The holidays, including Valentine’s Day, have come to an end. If you’re closing out the “holiday single season” feeling unlucky in love, don’t fret. Instead, put romance at the top of your list of resolutions for the new year, and learn how to find the right relationship in 2019.
I’m Emyli, America’s Dating Coach for Men & co-founder of Emlovz.com. I know a lot about dating, and how to make the most of my clients’ search for the perfect relationship. Around this time of the year, a lot of guys are thinking about their love lives and how to make them better. The holiday season is also when single men tend to hear advice from just about everyone they know on how to find someone. Unfortunately, a lot of this advice can be misleading, annoying, and pretty disheartening for someone eager to find love.
In particular, there’s this widespread myth about relationships that says that love only comes when you’re not searching for it. In fact, you’ve probably gotten that advice from well-meaning friends and family in the past. “Once you stop looking for love, it will find you.” Women get the same advice all of the time.
In actuality, nothing could be further from the truth! Looking for love is one of the best things you can do to find the relationship you want. The trick is to be prepared, and to search smart. Whether you’re new to dating or have been looking for that special someone for a while now, read on to learn some helpful tips that will teach you how to find the right relationship in 2019.
Write Down The Top 5 Values Of Your Ideal Partner
One of the first things I do when working with a new client is find out what they want from a relationship. Most of the time, not even my client knows what they really want in a woman. And as I like to tell them, “you’re not likely to find gold if you don’t know what it looks like.”
When my clients are clueless about what they want, I like to take them on a trip down Memory Lane. By evaluating past relationships, we can analyze what was good about them and what wasn’t, what they loved about their partners and what they wished had been different.
I’ve found that this is the best way to get a clear picture in my client’s head about what they’re looking for in a relationship. That way, if something promising comes along, they’ll be more likely to recognize it. It also helps to recognize warning signs and red flags to avoid potential relationship disasters.
To create your own partner profile, write down five things you’re looking for in a perfect relationship. Obviously, she’s got to be very attractive to you, so that’s usually the first thing guys write down on the list. If you’re deeply religious and that’s important to you, write that down, too. If you couldn’t stand that your last girlfriend was happily unemployed, make sure to add something about her career goals and ambition. You get the idea.
If you’re struggling with this, don’t assume you’re just not picky. Everyone has standards, and it’s up to you to figure out what they are. If you want to learn how to find the right relationship in 2019, and not the wrong one, take a moment to really think about what you want.
Evaluate Your Overall Life Satisfaction
Before setting off to find someone that will make you happy, make sure you’re generally satisfied with your life. Ask yourself the following questions. Are you happy with what you do for a living? Are you happy with your friendships? Do you feel comfortable with your living situation? Are your family ties strong? Do you feel fulfilled financially? Is there something missing in your life besides the right partner?
The answers to these questions aren’t always the easiest to uncover. Sometimes we need help determining how we really feel inside, and what we can do to feel even better. If you need guidance on improving any area of your life, now’s the time to reach out to someone who can help.
In my personalized coaching programs, my clients and I always make sure to tackle this one first. After all, if you’re not happy, you’re not going to be able to make someone else happy, either. You’re also a lot less likely to find someone that’s right for you.
Many people think that the answer to their happiness lies in finding the right person to fall in love with. This is simply not true. We want to be the best person possible when we find love, so we can give everything we have to making it the perfect relationship without hangups.
Set aside love for a moment, and take some time to think about the ways you want to improve your life. You owe it to yourself to do anything it takes to find true happiness, which as we all know, comes from within. Work on being single and happy before looking for love, and you’ll be much more successful in everything that comes after that.
Work on Your Online Presence
In this day and age, if you’re not online, you’re practically non-existent. As daunting as that might sound to those that aren’t using social media, it’s the truth. Going online to find dates is the new normal, and it’s a pretty convenient tool to take advantage of.
Facebook isn’t a dating app, but it can work that way. A lot of relationships begin on Facebook nowadays (like mine:)). Facebook is a fantastic way to meet friends of friends that you might have a lot in common with. If you’re not really into Facebook, you might want to reconsider using it when learning how to find the right relationship in 2019. You might be surprised when a cousin’s friend from high school, who’s mutual friends with your co-worker’s neighbor, turns out to be the one.
If you’re on Facebook and also using dating apps, good for you! But it’s probably time to evaluate how your profiles are doing. Are you getting matched with lots of people? Is your inbox getting flooded with messages, or is it mostly empty? When was the last time you went on a date through a dating app? How many dates did you go on this year?
There are a lot of ways to improve your dating profiles. First things first, look at your profile picture. Is it recent? Does it make you look good? Is it blurry or too far away? Go ahead and update it for a fresh start in the new year.
In fact, it might be time to take down all your old pictures and put up new ones. Remember, your profile pictures are very likely the first thing she’s going to look at. You’ll also want to work on your description and update any personal information where necessary. You want all of the information on it to be current, up-to-date and relevant.
I know how intimidating online dating can be. A professional dating coach can help enhance your online presence and make sure you’re on the right dating apps. I love working with guys on their social media profiles, because they are so effective at getting results.
MegaDating: The Fastest Way to Find Love
One of the absolute quickest ways to learn how to find the right relationship in 2019 is through megadating. Megadating is my patented teaching concept of dating multiple women at the same time to diffuse your energy and increase your self-confidence. It’s a major proponent in helping men avoid the friendzone. Megadating also protects men from settling for mediocre. There are so many benefits to megadating that I recommend it to anyone who wants to get on the fast track to finding love.
I should know. In 2011/2012, I committed to going on 100 dates as part of a research project to find out all I could about dating. While megadating that year, I learned a lot about myself and about the dating game in general. In addition to gaining the research and the expertise I needed to start my business as a dating coach, I also wound up meeting my boyfriend of 6 years through the experiment. I highly recommend it to anyone wanting to do the same.
Megadating helps men in many ways. First, it practically eliminates first date anxiety. As a result of dating a variety of women so frequently, you naturally calibrate into a confident, comfortable and authentic man. On the flip side, going on a date once a quarter or so can leave you feeling awkward and nervous because you don’t have the calibration that comes from practice.
Megadating also protects you from settling for a mediocre relationship when you could have had an extraordinary one. So many of my clients are ready to jump into a relationship, regardless of whether or not that person is right for them. The problem with this thought process is that it often comes with negative long-term consequences, like divorce.
Megadating gives you a lot of options, so you can walk away from a bad date without feeling like you’re giving up your only chance to find love. It also helps you deal with the fear of rejection. You’re a lot less likely to feel bad about someone rejecting you today if you have another date planned for tomorrow night.
Set a specific number of dates that you want to go on in 2019. My number was 100. How many do you think it will take for you to find the one?
If you’re interested in megadating, it’s time to go for it! Take my 2019 dating challenge and get started on an unforgettable adventure that you won’t regret.
Evaluate Your Emotions
If you want to learn how to find the right relationship in 2019, concentrate on avoiding mistakes you’ve made in 2017. One of the most common mistakes men make is falling for the wrong woman. Don’t waste time on someone that isn’t worth your effort. Watch out for women who create a roller coaster feeling of emotions. These are the relationships that can be really damaging to your confidence and take a lot of time to move on from.
It’s pretty common, really. One-sided relationships are a clear sign of a disaster waiting to happen. You might feel downright euphoric when she smiles at you, and heartbroken when she takes three days to return a text.
Huge upswings and downswings of emotion are not sustainable. Look for a woman who makes you feel comfortable. If you describe her as someone you feel like you’ve known forever, you’re probably on the right track.
The same goes for women that don’t ignite that spark in you. If she’s not making you feel like you’re on top of the world when you’re with her, give it three dates to be certain, then move on once you’re sure.
How to Find the Right Relationship in 2019: Get Committed to Achieving Success!
How badly do you want to find the right relationship in 2019? Rank it for me. On a scale of 1 to 10, how badly do you want to improve your romantic life this year? If you scored my question a 10, it’s time for you to COMMIT and CHANGE!
When you commit to something and put everything you’ve got into achieving it, you’re likely to see it realized.
If you are motivated to find the right relationship in 2019 and want an expert who has completed a 100 Date Experiment and found my perfect partner while doing it–then hire me as your dating coach.
I meet clients via Skype and will work with you once a week to improve your dating outcomes. My personalized and private coaching programs are designed to build your confidence and enhance your social skills. I’ll help you to optimize your dating profile on dating apps and online dating sites. I can also help you to build your online dating profile from scratch if you’re not currently using any of the online dating tools.
I’ll take you from zero dates to having so many dates, you have to turn women down if they’re not a fit for you. If you’re already getting dates, I’ll help you select the right partner and successfully navigate from the first date to the second date and beyond.
If you are interested in working with me, sign up for a New Client Session today. This is a discounted introductory 50 minute Skype session where we go over your dating roadblocks, create an action plan, generate your short and long term dating goals, and discuss whether my 3 or 12 month coaching package would be right for you.
Since 2012, I’ve gone above and beyond to help all types of men find their ideal relationships once and for all. You deserve to find happiness and the RIGHT relationship in 2019, and I am ready to help you make it happen.