How To Tell If She Has A Boyfriend

how to tell if she has a boyfriend

Do you want to know how to tell if she has a boyfriend?

Is it hard to pick out the single woman from a group of girls at a bar or club?

It’s a bad idea to try to take another man’s girl but if there’s no man in sight, how can you tell if she has a boyfriend? Don’t worry–I can help. Once you know the specific body language cues to look for, you’ll realize just how easy it is.

How To Tell If She Has A Boyfriend

I get it.

You see a beautiful woman from across the room and want to make a move. Look, even if she has a boyfriend you can still go over and talk to her. There’s no crime against talking, just maybe don’t use one of your notorious pick-up lines.

But before going in to talk to her, keep an eye out for these clues.

Does She Prolong Eye Contact?

Gauge what her eyes are doing. Is she looking around the room checking out single guys or is she absorbed in conversation with friends, oblivious to her surroundings? Single women look up when men walk by them and they prolong their eye contact.

Women in relationships tend to look down and naturally avoid eye contact because their intention is not to meet single guys. They are focused on where they are headed and what they are doing. If she has a boyfriend, she may look up for a moment but her eyes won’t linger.

In contrast, single women are more present in their environments. They look up and make an effort to connect. These ladies are looking for more human interaction with men than women with boyfriends are. It’s clearly demonstrated in their body language.

If you think she likes you but has a boyfriend, I recommend making eye contact with her. When you do, pay attention to her reaction. Does she look up and hold your gaze for more than a couple of seconds? If so, this is a strong indicator of interest and she wants you to approach.

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Is She Speaking Loudly?

You can often tell if a woman has a boyfriend based on the volume of her voice. Single women tend to want more attention than women in relationships. Women who want men to notice them talk louder and use bigger hand gestures than women who are taken.

If she’s talking loudly, making eye contact with those around her, and inviting attention she may just want it.

Does she want it from you?

Read on to find out.

Is She Wearing Heels?

When I was single, I wore heels everywhere I went.

I loved looking feminine and well put-together.

Now that I’m in a relationship, however, I never wear them. The reality is that they’re super uncomfortable and a huge commitment. When a woman stops looking for the attention of single men, she stops wearing heels. They only come out for special occasions. If you see a woman wearing heels on a Tuesday night and they’re clearly not work shoes, you can pretty much guarantee she’s single.

Time to mingle!

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Does She Look At Other Men?

A woman’s behavior can tell you a lot about whether or not she has a boyfriend.

If she’s glued to her phone, oblivious to the world, you can safely assume that she isn’t single.

Alternatively, if you notice her casually trying to get closer in proximity to single men, subtly glancing at the guys behind her in the line at Starbucks, or just looking at a couple of men across the street, she probably does not have a boyfriend.

Find her gaze and you’ll find where her attention lies.

Try meeting her eyes from across the room. Perhaps it’s not a 100% guarantee she’s into you but at least she knows you’re there. Now it’s time to make an approach. 

Is She Wearing A Lot Of Makeup?

Single women work harder to look good because they want male attention.

Women who wear makeup at places like the gym–where most women don’t wear makeup–are doing so because they want men to approach them. When you notice that a girl is wearing a lot of makeup in places where it seems out of place, she probably doesn’t have a boyfriend and wants you to approach her.

Is Her Hair Up Or Down?

Single women take a lot of time to get ready. Hair is often the part of their routine that takes the longest.

That means, it’s also the first place women cut back on when they’re in a relationship. It’s a million times easier to throw your hair into a ponytail but it’s also less sexy. If a woman’s hair is down and curly or glossy, it took her a long time and she did it for a reason. If her hair is in a ponytail, it’s a big tell that she’s probably in a relationship.

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Does She Give You Hints?

Strike up a meaningful conversation and listen closely for cues. Women who have boyfriends tend to mention it early on in the conversation, especially when they are talking with men they’ve just met. Many women make blatant statements like “my boyfriend and I” or “Keith and I” to demonstrate that they are taken. Listen for more subtle indicators like “we did this last weekend” or “we have to do that tomorrow.”

You may also hear a friend talk about her boyfriend in front of you. This is a warning sign. What she’s really saying is, don’t waste your time with her OR back the F off. 

Talk To Her Friends

Another option is to speak to one of her friends before approaching her. Be polite and respectful.

Make sure she knows that you don’t just want to take her friend home for a one-nighter. And don’t forget to small talk a bit before you ask if her friend has a boyfriend.

Once her friend decides whether you could make the cut, she’ll tell you if her friend is single. But if she has a boyfriend, you can be sure that the girl’s friend is still gonna report back. So prepare for some curious glances.

She’s With Men And Women But Isn’t Standing Next To Or Touching Another Guy

If she’s out with the gals in a bar late at night all alone chances are she’s single.

All her single girlfriends no doubt said, hey, let’s go out tonight, dress to the nines and get out flirt on. 

But what if she’s with guys and gals?

Have a look around. Is she ever touching or standing next to a guy? If she’s not chances are she isn’t with any one of them. And hey, while one of the guys may be into her, he’s not making it clear. Swoop in before he makes his move.

Don’t Forget To Look At Her Ring Finger

It doesn’t get more obvious than a ring on the purest finger of them all.

Make sure to peek a look before talking to her.

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What Does The Place Tell You?

If she’s at a club all alone she’s likely single. 

If she’s at a cafe all alone with earplugs in chances are she’s listening to True Crime and could care less about talking to any humans regardless of her relationship status.

Some bars have reputations and some have events that indicate her relationship status.

If she’s out on a ladies’ night all alone, she’s single, but that’s an easy one.

If it’s past 11 and she’s alone, chances are she’s single.

But really the only way to know is to make your move and talk to her.

She Has A Boyfriend… Do I Still Make A Move?

Over our 10+ years of coaching we’ve had more than a couple of guys come to us asking what to do when the woman they’re into has a boyfriend.

And time after time we have to let them down easy.

Is there a chance you two will have a Jim and Pam romance, sure, but will you, no.

But hey even if you will, did Jim wait around for Pam? Nope, he dated around.

Trying to flirt with her after she tells you she has a boyfriend is rude, creepy, and desperate. It’s a lose-lose situation. If you annoy her you’ll mess up her night and forever be known around that bar and town as that creepy guy that flirts with women with boyfriends.

But even if you’re not in a bar situation you still don’t want to wait around.

She sees it as creepy and desperate. And while women demand many traits in their partners today, creepy and desperate are not two of them.

So what should you do?

MegaDate

If you’re hung up on a woman that has a boyfriend, it’s time you stopped being held back by emotional oneitis. This is when you can’t let go of feelings for a female.

Guys struggle to let go when they lack options. They put all their eggs into one basket and when you find out that basket’s already been taken by some hunk name Brody you’re screwed AND out of eggs which are like really expensive nowadays.

That’s why you should MegaDate.

MegaDating is simply dating prolifically. It means going out with various women simultaneously. What that looks like is getting drinks with Sally on Tuesday, seeing that indie film with Elizabeth on Friday, and riding bikes with Sam on Sunday.

It means getting to know a bunch of women so you can quickly find a compatible woman for you and not get hung up on any one woman should things not work out.

Gain Some Insight

Don’t be easily dissuaded from putting yourself out there- it takes a lot of confidence. Not every girl will want to talk to you. Just like you have different tastes and preferences, so do they!

If you want to gain insight into better ways to approach women, feel free to contact me! You can book a session with me where we’ll learn more about each other and I’ll show you how my program, Dating Decoded will teach you what you need to know to meet that special person.

In our program you’ll learn everything there is to know about dating via our four learning pathways: online community, online curriculum, mock dates, and live weekly sessions. 

To learn more about how the dating lives of our students have changed for the better, hear what they have to say here.

33 Austin Date Ideas That’ll Build Chemistry and Get You Moving

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As an Austin Professional Matchmaker and founder of Something More, I have set up over 3000 dates over the past 9 years. My experience has shown that the typical dinner date doesn’t go over well with the relaxed and quirky vibe Austin is known for.

Therefore I am constantly searching for unique Austin date ideas that will create romance and help you get to know someone in another light besides just candlelight! Doing an activity on a date is a great way to ease the pressure, and it lets someone see a cool, fun side of you that may not come across in a stuffy restaurant.

Plus, if you’ve been together for a while, trying something new could reignite those flames. According to numerous scientific studies, novel experiences can flood the brain with dopamine and norepinephrine, the same chemicals that are released when you first fall in love.

A lot of my recommended date ideas in Austin are based around physical activities. People here don’t let 100 degree summer days stop them from taking a run or going on a long bike ride. In fact, besides being the musical capital of the world, Austin is known for being a super fit city. Its not quite LA, but there’s a juice bar on every corner and every third person you meet is a yoga, Barre, or Soul Cycle instructor.

As further evidence of Austinites commitment to physical fitness, Austin is constantly ranked as one of the most bike friendly cities. In addition Austin boasts a massive parks system, which spans more than 29,000 acres. With a never-ending list of things to do, a booming job market, and some of the friendliest people in the country, it’s no surprise that 100 people move to Austin every day.

So let us examine the top date ideas in Austin. But before that, don’t forget, if you need support during your dating journey, emlovz and I are here to help!

emlovz has been ranked as one of the best dating coaches in Austin. And they have a pretty awesome matchmaking service too!

Best Date Ideas in Austin

1. Score a Hole In One

Get silly on a date with mini-golf, the king of non-sports. Relax, have fun, hit a ball through a windmill, and have some laughs. Enjoy drinks and upscale golfing in your own private bay at Top Golf Austin, or go for a nostalgic experience at Peter Pan Mini-Golf.

The Sky’s The Limit

Sometimes you just need to get above it all, and what better way to do so than with a romantic helicopter tour of downtown Austin? There’s a reason people on dating shows are always being shoved into helicopters together; the sweeping views of sunset and skyline, combined with the thrill of being reminded of your own mortality, really gets the heart pumping.

3. Death Becomes Her

One of Austin’s most unique tour experiences, Haunted ATX offers Austin’s only mobile Haunted tour. Travel in an authentic Cadillac hearse that has been converted into a spooky limousine and explore downtown Austin’s landmarks as you learn the real history of the destinations and the murder mysteries behind Austin’s ghost stories. What better reason to hold her hand than when she gets spooked by the scary sounds and sights! Learn more about Haunted ATX here.

4. Take a Hike

Covert Park at Mt Bonnell is known as one of the most romantic places in Austin as evidenced by the number of wedding proposals that happen here every year.   Start off by climbing the 100 steps until you reach the top of the mountain. It may be steep, but the views are so worth it. These views have attracted tourists since the 1850s, and it’s easy to see why. Spend an afternoon at one of the nearby picnic tables and enjoy your lunch amongst your beautiful surroundings.

5. Don’t Panic

Want to see how your date deals with problems on the very first date? Try an escape room, an enclosed space where you and your partner have to escape within the hour. During the challenge, you’ll have to solve puzzles and unlock clues to break free. What’s more, you’ll be too busy navigating through the activity to worry about first-date jitters. Austin Escape Room

6. Make His Heart Race

Here’s an example of one of the most exhilarating Austin date ideas. Austin is home of the only Formula One track in America so naturally a racing date is a must Just like mini golf and bowling, go-kart racing is a light activity that’s bound to be enjoyable for you and your date. Plus, you can always introduce a little incentive into the race — for example, something like “Whoever wins gets to pick our next date activity. K1Speed is definitely one of the most exhilarating Austin date ideas in town.

7. Trivial Pursuit

This is probably best suited for a third date, when you’ve come to terms with introducing your weird friends to your date. Geeks Who Drink are all over town, all week; find a spot near you and seal the deal with your team’s vast knowledge of fictional planets. Shout-out to Qo’noS!

8. Get Starry Eyed

We all know the stars at night are big and bright, deep in the heart of Texas. This state has some seriously dark skies and very few activities are more romantic than finding a quiet, starry spot, laying out a blanket, and admiring the night sky with your beloved. If you’re willing to put your phones away and focus just on each other, you might even have one of the best talks you’ve ever had in your relationship. Get ideas on where to find the perfect spot check here:  Comprehensive guide to Austin area stargazing.

9. Skate on a Date?

You might fall, you might be off balance, and you might look a little silly. But you know what? That’s endearing. Be willing to fall, since then your date has to help you up. How else would you get to hold hands so quickly? Roller skaters—if your date is game, dress up 70s style. Playland Skate has adult night every Tuesday.

10. Paddles Up

Town Lake is one of the best day date ideas Austin has to offer. It offers activities that run across the romantic spectrum. Just getting to know someone? Opt for your own stand up paddle boards. A few dates in, maybe try a kayak for two. And once you and your partner in dating crime have gotten to the place where it’s okay to be a little silly, grab a swan boat and peddle around the lake like the love birds you really are.

11. Got an Axe to Grind

Try axe throwing! This high-intensity sport has been gaining popularity over the last couple of years, loved for its quirky mix of danger and fun. With an open mind and the right chemistry, you can have a blast on your first date — and even blow off some steam if you’ve had a long, trying day. Urban Axes Austin

12. B-I-N-G-O

Channel your inner senior citizen with a rousing game of bingo at one of Austin’s bingo halls. There’s B-12 Bingo (South), Lucky Lady Bingo (Central) and Big Star Bingo (North) — just make sure you sit in the non-smoking room. BYOB is acceptable as long as it’s accompanied by good behavior.

13. A Bicycle Built for Two

Rent and ride a tandem bike together around Zilker Park. It scores highly on the dorky scale but these kinds of dates are always the easiest to laugh about. Have you ever seen two people trying to sync up getting onto a tandem bike? There is a 99% chance that it looked awkward. That’s why this is a great idea for a date. It’s slightly awkward at the beginning, filled with laughter and then ends with you syncing up perfectly. And in the end, isn’t that the way that every successful date goes? Barton Springs Bike Rentals

14. Be a Pinball Wizard

Pinballz is famous for its vast collection of classic pinball machines and new-school arcade games. Win game tickets and hook your date up with something from the prize shop. A spider ring? A handful of Tootsie Rolls? The sky’s the limit. Pro tip: you can BYOB; the catch is, they must be brought in one at a time.

15. I Love Rock n Roll

Just how much do you trust your significant other? You can find out easily by pursuing indoor or outdoor rock climbing together through one of Austin’s three amazing climbing gyms: North Austin Rock Gym (NARG), Crux Climbing Center, and Austin Bouldering Project (ABP). Climbing high while knowing that your love literally has your life in their hands will absolutely expose your current level of faith in them and build more of it when they keep you safe.

16. Come On, Let’s Twist Again

Bust out those dance moves you remember seeing in Hairspray (you can admit it). On the Second Sunday of every month, The White Horse hosts Second Sunday Sock Hop, where records are played and the dance floor becomes a time machine. Well, not an actual time machine. You get it. It starts at 9pm; dress for the occasion!

17. Who’s Line is it Anyway?

Nothing loosens up first date tension like a good laugh. So if you appreciate a great sense of humor, this idea will have you and your date in stitches! Going to a comedy show is a perfect way to break the ice and share a laugh with your new match.

If you want to take it a step further, improv games are hilarious and sometimes require audience participation. You and your new beau can show off your own set of skills. Austin’s beloved Hideout Theater has open jam sessions every Wednesday no experience necessary! And its FREE so you can spoil your date after the show with a nightcap toasting your amazing acting skills!”

18. Game, Set, Match

Spin is a ping pong enthusiast’s dream. There are 14 tables that come with bottomless ping pong baskets full of balls. While you are playing, sip on craft cocktails, and nibble on yummy appetizers like flatbread pizzas made to order. In the middle of Spin is the center court table, where the club’s professional players will take up shop for Friday night tournaments. Those pros will roam the club helping people with techniques and lessons.

19. Zippity Do Da

Did you know that Austin is home to the longest and fastest zipline in Texas? Stretching more than 2,800 feet long, their biggest line, the “Grand Finale,” starts 20 stories up and speeds patrons over a section of Lake Travis. And they even offer “Night Flights” during full moons — omg!  Lake Travis Zipline Adventures

20. Let’s Get Crafty

For those who like to drink and make things, Upstairs Circus will provide hours of fun in downtown Austin. The name refers to the brain, and the purpose of the shop is to inspire creativity while offering cocktails. The project options range from making bracelets to art to leather clutches, and project assistants are available to help. If space is available, guests are welcome to visit the bar (which has games and adult coloring books) without project reservations.

21. Strike a Pose

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Like dancing, yoga can be a great way to work up a sweat with your partner. There are many style of yoga to choose from depending on your level of experience. Ananda yoga — a calm style that focuses on controlled breathing, slow movements, and body alignment — to the physically demanding and strength-building Ashtanga and Bikram yoga styles. Empowered Yoga even has a date night class to learn how to do AcroYoga, a partner practice involving elevated and inverted poses in which the partners work in unison.

22. Take the Road Less Traveled

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Austin Detours has several types of tours sure to make for a fun date adventure to create memories with your special someone. They provide themed experiences that are the perfect combination of headline Austin and offbeat Austin. The guides are local artists, musicians, foodies, writers and actors who offer unique insights and facts to entertain and educate. They offer wine tours, live music tours, even pub crawls so there is something for everyone.

23. Go Green

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Get your Zen on within in the Austin city limits at the Zilker Botanical Garden. Across the 26 acres of greenery are plenty of private nooks to be alone with your love as you pass by streams, waterfalls, and ponds filled with Koi fish. There are multiple sections devoted to specific styles, like Rose, Herb, and Japanese, so the scenery never gets dull.

24. Hit the Courts

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Austin is home to over 100 public tennis courts. Tennis encourages interaction, communication, and is just plain fun. Make a good impression by nailing the details, including reserving a court ahead of time, bringing an extra bottled water (Voss if you’re classy), and splurging on a new can of tennis balls. Bonus: all girls look hot in a tennis skirt!

25. Go on a Hunt

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How well do you know your city? Why not turn Austin into a giant game board with this fun scavenger hunt adventure. Combine the excitement of the Amazing Race with a three-hour city tour. Guided from any smart phone, teams make their way among well-known and overlooked gems of the city, solving clues and completing challenges while learning local history. Afterwards, stop by Marker 10 Spirts and Cuisine for cocktails for served in a posh lounge featuring a patio with lake views at the Hyatt.

26. Join the Big Top

Have you always wanted to run away and join the circus? Well now you and your date can learn the ropes at Sky Candy by booking a private lesson in trapeze, rope, hammock, pole, handstands and more! Not sure what you want to try? Check out their drop in class. It’s a 75 minute class that lets you and your date try out all of the apparatuses to see which one you like best.

27. Look for Buried Treasure

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Geo-caching is an activity that’s like hiking plus surprise presents! It can be a lot of fun searching for the geocache together, and you might just visit some remarkable places neither of you has been before, People hide geocaches everywhere—from just down the street to the most remote wilderness areas. Check out the Texas State Parks website for ideas on where to go. Bring a picnic lunch to turn up the romance factor.

28. Have a Clay Date

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Remember the super steamy scene in the movie Ghost with Demi Moore? Who knew that working the pottery wheel together could be a great aphrodisiac! The perfect place to create your masterpiece in Austin is the Austin Potter studio. You can walk in at any time to paint any already-made, food and dishwasher-safe piece of pottery, or start from scratch and make your own unique creation at one of their workshops.

29. Cozy Up for a Movie on the Big Screen

Skip the mainstream blockbuster and opt for cult classics, limited-release films and artistic cinema when you visit one of the many specialty movie houses you can only find in Austin. AFS Cinema, Alamo Drafthouse, and Violet Crown are where you can find unique independent films that make for great conversation after the show. Plus they all offer gourmet food, bear and cocktails!

Why Not Heat Things Up if it’s a 3rd Date?

Cooking together is a great way to create chemistry and whet your appetite. As they say a way to a someone’s heart is through his stomach! Kitchen Underground offers a variety of classes from soul food to gourmet cuisine. Maybe it will lead to even more date nights in the kitchen!

31. Drive-In, Cuddle Up, and Get Nostalgic

There’s watching a movie, and then there’s driving up to an outdoor movie theater, snuggling in the backseat and geeking out on movies that you two watched in your childhood.

You can do it all at the Blue Starlight drive-in theaters sprinkled all over Austin.

The current schedule is showing The Notebook, Grease, Fast Times At Ridgemont High, and The Goonies among other classic films.

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32. The Password To Her Heart

Austin has dozen of secretive speakeasies strewn about town.

From the Midnight Cowboy to the Garage I guarantee there are plenty of clandestine bars that she’s not privy to. Show her a whole new side to Austin as you two cozy up in a low-key and chill speakeasy.

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33. An Afternoon Trip Out Of The City

We all need to get out of the city sometimes.

Once you have a solid rapport, get out of the city for an afternoon.

Escape to Lockhart – just 30 minutes away from Austin – and enjoy the best BBQ in the state, explore the antique stores, and visit a town landmark in the Bluebonnet Record shop.

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Austin Date Ideas: Wrap-up

So there you have it, some of the best Austin date ideas to help you reach your dating and interpersonal goals. Get out there, get moving, do something different, and, most of all, have fun! Get those endorphins flowing, get your adrenaline pumping, and show your date that you’re into more than just another cheese plate and bottle of wine.