7 Hinge Hacks For Guys Who Want More Dates

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It’s fair to say that we’ve reached dating app saturation.

It seems like every few months another company claims to have invented a novel dating app that aims to knock Tinder off the top of the totem pole. This upstart app will claim better algorithms, a less shallow user base, and a sleeker design. Despite the claims, what you typically wind up using is Tinder 2.0. Romance apps keep being the culprits of major pitfalls. Yet there is one application that seems to have broken the dating app paradigm.

Hinge sounds more like a DIY house maintenance app than the next big thing in online dating. Despite the name, Hinge seems to be the only romantic application that isn’t designed to get you addicted. While apps like Tinder and Bumble turn profiles into game cards designed to keep you swiping, Hinge takes a different approach.

As the company’s catchphrase boasts, Hinge is the application “designed to be deleted.” Unlike Tinder’s radioactive dating pool that allows anyone to take a dip, Hinge screens potential suitors before they enter your pool. The 2012 founded app puts a modern spin on an old school approach to dating. According to a 2015 survey of more than 2,000 participants ages 18-34, a whopping 38.6% said they met their significant other through friends in common. The chief method of meeting our significant others doesn’t seem to have changed throughout the years despite the rush towards finding love through dating applications.

Hinge has harnessed the power of this old-school approach but has turbo-charged it by using it to inform how their app functions. This nascent dating app only connects you with users that are friends of your Facebook friends (up to three acquaintances away). The company says that by only interacting with friends of friends, you’re not meeting completely random people. Linking your account to Facebook users are able to screen romantic candidates.

Hinge is a favorite of my clients. It’s less superficial than other dating apps, attempts to curb ghosting, screen potential romantic suitors, and was even used by Democratic presidential candidate, Mayor Pete Buttigieg met his husband. It’s for these reasons that we’ve created a male test account in the attempt to uncover useful Hinge hacks that will make you stand out. Here are the seven most useful Hinge hacks for guys that we’ve found thus far.

7 Hinge Hacks for Guys

1. Comment On Her Instagram Photos

Hinge users have the option to link their IG account. When given the opportunity external applications should always be linked to dating applications. Whether it be Spotify, Twitter, or IG, giving other users more info about you is always a good idea.

A linked IG account will appear at the bottom of her profile. Commenting on an Instagram photo of hers is a good decision for a few reasons. It shows that you’ve taken more than a perfunctory scan of her profile. To scroll all the way to the bottom of her profile and proceed to comb through her Insta indicates interest. In the app culture where most men swipe before even looking at a second photo or reading a bio, showing that you took time to check out her profile can be flattering. She’ll take note of your interest and be more likely to respond.

Commenting on an IG photo lends itself to crafting a better message. A message will only ever be as good as the content it touches on. Perhaps her Hinge profile is saturated with dog photos, but you’re a cat person.

That doesn’t give you much to work with. But when you snoop around her IG you see that she too is an avid hiker and has recently trekked one of your preferred mountains. More content means a greater likelihood that you’ll e able to find a connection.

2. Comment On Her Family Photos

Naturally, the feral beast inside of you is more likely to comment on a bikini shot than a family portrait. If you weren’t aware already, she’s inundated with gross compliments about her body on a daily basis. The way to stand out amongst the group of wild hyenas isn’t to comment on a body part that others have overlooked, say her collarbone or toes.

Online dating 101; never comment on her body. It’s been done before. She wasn’t a fan of it the first time, that sentiment hasn’t changed after 178 other messages from strangers complimenting her body.

Be the guy that stands out by acting out in a way that’ll land you on the opposite end of the spectrum. Strike up a conversation by commenting on a family photo. Take a look at the below example from our test user:

A man inquires about outings with the family, a child lasciviously ogles from afar. You don’t need to kick-start the conversation by dialoguing about wholesome family values; this isn’t Farmers Dating for christ sake. Most likely the family photo is one taken on vacation or during the holidays. Ask her where her family traveled to or find a commonality that you two can vibe on. If she doesn’t have a family shot in her bio, scroll down and peruse her IG.

3. After She Matches With You, Offer Up A Fun Fact

There are a few ways you can connect with people via Hinge. The most popular ways involve commenting on someone’s profile, liking photos, and matching. Matching is the most common way that two people connect. However, matching is only an indication that there’s an inkling of interest between two parties. To turn that barely lit flame into more than just embers you’ll have to pen a quality opening message. Interesting facts are great ways to begin a conversation. Don’t believe me? Let’s have a look at the examples below to illustrate my point.

 

Don’t send her any random factoid. Have her profile influence which fact you’re going to send her. Having the conversation revolve around her dog as the comment above does, is an ideal first message. Send her a fact that works as a segue into a conversation.

It would have been all too easy for the user above to compliment his new match’s appearance. It’s clear the woman’s gorgeous, but what’s also evident is that she’s constantly receiving messages about her looks. Stop yourself before you send her a cliche message that’s a carbon copy of every message she’s received this week.

The fact above works because it indicates that the two frequent the same place. This shows her that the user is a man of good taste. It doesn’t hurt that the fact is unique and one she surely wasn’t’ already aware of. For more help on this topic, check out my other article on How to Comment on Hinge.

4. Once She Replies, Lay Down A Solid TDL

The point of using a dating application is to meet eligible suitors in person. Dating apps like Hinge aren’t made so that users can collect matches like trophies and boast about how they have more matches than their buddies. Online dating apps have the ultimate goal of getting two people to meet in person. Once this happens the app can remain unopened. There is no point in treating a match like a pen pal. Don’t get stuck playing conversational ping-pong. Navigate the conversation towards a TDL. A TDL or time, date, location, is a method of asking a woman out on a date.

Once a few jokes have been made it’s time to offer up a TDL before you get stub in digital quicksand. A TDL is used because, well, let me demonstrate.

Which message is most likely to a date?

A: “Hey Cheryl, want to hang out sometime?”

B: “Hey Cheryl! Considering that we’re both unabashed lovers of people watching, would you want to team up at 2 p.m. this Sunday, at Slurs Park so that we watch some unsuspecting park-goers? I’ll bring the snacks and binoculars.”

The second message is a TDL and is much more likely to receive a concrete yes or no than a half-hearted request to hang out sometime in the future.

5. What If She Doesn’t Reply For A Few Hours Or Days?

No need to get discouraged if she doesn’t reply to your message within a couple hours. Think of all the messages you get from women on dating apps. Now multiply that number by 37. Women are inundated with notifications from dating applications, which is why many of them turn off notifications.

If she messages you immediately back, keep the convo going until you can snag a number or ask her out with a TDL. If she takes a couple of hours or days to message you back, it’s likely that she only checks Hinge one a day.

Have a look at her timestamp. You’ll be able to see when she last messaged you. If it was at 5:30 that her last message was sent, message her at 5:15 the next day. That way you’ll be at the top of the queue when she logs back in. You can take a note from her as well and turn off notifications. Reduce the time you spend on dating apps will keep you sane and your priorities in check.

6. What If You’re Not Getting Likes Or Matches?

Even though Hinge is lauded for being the least superficial of the most popular dating apps, it’s users are still human. Naturally, users will gravitate towards pretty pictures. Online daters place a great amount of importance on the looks of other users. If your picture game isn’t on point, you won’t be getting many matches. So how do you remedy this?

You can ask a female friend to change up your photos for you or send out a couple of photos to a few friends and ask them to pick the most attractive one. You can even go so far as to have strangers on Photofeeler.com to rate photos for you. But what are you to do if none of your photos are Hinge-worthy?

Should you not have a pile of profile-worthy photos, there’s only one way to get some. You could ask your buddy to snap a few shots of you at the park, but your buddy’s been the one responsible for taking photos of you these last few years, and as you’ve seen, they’re not up to snuff. If you really want to kick ass when it comes to online dating you’ll want to call in the professional.

Comb through your city for a photographer that specializes in online dating pictures. If you’re in the San Francisco area, I’d recommend Jessica Ruscello. No matter what dating apps tell you, each and everyone is superficial. Quality photos mean securing quality matches.

7. Have A 360-Degree Dating Strategy

Don’t throw all your eggs in one basket. Hinge is great and all but to get the most out of online dating you should be using at least 5 dating apps in all. Even online dating has its limits. Meet people the old fashioned way. Mingle at a friend’s barbecue, join a Meetup, ask your friends to introduce you to their single friends, sign up for a cooking class etc. Never limit yourself or feel complacent by tapping into just one social channel.

If you are serious about your romantic pursuit, there’s only one option that is bound to get you results. It’s by MegaDating and hiring emlovz as your matchmaker, coach, or both! 

Bumble Premium vs Bumble Boost

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Bumble isn’t your mother’s dating app.

It’s not Match.com or eHarmony, where once the platform has been created it rarely sees any change.

Bumble — like the dating landscape — is in constant flux.

Launched in 2014, Bumble was a feminist’s answer to the seedy environment found on Tinder. It looked, felt, and swiped just about the same with a few key differences that gave ladies the upper hand when chatting it up. But a dating app built for and designed by women wasn’t enough for found Whitney Wolfe and her squad.

Soon Bumble created Bumble BFF to help foster friendships and Bumble Bizz to generate professional connections.

Notably, Bumble is also one of the few apps to attempt to bridge the gap between online and IRL romance. Bumble Hive is an in-person interactive experience that brings together those looking to make friends, professional contacts, and of course, romantic connections.

Continuing to adhere to its company value of never settling, Bumble has recently launched Bumble Premium.

Bumble Premium is basically an upgraded version of the Bumble Boost Lifetime membership.

Let’s dig into the details to learn more about Bumble’s newest offering and why (or why not) you should swipe right.

Bumble Premium vs Bumble Boost

What Was Included In The Old Lifetime Boost Membership

Out with the old and in with the new and sexy.

Like you, Bumble knows its worth and realizes when it needs to upgrade.

The Lifetime Boost Membership was great and all but Bumble realized it could do better, so it moved on. But to understand the advancements Bumble has made we first need to look back at what it left behind.

To be fair, the Lifetime Boost Membership was already pretty dope.

It included unlimited swiping, advanced filters, the Beeline, and unlimited match extends.

We profiled the membership earlier this year and gave it a thumbs up.

Despite its good marks, Bumble still wanted to change things up. That brings us to Bumble Premium.

What’s Included In Bumble Premium?

For the most part, Bumble Premium and the Lifetime Boost Membership share some of the same features.

These features are all the same:

  • Unlimited Swiping
  • Advanced Filters
  • Unlimited Match Extends
  • The Beeline

Already Premium is off to a good start.

However, there are also three new services that Bumble adds to this bundle.

They are:

  • Spotlight
  • Travel
  • 5 Super Swipes

Spotlight functions in much the way Tinder’s Boost feature does.

Once activated your profile will be shuffled to the top of the deck of profiles. That means that once a new user signs on, it’s just about a guarantee that your profile will be viewed. In densely populated cities, using the Spotlight feature might be the only way your profile will be seen.

You’ll only be offered the Spotlight option once a month. With that in mind you’ll want to use it when the highest amount of users are online… so when is that exactly?

The Bumblebee cupids have researched this very quandary and have concluded that Sunday between the hours of 8pm and 10pm is the best time to use it. It’s right in that sweet time slot between when users have already binged 3 episodes of The Office and are ready for just one more distraction before the weekend is over.

That’s where you come in.

But Spotlight isn’t the only feature Bumble Premium offers.

Users also have access to Bumble Travel. This feature is a relatively new one for Bumble only having created it this year. While it might be a little late — Tinder Passport came out years ago — it couldn’t be more timely.

As expected enabling Bumble Travel means changing your location so you can swipe anywhere in the world. Want to skip off to Paris for lunch, cool. Milan for dinner, no worries. Or how about spending the weekend in Brussels. Your dating pool just got a whole lot deeper with the help of Bumble Travel.

It can be tempting to virtual jet set around the world, swiping right and chatting with foreign women. Here’s the thing, if you don’t actually intend on ever going to these places, there’s little point in swiping in them. Unless of course, you’re using Bumble to meet pen pals in which case go ahead.

Only use this feature when you intend on going to the city you’re swiping in. Use it before moving, going on vacation, or before a business trip.

The last feature that really sets Bumble Premium apart from the Lifetime Boost Membership is the 5 Super Swipes.

You receive 5 of these swipes a week. A Super Swipe is akin to Tinder’s Super Like feature.

You can use this feature when swiping. When viewing a profile, click on the heart-shaped icon to use a Super Swipe.

When the user you super swiped on sees your profile come up, a colorful ring will appear around your profile that indicates you’ve Super Swiped that user. Using this feature increases the odds that he or she will swipe right on your profile. Both Bumble and Tinder have offered data showing that this is the case. However, you shouldn’t use your Super Swipe on just any person.

Be realistic.

A Super Swipe increases your chances of a match, but it isn’t a magic genie. If you’re a female, use it on someone that’s out of your league. If you’re a guy, use it on someone that might just be slightly out of your league. We all know that women — pretty much regardless of how beautiful they appear in the profile — receive an abundance of likes from men that otherwise would be out of their league. Being that they can seemingly date 90% of the men on the app, guys need to try a bit harder and be a bit more strategic with how they dole out their Super Swipes.

While these features separate Bumble Premium from the Bumble of old, the upgrades beg the question of whether or not it’s worth purchasing?

Is Bumble Premium Worth It?

As a user-controlled inexpensive solution, absolutely.

To be clear, Bumble Premium costs $50 more than the Lifetime Boost Membership. The total comes to $199.

For a lifetime membership, this is a pretty solid deal. Let’s just hope you don’t need to use it for the entirety of your existence.

Remember that each of the new features offered in Bumble Premium can be used without the use of Bumble Premium. However, they come with a cost.

To use Bumble Travel for just seven days you’ll have to cough up $8. A single Spotlight costs almost $3 depending on the package of coins you purchase. A Bumble Super Swipe costs $2. These prices don’t include unlimited swiping, advanced filters, access to the Beeline, or any of the other features you get when you use Bumble Premium.

However, Bumble Premium is only worth it if you use the app in the way it’s meant to be used. Many a user will swipe while on the toilet to kill time or late at night when they’re in need of a confidence boost.

Don’t be that person.

Use the app as a dating app. Don’t just let matches collect like trophies and refuse to strike up a conversation.

50% of Tinder users have never met up with a match, and while that percentage is probably slightly lower for Bumble users, it can’t be by much.

Swipe around, start a convo, and use a TDL within 10 or so exchanges. Your goal is to transition the dynamic from one’s that’s exclusively virtual to one IRL as quickly as possible.

If you’re in a rural area, where you pretty much know everyone within a 100-mile radius, then Bumble Premium probably isn’t for you. If on the other hand you’re in a densely populated area and are ready to meet people you match with in the real world, then yes, Bumble Premium is made for you.

It is after all a dating app… so use it like one.

Do Previous Lifetime Boost Members Get Premium Free of Charge?

Yes they do!

I’ve read in another article there may have been a glitch when Bumble converted the lifetime users to premium. If there’s an error with your profile simply message Bumble via their FB page – they get back to you really quickly.

Is Bumble Premium a Complete Solution?

No.

No dating app can magically find you love. A dating app is nothing more than a tool. If I handed you (a novice tennis player) a tennis racket and asked you to hit an ace you probably couldn’t. There’s little use in having a tool at your disposal if you don’t know how to use it, or refuse to use it.

If the problem is being romantically alone, Bumble’s premium service might not be the complete solution.

A complete solution is a bit more hands-on.

It involves a bit more coaching and matchmaking.

But o where, o where could you possibly find a service as comprehensive as this one?

Yes, of course, we were going to pitch our own services. Look, it’s not that we’re cocky, we’re just really good at turning you into a dating pro.

With emlovz, you have coaches and matchmakers on your team. Instead of logging into an app whenever you have a romantic need that needs satisfying, you can instead consult with the experts.

So how exactly do we go about finding you love?

For our coaching clients, we teach you how to date.

Look, there’s no reason in setting you up with the date of your dreams if you’re a lousy date. Before sending you up to the plate, we first need to teach you how to swing a bat.

We do this by offering 12 sessions over the course of a 12-week span. You’ll have the option of taking these weekly sessions alone or in a group of 6-12 other singles in your exact same position. Throughout the course, you’ll learn the skills needed to become a master dater. We’ll teach you how to create a compelling online profile, how to effectively create first, second, and third date, how to MegaDate, and of course how to mine for dates are your own.

If you’re too busy to look for dates on your own, we also offer matchmaking services.

When our matchmakers set you up on dates (with super compatible matches btw), we’re not picking a name out of a hat like other matchmakers. Instead, our team of love recruiters comb through our database and just about every social media site in your city on hunt for potential matches that you’re compatible with — according to the preferences you’ve provided.

Our matchmakers vet and interview every possible match just for you — only setting you up with the most qualified matches. You’ll get a 50 minute onboarding session with your matchmaker, pre/post date coaching for each date, email/text reminders so you stay on track, and a few other goodies.

Look, Bumble Premium is great and all, but alone, it may not be enough to find you a partner. You may need that little extra help to ignite your love life.

That’s where we come in.

Get started now by booking a New Client Session with me or one of my coaches today to learn more about how we can turn your dating fortunes around. Together we’ll create a tailor-made dating plan aimed at fulfilling all your dating goals.