cases, going through custody trials) requires time to grieve. It is a mentally and emotionally taxing ordeal. Even if the decision to end your marriage in an amicable one, few things are as stressful as a divorce.
But as difficult as a divorce is, it’s also fairly common. Nearly half of the marriages in the United States end in divorce. Divorce is never something we want but it’s also anything but taboo. Many people successfully move on from divorce, find love and remarry.
However, the last thing you want after a divorce is stress and pressure. Getting over a divorce and moving on to a different relationship doesn’t have to be scary and frustrating. That is, when you use MegaDating as your main strategy.
In this article, I’ll detail what MegaDating is and why you should use MegaDating when getting over a divorce. But first, let’s delve a little deeper to make sure you’re ready to dip your toes back into the dating pool.
Are You Ready to Start Dating Again?
There is life after divorce. I’ve coached dozens of men on getting back out there.
Just because your marriage didn’t work out doesn’t mean you should resign yourself to a life of bachelorhood. Remember that a divorce is not a failure. Every relationship is a risk and you should be proud that you allowed yourself to be vulnerable and intimate in the greatest of ways by walking down the aisle.
But before you start dating, make sure that you are ready. Moreover, you shouldn’t start dating until you are officially divorced. Every paper that needs to be signed should be signed, all items should be divided and living arrangements should be set. If you have children, make sure that custody arrangements have been made and that you and your ex-spouse have had time to settle into a new routine as co-parents or with you or her having sole custody.
Always remember that “legally separated” is not synonymous with divorce. Even if you are mentally checked out of a marriage and living separately, you are still legally married until all the appropriate papers are signed. Dating before you are legally divorced can sabotage a relationship before it even starts. Other women aren’t going to want to deal with the baggage of dating a “technically married man.”
Furthermore, there are sometimes legal implications involved in getting intimate with someone else while you are separated.
Basically, don’t rush it. Save yourself a headache and emotional confusion by waiting until you are legally divorced and feel ready to get back in the dating world.
And when you’re ready, getting over a divorce is much easier when you use MegaDating.
What is MegaDating?
MegaDating is a dating strategy that involves dating several people at the same time in order to diffuse energy by keeping your calendar full. When you MegaDate, you see firsthand that there are plenty of fish in the sea. This lends itself to an abundance mindset that keeps you from settling for the mediocre and chasing after “the one.”
I used MegaDating as my main strategy during my 100-date experiment. It taught me everything I needed to know about the dating world and also a lot about myself. By the end of my experiment, I had a newfound confidence and found a long-time, compatible partner.
So, why exactly is MegaDating a great strategy for getting over a divorce for men?
Reason #1: It Keeps You Busy
Getting over a divorce is a lot easier when you’re keeping yourself busy and having fun.
Remember, you don’t have to worry about finding your next wife ASAP. In fact, you shouldn’t get hung up on the idea of “the one” or chasing after one woman.
With MegaDating, you’ll be hanging out with a few different interesting people at the same time. Rather than sit at home and ruminate, you’ll be keeping yourself busy and your mood up with MegaDating.
Reason #2: You’ll Get Reacquainted with the Dating Scene FAST
Sometimes you just need to rip the band-aid off. With MegaDating, you’re not simply dipping your toes in the dating pool — you’re diving in.
Although this may seem intimidating, nothing will help you feel more at ease in the dating world than getting experience. Practice makes perfect, after all.
Reason #3: It’s Fun
MegaDating forces you to open yourself to new experiences. When I used MegaDating as the main strategy during my 100-date experiment, I made a point to open myself to adventurous dates I had never been on before.
Because there’s less pressure, use MegaDating as an opportunity to do things you’ve never done before. Take a woman to a salsa dance class, check out a museum you’ve never been to, or try a cooking class. When you take the pressure off, keep your social calendar full and open yourself to new experiences, you’ll be surprised at just how much fun dating can be.
Reason #4: There’s Less Pressure
I’ve been saying it, but let’s delve deeper into why there are not as many pressures thanks to MegaDating.
Because you’re dating multiple people, you avoid settling for the mediocre. You’re less likely to get hung up on one person and chase after them because you will be too busy getting to know other people.
Look at dating as your own personal research process. Even bad dates can teach you something about what you want in a relationship. When I viewed dating this way, I had a much easier time behaving authentically and letting loose. You can too!
Reason #5: Intimacy Isn’t Encouraged Until the Third Date
Throughout my experiment, I developed a failproof dating blueprint that is conducive to MegaDating. One part of my blueprint notes that intimacy shouldn’t occur until the third date. This allows you to pace yourself.
When you’re getting over a divorce, the idea of becoming intimate with a new person can be scary. MegaDating allows you to pace yourself in relationships so that you can be vulnerable without getting overwhelmed.
Reason #6: You Won’t Break the Bank
Now, let’s talk a little bit more about that dating blueprint I mentioned.
The first three dates are crucial when it comes to figuring out whether or not someone is the right person for you. And when you’re MegaDating, you’ll be ending up on tons of first and second dates. Sound like the perfect way to wreck your credit score? It doesn’t have to be! You can sweep tons of gorgeous women off their feet without breaking the bank when you follow this blueprint:
- First Date: It should be something that is less than an hour and does not exceed $15.
- Second Date: This date should be active and free. Consider something like hiking or visiting a museum. Eventbrite is also a great place to find free events.
- Third Date: This is the date where you can have a nice, intimate dinner. The third date is often when you will end up sealing the deal.
Reason #7: You’re Less Likely to Settle for the Mediocre
Settling for the mediocre doesn’t necessarily mean that the person you choose to be in a relationship with is a mediocre person. But if you’re with a person who isn’t compatible with you, you’re setting yourself up for a mediocre relationship. That’s what I mean by “settling for the mediocre.”
Because you’ll be exposed to a variety of different people, you’ll be less likely to get hung up on worries about “ending up alone.” MegaDating also prevents you from getting fixated on only one person. When we connect with someone and they’re the only person we’re seeing, the excitement can keep us from seeing red flags in a woman or scrutinizing the relationship in the way we should.
With MegaDating, you’re not going to want to waste your time with someone where it’s going nowhere or when there are red flags. You’re busy going from one date to the next, so there’s no time for drama!
Reason #8: MegaDating Lessens the Pain of Rejection
Because you’re getting over a divorce, you don’t want to put yourself in a situation that’s filled with pain and rejection. But with MegaDating, the pain of rejection is lessened. Because you’re already dating a few different people, losing one won’t seem like such a big deal.
Moreover, because MegaDating lessens the pain of rejection, it’s easier to put yourself out there and risk getting rejected. This is important because rejection can actually be a good thing. Getting rejected forces us to overcome fears, build confidence and learn what we truly want in a partner.
Reason #9: MegaDating Increases Confidence
When you MegaDate, you are constantly practicing your dating approach. Because practice makes perfect, MegaDating helps you to develop into an expert dater. And as your approach gets better and better, your confidence increases.
Reason #10: Women Will Chase You
An interesting thing happens when you MegaDate.
As you date multiple women, you’ll develop an abundance mindset. People who view the world with an abundance mindset see endless opportunities. You will no longer feel pressured to find “the one” or chase after women who ultimately relegate you to the friendzone.
Instead, women will start chasing you. MegaDating elicits an unconscious sense of competition in women. As you MegaDate, you automatically exude more desirability, making women want to chase you.
Get Over a Divorce and Find Lasting Love
You’re probably wondering “How on earth am I going to MegaDate when I don’t even know how to get a single date?”
That’s where I come in! For years, I’ve helped men all over the world get more dates with women they’re excited about, heal from breakups and divorces, and find lasting love. I’d like to do the same for you.
If you’re ready to explore a dating world that is fun instead of frustrating, head over to my calendar and book a new client 1-on-1 Skype session with me today! During our session, we will create an action plan to help you overcome your dating roadblocks and crush your goals.