If Shakespeare were a 21st-century single man, he’d woo his women via text.
As Americans have shifted away from letter writing and then calling, texting has become the preferred medium of lovebirds everywhere.
It’s texts that we answer at 1 a.m. and after a first date or while on the toilet, while in the park, and yes if you’re that guy, even at the movie theater.
The ubiquitous acceptance of text messages as the preferred conversational medium requires that we all know how to pen a quality text message. But for some people, courting a woman through text is just a bit odd.
In this article we’ll breakdown 50 texts that will make her want you. We’ll explore why each text works and show you how to construct awesome texts of your own.
It’s time to crack those knuckles and get to texting.
As a rule of thumb, texts should almost always work towards creating feelings of comfort, raising your value, or building a bond. This means that explicitly sexual texts are almost always a no-go.
Never text her asking if she’s “DTF” or anything that comments on her looks. Especially during the early stages of a relationship, each text should be the antithesis of creepy. One wrong misstep in a fledgling relationship could result in being ghosted.
Right after you’ve secured her phone number from a dating app, it’s best to shoot her a quick message before segueing into a TDL. Make sure the first message is light and won’t spark an in-depth conversation. The point of texting her like this is simply to ensure that you have the right phone number.
If you got her number outside of a dating app, shoot her a text reiterating how great of a time you had with her. Being transparent with your emotions -without coming off too strong– encourages her to do the same and help accelerate the forming of a bond.
Women deserve being asked out on concrete dates. A concrete date idea is one that’s been finely chiseled and refined enough to the point where she can envision doing it with you. The opposite of a TDL is, “hey wanna go out sometime?” She might say yes to the latter, but that doesn’t mean she’ll ever actually go on a date with you. Use a TDL whenever asking a woman out. Creating a compelling TDL is definitely a text that makes her want you.
The time, date, and location have all be clearly defined. 12 p.m., this Sunday, at Lucky Strike. This isn’t some nebulous date idea that she can’t wrap her mind around. Asking a woman out with a TDL shows her that you put effort into creating an awesome date idea. She’ll take note of your effort and most likely will respond in the affirmative.
The date activity should be one that both of you are into. It doesn’t matter if running isn’t a standard first date, it’s what you two are into and it adheres to the MegaDating guidelines. Commonality texts like this will slowly make her want you in more a physical way.
Before the day of the date, shoot her a text to confirm that you two are still on.
This text is both slightly cocky and shows her that you’re excited to see her tomorrow. It also works to confirm that date.
Nothing fancy here, just a man wanting to make sure that his date is reminded of the awesome running date they have planned for tomorrow.
A TDL should be made as soon as one date ends. If you didn’t ask her out in person you must do so via text. Use a TDL for the first three dates.
If you’re dating according to MegaDating rules, you only spent around 1 hour with her on your first date. While it’s not a lot of time it should be enough to have learned more about her. Use what you’ve learned to craft a compelling second date TDL.
You never want to get sucked into a convo via text, especially not early on in a relationship. Doing so will kill what little mystery you’ve been able to generate and leave you bereft of things to talk about when on the actual date. A little message like this will create a positive association and will remind her of the date to come.
Playfully reminding her that you’re going to exact your revenge is the perfect way to set the tone for a flirty and competitive date.
Again, TDLs should be used on first, second, and third dates.
Third dates should be planned near your house, take place at night, and ideally are fancy. It’s on a third date that you can reasonably expect to have intercourse.
It doesn’t matter if it’s the first, second, or third date, you should always check in with a woman before a date takes place.
At this stage of the relationship, you two have already been intimate. Only send this text if you’re confident things are heating up and that you’re headed towards a serious relationship.
This shows that you’re thinking of her late at night. Sure it’s dorky but also cute.
Only message this if you’re sure of your dynamic. Swapping gender roles could be a funny and accelerate your bond.
A little humor can go a long way… or at least longer than dick pics can. This is a solid message for the sub 25 year olds reading this article.
She won’t want to explicitly ask the man she just started seeing over for sex. Your cute line here allows her to veil her true intentions.
Once you’ve had your three dates and are aware of the dynamic, you can allow yourself to send more risque texts such as this one that’ll make her want you in just a few short hours.
This one’s perfect for a relationship that is serious or is on a path towards monogamy.
Planning on taking your relationship to the next level? This text will help you do just that.
A little midday reminder that she’s awesome during the early stages of your relationship is always a good call. Don’t send this message until you’re monogamous.
This is the perfect pre-relationship text. I mean who doesn’t want an Office snuggle buddy?
Self-effacing humor is a great way to let your guard down, show her you care, and are willing to be the butt of a joke. Careful though, this is the type of text that one should only send after the relationship is in full swing.
Really though if she’s taking public transportation home late at night, it’s always a good idea to check it. Letting her know that your deciding to use the last bit of phone juice you have to do that isn’t a bad way to signal your interest either.
Change things up man. If you’re not willing to throw in a curveball every once in a while she’ll find someone else who will. Always keep things fresh.
This is a killer date idea. And I don’t mean killer in the sense that she just has really bad aim and may use your neck as a target.
You could just text her, “I’m thinking of you,” but that’s lame as hell and nearly merits a breakup.
It’s so on. Passwords, speakeasy, and secrets. That’s every woman’s dream combination.
This the perfect segue into planning your next date.
Even those cheek muscles need a break every now and again.
Sometimes three isn’t a crowd.
Fact: No woman will ever turn down bottomless mimosas.
Now that’s true love right there.
Randomly messaging to say that you’re nostalgic for bygone days is certainly a text that will make her want you.
“Mistakenly” send this to your girlfriend. She’ll glow knowing that you’re boasting about her to your friends.
From my soul to another, you’re awesome. Sure it’s cheesy, but it’s also true.
When she asks you if you got home safely, respond by telling her that you’re missing that someone special.
So far we’ve supplied you with 40 texts that make her want you. To best understand what is and isn’t a worthy text we’d be remiss if we didn’t illuminate which messages are at the other end of the texting spectrum.
At not stage of your relationship should you slip her a salacious and out of the blue, “you’re sexy” message. As a rule of thumb, messages that contain less than 2 words in them should not be sent.
Not all texts are bad texts for all people. For example, a 13-year-old who’s just fallen in love for the first time can be forgiven for sending out a cliche line such as this one. But a woman that’s in her 30s is deserving of a bit more originality and eloquence.
Not only is it cliche but it’s kind of pathetic. Sure we might all feel this way for a limited time during the honeymoon stage of the relationship, but if this feeling isn’t 100% reciprocated, you’ll come off as a bit of a creep.
Again, one-off messages that contain no more than 3 words aren’t worthy. Keep your finger off that send button.
If this is the case you might consider getting some friends, or MegaDating. It’s great and all that you love this woman but relying on any one person for all your social and emotional needs is dangerous.
Even in the midst of an emotive text exchange, this is an emotion best held on to and expressed in person.
Only while having an elaborate conversation about her body can this text be slipped in. It’s over the top dorky and ideally is read with the understanding that it’s over the top emotionally.
There are just some sentimental lines that aren’t meant to be crossed.
How about you just message to hang out with her tomorrow, in person, like a normal male in heat.
Umm… what? She doesn’t want to be woken up in the middle of the night to fulfill your sexual desires. Save the lovemaking for the real world.
Penning texts that make her want you sometimes requires writing two or three drafts before creating the perfect text. If you’re having trouble with texting, creating a killer first date, have goals this year like getting into a relationship in 90 days, feel free and book a 1-on-1 New Client Zoom Strategy Session with yours truly.
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