If you’ve been thinking of giving up on dating, you’re not alone. When your experience in the romantic world elicits stress rather than excitement, it gets exhausting. Why continually put yourself out there when all of your efforts prove to be a dead end?
I get it. Years ago, I found myself single for the first time in quite a while. After going from a monogamous relationship to monogamous relationship, I had reached an impasse in my romantic life. Alone after putting so much effort into previous relationships, I wondered if I’d ever find love. In fact, I wondered if love even existed.
That’s when I embarked on my 100-date experiment. Using myself as the guinea pig, I went on 101 dates in a year. I learned about all the intricacies of the dating world, including what strategies work and which strategies are the reason you’re continually relegated to the friendzone. By the end of my experiment, I had an arsenal of dating knowledge, a newfound confidence, and I even met a long-term, compatible partner.
Most importantly, I learned that if you’re thinking of giving up on dating and relationships — don’t!
The dating world truly can be fun instead of frustrating. And more importantly, love truly exists for everyone — and you don’t have to be rich or ridiculously good-looking to find it.
Still not convinced? Check out 10 reasons that you shouldn’t give up on dating.
Reason #1: You’re Meeting Women in the Wrong Places
If you’re thinking of giving up on dating because you’re tired of the bar scene, guess what? It’s time to look someplace other than a bar.
Although bars can be a great way to get out and meet new people, you shouldn’t rely on the bar scene as your exclusive means of nabbing a date. Moreover, you shouldn’t rely on any single method when it comes to dating. To be successful in the dating world, variety is key.
If you’re only using dating sites and apps as your means of meeting women, this can lead to dating burnout. I personally think that online dating is a great way to find romantic success, but you definitely need to be looking beyond your smartphone and computer screen if you want to find love.
There are so many different ways to meet women, including:
- An improv comedy class: You can improve your social skills, increase self-esteem and have fun doing it!
- Meetup.com: This is a great place to find social groups comprised of people who share your interested. Building trust and rapport through shared interests is one of the first steps in building a relationship, so this is a great way to meet people you’re more likely to be compatible with.
- Events: Go out with friends to different outings. You can also find cool events near you via a simple Google search or on sites like Eventbrite.
- Friends: Ask your friends (rather, trusted friends who have good taste) to set you up with someone.
- Join a co-ed sports team
- Follow these strategies to make a love connection at the grocery store
Reason #2: Giving Up On Dating Means Giving Up On Fun
It’s a shame that so many people miss out on having fun when going out on dates. But the thing is, dating truly can be fun.
When you stop putting so much pressure on dating and look at it as an opportunity for new experiences, it stops being stressful and starts being fun. Look at each date as an adventure.
Reason #3: Dating Teaches You About Yourself
Dating forces us to be vulnerable. Although this is scary, actively putting yourself out there by going on dates forces you to grow. These experiences also allow you to learn about yourself. And the more you know about yourself, the more confident and authentic you will be in the dating world.
Reason #4: Going On Dates Helps You Understand What You Really Want
There is no such thing as failure when it comes to dating and relationships. One thing I have learned is that, even when a date is bad or a long-term relationship goes awry, the dissolution of these relationships is not synonymous with failure. In fact, so-called “failed” relationships are actually necessary when it comes to finding the perfect partner.
When something doesn’t work out romantically, the things that went wrong in that relationship provide us with information about what we want and don’t want in a relationship. As you date more and more, you also learn to be wary of red flags.
Basically, if you want to find success in any area of life, it’s important that you accumulate a lot of experience.
Reason #5: Dating Doesn’t Have to Be Expensive
If you’re thinking of giving up on dating because you feel like it’s putting a major dent in your bank account, it’s time to change your strategy.
You can actually go on tons of dates with different women each week without spending much at all! I discovered this during my 100-date experiment and developed a failproof dating blueprint for the first three dates.
Because you want to keep thing light during the first couple of dates, there’s no need to wine and dine. In fact, you shouldn’t go all out with a fancy intimate dinner until the third date.
Follow this blueprint to sweep tons of women off their feet while also keeping things frugal:
- First date: This date should be no longer than an hour and cost no more than $10. The purpose of the first date is to establish trust and rapport through shared interests.
- Second date: The second date should be something active and free. The purpose of the second date is to escalate sexual tension.
- Third date: This is the date where you can loosen the purse strings with a romantic dinner. The purpose of the second date is to figure out whether you and your date have long-term potential based on morals and values. Intimacy often occurs for the first time during this date.
Reason #6: Facing Your Fears Builds Character
No matter who you are, dating can be scary. But facing your fears builds character. A lot of people hold themselves back over a fear of rejection or things going wrong in a relationship.
But remember, all of these experiences help you grow and build confidence, which will ultimately lead you to lasting love.
Reason #7: You’re Cheating Yourself Out of Something Great
If you’re thinking of giving up on dating forever, you’re cheating yourself out of something great. Trust me when I say that love truly does exist for everyone. There are tons of amazing singles out there that are perfect for you.
The thing is, if you give up on dating, you’re never going to meet them.
Reason #8: It’s Ok if it Doesn’t Work Out
A lot of people get hung up on the idea of “the one” or a “soulmate.” You’re worried that you won’t find the right person for you, which makes the very prospect of dating a panic-inducing experience.
Or maybe you dated someone you were sure was your soulmate, only to have your heart broken. Now you’re afraid of putting yourself out there and getting your heart broken again.
However, when you put this type of pressure on romance, failure becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
View dating with a mindset of abundance.
An abundance mentality involves seeing the dating world as having endless possibilities. Rather than chase after “the one,” people who date with an abundance mindset are the people getting chased.
At the end of this article, I’ll let you in on my top strategy that forces you to develop an abundance mindset and find success!
Reason #9: Practice Makes Perfect
Sure, you could give up on dating now and there’s a possibility a perfect person will show up be happenstance. We’ve all heard the stories of “love at first sight” and those couples who ran into each other in the parking lot and have been together ever since.
But the thing is, even if that happens, you want to be prepared for it. When you find a long-term, compatible partner, you want to enter that relationship as you best and most authentic self. You want to have some lessons under your belt and be sure of what you truly want. Thus, you need to date a lot rather than give up on dating and waiting for the right person to show up.
Reason #10: It Worked for Me and It Can Work for You, Too
As I said before, I was basically ready to give up on dating before I decided to embark on my 100-date experiment. And I’m so glad that I decided to do that experiment because giving up on dating would have prevented me from so many experiences, from so much personal growth, and from a satisfying relationship.
One thing that truly helped me crush my goals in the dating world was my use of MegaDating.
What is MegaDating?
MegaDating is a dating strategy that involves dating multiple people at the same time. This process diffuses energy by keeping your social calendar full.
If you’re thinking about giving up on dating, try MegaDating to enjoy a different type of dating life. When you MegaDate, you see firsthand that there truly are plenty of fish in the sea. This prevents you from chasing after women who ultimately put you in the friendzone, getting hung up on the idea of “the one,” or settling for the mediocre.
Because you will be hanging out with at least a few different people at the same time, the pain of things like a bad date or rejection won’t be such a big deal. When you expose yourself to different people rather than chasing after one, suddenly women will start chasing you.
When women see that you are keeping your options open before deciding to become exclusive, you automatically become more desirable. This is because MegaDating stimulates an unconscious sense of competition.
Stop Giving Up On Dating and Start Crushing Your Goals
Are you ready to go on dates that are fun and exciting? Do you want to attract tons of gorgeous, high-value women? Are you ready to embark on a dating journey that will lead you to the woman of your dreams?
If so, head over to my calendar and book a new client 1-on-1 Skype session with me today. During this introductory coaching session, we will work together to create an action plan to help you overcome your dating roadblocks and crush your goals.
As a dating coach, I’ve helped men all over the world find confidence and lasting love. I look forward to doing the same for you.
Talk to you soon!