How to Write an Attractive Dating Profile
If you’re in the online dating world, you know that your dating profile (here’s an example of a great Bumble profile for you to learn from) is a chance to make an amazing (or not so amazing) first impression.
It can be hard to craft the perfect dating profile, as it can be hard to describe oneself in a way that convinces someone to swipe right on a stranger.
But have no fear, as an experienced dating coach, I have helped hundreds of people create dating profiles that truly represent themselves and have helped them meet the one via a screen introduction.
As more and more singles rely on dating apps to find love it’s important to learn the basics of what it takes to fill out a dating profile that works, grabs attention, and lands you on a real first date. In this article, I share some simple tips and tricks on how to create an attractive dating profile no matter which dating platform you find yourself drawn to.
Be Honest
The first thing you should focus on for any good dating profile is honesty. Avoid hyping yourself up to create the illusion of perfection. Honest and real responses are essential. No one likes a liar, and finding out someone lied on their dating profile is a major turn-off for most people. Being honest doesn’t mean telling your life story; it just means not embellishing too much. A dating profile is not the best place to try your favorite bar line because, trust me, no one is impressed when your story comes to light. Pro-tip: lying about your height or body type is one of the WORST lies you can tell.
A Word On Artificial Intelligence
If you’re struggling to put together a solid profile you may tempted to the AI side.
With just a few notes, AI can create a half-decent profile.
After giving Chat GPT a couple details about myself it created this profile:
“Hey there! I’m a globe-trotting, soccer-loving enthusiast who believes life is best enjoyed outdoors, preferably on a scenic hike where every step reveals a new wonder. Fluent in multiple languages, I’m not just about conquering physical landscapes but also bridging cultural ones, making connections that stretch across borders and into hearts.
I’m looking for someone who’s as comfortable kicking back with a casual game of soccer as they are setting off on an impromptu hiking adventure. A partner in crime who appreciates the art of chilling just as much as the thrill of exploring. Whether it’s swapping stories in a cozy cafe or planning our next escapade in a bustling market halfway around the world, the key ingredient is always good vibes and great company.”
It’s not bad at all, and it’s certainly better than writing nothing at all.
That being said, if you are going to use AI use it as a tool to bounce ideas off of rather than wholly rely on.
Use a line or two, make edits, and check to ensure that what you upload sounds like you.
Too many people are already using AI to write their dating profiles. As their profiles are not customized what happens is that many profiles end up sounding similar to one another.
Finding out someone used AI to alter their profile in any way is a turn-off.
That’s why it’s important not to copy and paste but rather to use AI as a tool rather than a ghostwriter.
Describe the Type of Relationship You Are Searching For
Everyone on dating sites have some idea of the kind of relationship they want: casual dating, hook ups, a long term relationship, or some mix of these.
If you know what you want, don’t be afraid to put it in your bio and save you and other people some time. Example: “I am interested in dating leading to a long term relationship, so I hope you’re ready to raise a dog with me.”
Using humor while describing your future relationship is attractive, so be creative! If you aren’t sure, just ask me. As an experienced online dating coach I’d be happy to help.
Mention Specific Interests.
Saying you love Netflix and Chipotle is not enough these days, as the majority of people on Tinder enjoy these as well.
Talk about your passion, your job, your all time favorite travel destinations, etc. Your quirkiest hobby could be someone’s obsessions – and there’s your perfect connection. Don’t be afraid to get specific with the things you truly care about, as passion is always attractive (even if it’s about something seemingly “uncool”).
Use Spell Check
No one wants to see horrific grammar and spelling in a dating profile, so double-check your spelling before publishing your bio. It might seem like a little thing, but it gives a better impression if you have proofread your dating profile. Your future significant other could be a self-proclaimed “grammar nazi,” in which case you’d better check your messages as well!
Keep Things Positive and Fresh
No one wants to read a downer dating profile, so stay away from negatives, rants, and verbal fits. Don’t mention your break up, your lost job, or anything too unsavory for a first casual meeting – because that’s what this is. OKCupid is not the place to air your dirty laundry – at least not until after quite a few dates down the road.
If You’re at a Loss for Words, Use a Quote
This might not be everyone’s cup of tea, but if you’re a bookworm or movie addict, a quote can look good on your dating profile. It doesn’t hurt if it’s a little romantic! However, if you do include a quote, make sure it is from a song/movie/book that you really love or that it accurately represents you.
Be Informative
Mentioning your height, if you have kids or pets, and other things in your life that will always be true is always good. This goes back to being honest – certain information should be given before you meet up with someone, and it’s up to you to decide what that specific information is (ie, no guys, you don’t need to list your weight unless you think that will somehow impact the relationship).
Leave Some Things to the Imagination
It’s great to be informative but we don’t need to know what you had for breakfast. If you’re on an app like Tinder or Bumble it can be better to stick to one paragraph of quality information. If you’re on a site like Match.com, OKCupid, or eHarmony, more information can be good, but be sure to save some saucy secrets for when you actually meet up.
Don’t List What You Don’t Like
Keep an open mind and stay away from excluding certain music, foods, hobbies, or personality traits on your profile. For example, stay away from the sentence, “swipe left if…” if the following sentence is surface level details or something that could be construed as negative. Unless you’re allergic to peanuts, don’t write “Don’t message me if you like peanuts” on your profile. Keep things general and positive.
Don’t Forget About Prompts
On apps like Hinge and Bumble you’ll have the chance to further fill up your profile and showcase your personality by filling out a prompt.
You’ll have dozens of prompts to choose from, such as the one below.
Pick a couple of prompts that you think you can answer best. Then jot down a few respones to each prompt and pick the winner. If you don’t know which one the opposite sex will like best, ask some friends.
Avoid Cliches
Everyone “loves guacamole” and “has a great sense of humor.” Of course it’s reasonable that you love to eat pizza and watch movies, but if you want to write that on your profile, mention the type of pizza and the movie title or genre. Don’t be another cliched dating profile.
End Your Profile With a Question or Call to Action
This is your chance to creatively grab the attention of a potential date. Naturally, we aren’t all marketing gurus, but be creative and think outside the box or ask an online dating coach. Whether it’s “Want to let me buy you a drink at your favorite bar in the city?” or “I don’t usually swipe right, ask me why I was intrigued by your profile, I’m happy to share,” this is your time to shine.
Dating Decoded
In the end, a dating profile is just meant to be an accurate and flattering introduction of yourself, so keep it sweet and simple (depending on what app you are using). If you use the above tips you are sure to have a dating profile that is ready to help you find dates, and hopefully, a beautiful and lasting relationship.
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