Wine tastings are all the sweeter if you have someone to sip with (unless you’re more of a Cabernet fan).

But lately, it feels like the finer things in life aren’t as fine as they used to be.

That wine doesn’t have the same notes it used to, the Redwoods aren’t as tall as they used to be, and Bodega Bay isn’t as picturesque as it once was.

Having a romantic partner by your side has a way of tinting your sunglasses rose-colored.

So how do you do it?

More specifically, how do you do it in a place that is as gender lopsided as Sonoma?

As you can see Sonoma County is either super competitive when it comes to finding a partner, or heaven on earth, it all depends on how old you want your partner to be. Regardless of your age bracket, you’re here because you could use a little help.

You want a Santa Rosa dating coach to help you find a partner sweeter than Riesling and cooler than that early morning ocean breeze, we can help with that.

The Best Santa Rosa Dating Coach

When it comes to helping singles find soulmate-compatible partners, there’s no one with a better track record than us here at emlovz. We’ve been helping men find not just any partner, but their ideal partner for over a decade now. To quantify our impact, we’ve helped literally thousands of people find perfect partners.

But we’re no matchmaking company that’ll set you up with a couple semi-compatible people before ghosting you after the contract expires.

Rather, we’re a lifelong community of coaches and students dedicated to helping you refine your romantic skills so that you have the ability to find, court, and fall in love with your perfect match.

But emlovz isn’t just one coach, we’re a legion of coaches ready to blow wind in your sails as you navigate the wild and fun world of modern dating.

Let’s meet the team.

Emyli – Co-founder & Head Coach

Emyli co-founded emlovz in 2011 after going on 102 dates in a year. She did so as a social experiment. She was tired of waiting for Prince Charming to pop out of the woodwork. So she devised a proactive dating approach called MegaDating (more on that later). Not only did that experiment conclude with her finding her now partner (and co-founder Thomas), but she learned the dating skills both men and women need to succeed as a single in the 2020s.

Em has distilled all she’s learned into the program, Dating Decoded. Here you’ll have all your dating-related questions answered. Em also leads weekly live sessions to address nuanced obstacles individuals face when trying to find a partner.

Thomas – Co-founder & Dating Coach

Thomas is the yang to Emyli’s yin.

He’s the shark in the water.

He’ll teach men how to fish but on the flip side, teach our female students what men are thinking and why the behave the way they do.

Thomas conducted his own MegaDating experiment a decade ago and uses what he’s learned to help both men and women quickly get what they want from their romantic lives.

Thomas is almost always the first one to help a student out when they reach out in our community. He also leads biweekly Man Cave events where male students can come together to vent, strategize, and empathize with one another in a supportive atmosphere.

Audrey – Dating & Conversation Coach

Audrey knows that we’re all still slowly waking up from the social slumber that was the pandemic.

We’re all still figuring out how to interact with each other after a year and a half of hibernation. The social ineptitude we all feel only compounds on a date.

Instead of teaching you dating skills and then throwing you out into the world without practice, Aubrey and the emlovz teach simulates real-life romantic settings.

Whether it be conversing with a stranger or going on a date Aubrey and her team give students the hands-on training they need to be able to court in the real world.

After each interaction, Aubrey and the team will provide students with feedback on how they performed.

Darshil – Dating & Confidence Coach

Darshil has undergone a change that even the most social of butterflies would be jealous of.

From a barren romantic run to the most eligible bachelor in town, Darhsil has taken what he’s learned from emlovz and has turned into a leader within the emlovz community. So much so that he now helps men and women refine their dating skills. He does so by helping in the following ways:

• Date location strategy
• Romantic escalation
• Date conversation framework
• Profile optimization
• Confidence building
• Mock dates for women

Hailey – Celebrity Stylist

The first impression is the most important – so what are you saying when you’re showing up to a date rocking a stained t-shirt and cargo shorts? And if you’re a woman what message are you really sending my rocking your crocs to a first date?

Make the right first impression by having Hailey pick out your first, second, and third date outfits for you. Hailey has experience dressing some of your favorite A-list celebs. Now it’s time to make you look your Hollywood finest for your next date.

Tilly – Sex Coach

Look, you may be having good sex, but there’s a difference between good sex and transformational sex inspired by and Taoist and Tantric arts, somatic healing, and psychotherapy.

Tilly helps both men and women have epic sex. As a certified holistic sex and intimacy coach Tilly knows a thing or two about how to make you feel better than you’ve ever felt before. And hey, your partner will feel the same.

Renee – Anxiety Coach

If given the choice between a first date with a stranger and swimming with sharks there are some that would choose the latter.

Renee is here to give you the confidence you need to date with confidence.

Your new anxiety coach is a licensed therapist specializing in anxiety and trauma. She has helped men and women much more fearful than you find peace and confidence. If she can help those recovering from severe trauma, she can help you get ready for your next date.

MegaDating

Everything we teach revolves around our philosophy of MegaDating.

MegaDating is the practice of dating prolifically.

Hear me out.

If humans are like wine, each one with her own style, background, and taste, how are you supposed to know which one you prefer? Naturally, you try a few out and choose the one you like most.

That’s what our students do when they MegaDate.

They date around, looking for the woman that they are most attracted to.

By dating a large volume of singles (20 in 90 days) students are able to compare and contrast. You could of course, just date one woman at a time, but MegaDating is a shortcut to finding the perfect partner. If you wanted to just date anyone, you wouldn’t need us.

MegaDating also comes with some positive byproducts including:

• Great way to build self-esteem
• Builds confidence around woman
• Refine romantic skills
• It’s just really freakin’ fun!

But look, I know what you’re thinking, if I haven’t gone on a date in months how am I supposed to go on 20 dates in 90 days?

Let’s talk about that.

The Perfect Online You

Meeting enough people to go on multiple dates a week isn’t difficult if you know where to meet fellow singles.

In our program, Dating Decoded we’ll show how to identify and tap your social channels to meet an abundance of compatible people.

Via our online curriculum and live coaching sessions, you’ll learn how to leverage existing and soon-to-be social circles to meet men or women (or both) IRL.

While we place on emphasis on meeting women IRL we place special emphasis on meeting them online.

We do so because meeting women online is the most common way to meet them in this day and age.

39% of all new relationships in 2019 started online.

That number is only expected to rise as singles continue to integrate technology into their dating lives. The reality is that dating apps have put Cupid out of a job. They’re a simple and easy way to become proactive when looking for a partner. In the comfort of your own home, while commuting, or yes even at a bar you can swipe through profiles in what is essentially a 24/7 singles bar full of women.

The issue with these apps, especially if you’re looking for a woman in her 20s or 30s in Sonoma County is that they are vastly outnumbered by men on dating apps.

Men overwhelm women on dating apps. On Tinder expect to compete against 9 men for every 1 woman. The gender ratio on Bumble isn’t much better, with 7 men to every 3 women. 

The gender disparity means that men and women face different obstacles when using dating apps.

Men must learn how to stand out amongst a backdrop of thousands of competitors whereas women must learn how to discern only compatible men.

Team up with us, your new Sonoma County dating coach to learn how to optimize your profile and outcompete 90% of men in your area.

MegaMessaging + TDL (only for men)

Imagine for a moment that you have enrolled in Dating Decoded, attended Man Cave events (if you’re a man), live coaching sessions, and scarfed down our online curriculum. If so, you no doubt have matches just waiting to chat with you.

This is great news, but a match isn’t a date.

A match is equivalent to a woman making eyes at you from across the room. It’s a great first sign, but in order to capitalize and get what you really want, you must now approach. 

The problem is women are bombarded by messages.

The good news is that most messages look like this.

The average message a guy sends online is hey, hi, or hey beautiful. 

None of these messages stand out. And she’s not going to review every profile before deciding who is worthy of a response.

To win her attention, you have to send a high-value message. But receiving a response to your amazing opening message isn’t the end of the game. From there you need to create a spark, build a fledgling relationship, and convince her to go out with you by pitching a TDL.

TDL stands for time, date, and location. 

You need to include these crucial details when asking her out. That way, she knows your date request can be taken seriously. It’s also flattering to know that you’ve put effort into creating a solid first-date idea.

Speaking of first dates, let’s talk about the type of dates you want to go on while MegaDating.

Dating Blueprint

The beginning of your relationship is the most precarious.

One wrong word or date could terminate a blossoming relationship.

That’s why we created a blueprint for your first three dates.

First dates: Cheap and under an hour

Second dates must be active and 100% free

Third dates are reserved for that special someone

Dating Decoded

We teach our students the shortcut to finding their ideal match by MegaDating. MegaDating is our dating philosophy and it shapes everything we teach here at emlovz.

Simply put MegaDating is dating prolifically with the specific goal of going on 20 dates in 90 days. This will give you ample potential partners to compare and contrast so you can refine not only your dating skills but also who your ideal partner is.

To teach you how to quickly find a highly compatible partner in just weeks and become the most eligible single in town you’ll team up with romantic experts, each skilled in their own unique area to support you.

Our Team

• Emyli (me), co-founder, curriculum developer, head coach, and I host coaching sessions every week
• Thomas, co-founder, and coach. He’ll lead the biweekly Man Cave event where men come together to talk dating, bond with one another, and support other single men
• Cat, Brooke, and Audrey are mock date specialists for men. Go on a practice date with them (and receive feedback) before your next date
• Darshil is our mock date coach for women. Go on a practice date with them (and receive feedback) before your next date
• Hailey is your new stylist. She’s worked with celebs from every industry and is now about to raid your closet
• Tilly is our holistic sex & intimacy coach. She’ll help you get the most out of your sex life so you and your partner are happier between the sheets
• Aundrea is an award-winning fitness coach. Are you ready to eat right and get fit?
• Mia is our social media expert. Revamp your Facebook and Instagram profiles with her help and start meeting singles online

Our Community

And look, we realize that the single life can be difficult. If accepted into our coaching program, Dating Decoded, you’d be joining a community of supportive singles and coaches who are there to listen, support, and encourage you as you navigate the single life.

Our program offers every student a lifetime membership (as if you’ll need it) so the support won’t stop until you’ve found your ideal partner.

If you’re ready to find your forever partner, book a Zoom session with our team today. Together we’ll talk about your dating history, your goals and show you how our program, Dating Decoded, can help you find your ideal partner.
Learn how our students have already improved their dating lives.