Are you looking for some Tinder profile tips for guys? Or perhaps you’re trying to set yourself apart from the thousands of your male competitors on this oh so controversial dating app.
I hate to break it to you, but if you’re a man looking for women on Tinder, you’re at a disadvantage. According to statistics, women only swipe right 14% of the time when using the popular dating app. That’s three times less than men. Add to that the fact that women get messaged far more often than men, and you might feel royally screwed. But there are ways to make your Tinder profile stand out from the rest.
One of the biggest things to keep in mind is avoiding sleaze at all cost. During my 100-date experiment I analyzed thousands of online dating profiles. One big pitfall I noticed with guys is that they did things in their photos and taglines that came off as sleazy. Some of this skeeze was clearly intentional. But some of it wasn’t.
You can’t read a woman’s mind, which is why I’m here to help. Take a look at my Tinder profile tips for guys to go from sleazy to dreamy.
Tinder Profile Tips for Guys #1: Complete Your Profile
Yes, a completed Tinder profile matters to women. I don’t care if you constantly get compared to Chris Pratt and each of your photos show off a set of pearly whites worthy of a Crest Whitestrips® endorsement.
When your profile consists only of your name, age, and location, it looks sketchy. Us women need to keep our wits about us. While you think you’re being coy, we’re over wondering if you hide bodies for a living.
Tip #2: Don’t Talk About Sex in Your Bio
There’s a reason that so many people write “not here to hook up” in their Tinder profiles. Lots of guys are either blatant about wanting a hookup on Tinder or tread too far into an innuendo-laden territory.
Some guys think they’re being funny joking about sex in their Tinder profile, but it just comes off as sleazy.
If you want to be funny and a bit risque without creeping girls out, try a line like this one:
“I don’t send unsolicited dick pics. I do send unsolicited duck pics.”
Tip #3: Don’t Use Outdated Photos
Why is there a grainy picture in your profile from a time before smartphones and Instagram filters existed? Get rid of it.
Tip #4: Make Sure You Look Basically the Same in Your Pics
Don’t use a selection of pics where you have a completely different hairstyle, where there are major weight fluctuations or pictures from different decades.
It’s extremely disconcerting for a woman to have no idea what the guy will actually look like before she goes on a date with him. It also makes it look like you might be trying to catfish her.
Tip #5: Keep Your Shirt On
If you have a six-pack, you should be proud of that. But there is a time and place to show off a ladderlike abdomen. Your profile is not the time or place.
Remember that men are more visual than women. What a woman really wants to see in your photos is confidence, not how swoll you get at the gym.
Speaking of which…
Tip #6: Don’t Post Gym Selfies
You’re sitting on a weight bench. Sweat is dribbling down your biceps, giving you a glow similar to that of a Greek God.
Congratulations. We don’t want to see that.
Posting gym selfies can make it seem like you might be:
- Trying too hard
If you work out, she will be able to tell by your photos. She will notice this even though you have all of your clothes on.
On another note…
Tip #7: Don’t Post Bathroom Selfies
Even Jason Statham doesn’t look so great under fluorescent lighting. I don’t understand why taking a picture of yourself in harsh lighting only steps away from a urinal ever became a thing, but here we are.
No one knows how to comprehend your bathroom selfie. What about that room compelled you to take a picture? Why are you standing in front of a mirror while taking a picture in the bathroom so that we can all see the flash on your smartphone?
And why are you sporting a sad, vacant stare?
If this scenario sounds unfamiliar to you — congratulations, you’re already ahead of the curve.
Unfortunately, these types of photos populate a boatload of the Tinder profiles women encounter whilst swiping (LEFT). Make sure you’re not one of them.
Tip #7: Smile in Your Photos
Here’s one of the most important Tinder profile tips for guys who are taking dating serious.
It’s not just a cliche — smiling really is contagious.
According to a study published in Trends in Cognitive Sciences, we as people tend to mimic each other’s facial expressions in order to understand each other.
If you look upset in your Tinder profile, a woman is more likely to mimic that and feel that emotion herself.
However, if you are smiling in your Tinder profile, she is more likely to smile back. And smiling makes you feel awesome.
Research published in Psychological Science found that a smile — even when it’s forced — relieves stress and boosts mood.
When your smile causes a woman to smile back, she’s going to feel happier and will be more likely to swipe right. It’s as simple as that!
Tip #8: Practice Good Eye Contact
Make sure that you are practicing good eye contact in all of your photos. Eye contact is extremely important in real-life interactions and when it comes to making a good first impression online.
It shows that you are engaged, attentive and a good listener.
Tip #9: Dress to Impress
If you’re wearing dirty sweatpants, a torn shirt, or any other type of attire that makes you look unemployed/homeless/painfully divorced etc., women are guaranteed to swipe left on you. Sorry, not sorry.
Make sure that you are well-groomed and dressed to impress in all of your pictures.
Here’s an outfit that looks great on everyone:
- A fitted, long-sleeved Henley shirt
- Jeans or slacks that fit perfectly (my boyfriend loves Warp and Weft Jeans)
- A navy blue shoe — choose something from Converse, Dockers or All Star
Tip #10: Post Five to Six Photos
Nothing says “catfish” like one lonely photo on your Tinder profile. And posting only a couple can make you seem lazy.
Tinder allows you to post up to six photos on your profile. You can load these easily from your camera roll, Facebook or Instagram. Make sure you take advantage of posting multiple photos for the best matching results.
Tip #11: Make Your First Photo a Headshot
The first photo on your Tinder profile should be a close-cropped headshot.
Don’t forget to show off those pearly whites by smiling and practice good eye contact. You should have good lighting and the photo shouldn’t be blurry.
Tip #12: Make the Second Photo a Full-Body Shot
Show her what you’re working with!
In this shot, it’s especially important that you are wearing a great outfit.
Stand in a straight, open stance (don’t cross your arms) in order to exude confidence.
Tip #13: Make the Third Photo a Social Shot
A good social shot lets women know that you know how to have a good time and aren’t a loner.
Make sure that the social shot you choose (whether it be with friends, family or both) isn’t something you took during a wild night out, three tequila shots deep. To avoid looking sleazy, pick a shot that took place before pregaming started or when you were only on your first beer.
Tip #14: Make the Fourth Photo a Hobby Shot
Don’t be afraid to show off your unique passions and hobbies. When you use a hobby shot, you stand out from the crowd.
See this dating app profile example of a guy with a great hobby photo.
This photo can also help you attract women who share your interests. And, if you’ve been following my articles, you know that bonding over shared interests is one of the first steps in building trust and rapport in a relationship.
Tip #15: Pose with a Cute Animal in Your Fifth Photo
Do you know what the perfect remedy against sleazy Tinder profiles is?
If you guessed an adorable puppy, then you are correct.
Cute and cuddly animals make everything better.
If you don’t own a pet (or if the only pet you own is something like a tarantula or salamander…yikes), get permission from a friend to pose with theirs.
Tip #16: Don’t Lie on Your Profile
In the online dating world, it can be tempting to fudge numbers or omit the truth. When you’re worried that women will judge you, even the most honest of Abes will type full-blown lies into their Tinder profile.
The following are common things that people lie about when creating their Tinder profile:
- Marital status (i.e., that they are divorced)
- That they have kids
Here’s the thing…
Anyone can Google you.
And with social media, it’s easy to find out someone is lying even before meeting them.
She will automatically swipe left on you if you lie on your profile and she discovers it.
More importantly, it’s best to always be honest on online dating profiles (and in life, generally). Trust is the foundation of a healthy relationship. Don’t make her question you from the get.
Tip #17: Stay Upbeat
Don’t be negative in your Tinder bio. Nothing comes across as more unattractive (and even sleazy) when a guy bemoans his dating or life woes online.
Stay positive and upbeat in your Tinder bio.
Once You’ve Made a Match…
Now that you’re profile is sleaze-free, you’ll get more matches on Tinder. Women typically like it when men take initiative, so send a great opener to elicit a response. As research for my dating business, I created a Tinder account and discovered 45 Tinder opening lines for guys that work. Check them out!
Ask Her on a Date
A lot of guys make the mistake of going back and forth with a girl online until the conversation devolves into nothing.
A TDL is an acronym that stands for time, date and location.
For example, let’s say that the girl you matched with likes yoga and karaoke. You could send her a message like this:
“So, I know that you’re into yoga and probably have a pretty impressive set of pipes with all the karaoke-ing you do. I can’t promise that I’ll carry a tune as well as you, but I’m willing to try. How would you like to go on a date with me to this karaoke yoga event at Yoga Garden this Saturday at 1 pm?”
Lots of guys simply ask girls to “hang out” or “grab a drink.” By coming up with a date idea that appeals to her interests, you stand out from the competition.
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