Is the man you’re dating slowly moving away?

Are you being breadcrumbed, orbited, gaslit, ghosted, or one of the many other negative trends that we see in modern dating?

It seems like men today prefer being serial daters to settling down, but that’s not true. According to Pew Research, the majority of men want to date seriously, but it’s true that many are distracted by the seemingly endless supply of women they walk or swipe by on a daily basis.

But knowing that men want to shack up and convincing a man to do so are two different things – so what to do if he pulls away?

What To Do If He Pulls Away?

If you’re into this guy your initial reaction is going to be to go after him. When people we are attracted to begin to distance themselves instinctively, we’ll chase. Making your desire to see him known once is fine. Maybe he distanced himself because he thought you weren’t into him or he was just busy.

But if he clearly isn’t reciprocating the way you want him to, it’s time to implement plan B, MegaDating.

What Is MegaDating?

MegaDating is the process of dating multiple men at the same time.

Of course, you’re not just dating around for the hell of it or to make the guy who is pulling away jealous – that’s not the point at all.

Dating men simultaneously is the best way to quickly find your most compatible partner. Dating a large sample size of men quickly exposes you to a variety of new personalities, boosts your confidence, refines your dating skills, mitigates your desire to settle for anyone better than the best, and will quickly help you move on from men who aren’t into you the same way you’re into them.

To be clear, I’m not saying you should ditch this guy and start MegaDating, not at all.

Should this man show you that he’s into you, accept his date request (if that’s still what you want). MegaDating is simply a way to help you find the best possible man in your dating pool. Instead of getting hung up on a man who maybe isn’t right for you, dating with intention and at a rapid pace is the only way you should go about dating.

It’s all about the process.

You’re A Love Scientist

It’s time to get a bit more systematic about how you date.

Let me take a guess at how you date right now.

Chances are you wait around for Mr. Right to come along. You wait for men to approach and if you’re feeling him you give him your number.

This approach to dating isn’t bad, it could just be optimized.

We teach students a systematic approach developed when our co-founder Emyli went on 100 dates in a year. During this time, she became a conscious observer of everything that took place before, during, and after a date. She made notes, optimized her approach, became aware of what she wanted in a man, compared and contrasted, and turned love into an experiment rather than a whimsical process (which ultimately ended when we met).

To be an effective MegaDater you have to know who you want and be willing to adapt.

Know Who You Want

MegaDating is like walking into an ice cream shop and sampling every flavor.

But naturally, sampling every flavor can get a bit overwhelming, and most people would opt against doing so.

It’s important that before you embark on this dating odyssey, you have an idea of the type of man you’re into. Maybe it’s crucial that you find a man who wants to cook with you and shares your faith. Or maybe you want a guy who is into fitness, wants a big family, and is cool to stay on Saturday nights.

Having an idea prior to meeting all these new people will keep you focused on meeting the man you’re most compatible with. That being said, your idea of the ideal partner will probably change as you date.

The beauty of MegaDating is that you’ll meet new personalities and people that you’ve never been exposed to before. As you date more and more, that sample size will grow, and you’ll be able to refine your type.

In this way you’ll find not just a partner, but your ideal partner (that’s the goal of our women’s dating coaching program).

When dating, continue to refine who you’re looking for and keep that person front of mind. If someone doesn’t fit that perfect partner profile, consider moving on.

Trust me there will always be more suitors. 

Prolific Dating

Let’s quantify MegaDating.

In our program we teach women how to go on 20 dates in 90 days.   

That comes out to about one date every 4.5 days.

Imagine going on almost two dates every week? If you can keep up this pace you’ll meet your match in no time.

But an abundance of options isn’t always good.

Too many can leave us feeling overwhelmed, impact or ability to make the right choice, or give us a bad case of FOMO.

That’s why it’s vital that you keep this idea of your ideal partner front and center so you can qualify potential suitors.

You might be tempted to go out with that cute foreign guy who’s leaving soon or accept a second date with a charming man who doesn’t share your values. Doing so could no doubt be fun and we’re all for a bit of adventure. But accepting every date that comes your way is not only exhausting, but it’s not helpful when trying to find a long-term partner.

In our coaching program we teach our students how to weed men out so that you’re only investing in compatible men. 

Not Games, You’re Just A Busy Woman

Remember that guy that was pulling a way a little while ago?

Probably not, you’ve been so busy meeting amazing guys while MegaDating that you hardly remember him.

That is the point.

At emlovz we never advise playing games. We’re never going to recommend purposely waiting a day to respond to him or lying and saying that you’re seeing other men and don’t have time for him. Using mind games to find your ideal partner won’t work.

Instead, we advocate for healthy dating practices such as MegaDating. It just so happens that one of the byproducts of MegaDating is that 1) it helps you move on from men who don’t show the interest you desire and 2) it makes you less available. The man who wasn’t paying you the attention you wanted might suddenly be interested the second he sees you’re less available.

If he reaches out you need to decide whether this person is right for you or if it’s just the scarcity principle that attracts him to you.

Dating Decoded

If a guy pulls away, don’t have a fit, don’t text him incessantly, and don’t start liking all his IG posts.

Instead, change your approach.

We teach our students the shortcut to finding their ideal match by MegaDating.

Without playing games MegaDating will put you on a crash course to not only finding the person you want to be with (and who wants to be with you) but will make fading suitors suddenly realize what they’re missing.

Dating around for a short period of time will give you ample potential partners to compare and contrast so you can refine not only your dating skills but also who your ideal partner is.

To teach you how to quickly find a highly compatible partner in just weeks and become the most eligible single woman in town you’ll team up with romantic experts, each skilled in their own unique area to support you.

Our Team

• Emyli, co-founder, content developer, head coach, and hosts coaching sessions every week
• Thomas (me), co-founder, and coach. If you ever wanted to know what the man you’re seeing is thinking, just ask me
• Darshil is our mock date coach for women. Go on a practice date with them (and receive feedback) before your next date
• Hailey is your new stylist. She’s worked with celebs from every industry and is now about to raid your closet
• Tilly is our holistic sex & intimacy coach. She’ll help you get the most out of your sex life so you and your partner are happier between the sheets
• Renee is our anxiety dating coach. As a licensed therapist she knows the steps needed to turn you into a cool, calm, and collected dater
• Mia is our social media expert. Revamp your Facebook and Instagram profiles with her help and start meeting singles online

Our Community

And look, we realize that the single life can be difficult. If accepted into our coaching program, Dating Decoded, you’d be joining a community of supportive singles and coaches who are there to listen, support, and encourage you as you navigate the single life.

Our program offers every student a lifetime membership (as if you’ll need it) so the support won’t stop until you’ve found your ideal partner.

If you’re ready to find your forever partner, book a Zoom session with our team today. Together we’ll talk about your dating history, your goals and show you how our program, Dating Decoded, can help you find your ideal partner.

Here’s how our students’ dating lives have changed since enrolling.