Wondering how to create a perfect dating site username? Looking for user name ideas? 

One of the first steps to creating a dating profile is coming up with a perfect dating site username and a well crafted bio or tagline. But what username can help you stand out in the online dating world? Although you may be thinking that a selection of killer selfies is your top priority when it comes to attracting high-value women in the online dating world, creating the perfect dating site username is more important than you think. And creating one that is blasé, or — even worse — offensive, can cause women to swipe right past you.

Hey guys, it’s Emyli — America’s dating coach and your go-to guru for online dating strategy. During my initial sessions with clients, I always recommend downloading several dating apps, because they’ve become such a mainstream part of the dating world. I also recommend that my clients use a variety of dating websites as well. 

Long gone are the days where online dating sites and apps are considered taboo (here’s a full list of free dating sites and apps you can download). They now have become a pleasing alternative to meeting people at crowded bars, by chance, or in the produce section of the grocery store.

Nowadays, a majority of singles are using digital dating methods to their advantage in order to get more experience in the dating world, to improve their self-esteem, and — ultimately — to find the partner of their dreams. 

But with popularity comes competition, particularly for men who use online dating to find a girlfriend. 

Back when sites like POF, OkCupid, Match.com, and eHarmony comprised a majority of the online dating landscape, usernames may not have gotten as much attention. The aforementioned sites also required a lot more profile information, which occupied more time than thinking up a great username.

Once apps took over, the need to write a lengthy profile listing your various interests and background diminished. The mobile age requires you to grab a woman’s attention fast, and your username is one tool you can use to stand out and get more matches.

Still, it can be easy to overlook the importance of creating a perfect dating site username. After all, aren’t girls mostly paying attention to the guys’ pictures? Don’t get me wrong, pictures are one of the top things you need to be concerned about when creating an online dating profile, particularly with apps like Hinge, Tinder, and Bumble, where profile descriptions are extremely brief. 

But along with a great image, your username is one of the first things a woman scrolling through profiles will see. You want to grab a woman’s attention FAST, the perfect dating site username is a way to do so.

I get so many inquiries asking “what’s the perfect username?” or “can you recommend a good dating username idea, and why is it important?” And that’s why I created this post! 

Take a look at the following tips to help you come up with the perfect dating site username, get more matches on dating sites and apps, and enjoy more success (and FUN) in your dating life. 

How to Create a Perfect Dating Site Username 

Tip #1: Use Your Wit to Reel Her In

Women love a man with a sense of humor, and a username is a perfect way to use your wit in order to instantly grab her attention. According to findings published in the journal, Evidence-Based Medicine, “Playful screennames (eg, Fun2bwith) are universally attractive.” 

And make sure that you showcase wit without trying to be too obvious. For example, choosing a username like IAmaSuperFunnyGuy13 isn’t really the best choice. Show you’re funny and playful rather than stating a fact.

Let’s say your name is Mike. Instead of choosing names such as Mike6278931 (it’s a lot of numbers because, in this hypothetical scenario, I’m guessing you are FAR from the first Mike who has signed up for a dating site) or MyNameisMike18, you could pick something like Mike_Drop or Pass_the_Mike. 

The aforementioned also mentioned that people were more likely to get noticed when choosing usernames that focused on stature and — interestingly enough — stuck to the beginning of the alphabet.

Tip #2: Stick to the Beginning of the Alphabet

The researchers found that people responded more to usernames that used letters at the beginning of the alphabet. For example, a username like Ahhh_mazing or BestBoyfriendEver may result in more matches and messages than something like ZebrasHaveStripes or WhataGreatGuyIam.

Sorry to anyone reading this who happens to be named Wayne, Xavier or Zach…

Tip #3: Show Off Your Strength

The same study posits that you should not include words that will inadvertently signal inferiority, such as LittleMan, Smallsy, or ShyGuy. 

Now, when it comes to showing off your strength, I’m definitely not a fan of arrogance (i.e., something like ImSwollAF82 or BigBeefyManDude), so utilize humor in showcasing your strength.

For example, if you’re a Will Ferrel fan, you can choose a name like Kinda_A_Big_Deal and put a link to a funny clip in your profile, like this one. 

Tip #4: Show Off Your Intellect

Are you a sapiosexual? Or, are you a super smart guy looking to attract a sapiosexual? 

Sapiosexuals — people who find intelligence attractive and/or sexually arousing — are anything but uncommon. In a study, researchers from the University of Western Australia (UWA) found that an estimated 1 in 10 people consider intelligence to be the most attractive feature a partner can have.  And this preference seems to take some precedence when it comes to the online dating world, as far as picking the perfect dating username is concerned.

According to a study published in the International Journal of Internet Science, women tend to prefer men who have dating site usernames that show they are intelligent. If you’re a sapiosexual looking to impress a girl with smarts, don’t shy away from infusing some elements in your username that will make women want to talk nerdy to you. 

Tip #5: Consider Incorporating Some of these Keywords

The research team at Zoosk conducted a thorough examination of 430,000 of the site’s online dating profiles (WOW) to determine the top 10 words that appeared in the profiles’ usernames. The top 10 words included:

• Love
• Guy
• Girl
• Fun
• Looking
• Life
• Good
• Sweet
• Real
• Sexy

Tip #6: Avoid A Username That Could Potentially Be Offensive

Don’t get overly sexual or aggressive in your username, even if you’re doing it as a joke. 

For example, if you’re an ophthalmologist, something like SexyAndEyeKnowIt is flirty but fun, and not offensive. Conversely, something like SexyAndGreatinBed, or CanIBendUOver are 100% TERRIBLE and should never be used under any circumstances.

Basically, use your common sense. If you think someone might be offended by your username, pass on it and think up something else.

If you’re having trouble coming up with something clever, here are a few examples to help you get started. 

If You’re Athletic

• GuyontheRun
• GymPizzaRat
• JumpingJack (this one works if you’re name is Jack)
• Weighting4You

If You’re Nerdy

• FunGi 
• Four_Eyes_4_U
• SmarT
• TalkNerdytoMe

If You’re a Cook or a Foodie

• ThaiOneOn
• SoSousMe (if you’re a sous chef)
• SweetNSavory
• I_Will_Cook_For_You (this is one case where it’s ok to NOT be creative)

Tip #7: Stay True to Yourself

Above all else, it’s important to stay true to yourself and choose a username that appropriately showcases your personality. Don’t pick something simply because you think it will make you seem more attractive (i.e., SexySixPack4You). 

Think of choosing a dating site username in a similar way to choosing a tattoo. Obviously, a dating site username is going to be WAY less serious, less painful (I hate needles 🙁 ), less permanent and WAY less expensive. But the principle of picking something that really speaks to who you are is kind of the same.

Tip #8: Get a Dating Coach to Help You

Still not getting the success you want from dating? Maybe it’s not your dating site username, but something else? Don’t worry I can help!

If you would like to get more matches on dating sites and apps, meet more attractive women, stay OUT of the friend-zone, and eventually snag the woman of your dreams, head over to my calendar page. Book a 1-on-1 Zoom session with me today. During our session, we will discuss your dating roadblocks, goals, and create an action plan to help you achieve those goals.

As far as online dating goes, we can talk about strategies to help you get a username, and also how to handle things like:

How to respond to the first message from a woman online

• How to create not only a perfect dating site username but a perfect profile to help you attract more women
• Should you list your height, weight, or real name on your profiles?
• How to navigate different online dating sites and how to choose the best sites/apps for your personality and goals

But my coaching sessions involve much more than dating via the interwebs.

I can provide you with expert insights into the dating world, both online and offline. I know, because I’ve been there. During my undergraduate studies at UC Berkley, I embarked on a 100-date experiment, where I went on over 100 dates in a year to understand the intricacies of the dating world. The strategy I used is called Megadating, which involves dating several people at once in order to increase confidence, diffuse energy, and ultimately find someone you can have a committed relationship with.

Not only did this strategy help me find love, but I came out of the experience with an arsenal of information and a career as a dating coach.