Killer beaches, a Spanish influence, delectable wine, and some of the finest restaurants in Cali.

This is what Santa Barbara offers you.

You know what else it offers you? An overwhelmingly high number of men. 

Santa Barbara County is just about 50-50 split between men and women.

However, these numbers heavily tilt towards men if you’re under 50.

Walking around Santa Barbara for the first time, you might think there’s some sort of manly convention in town that saw the arrival of thousands of men. Nope, no he-man-woman-haters club in town, just a county with an abnormally high male populous.

To find a companion in Santa Barbara you’ll need to go above and beyond.

To help do that you’ll want to enlist the help of a Santa Barbara dating coach.

Your New Santa Barbara Dating Coach

emlovz has helped thousands of men go from hopelessly single to happily coupled up.

emlovz has its genesis in co-founder and Cali native Emyli Lovz’s 100-date experiment. This experiment saw her go on a hundred dates in one year during her time at UC Berkeley. The romantic experiment forms the basis of everything we teach at emlovz.

MegaDating

Dating prolifically as Emyli once did is called MegaDating.

MegaDating is the most effective and quickest way to find your most compatible partner.

Instead of waiting for the right woman to magically appear, you create your own luck by seeking her out. This is a highly proactive dating approach. Imagine leveraging online dating and your social groups to date 2-3 women every week?

When you’re dating such a high quantity of women it’s easy to quickly find women that you’re compatible with.

Along with being exposed to an abundance of women, MegaDating will also refine your dating skills, boost your confidence, and help you figure out your ideal partner.

When students are accepted into our dating program, Dating Decoded, the first thing we have them create an ideal GF profile.

This profile will give you an idea of who your ideal partner is and where you’re most likely to find her. However, as you date your idea of your ideal partner will change. As this happens adjust your profile accordingly as you aim to find your ideal partner.

That’s the difference between emlovz and other Santa Barbara dating coaches. While they’ll help you find a girlfriend, we’ll help you find the perfect girlfriend. 

The Perfect Profile The Perfect You

It doesn’t matter whether you live in Santa Barbara, SF, or LA, the most popular way to meet a romantic partner nowadays is online.

40% of all new relationships start when two people match online.

Singles flock to online dating because of how easy it is.

Whether you’re in transit, waiting in line at the DMV, or bored at a meeting, you’re able to meet an array of women in a short period of time. Without the fear of in-person rejection you can swipe right and left on women and quickly find amazing singles to date… sort of.  

Just because online dating is easy to use doesn’t mean it’s easy to match with women. Tinder has a gender ratio of 9 men to every 1 woman whereas Bumble has 7 men to every 3 women. These numbers aren’t great, but it’s not as hopeless as it seems.

You wouldn’t know unless you consult with single female friends, but most male profiles are poorly made. The photos are grainy, you can’t make out what they look like, the bios aren’t filled out, and they don’t answer prompts.

This is where we come in.

We offer in-depth, self-paced lessons on how to optimize your online dating profile. You’ll learn which photos perform best, how to take your own photos, how to fill out your bios to attract like-minded women, and how to answer dating prompts. We also offer students in-depth profile reviews where we’ll really drill down into your profile so that we highlight your personality and attract women you’re into.

After optimization, we see our students outperform 90% of male competitors on dating apps.

I should add that we have dozens of hours of training related to how to meet women in person. We teach men how to leverage their social circles and their ideal partner at where they are most likely to be. That being said we do place a special emphasis on online dating considering it is the most popular way to meet women.

MegaMessaging + Datepitch

Once your profile has been optimized, the matches will roll in.

You present yourself as a man of value at first glance so naturally women want to get to know you. However, a match is far from a guaranteed date.

A match is nothing more than both parties showing initial interest in one another.

To explore whether you two have a meaningful connection or not you’ll want to chat them up.

The thing is, these women don’t know you. If you don’t immediately stimulate her with your opening message she won’t wait around for you to improve your chat game.

Lucky for you, you don’t need to pen a Shakespeare-worthy opener to receive a response, especially when this is the competition.

To send a quality opening message, do the following:

• Read her profile to gather information about who she is
• Ask her a question or comment (more detail on that in the program)
• Make sure it’s an open-ended question that will lead to a broader conversation

After the opening message has been sent you’ll want to keep the conversation going. Do so by asking her questions about her interests. Keep the convo revolving around what she’s into.

This is how you should chat with women online in a nutshell.

While chatting you want to keep the TDL in mind. TDL stands for time, date, location.

Have a solid first date in mind that you want to ask her on. Once you two have built a decent rapport, ask her on a TDL. Send her the time, date, and location so she knows you’re serious and have put thought into the date request.

The First Three Dates

These dates are the most beautiful and precarious of your fledging relationship.

Beautiful because you’re forming a new connection with a lovely woman. Precarious because one wrong step and you’ll never hear from her again.

In our program, we teach men the skills they need to excel on these first three dates.

Our students will learn:

• How to break the touch barrier without coming off as a creep
• The ideal places to bring women on first, second, and third dates
• How to have amazing conversations
• Flirting 101
• Sexual escalation strategy
• Foreplay
• Much, much more

If you’re MegaDating, there are some rules you should follow during these first three dates.

First dates should be no more than $20 and last no longer than an hour. Doing so wards off gold diggers and shows her that you’re a high-value man who doesn’t have more than an hour to use on a stranger. Keeping dates short and sweet also increases the mystery, which can build sexual attraction.

Second dates should be active and free. Again, free dates will ward off women who just want a fancy dinner. Active dates are also novel, fun, get the blood rushing, and lend themselves to sexual escalation.

If she’s lucky enough to make it to a third date it’s time to show her how into her you are. Do this by taking her somewhere fancy and making it a night to remember – kisses are expected.

Your New Santa Barbara Dating Coach

Meeting your Santa Barbara sweeatheart is easy… you just need the right coach to set you on a course towards romantic success.

To teach you how to quickly find highly compatible women in just weeks and become the most eligible bachelor in Santa Barbara you’ll have a team of romantic experts, each skilled in their own unique area to support you. 

• Emyli, co-founder, curriculum developer, head coach, and I host two coaching sessions every week
• Thomas, co-founder, and coach. He’ll lead the biweekly Man Cave event where men come together to talk dating, bond with one another, and support other single men
• Cat, Brooke, and Audrey are mock date specialists. Go on a practice date with them (and receive feedback) before your next date
• Hailey is your new stylist. She’s worked with celebs from every industry and is now about to raid your closet
• Tilly is our sex coach. She’ll help you get the most out of your sex life so you and your partner are happier between the sheets
• Aundrea is an award-winning fitness coach. Are you ready to eat right and build muscle?
• Mia is our SM specialist. Revamp your SM profiles with her help and start meeting women online

And look, we realize that the single life can be difficult. That’s why if you’re accepted into Dating Decoded you’re joining a community of supportive men and coaches who are there to listen, support, and encourage you as you navigate the single life. 

Our program offers every student a lifetime membership (as if you’ll need it) so the support won’t stop until you’ve found your ideal partner. 

If you’re ready to find your forever partner, book a zoom session with our team today. Together we’ll talk about your dating history, your goals, and show you how our program, Dating Decoded, can help you find your ideal partner.

Don’t just take it from me, check out what one of our students Jonathan has to say..