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12 Signs A Woman Is Attracted To You Sexually

12 Signs A Woman Is Attracted To You Sexually

Looking for signs a woman is attracted to you sexually? Let it be known that sexually aroused women are like third base coaches. 

Both have an arsenal of non-verbal signs that are meant specifically for you. These signs are dispatched in secretive ways so as not to upset those around. Signs are disguised to the point that only a well-trained eye will pick up on the nuances. 

If you’re a MegaDater, you’ve seen all these signs before. Unlike baseball teams, women use more or less the same signs. Simultaneously dating two or more women will sharpen your ability to discern meaning from these sexual signs. But non-verbal cues aren’t the only indication of arousal that she’s offering. 

In today’s dating landscape where texting is king, plenty of flirty communication takes place through screens. Messages, phone calls, pictures, and even emojis are all ways women communicate their sexual interest.

To woo a female nowadays you’ll have to decipher signs a woman is attracted to you sexually both in person and through devices. In this article, we’ll take a look at the most used signs a woman will use to convey her interest. 

In-Person Signs A Woman Is Attracted To You Sexually

1. She Continually Glances at Your Lips

Forget the eyes being the window to the soul. When you’re on a date, the eyes are the window to desire. Her eyes will reveal her cards. She’s not looking at your lips because she finds them boring, rather she looks at them because she can’t stop imagining herself kissing them

Our eyes gravitate to whatever interests us most. Whether the object of our desire is a phone, the TV, the woman with the killer smile, or your date’s lips. If you catch her resting her gaze on your lips that’s a pretty solid sign that a woman is attracted to you sexually. 

While on a date, her eyes will primarily be ensconced in yours. Don’t jump the gun and take this as a sign of sexual interest. This is simply respectful. However, if those eyes take a jaunt down south to your lips, chest, arms, or back, then her respectful gaze just became a more sexual one. 

2. She Wants to Sit Next to You

signs she wants you sexuallyWhen women are unsure of a man, we create barriers. We cross our arms, put our purses in the middle of the table, and distance ourselves when walking. But when we’re fond of a man, those borders are minimized.

The whole point of creating barriers is to guard ourselves against unwanted sexual advances. If we don’t want you touching our legs from under the table we simply won’t sit next to you (but if we sit next to you it’s doesn’t necessarily mean that we want to be touched). 

The removal of barriers is a sign that we’re now comfortable with you. We close the proximity gap in order to get within reach of your touch. But don’t put your hands down her pants just because she chose to sit next to you. Instead, test the waters by touching her in innocuous areas. Examine her hands, give her a friendly nudge with your elbow, and touch her upper back.

After touching her, wait for a response. If she gets even closer to you or initiates physical touch it means she enjoys your inquisitive touch and wants more.

Heat things up slowly and when in doubt keep your hands to yourself. Even if you’re sure that she’s into you, that doesn’t mean you should sustain physical touch for the rest of the night. Showering her with affection and then abruptly retracting it is an efficient way to increase sexual tension

3. She Can’t Subconsciously Stop Touching You

touches youSitting next to you is one thing, but breaking the invisible barrier by initiating touch is a clear indication that she’s into you, and most likely sexually attracted to you. The thing is, she may not even be aware that she’s doing it. Sometimes her subconscious urge to touch you will spring to the surface in the form of hand touching, leg touching, playful pushes, etc. 

Not everything we do on dates is calculated. The more comfortable she feels with you the more likely she is to let her subconscious urges take over. Don’t feel obliged to immediately reciprocate her physical touches. Guarding your affection will allow sexual tension to rise. Responding in an overly affectionate way might snap her out of her subconscious rhythm. 

The subconscious touch will most likely manifest itself in the form of a touch right after a joke is made. Place your hands within touching distance so she has an easy target to touch. If you’re seated across the table from each other, dangle them in front of her as your joke is being made. If she touches them after a joke, that’s a fairly obvious sign a woman is attracted to you sexually. 

4. She Wears a Sexy Fragrance

Careful with this one. In general, women will wear fragrances. This isn’t because they’re always on the prowl for a male suitor, more so it’s just because they like smelling good. 

To discern whether this is a sign or not we’ll have to think back to your previous dates. Do you recall her wearing a pungent perfume during your first or second dates? If after getting to know you better she now dolls herself up, it means that she’s making a concerted effort to win your attraction. Though keep in mind that context is always important. 

Let’s say that the first two dates were in no way romantic. The first was a coffee date at a bohemian coffee joint and the second was an outing to a county fair. Ask your typical female and she might tell you that the settings of the first two dates don’t warrant the application of a pungent fragrance.

The third date, at a ritzy Italian restaurant, does, however, warrant such an application. Regardless of the context, she’s still making an effort to capture your attention. 

5. She Smiles ALOT

signs a woman is attracted to you sexuallyI don’t need to link to an article on human evolution to demonstrate the importance of smiling. Smiling is a universal exercise that humans carry out whenever they’re pleased. The better a time we’re having the bigger our smiles become. Though just because she’s giving her cheek muscles a workout doesn’t necessarily mean she’s turned on. 

Having your date signal one of the aforementioned non-verbal signs shouldn’t be taken as a go-ahead to engage in increased flirting. Only once she’s conveyed various signs should you escalate sexual tension. Only heat things up once you’re certain of reciprocation. Heating things up before she’s been warmed up could backfire and leave you burnt. 

6. Watch Her Subtle Hints

signs she wants you sexuallyThe signs a woman is attracted to you sexually won’t be obvious. Why would they be? 

Not every sign is meant to be read. If she’s uncertain about how you feel about her, she’s won’t jump you in the bathroom and try to rip off her clothes. To avoid rejection she’ll feed you signs the size of bread crumbs in the hope that you might pick up the trail.

Revealing her feelings by trying to kiss you or asking you to come back to her place could make the date awkward if those desires aren’t reciprocated. Keep your eyes peeled and on the lookout for signs of subtlety. 

Here’s a list of extremely subtle signs that she’s attracted to you sexually: 

  • She touches the ends of her hair
  • Steals a glance at you when she thinks you’re not looking
  • She keeps touching her neck
  • Constant adjusting of her breasts
  • Giggles at all of your jokes
  • She lets a body part lean against yours
  • Mirroring
  • Keeps licking her lips

7. She Teases/Plays With You ALOT

And no I’m not literally referring to playing FIFA on PS5, that’s just the only free stock image I could find of a male and female playing.

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What I’m actually referring to is a flirting style you probably are more than familiar with.

Remember when you were a kid and didn’t exactly know how to flirt with a girl you like. Like when you were 8 and kept poking the girl you liked in Math class. You didn’t know how to flirt and that was an excuse to touch her so you did it. This is the flirting style I’m referring to, just not as much poking.

She may tease you, gently punch you, bump you with her butt, race you, challenge you to billiards, etc.

If she’s being playful it means she’s into it. Having a woman act like an uninhibited carefree person around you is a good thing.

Use this playful nature to heat things up. Make playful physical contact and joke around as you turn the heat up. But don’t give in to her every whim.

A little push and pull will suit you just fine.

Signs She is Attracted to You Sexually While Not in Person

Your pre-date foreplay sets the tone for the date. When body language can’t be used to signal sexual interest you must gauge her level of attraction through her texts.

The issue when deciphering text messages is that men often spend an excess of time trying to read between the lines. There’s only so much you can glean from a text message. Not to mention that how she feels when she wrote the message and how she feels two days later when you’re on a date can change drastically.

Pay closer attention to her signs IRL than texts. That being said, there are a few texts that have an easily decipherable meaning. 

1. She Texts You Her Wardrobe Options for Your Upcoming Date

If this were any normal date she’d pick an outfit without your input. She knows how to dress herself. She’s inviting you into her room via text because she’s antsy about the date. Whether she knows it or not she’s showing your her hand. She’s allowing you to take control of her style for the night because she yearns for your affection. 

The content of these photos says a lot. Is she showing skin and turning this text convo into a photoshoot? The more skin she shows the more eager she is to get into your pants. But even sending a single photo of her getting ready for the date can be interpreted as a signal of her sexual interest in you. 

There are few clearer signs that a girl is sexually attracted to you.

2. She Sends You a Sexy Video or Picture

signs she wants you sexuallyAs I said, you should only get excited about explicitly sexual texts. There’s no point in driving yourself crazy as you try to read into text messages. A sexy photo or video, however, doesn’t need to be read into. This is the not IRL equivalent of having her hold your hand or touching your thigh under the table. It’s a clear indication that she’s got the hots for you. 

The real question is how to handle this. Don’t send a photo or video back unless she requests it. Play it cool while keeping it flirty. You wouldn’t want to go cold on her or make her feel weird for putting herself out there. Responding in a less than enthusiastic manner to such a message could result in her shying away.  

3. She Hints You Should Setup the Date Near Your Home

What kind of hint is she dropping? If she makes it clear that she wants to go to your house from the date spot, it’s on. But even if she drops a subtle hint that she wants to go somewhere near you home, you’ve got to ask yourself why. In all likelihood, even if she doesn’t say it outright, she wants to get a nightcap at your place.

Just make sure you’re smooth when inviting her back to your place

4. She Keeps Coming Up with Reasons to Text You

signs she wants youEverything reminds her of you. She said it herself. She sends you a song because she thinks you’ll like it, she checked out that new series on Netflix and now wants to chat about it, she even sent you a photo of her food because she recalled that you too were a fan of Indian food. Does she keep prodding you without having been provoked? She clearly doesn’t need to be sending you these messages but she feels compelled to. 

While this isn’t a sign that a woman is attracted to you sexually, it’s a clear indication that you occupy more space in her mind than she wants you to. Now it’s time to reciprocate with some signs of attraction of your own. 

5. She Floats Plans

Few women have the ovaries to take charge and explicitly ask a guy out.

Instead, we’ll float suggestions.

We’ll say things like…

You’d love this new movie, I still need to see it.

Oh my god, I love Mexican food too, I’m always down for mole.

I have to bring you to this new coffee shop. 

Now, none of these plans scream, she wants to strip you down and jump you.

But they don’t have to.

She understands your relationship is of the romantic nature. You two aren’t friends. If she’s asking you out even subtly, it’s a sign a woman is sexually attracted to you.

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