So you’ve found the woman of your dreams – but how do you know if she’s dreaming of you too? Women can be hard to read, and often leave you wondering “does she want me?” As a worldwide Skype dating coach, who has conducted a 100 date research experiment, I’ve helped dozens of men on this topic. I know when a girl wants you to make a move, and how to know when she wants you to make that move.
But before we dive into this topic, I want to make a quick recommendation that will help you increase your success with future dates. During my research experiment, I learned that dating multiple people at the same time (megadating) really helped me to reduce my overall dating anxiety, helped me stay busy, helped me avoid settling for mediocre dates, helped me be OK with rejection, and much more.
Now if you are thinking…“Emyli, I can’t get many dates at all, how am I supposed to megadate?“ Well, I have a tool for you. Check out my mega-message template, it’ll help you score more dates from online dating sites. But now, finally….let’s dive into the top 7 signs she wants you to make a move:
Signs She Wants You to Make a Move
Dating can be complicated. Picking up on signs she wants you to make a move is not easy. It takes patience and practice, like anything else in life. Think back to when you first learned to ride a bike – how many times did you fall down?
Therefore, I’ve created this list to help simplify reading these signs and how to respond to them. For the most effective way to determine if your dream girl is ready for you to make a move schedule a new client session with me. We’ll can talk how you can effectively convert more of these opportunities into real life dates.
1. She locks eyes with you
A longing look can most times be just that- a woman longing for you to make a move. Long periods of eye contact indicate that she is interested in what you’re saying. It also shows that she is ready for you to make your move. If a girl is locking eyes with you it means she is beginning to trust you. This trust means she is waiting for you to take the relationship to the next level.
Tip: Try and hold eye contact with her for a few seconds. If she continues to maintain eye contact, then she’s certainly single and ready for you to approach her.
Tip: If this woman is new to your life, then walk up to her and ask for her name. This usually happens at social settings like bars, co-ed sports leagues coffee shops, gyms, etc.
Tip: If you’ve known this woman for some time, then make some intention goals. First, are you interested in pursuing her for a relationship, friendship, fling, or for a business reason?
Next, what are the consequences of your actions? If she’s a work colleague, what issues may it cause if you pursue her? If she’s your little sister’s age, what future problems may arise?
Last, what’s changed in her life recently which might be leading to her locking eyes with you? Is she recently single? If so, it may be a good time to make your move (assuming you are interested).
2. Her friends ask if you are interested in her
The classic “Psst, do you like Anna?” may seem a bit juvenile, but it’s also a sure sign the woman you adore is totally into you. Some women are shy or want to be sly about their feelings, so they send a friend in to do the recon work. If a friend is asking you about her, she most likely knows about it and encouraged it. No one asks a guy for their friend if the friend isn’t interested. Take this as a cue that she’s interested and feel confident about making a move.
Tip: You don’t have to answer her friend right away. In dating, tension builds attraction. Attraction fuels intimacy. Intimacy builds relationships. Tell her friend “I think Jenny is super cute, but before you tell her anything, give me a couple of days to think about what I want to do.”
Tip: If you aren’t interested in this girl that this friend is selling, then be direct. “I’m not really into Jenny, but I’ve been kinda crushing on someone else.” Of course her friend will ask you who this other girl is. Tell her. Get it out of the way. Even if the girl you like isn’t available, it’ll start the process. Sometimes women take time to consciously make a decision to like someone.
3. She asks you personal questions
If your dream girl is asking questions that are not work or school related, you are on a good path. To start, ask her about her personal life – because if she’s asking you those questions, she totally wants you to make a move. If a woman is curious about your pets, hobbies, and family – she’s looking to get to know you beyond the surface level. This goes beyond polite niceties. If her questions are truly personalized to you, she’s likely very interested in you and hoping you will make your move to show that the interest is mutual.
4. She breaks away from groups to be alone with you
Alone time is always a good sign. If a woman specifically takes you away from your group of friends you are in the clear. It means she is truly interested in spending some quality time alone with you. Whether she takes you with her to get the next round of drinks or asks you to get some air, she’s definitely open to you making your move.
It is a good idea to make your move during these simple moments of one-on-one time with her. If she’s wearing a ring, ask her to see it close up and hold her hand. Or pretend she’s got an eyelash on her cheek and brush it away. Read my article, 10 Ways to Touch a Woman on a Date, for insights into how to make your move in a way that isn’t over the top.
Tip: If your interest is mutual, and she tries to break you away from your friends- let it happen. Her trying to isolate you is a compliment. She likes you and wants to see what you are like without a group of people. Make sure you take the leadership role away from her. She will fall more into her feminine, which will work in your favor.
5. When you touch her, she moves closer to you
This is a sure sign that she wants you to make a move. If a woman responds to your touch, she’s definitely hoping you know how to make a move on a girl, because she’s 100 percent interested. Movement towards you is a great sign that this woman would be open to your advances. Make note of her body language – and respond accordingly. A woman who moves towards you is a woman who has waited long enough for you to make a move, so make it fast!
Tip: Keep your hands on her, but obviously in a non-creepy way. The longer you consistently touch her, the more connection you’ll make with her. She’s digging you, so now’s the time to build the attraction. She’s inviting you in her personal space. Take note of this.
6. If she invites you to her environment
Sometimes it’s hard for women to directly ask out men, so they’ll do it indirectly, by inviting you to their environment. Maybe she asks you to a group hang out at her favorite bar, or a wine night at her apartment. Where-ever she invites you, it may be her way of subconsciously asking you on a date. It is very likely that she will be receptive when you take action and make your move.
Favorite Tip: If you think this girl has been interested in you for awhile, then right after she invites you to her environment, say this “ahhh, like a date eh?”
One of the biggest mistakes my clients make is that they don’t define experiences with women as dates. They say “let’s hang out” or “let’s grab a drink sometime.” Those lines don’t mean date, ever. Define experiences as dates, and your success rate will skyrocket.
7. She keeps the door open for you (even if you think you missed your opportunity)
If a girl calls or texts you out of the blue, you might not have missed your moment. A woman who is texting or calling you is thinking about you. It’s a sign that she wants you to make a move the next time you are together. This is the perfect time for you to take advantage of this random conversation and ask her out.
As an online dating coach who has completed on a 100 date experiment, if I’m thinking about a guy it means there’s still something there. A man making a move could turn that small something into something bigger.
Final Tip: If the woman you want to make a move on gives you some or all of these 7 signs, ask her out. In a situation where you are already on a date, and want to kiss her, say something like: “I really want to kiss you right now” instead of “Can I kiss you?”
Considering Hiring a Dating Coach?
If you haven’t made it that far yet but want to, consider booking a Skype session with me so we can brainstorm your approach. I’d love to help you hone your skills and help you reach your dating goals.
Working with me will jumpstart your dating life. It can be hard to know not only when to make a move on a girl, but how to make a move on a girl, so let me help you build up your dating knowledge and confidence.
Even if you struggle to find a woman to make a move on, booking a coaching package with me or taking my highly researched, tested, and proven private online dating course can help you know where and how to find the perfect woman for you.