Tinder’s kind of like that toxic ex-girlfriend that even though you broke up ages ago still slides into your DMs and coerces you to crawl back to her.
Tinder burst onto the scene in 2013, heavily targeting college students. Naturally, any dating app whose demographic majority consists of sophomores will be perceived as a hookup app.
Students aren’t exactly interested in entering into a serious monogamous relationship. Rather, kids aged 18-22 want to make risky decisions, meet new people, and avoid serious commitments at all costs. It’s this epoch of Tinder’s history that has tainted it with the stigma of being a hookup app, a label that despite a demographic change, it still hasn’t been able to shake off.
39% of Tinder’s current user demographic is made up of users ages 18-24. 41% of its users are between the ages of 25-34. By and large, Tinder is still geared towards serving young users more interested in a quick hookup than a serious relationship.
That would be fine and all, but at a certain age, dating fickle women interested in nothing more than a tongue war gets stale. You’re here, asking yourself how to delete Tinder because it’s finally time to grow up.
50% of Tinder users have never gone out with a match.
That’s because Tinder users treat the app as a game. Both women and men seek to boost their self-esteem by racking up matches. In fact, more users report using the app to boost confidence than to hook up with strangers. The reality is that Tinder isn’t a dating app. It’s a virtual dating game used for an ego-boost, not for finding your next romantic partner.
For whatever reason, you’re done with one night stands and superficial women that aren’t interested in long-term romances. Romantically you’ve grown up to the point where Tinder is nothing more than a distraction.
If you’re earnest about your search for a woman interested in engaging in a serious long-term romantic relationship, then it’s time to delete Tinder. The question is, how?
You might think that deleting the app is equivalent to deleting your account. Wrong.
Ya see, Tinder purposefully makes it difficult for you to delete the application… but why? It’s simple really.
Tinder brings in money two different ways. It offers users a paid membership in the form of Tinder Gold or Tinder Plus which 2.5 million people pay for. The other revenue stream comes from advertisements. If you’re a free member you’ve no doubt accidentally swiped right on a Trojan ad or two.
To appeal to advertisers, Tinder must show that an adequate number of eyes will view a posted ad. The fewer the reported users, the less a company will pay to post their advertisement. This is precisely why Tinder makes you jump through hoops to delete the application.
Open the Tinder app
Go to settings, found within the profile portion of the app
At the very bottom of the settings page you’ll find the “Delete My Account” button
After clicking the button you’ll be asked to either pause or delete your account, click “Delete My Account”
Then you’ll be asked to provide feedback as to why you’re deleting the account
After providing feedback click the “Submit & Delete Account” button
Only by following the aforementioned steps can you delete your profile. Remember that simply deleting the app is not the same as deleting your account.
Although right now you want to delete forever you may have regrets later on. If you want to deactivate your Tinder account -thus saving you the trouble of re-creating your account later on should you change your mind- you can always opt to pause your account. Pausing your Tinder account means that no one can view it. An account will remain paused even if the app is deleted.
We both know why you’re reading this article – you want to delete Tinder. What I don’t know is why.
Most likely it’s because of either one of two reasons. The first being that you found a serious partner and as a sign of commitment you’re deleting Tinder. Congratulations.
Then there are those not so lucky as to have already found someone. For singles that have deleted Tinder, you’re more so fed up with wasting your time fishing in a dating pool full of fish you don’t care to catch. It’s to these people the next few paragraphs apply to.
Tinder’s by far the most popular dating app in America with 7.86 million users in the US. Despite it being the most popular, it’s not the only dating app that boasts a substantial amount of users. There are various apps out there that both attract users looking to find a monogamous relationship and are flush with users. Here are a few of my favorite.
Hinge is the preferred dating app of many of my clients.
Although launched the same year at Tinder, Hinge has only begun to pick up steam within the past couple of years. Throughout its life, the app has gone through a number of changes from charging all users $7 to use the app in order to weed out non-serious daters to doing away with the swiping feature.
My clients prefer the app because it attracts users that are emotionally ready for a serious relationship. Hinge has positioned itself as the go-to app for singles looking for a long-term romantic partner. Its slogan is even, “the dating app designed to be deleted.”
Hinge is such a big hit in part because of its interface. Most dating apps -such as Tinder- highlight a user’s photos. Hinge on the other hand forces users to scroll past written bios -otherwise known as Hinge Answers– in order to see more images. Another boon is that Hinge users don’t have to score a match before you can message. The app enables users to like and write a comment before two users have even expressed mutual attraction.
Bumble is, well, Tinder.
It looks like Tinder, has the same co-founder as Tinder, and was even sued by Tinder for “stealing” its swiping feature. Yet while the apps may look alike, they cater to different users. Bumble for one, is known widely as feminist’s alternative to Tinder. This being the case the app attracts more educated, friendly, and serious users than Tinder does.
Bumble’s unique in that it was built with the female user in mind. Once a match occurs, female users have 24 hours to message the male user. Should they not message, the match will expire. Men don’t have the option to message first, thus swapping gender roles and allowing women to hunt and men to recline and wait for the opposite sex to initiate.
It’s true that meeting via a dating app is now the most common way to meet a romantic partner. However, in 2017 still only 39% of heterosexual relationships started with the help of a dating app.
This means that the majority of relationships are still being started IRL. But with online dating taking over the dating world it seems odd to have to meet someone IRL. Don’t fret, there are plenty of ways to meet people outside of dating apps, you just have to know how to do it.
There’s a myriad of ways to meet women IRL, but I’d like to highlight three.
Before dating apps reigned supreme, couples more often than not met each other through mutual friends. Your friends no doubt know you’re single, but that doesn’t mean they’re actively looking to set you up. Ask around to see if any of your friends have a friend of theirs they’d like to set you up with. If they don’t, no worries. You can still meet potential partners through friends by hanging out in different social circles and attending parties.
A more novel way to meet people is via non-dating social apps like Meetup. Meetup is a platform that enables users to create and join groups based on a user’s hobby. If you’re based in a metropolitan area, open the app, and no doubt you’ll find multiple active groups that you’d be more than happy to sign up for. Hiking, dance, and singles groups are just a few of the most popular groups you’ll find on the app. Being that humans are most attracted to people that share their interests, signing up and meeting people that are like-minded is a great way to meet single women.
The third way to meet people IRL is through gym classes. The hardest thing about meeting people in the real world is figuring out a reason to engage them. Walking up to a stranger at a cafe or park is odd because you have little in common to talk about. This lack of conversation material changes being that you two are in the same class. Talk about how difficult that class was, or how she got into cycling – any topic related to the group activity is worth bringing up.
You’re deleting Tinder because you want to make a change in your love life. However, deleting Tinder alone isn’t enough to fulfill your romantic needs. To get what you want from your romantic life book a New Client 1-on-1 Zoom session with yours truly. As your professional wingwoman, I’ll help you transition to life without Tinder.