Do you want to know how to tell if she has a boyfriend?

Is it hard to pick out the single woman from a group of girls at a bar or club?

It’s a bad idea to try to take another man’s girl but if there’s no man in sight, how can you tell if she has a boyfriend? Don’t worry–I can help. Once you know the specific body language cues to look for, you’ll realize just how easy it is.

How To Tell If She Has A Boyfriend

I get it.

You see a beautiful woman from across the room and want to make a move. Look, even if she has a boyfriend you can still go over and talk to her. There’s no crime against talking, just maybe don’t use one of your notorious pick-up lines.

But before going in to talk to her, keep an eye out for these clues.

Does She Prolong Eye Contact?

Gauge what her eyes are doing. Is she looking around the room checking out single guys or is she absorbed in conversation with friends, oblivious to her surroundings? Single women look up when men walk by them and they prolong their eye contact.

Women in relationships tend to look down and naturally avoid eye contact because their intention is not to meet single guys. They are focused on where they are headed and what they are doing. If she has a boyfriend, she may look up for a moment but her eyes won’t linger.

In contrast, single women are more present in their environments. They look up and make an effort to connect. These ladies are looking for more human interaction with men than women with boyfriends are. It’s clearly demonstrated in their body language.

If you think she likes you but has a boyfriend, I recommend making eye contact with her. When you do, pay attention to her reaction. Does she look up and hold your gaze for more than a couple of seconds? If so, this is a strong indicator of interest and she wants you to approach.

Is She Speaking Loudly?

You can often tell if a woman has a boyfriend based on the volume of her voice. Single women tend to want more attention than women in relationships. Women who want men to notice them talk louder and use bigger hand gestures than women who are taken.

If she’s talking loudly, making eye contact with those around her, and inviting attention she may just want it.

Does she want it from you?

Read on to find out.

Is She Wearing Heels?

When I was single, I wore heels everywhere I went.

I loved looking feminine and well put-together.

Now that I’m in a relationship, however, I never wear them. The reality is that they’re super uncomfortable and a huge commitment. When a woman stops looking for the attention of single men, she stops wearing heels. They only come out for special occasions. If you see a woman wearing heels on a Tuesday night and they’re clearly not work shoes, you can pretty much guarantee she’s single.

Time to mingle!

Does She Look At Other Men?

A woman’s behavior can tell you a lot about whether or not she has a boyfriend.

If she’s glued to her phone, oblivious to the world, you can safely assume that she isn’t single.

Alternatively, if you notice her casually trying to get closer in proximity to single men, subtly glancing at the guys behind her in the line at Starbucks, or just looking at a couple of men across the street, she probably does not have a boyfriend.

Find her gaze and you’ll find where her attention lies.

Try meeting her eyes from across the room. Perhaps it’s not a 100% guarantee she’s into you but at least she knows you’re there. Now it’s time to make an approach. 

Is She Wearing A Lot Of Makeup?

Single women work harder to look good because they want male attention.

Women who wear makeup at places like the gym–where most women don’t wear makeup–are doing so because they want men to approach them. When you notice that a girl is wearing a lot of makeup in places where it seems out of place, she probably doesn’t have a boyfriend and wants you to approach her.

Is Her Hair Up Or Down?

Single women take a lot of time to get ready. Hair is often the part of their routine that takes the longest.

That means, it’s also the first place women cut back on when they’re in a relationship. It’s a million times easier to throw your hair into a ponytail but it’s also less sexy. If a woman’s hair is down and curly or glossy, it took her a long time and she did it for a reason. If her hair is in a ponytail, it’s a big tell that she’s probably in a relationship.

Does She Give You Hints?

Strike up a meaningful conversation and listen closely for cues. Women who have boyfriends tend to mention it early on in the conversation, especially when they are talking with men they’ve just met. Many women make blatant statements like “my boyfriend and I” or “Keith and I” to demonstrate that they are taken. Listen for more subtle indicators like “we did this last weekend” or “we have to do that tomorrow.”

You may also hear a friend talk about her boyfriend in front of you. This is a warning sign. What she’s really saying is, don’t waste your time with her OR back the F off. 

Talk To Her Friends

Another option is to speak to one of her friends before approaching her. Be polite and respectful.

Make sure she knows that you don’t just want to take her friend home for a one-nighter. And don’t forget to small talk a bit before you ask if her friend has a boyfriend.

Once her friend decides whether you could make the cut, she’ll tell you if her friend is single. But if she has a boyfriend, you can be sure that the girl’s friend is still gonna report back. So prepare for some curious glances.

She’s With Men And Women But Isn’t Standing Next To Or Touching Another Guy

If she’s out with the gals in a bar late at night all alone chances are she’s single.

All her single girlfriends no doubt said, hey, let’s go out tonight, dress to the nines and get out flirt on. 

But what if she’s with guys and gals?

Have a look around. Is she ever touching or standing next to a guy? If she’s not chances are she isn’t with any one of them. And hey, while one of the guys may be into her, he’s not making it clear. Swoop in before he makes his move.

Don’t Forget To Look At Her Ring Finger

It doesn’t get more obvious than a ring on the purest finger of them all.

Make sure to peek a look before talking to her.

What Does The Place Tell You?

If she’s at a club all alone she’s likely single. 

If she’s at a cafe all alone with earplugs in chances are she’s listening to True Crime and could care less about talking to any humans regardless of her relationship status.

Some bars have reputations and some have events that indicate her relationship status.

If she’s out on a ladies’ night all alone, she’s single, but that’s an easy one.

If it’s past 11 and she’s alone, chances are she’s single.

But really the only way to know is to make your move and talk to her.

She Has A Boyfriend… Do I Still Make A Move?

Over our 10+ years of coaching we’ve had more than a couple of guys come to us asking what to do when the woman they’re into has a boyfriend.

And time after time we have to let them down easy.

Is there a chance you two will have a Jim and Pam romance, sure, but will you, no.

But hey even if you will, did Jim wait around for Pam? Nope, he dated around.

Trying to flirt with her after she tells you she has a boyfriend is rude, creepy, and desperate. It’s a lose-lose situation. If you annoy her you’ll mess up her night and forever be known around that bar and town as that creepy guy that flirts with women with boyfriends.

But even if you’re not in a bar situation you still don’t want to wait around.

She sees it as creepy and desperate. And while women demand many traits in their partners today, creepy and desperate are not two of them.

So what should you do?

MegaDate

If you’re hung up on a woman that has a boyfriend, it’s time you stopped being held back by emotional oneitis. This is when you can’t let go of feelings for a female.

Guys struggle to let go when they lack options. They put all their eggs into one basket and when you find out that basket’s already been taken by some hunk name Brody you’re screwed AND out of eggs which are like really expensive nowadays.

That’s why you should MegaDate.

MegaDating is simply dating prolifically. It means going out with various women simultaneously. What that looks like is getting drinks with Sally on Tuesday, seeing that indie film with Elizabeth on Friday, and riding bikes with Sam on Sunday.

It means getting to know a bunch of women so you can quickly find a compatible woman for you and not get hung up on any one woman should things not work out.

Gain Some Insight

Don’t be easily dissuaded from putting yourself out there- it takes a lot of confidence. Not every girl will want to talk to you. Just like you have different tastes and preferences, so do they!

If you want to gain insight into better ways to approach women, feel free to contact me! You can book a session with me where we’ll learn more about each other and I’ll show you how my program, Dating Decoded will teach you what you need to know to meet that special person.

In our program you’ll learn everything there is to know about dating via our four learning pathways: online community, online curriculum, mock dates, and live weekly sessions. 

To learn more about how the dating lives of our students have changed for the better, hear what they have to say here.