Approaching women is more gut-wrenching than public speaking in a room full of luminaries about a subject they all know more about than you.

What’s even more anxiety-inducing is when you approach a drop-dead gorgeous woman.

But just because it’s terrifying doesn’t mean we should run away from that fear. In fact, the opposite should occur. On the other side of that fear is magic, satisfaction, and the possibility that all your wildest dreams will come true.

That’s a damn good reason to approach her.

But to learn how to approach a beautiful woman it would be beneficial to learn why men avoid these goddesses.

Why Men Avoid What They Want Most

They Feel Inferior

It’s happened to all men before (and yes even women).

They see a beautiful person walking down the street, in conversation with a group of people at the party, or grabbing a drink at the bar and think, wow she’s gorgeous. The next thought however is, damn she’s out of my league.

We all have internal rankings. We place a number on how funny, intelligent, and good-looking we are. Before chatting with women, men will compare their rankings to the woman they want to chat up.

If there’s too much of a disparity, he’ll walk away.

By doing this, you reject yourself before she ever gets a chance to.

You spun a story in your head about how this woman that you’ve never met has zero chance of liking you.

My advice: rewrite that story. 

Address insecurities and deficiencies, and boost your self-esteem. And hey sometimes improving these areas is more about accepting one’s differences than it is about creating change. Changing your internal score will make it more likely that you will approach beautiful women and succeed.  

You can be all 10s but if you have 0 confidence and sense of self-worth she’ll pass.

Rejection Avoidance

We all know rejection sucks.

That’s why most men choose not to approach women. They may refuse to approach gorgeous women because they believe the odds of rejection are even higher when chatting with a smoke-show.

More often than not this is true. The kind of women men fantasize about dating often are pickier than women that men find less attractive – that’s just how attraction works.

It’s true that avoiding rejection may save face for the moment and keep your ego in check. But in the long run this will hurt you.

At emlovz we teach men to embrace rejection rather than fear it. We wholly subscribe to the idea that a no gets you one step closer to a yes. Putting yourself out there is the only way to get what you really want – a compatible, amazing, and yes, attractive girlfriend.

Avoiding rejection by not talking to her is in a sense a form of self-rejection. Don’t let yourself get in the way of what you want. 

You Don’t Have The Experience

To most, flying a plane would be terrifying.

If you were asked to fly a Boeing 767 you’d feel as though your life were about to end. But ask any commercial pilot how they would feel to fly a Boeing 767 and they’d say it’s exhilarating or just another day on the job.

Experience, or lack thereof, can either make you embrace something that was once difficult or run away from it.

If you haven’t approached a woman in years – or ever – doing so will sound terrifying.

This is natural.

But when you are equipped with the skills and have practiced approaching women, naturally you will feel less and less scared and more and more excited.

The question is… how do you get that experience?

There are two ways.

One comes from approaching and talking with women. Exposure therapy helps people get over their nerves by continually exposing them to upsetting stimuli. In this situation, that means women that you want to approach. That being said, exposure therapy works best if the fearful person is exposed to the anxiety-inducing stimuli in a safe environment.

emlovz can help men learn how to approach women in a safe environment by going on mock dates and via practicing approaching women with the help of our coaches. We have a team of specialists that will practice with you and provide constructive feedback after approaching them. It’s here that you can practice your skills in a safe and supportive environment.

The second way to gain experience is to learn how to approach women. At emlovz we teach men the ins and outs of modern dating. We equip you with the skills you need to find, approach, court, and go from stranger to romantic partner in a short time.

Once you learn how to approach women and start doing so in greater frequency, you will begin to MegaDate. MegaDating is our patented dating strategy that teaches men how to date a variety of women at once. Doing so will boost your confidence, refine dating skills, and help you quickly meet a super-compatible woman.

They Have No Idea What They’ll Say

Men have this fear that they’ll lock up if they approach a beautiful woman.

They’ll freeze from fear, have nothing to say and make an ass of themselves.

Address this by coming up with a plan. And by plan I don’t mean a cheesy pickup line. 

In our program, Dating Decoded we give our students an approach framework that works with any woman – beautiful or otherwise.

Plus, we do a monthly conversation training where we have a practice session with our students approaching our beautiful female coaches in different scenarios with the goal of getting the number.

Don’t just wing it, have a plan of attack before approaching.

For some ideas to try out right now, you can use one of these opening lines should you want to approach a woman at a party.

• You look like someone that would know the name of this song, do you know who this is?
• Oh that looks great, what are you drinking?
• How do you like the burger?

And my personal favorite…

• Hi, I’m Ben, what’s your name?

Don’t overthink it. Simply saying something and approaching a woman is enough of a win. If you don’t approach her I promise you that the feeling of regret is always worse than the feeling of rejection.

Too much “Noise”

What this means is that men can usually be in their head, their logical mind instead of in the moment.

I challenge you to approach 50 women.

Tell me how you feel about rejection on the 50th approach versus the 1st. I bet you won’t care as much.

It’s easy to convince yourself not to approach a woman.

You feel like you’re on a cliff so it doesn’t take much to talk yourself out of jumping.

But I promise you, that once you approach and speak to this woman, you’ll realize after that the experience really wasn’t that bad.

Change Your Mindset

Before talking to a woman men love to build up what’s about to happen. They make such a big deal of it.

Don’t.

Instead of approaching this woman with the idea that you’re going to flirt with her and that if you don’t get a kiss, dance, or number, you lose, change your perspective.

Change it so that you’re going into the interaction with the intention of getting to an individual who interests you. Also, go into the interaction by redefining what winning looks like. Instead of a number, simply saying hi counts as a win. 

Doing so will allow you to approach more women and have more meaningful connections.

Start Approaching Beautiful Women This Friday

Interested in learning how we here at emlovz can help you?

We teach our students the shortcut to finding their ideal match by MegaDating. MegaDating is our dating philosophy and it shapes everything we teach here at emlovz. Simply put MegaDating is dating prolifically with the specific goal of going on 20 dates in 90 days. This will give you ample women to compare and contrast so you can refine your not only your dating skills but who your ideal partner is.

To teach you how to quickly find highly compatible women in just weeks and become the most eligible bachelor in town you’ll have a team of romantic experts, each skilled in their own unique area to support you.

• Emyli (me), co-founder, curriculum developer, head coach, and I host two coaching sessions every week
• Thomas, co-founder, and coach. He’ll lead the biweekly Man Cave event where men come together to talk dating, bond with one another, and support other single men
• Cat, Brooke, and Audrey are mock date specialists. Go on a practice date with them (and receive feedback) before your next date
• Hailey is your new stylist. She’s worked with celebs from every industry and is now about to raid your closet
• Tilly is our holistic sex & intimacy coach. She’ll help you get the most out of your sex life so you and your partner are happier between the sheets
• Aundrea is an award-winning fitness coach. Are you ready to eat right and build muscle?
• Mia is our SM specialist. Revamp your SM profiles with her help and start meeting women online

And look, we realize that the single life can be difficult. If accepted into our coaching program, Dating Decoded, you’d be joining a community of supportive men and coaches who are there to listen, support, and encourage you as you navigate the single life.

Our program offers every student a lifetime membership (as if you’ll need it) so the support won’t stop until you’ve found your ideal partner.

If you’re ready to find your forever partner, book a Zoom session with our team today. Together we’ll talk about your dating history, your goals and show you how our program, Dating Decoded, can help you find your ideal partner.

Learn how our students have already improved their dating lives.