Are you tired of being the chaser when it comes to dating? Have you spent hours, days or even years trying to crack the code on how to make her miss you and then fall for you? There is one strategy that will help you crush your dating goals faster than you thought imaginable, make you attract gorgeous, intelligent women and eventually lead you to a compatible, long-term relationship.
And guess what? You don’t need to my rich or really, really, really ridiculously good-looking to do it. During my 100-date experiment, the best strategy I used in order to find a compatible, long-term partner was MegaDating. MegaDating helped me discover that the dating world can be fun instead of frustrating and that — no matter who you are — you never have to settle for anything less than a great partner when it comes to romance.
It worked for me and it can work for you too! Below, I’ll detail what MegaDating is and how you can use this strategy to make women miss you and then fall hard for you.
What is MegaDating?
MegaDating is a dating process that involves going on dates with several different women at the same time. A lot of people mistakenly believe you should date/get hung up on one person at a time, even if it’s just the first date and the two of you are not exclusive.
When you get fixated on one person at a time, you end up being at risk of ruminating over whether or not that person is “the one,” can get infatuated and clingy, and ultimately become frustrated or settle out of fear that the “perfect girl” isn’t out there. Settling in relationships can lead to dissatisfaction in a relationship, an unfulfilling marriage and — in some cases — can even result in divorce.
When you MegaDate, you see that there is plenty of fish in the sea and that settling isn’t necessary. This allows you to open yourself up to new opportunities and actually enjoy your life as a single exploring different dating options.
MegaDating is just plain fun. When you meet a variety of women, you get to explore different interests and discover exactly what you want in a partner.
And when it comes to figuring out how to make her miss you and eventually fall for you, MegaDating does this naturally by stimulating an unconscious sense of competition in women. Because you’re dating more than one woman at a time, girls know that you’re not one to pine away for them or get fixated on the prospect of finding “the one.”
Finally, MegaDating increases your overall confidence, which makes you more attractive to women and fulfilled in your personal life. When you MegaDate, you diffuse your energy by keeping your social calendar full. You also get to practice your dating strategy consistently and, like they say, practice makes perfect.
This decreases anxiety, allows you to go with the flow, and ultimately find an awesome girlfriend to share your life with.
MegaDating Strategy #1: Find Women to Go on Dates With
Obviously, if you want to start MegaDating, you need to find women to go out with. A lot of times, people relegate their dating ventures to the bar scene. However, there are several different options when it comes to finding women that are much more effective than trying to chat with a woman at a crowded bar.
Use Dating Apps
I always recommend that my clients download not one but a few different dating apps (like Hinge, Bumble, and even Tinder) when they start MegaDating. This is a great way to connect with women you wouldn’t meet otherwise, gives you practice and allows you an opportunity to maximize your chances by matching on several different apps instead of one.
Using apps to get dates does call for some strategy, however, since you’re up against A LOT of competition. Women who use dating apps get inundated with matches and messages, meaning you have to make sure you get noticed. Some key strategies you can use:
- Use forward-facing photos of yourself that showcase a good smile and show you in your best light.
- Include photos of you and your family, cute animals and of you doing fun things that showcase your interests.
- Don’t post creepy photos, shirtless photos or any photo that indicates you may be liable for arrest.
- If you’re funny, showcase your sense of humor in your bio or header.
- Be direct in your first message and use a TDL when asking a girl out.
Using a TDL is actually essential whether you are asking a girl out online or anywhere else. A TDL is an acronym used to describe the three critical components of a date request’s call-to-action, including the time, the date, and the location of the date.
The “T” in TDL stands for the “Time” the date will take place. When asking for a date, you must give a woman the time you’d like to meet with her so that she knows whether she is available at that time or not. The “D” in TDL stands for the “Date.” When asking for a date, you must give a woman the date you’d like to meet her on so that she knows whether she is available on that date. The “L” in TDL stands for the “Location.” When asking for a date, you must give a woman the location you’d like to meet her at so that she knows whether or not she can meet you at that location.
A lot of times on dating apps (and life in general), women encounter men who ask them out with a simple, “Do you want to go on a date with me?” and no real plan to back up the question — they simply want a “yes” or “no” answer to the question. When you don’t use a TDL, you and the woman are often stuck in a back-and-forth conversation, trying to figure out the best place to go and a time to meet.
Often, this is why things fizzle out during the messaging phase of online dating before you’ve even had the opportunity to meet the person.
When you use a TDL, you stand out from other guys by showing that you know how to take initiative and are also showing chivalry by being considerate of her time. She doesn’t have to worry about coming up with any plans or engaging in a frustrating back-and-forth with you on what time and place works for the both of you when it comes to the first date.
Using a TDL also coaxes you to craft a compelling date idea. Compelling dates are ones that speak to the woman’s interests and also offer her a brand new experience. I will get a little bit more into what makes a date compelling later in this article.
Speed dating is basically MegaDating put into practice at a single event. You get to meet a bunch of different women at the same time and you know that they’re all there with the intention of getting to know someone.
A simple Google search can tell you where and when speed dating events are happening near you. Websites like Eventbrite are also great for finding these events, as well as other cool things near you that you can use for date ideas.
This website and app is another great place to get yourself out there meeting new people. There are plenty of speed dating events on here as well, along with a variety of singles events.
Meetup can also help you connect with people that have similar interests as you, being that there are Meetup groups for everything under the sun. Whether you’re a yogi, a self-proclaimed Harry Potter nerd, or a whiskey aficionado, you can find something that caters to your passions.
Get Set Up by Friends
If you have a trusted friend who you think or know is a good matchmaker, mention that you are single and putting yourself out there a lot as of late in the dating world. Friends know you and can be great judges of character when it comes to pairing you up with a potential partner.
Join an Adult Sports League
If you’re the athletic or sporty type, joining an adult sports league is a great way to get some exercise and also meet some potential matches.
Being in an adult sports league also helps you avoid lulls in conversation by engaging in activity and can help to make getting to know someone come more organically.
Strategy #2: Use These Rules for the First Three Dates
You may be wondering how MegaDating for a guy is possible to do without breaking the bank (and, yes, you need to pay for the first three dates if you have any hopes of propelling the relationship forward). The thing is, you don’t have to worry about going overboard financially when it comes to the first couple dates — in fact, I highly recommend against it.
When it comes to MegaDating, the following rules apply for the first three dates:
- The first date should be something that takes place during the daytime (Saturdays between 11 am and 2 pm are best, followed by Wednesdays or Thursdays), close to where she lives and should cost between $10 and $15 — no more than that! The date should take no longer than an hour. The purpose of the first date is to build trust and rapport.
- The second date should be something active and free. The intention of this date is to escalate sexual tension.
- The third date is when you can pull out all the stops with a fancy dinner. This date is where you can figure out if you and the woman you’re seeing are a good fit based on morals and values, which will indicate whether or not you have the potential for a long-term relationship. This date is often when physical intimacy occurs.
Keeping the first couple date limited to an hour is a great strategy when it comes to figuring out how to make her miss you. You don’t want to spend four hours with a girl because you don’t really know her that well. Using this 1 hour strategy helps you build the anticipation for date #2.
Financially speaking, even if you’re going on dates with four different girls in one week, it doesn’t add up to much money, especially if some of these ends up being second dates.
Like I said, make sure that the first two dates are compelling by offering up new experiences to the girl based on her interests. For example, if she’s a big wine connoisseur, you could suggest something like this:
“Hey Tina, I know you said you’re a certified wino. There’s going to be a Grapetionary Wine Tasting event with 26 different samples from Europe. It’s at a winery you mentioned you haven’t been to before. Want to go with me this Saturday at 2 pm, date style?”
By offering her something that is new and speaks to her interest, she basically can’t say no.
Strategy #3: Don’t Have Sex Until the Third Date
This is one of the most important things when it comes to knowing how to make her miss you and then fall for you. MegaDating is not about being a player or sneaking around behind one girl’s back to date a bunch of other girls. MegaDating is about going out on dates with a variety of different women in order to perfect your dating strategy, avoid settling for the mediocre, and ultimately find the most compatible long term partner.
One thing about MegaDating that is key to making girls miss and then fall for you is reversing their expectations by holding off on sex until the third date. Women are used to men hoping for sex on a date, and first date sex is anything but uncommon.
However, you will escalate sexual tension by reversing her expectations when it comes to sex on the first or second date.
For example, if the woman you’re with says something like, “I bet you have no trouble getting women,” say something like, “I’m not like other guys. I’m social but I’m also selective.”
Or, if she asks you if you want to come inside after a date, you can say something like, “I’d like to, but I’m not like other guys. I need to get to know a woman well before I sleep with her. I’m looking for something real that will last.”
Doing this also signals to a woman that you are not into playing games and definitely won’t be chasing her.
Chasing a woman not only gives her the upper hand when it comes to dating, a woman that signals to you that she wants to be chased is a red flag. She could be manipulative, insecure or simply lack maturity in certain departments.
When you MegaDate, you avoid falling victim to this cat and mouse game, because you don’t have time to chase one person thanks to a full social calendar.
Strategy #4: Learn to Be OK with Rejection
Another way that MegaDating helps you build confidence and make women fall for you is by lessening the pain of rejection. Because you’re already hanging out with a few women at the same time, getting rejected by one isn’t such a big deal.
Moreover, you should never avoid asking a girl out because of a fear of rejection. Rejection is actually an important part of the dating process because it:
- Encourages growth and introspection
- Increases empathy
- Helps you perfect your strategy and use of TDL’s through practice
- Keeps you from ruminating over whether or not a girl likes you
Women love confidence and when you put yourself out there, handle rejection with calm composure, and show that you can roll with the punches, this increases your appeal.
Wrap Up: How to Make Her Miss You By MegaDating
If you want to learn more about MegaDating and start crushing your dating goals, head over to my calendar and book a new client 1-on-1 Skype session with me today. During our 50-minute session, we will discuss your dating roadblocks and come up with an individualized action plan to help you overcome those roadblocks. We’ll also determine if my 3 month coaching program could be a fit for you.
By coming up with a plan together, you can learn how to get more women to miss you and eventually fall for you with strategies that are specific to your personality, lifestyle and circumstances. This individualization is one of the greatest benefits of hiring a dating coach.