Men can be a bit all over the place. This is especially the case when you just started dating them.

Their feelings are mercurial, they’re not sure how they feel, and even if they are sure, they don’t know how to behave.

To ascertain how to know if a guy really likes you we’ve identified 8 ways that he’ll make it fairly obvious that he’s into you.

How To Know If A Guy Really Likes You

There is no one single way to know if a guy really likes you – that is apart from him getting down on one knee and sliding an expensive loop around your finger.

Apart from that there is no single act that should convince you of his interest.

Having said that the more of the signs you see below, the more convinced you can be that he’s into you.

1) Invites You On Real Dates

A real date is one that requires a little bit of thought and consideration to put together.

It also means he asked you out using a TDL (time, date, location) as opposed to saying, hey, want to get together sometime?

The opposite of this is inviting you to a Netflix and Chill session or texting you at 9 pm on a Friday to grab a drink.

A real date doesn’t have to mean going to a fancy restaurant or any restaurant for that matter. If it’s the first date don’t expect him to pull out all the stops. Chances are you two met online and are virtual strangers. You probably would feel a little weird if this guy you don’t know wanted to whisk you away on a five-hour first date.

Expect the dates to get progressively more in-depth, interesting, and probably pricier the more you two date.

2) Introduces You To His Friends And Family

This is a telltale sign you know it’s real.

He’s only going to introduce a woman he’s serious about to the people he loves and values most in this world.

After you two have been dating for a few weeks or months, this is the next step in your relationship.

First he’ll invite you to meet his friends, then you’re off to a Sunday dinner to meet the family.

You can rest easy knowing that he likes you when you get the invite to hang out with his innermost social circle.

3) Goes Out Of Their Way For You

Is he doing the bare minimum, or is he making it a point to go out of his way for you?

If it’s the latter, it’s because he cares about you.

Some ways he might go out of the way to be there for you include:

• Driving you home or picking you up
• Dropping something off at work
• Making a super special date
• Orders you late night food
• Pays for small things
• Brings you tiny gifts every once in a while (watch out for love bombing)
• Run chores for you
• He does something you like, but he isn’t big on (e.g., listens to your music, watches a chick-flick, attends your friend’s birthday party)
• Cooks you dinner
• Brings up a topic that you slightly discussed on a previous date

Every man will show his affection for you in his own way. Be on the lookout for unique ways that he shows he cares.

4) Waits Until Date #3 to Have Physical Intimacy

This isn’t a blanket rule.

Some men may move faster than others yet will value you and respect you just as much as one who waits to make a move.

That being said, if a guy really likes you and knows from early on that he wants a long-term relationship with you, there’s a good chance he’ll wait to heat things up.

He knows there’s a reason to jump into things. Not only this, but he’s probably nervous about making a move. When a guy likes a woman beyond her looks, he’ll be more careful about how he touches her, when he decides to kiss her, and the words he chooses around her.

Plain and simple, he doesn’t want to mess things up.

Jumping the gun could put the relationship in jeopardy. So he waits, plotting out his next moving and building attraction until the time is right.

If he comes off as aggressive, it means he’s into you, but he probably sees you more as a booty call than girlfriend material.

Pro Tip: After teaching men how to find love for 12+ years, waiting until the 3rd date to have sex is a strong signal that you’re girlfriend material to him.

5) Invites You On A Tiny Trip

This could be an all-day trip outside the city or a mini getaway.

Whatever the case may be, he feels comfortable spending large amounts of time with you.

This is a good sign.

If he wasn’t sure how he felt he’d only ever invite you out for drinks, to the movies, or to his apartment.

Conversely, if his outings exclusively involve taking you out of town, it might indicate that he’s involved with someone else locally.

6) Adds Pics of You Together on Social Media

This is considered a hard relationship launch.

When he’s posting about you on his socials (and you’re the only female he posts pictures with) it’s a clear sign that he’s trying to claim you.

He’s broadcasting to the world just how happy he is to be with you.

Now you just need to decide if you two are in the same boat. Is it okay that he feels this comfortable to post about you or does it make you feel odd that you’re not on the same page as him.

If it’s weird that he’s posting pictures yet you’re still dating other guys, it may be time to have a relationship checkup. This is when you two lay your cards on the table and are honest about your feelings and the future you two do or don’t want together. A relationship checkup isn’t a bad sign, but simply a sign that both parties care about the relationship enough to understand how the other feels about it.

If you two didn’t value the relationship, you wouldn’t have a sit-down talk to gauge where you two are at.

7) Reaches Out Even When He’s Away

Out of sight out of mind – not so much.

When we have the hots for someone, they’re the first person we think about when we wake and the last person we imagine before going to sleep.

So naturally, he’s going to text you sweet nothings when he’s at work, on a business trip, or when you two have zero dates lined up in the near future.

He reaches out because of all the other humans traveling on this rock; he likes you the most.

With all of that said, if he’s communicating too much with you, it could be a red flag (controlling, love bombing).

8) He’s Vulnerable With You

We’re only vulnerable with the people we’re most comfortable with.

There’s a reason we don’t go around divulging secrets to strangers.

He wants you to know him on a deeper level and vice versa.

That’s why he’s telling you about his fears, goals, and more vulnerable past.

You’ll really know that he’s into you when he asks you questions about your past and wants you to open up.

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