What’s love without trust?
Trust and communication are two things that are integral to building a healthy foundation in a relationship. For this reason (along with many others), you can’t have love without trust. Trying to have love without trust is like building a house on sand. The foundation of your relationship will always be on shaky ground. Thus, any relationship that lacks trust eventually crumbles.
Below are seven specific reasons you can’t have love without trust.
Reason #1: Jealousy Will Rear its Ugly Head
You know that jealousy is detrimental to a romantic relationship. And no one wants to be considered “the jealous type.” But when you’re attempting love without trust, feelings of jealousy will eventually bubble to the surface.
Even if the person you’re with doesn’t have a history of cheating, the fact that you can’t trust them will make you question everything.
A friend of mine once disclosed to me that she was experiencing uncharacteristic jealousy in a relationship. She always tended to be easygoing and understanding in relationships. Moreover, she wasn’t the jealous type.
But there wasn’t trust in a relationship. The guy had commitment issues and it was hard to trust anything the person did when it always seemed like he had one foot out the door. Jealousy is an extremely uncomfortable feeling that can leave your self-esteem in shambles and sap your energy as you ruminate over the state of your relationship.
If you don’t trust the person you’re with, you shouldn’t be with them.
Reason #2: It’s Lonelier Than Being Single
Trying to accomplish love without trust leaves you lonelier than if you were single. This is because being in a relationship with someone who shuts you out or lies to you leaves you feeling betrayed and alone. You have to constantly be on edge. When you date someone you don’t trust, you’ll never stop wondering if they’re going to leave.
Reason #3: The Relationship Can’t Grow
When you trust someone, you are able to face challenges together with confidence. You can rely on this person and feel comfortable opening up to them. Hard times aren’t going to shatter your relationship when you have trust and loyalty.
However, when you don’t trust the person you’re with you won’t want to face challenges with them. And even if you do, you’ll constantly be questioning their loyalty or ability to stick with you through thick and thin.
Reason #4: You Can’t Be Vulnerable
When you love someone, you should be able to be vulnerable around them. Furthermore, vulnerability is important in relationships. It helps you deepen your connection and grow both as a couple and individually.
But you have to trust someone in order to be vulnerable around them. And if you can’t be vulnerable, things are kept at a superficial level. It prevents you from truly getting to know someone, mind, body, and soul. This is one of the most important reasons why love without trust is not love at all!
Reason #5: It Can Make You Shut Down
If someone breaks your trust or if there was never much trust to begin with, it hurts. Whether it’s through lies, a betrayal or stealing, broken trust can make you shut down and close yourself off from love.
Conversely, being with someone you can trust with your whole heart leaves you confident, open and satisfied in your relationship.
Reason #6: Communication Deteriorates
You also can’t communicate effectively if you don’t trust the person you love.
When you trust someone, it’s easier to be open with them and work through issues. But when you don’t trust the person you’re with, it prevents you from communicating. You may fear that they’ll judge you, become angry or even disclose personal secrets to other people.
As I said, trust and communication are two of the most important components in a healthy relationship. When you don’t have trust, you’re unable to communicate. Therefore, it’s impossible to truly find love with that person.
Reason #7: You Don’t Really Know the Person
If you don’t trust someone, how well do you really know them? Someone who isn’t trustworthy is someone who is not showing you their authentic self. Therefore, even when times are good and you feel like you’re in love, how can you really know that the person you love is genuine?
My friend who experienced uncharacteristic jealousy in a relationship also discovered that she couldn’t be sure if she ever really loved him after exiting the relationship. The man in question was verbally and emotionally abusive as the relationship progressed and she discovered that he had been lying about different things.
By the end of the relationship, she realized that the love she thought she felt couldn’t be true. When someone breaks trust by being manipulative or abusive, you constantly question if the person you feel affection for is genuine or just an act.
Finding Someone You Can Trust
We’ve all suffered heartache and dealt with relationships where our trust was broken. When someone is dishonest with you or betrays you, it can feel completely debilitating. You may even carry these trust issues to your next relationship.
But you don’t have to settle for a relationship you’re unsure of, where trust issues rear their ugly head. Everyone deserves love and is capable of finding a compatible partner they trust.
What is MegaDating?
MegaDating is a dating strategy that involves going on dates with several women at the same time in order to diffuse energy and keep your social calendar full.
When you MegaDate, you avoid settling for the mediocre and getting hung up on “the one.” A lot of times, people end up in relationships where there is a lack of trust because they haven’t been given the opportunity to see just how many options are available in the dating world. They meet someone they like, jump into a relationship and later on discover that this person isn’t who they thought they were.
MegaDating helps you avoid rushing a relationship because you’re going to want to hold off on becoming exclusive until you find your perfect match. And having options means you get to be way more selective.
Wondering where you can possibly find enough dates to actually MegaDate properly? Check out the below articles for more information:
- Top Free Dating Sites and Apps
- Where to Meet Women Other Than Bars
- How to Get More Matches on Bumble
- How to Get More Matches on Hinge
- How to Get an eHarmony Free Trial
Love without Trust Wrap-up: Want to Learn More?
I used MegaDating as my main strategy during my 100-date experiment. It helped me find love with someone I trust completely and it can help you find the same. If you’re ready to get started on a healthy path to love, head over to my calendar and book a new client 1-on-1 Skype session with me today.
During our session, we will diagnose your dating history, create an action plan to help you overcome your dating obstacles, and see if my 3-month coaching program is right for you.