Many years ago, one’s race would be the biggest dating dealbreaker.
Hell, whites and blacks weren’t even legally allowed to marry each other until the Loving v. Virginia case of 1967.
But nowadays that’s changed.
Instead of the color of one’s skin being the chief dealbreaker, it’s the color of one’s political party that has become Americans’ biggest dealbreaker.
As you can see liberals won’t date conservatives and vice versa.
Dating while at either end of the spectrum has never been so difficult.
However, one can argue that the situation is even direr for conservatives.
Out in rural areas, conservatives vastly outnumber both liberals and cows combined, but in urban areas, conservatives are few and far between.
It’s in this article that we’ll examine how to improve’s one’s conservative dating life while deep in enemy territory.
When it comes to dating, liberals are rather picky.
A recent poll from Pew Research found that 7 in 10 Democrats said they would never consider dating someone that voted for Trump.
Clearly, Dems aren’t willing to compromise.
If that’s the case you’ll be wasting your time trying to date a hardcore liberal.
Doing so would be as fruitless as trying to convince them to vote for Republic in the next general election.
It’s with this in mind that we’ll detail a few conservative dating tips and tricks necessary to have a stellar dating life as a conservative in an urban area.
Surely you’ve heard this adage before.
It’s just common sense that we’re attracted to people with values, hobbies, and backgrounds similar to our own.
Sure, it’s totally possible that you and someone with different musical interests, clothing tastes, and tattoo choices can be super attracted to each other. However, these are all superficial preferences.
When it comes to more substantial values is when we see like-minded people preferring their own rather than someone with contrarian viewpoints.
Of course, as this couple shows, it’s totally possible to date someone from the other end of the political spectrum.
However, relationships like this one are more so the exception than the rule.
Let’s talk about a rather unlikely couple for a moment.
This is Helmut Lethen and Caroline Sommerfeld.
Their both Germany, both academics, and both… well, those are where the similarities end.
Helmut is as left as you can go whereas Caroline is part of the new right.
He’s in his 80s, she’s in her mid-40s. He thinks she’s a racist and she thinks he has a secret Nazi fetish.
It’s for these reasons that the next sentence seems like a non-sequitur.
How the hell is this possible?
According to the paradoxical couple, they argue constantly however they do so, “on an assumption of goodwill and rationality.”
In other words, they’re just courteous.
This couple demonstrates that you can disagree while still respecting the other person (ahh those crazy Germans).
Look, if you’re MegaDating — a dating strategy designed to quickly find a girlfriend that I advise all clients to use — you’re bound to meet someone with opposing views.
When the situation does arise how should you behave?
Answer: No differently than you normally should on a date.
First off, listen.
Before opening your goddamn mouth listen to what she’s got to say. Make her feel heard and respected.
Not only will this help you understand where she’s coming from and empathize with her but in listening you give her a model of how she should react when it’s your time to speak.
Secondly, don’t proselytize. In one conversation you can’t turn someone from blue to red.
Starting a heated argument is a guaranteed way to smother any flame you had been conjuring.
The more questions you ask and more you know about this person will only make you look more understanding, emotionally stable, receptive to new ideas, and of course attractive.
There are a host of dating apps targeting conservative users.
Upon hearing this you might want to take your firearm out back and start shooting at the heavens in joy.
Not so fast, you big loveable elephant you.
Conservative may sound like one giant Republican convention for singles only, but there are a couple of downsides.
Generally speaking these apps and websites look like they were designed by the same guy that designed Drumpf’s failed social media platform.
Despite being conservative-friendly they’re not user-friendly.
But more importantly, they just don’t have a whole lot of users.
Righter, one of the most popular right-wing dating apps has had less than spectacular results.
While there is a dearth of users that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t get your swipe on via these right-wing dating apps.
I recommend clients use multiple dating apps. Use a right-wring app or two but also Tinder and other popular app such as Bumble or Hinge.
While Tinder and the like don’t cater to people of a certain political leaning, due to their size they’ll have thousands more conservative users than a conservative-specific dating app will have.
To get in touch with like-minded users on popular dating apps remember to use the profile tips we outlined earlier.
If there’s one thing I’d want you to walk away with it’s that you don’t need to shy away from your beliefs. Instead, making them known will quickly repel the incompatible people and attract the compatible ones.