Looking for a list of tried and tested breakup texts?

The only way you’ll find the right relationship is by getting out of a bad one.

Well, perhaps not bad per se, but certainly, one that needs ending.

But to do so you’ll have to break up with her.

It’s this gut-wrenching process that sees men stay in fledgling relationships much longer than they should. The distress caused by the thought of breaking up is enough to buy their new flame a few more weeks to turn things around.

To end things when you know a long-term relationship is impossible you’ll need to have a text or two in your breakup tool kit that will let her down easy.

A brief breakup text that’s respectful and to the point is the best breakup method you have.

To help you exit an early-stage relationship with class, use one of these breakup texts.

Break Up Texts to Send Her

Can I Break Up With Her Via Text?

Ya damn, right you can.

Everyone nowadays breaks up via text.

Well maybe not everyone, but according to CreditLoan 33% of millennials have ended a relationship via text.

As a general rule, the longer the relationship the more intimate the method of a breakup should be.

For example, if you’ve only gone on a few dates with someone, a text message is normally considered permissible.

Hell, if you’ve only gone out with someone once or twice, even ghosting is acceptable.

The reason people tend to end a serious relationship in-person is that doing so allows the snubbed an easier route to recovery. Being present allows for a dialogue to take place. After dating someone for a few months, they’ll have plenty of questions to ask should they feel blindsided. Breaking up in person gives them the chance to ask questions and bring finality to the relationship.

That being said, this isn’t needed for a woman you’ve only seen a few times.

In fact, breaking up over the phone or in person could even make things worse.

So instead, take out that phone of yours and get ready to type out one of these messages.

#1 Best Breakup Texts To Send Her

It’s straightforward, brief, and is pretty clear.

But it’s not these qualities that I like most.

It leaves the door open to transition the relationship.

After sending this I’d wait for a response.

If one isn’t forthcoming you can offer to pivot the relationship.

You can follow up with:

We often tend to obsess over why it went wrong.

We ask what we could’ve done to salvage things.

But sometimes it isn’t about what you did wrong, you two just weren’t compatible.

It’s this point that you need to drive home so she doesn’t feel bad for weeks on end. It’s inevitable her confidence will crash. Make this crash a bit more manageable by giving her a reason.

The best reason you can give is, we’re just not compatible.

Be sure to always let it be known that you enjoyed the time you spent with this person (if it’s true). Doing so lets them know that there’s nothing wrong with them, sometimes people just don’t connect, and that’s perfectly fine.

Wishing them luck in their endeavors is a classy way to turn the page and move on to another relationship. It’s also a sly way to end the conversation. The final sentence makes it very clear that you don’t intend on seeing this person anymore or even corresponding with them via text.

It’s over.

Period.

#3 The Friend-Zone Text

The tone of this text is super platonic — and that’s the point.

Starting any convo with the person’s name followed by an exclamation point is a sign of good things to come.

Perhaps this isn’t the news she wanted to hear, but it could be worse.

Just because you don’t want to see her romantically doesn’t mean you want the relationship to end. As the text says, this person really enjoyed their time together and makes it abundantly clear they don’t want to stop seeing this person.

But they do make it clear they won’t be hanging out romantically in the future.

Not only is there an explicit request to be friends but an explicit request to still see each other this Friday.

#4 Ghosting Is For, Well, Ghosts

Let’s break this text down sentence by sentence.

Hey Jen. 

Always start with her name. Doing so grabs her attention and shows a level of respect.

Thanks for seeing me yesterday. 

If you genuinely mean this, say it. She went out of her way to meet up with a relative stranger. Show your gratitude by both paying for the date and thanking her.

I think you’d agree that we’re not 100% romantically compatible.

This is when the bomb drops. This message makes it be known that you don’t want to see her again romantically, but it does more than that. It assumes that you and her are on the same page, making the breakup much less embarrassing and giving her a chance to agree with your assessment when she texts back, thus saving her face.

A little awkward to say but I didn’t want to be a ghost.

Some people hate ghosting after a date or two, others like it. Letting her into your thinking will foster feelings of respect.

You’re a great person and best of luck in this crazy world. 

It’s never a bad idea to end on a compliment. Just because you two don’t work out doesn’t mean she isn’t an awesome person. You just don’t see you two being romantic. Wishing her the best of luck makes it clear as Anthony Davis’s unibrow that there’s no future between the two of you.

#5 Best Break Up Texts for Her

Boom.

This text message is surgical, direct, and unequivocal.

It follows a classic break up text pattern:

Greeting + reason for break up + classy goodbye = awesome break-up text. 

You’re in, you’re out, you’re ready to MegaDate.

Can I Email Her Instead?

No.

Emails are ticking time bombs.

They wait in her inbox until she happens to find it.

The thing is, she might not find see your email for hours if not days.

Wouldn’t it be awkward to have sent the email only to receive a text from her an hour later asking if you want to go out tomorrow night?

90% of texts are viewed within 3 minutes, they’re brief, private, and are hands preferable to an email.

And don’t even think about hiring the people that wrote this email. 

#6 For When You Already Made Plans

The best thing you can do is let her down before things spiral uncontrollably towards a serious relationship.

It’s easy to say in just an okay relationship — especially if you’re not MegaDating.

Just because you made plans doesn’t mean you can’t bow out. Doing so saves you and her time as you let it be known there’s no point in investing in something that doesn’t have a long-term future.

But back to MegaDating for a second.

MegaDating is a dating philosophy that informs the emlovz dating coaching program, Dating Decoded.

It involves dating multiple women at the same time.

Doing so has various benefits including:

• Quickly finding a compatible partner
• Helps avoid settling
• Saves time in the long run
• Builds confidence
• Refines dating skills

If you’re going to go out with various women, you need to know when it’s time to move on and be willing to end things.

These texts give you a template to work with when writing a breakup text.

#7 For When COVID Gets In The Way… Or You Don’t Want To Hurt Her

COVID-19 has ended more relationships than has telling your partner your number too early in a relationship.

It’s a killer, makes everyone sick, and either accelerates or ends a relationship before it begins.

But there are some positives to COVID.

For one more pets than ever have been adopted during the pandemic, introverts always have an excuse not to go out, and you have a legit reason to end a relationship that you know isn’t going anywhere without hurting her.

The downside to this is that when the pandemic has died down she might hit you up. But who knows, but then she may already be dating someone who’s too nice to use the COVID excuse to break up with her.

#8 When Things Don’t Add Up

Sometimes you two just want different things.

You can’t make a square fit into a circular hole or someone who plans on moving to NYC to pursue an acting career focus on a more viable career path.

That’s cool, but it doesn’t mean you have to support them.

Get out of relationships with people that are moving in different directions before they try to bring you with them.

Best Breakup Texts #9 When You Want To Avoid Specifics

Look it’s only been a few dates.

You don’t have to tell her exactly why you don’t want to see her.

Maybe you have a personal issue that needs addressing — that’s totally fine.

You owe this person nothing.

You did well to message instead of ghost. Now it’s time to take a step back and work on yourself.

#10 When You Don’t Want Them Messaging Back

Perhaps you really did meet someone new.

Or maybe you just really don’t want them hitting you back up.

It’s difficult to get rid of clingers, but you’re doing the right thing.

It’s much better to break things off before things become unhealthy or dangerous — or just really annoying.

If you only went on 2-3 dates and didn’t say or do anything too romantic chances are she will understand and never message you again.

Mission accomplished.

#11 When Things Have Dragged On For Far Too Long

The longer you go out the harder it is to end things via text.

I mean you can always send one of these breakup texts, but chances are it’ll lead to a protracted conversation that you’ll regret in the long run.

To get away with texting a woman you’ve been seeing for a while now with a breakup text you’ll have to shower her with comments and elaborate on why you’re ending things.

If you’d like, even acknowledge that it feels weird texting her but that you feel more comfortable ending things this way.

No matter how much tact you use, odds are high she’ll want to talk via a phone call and ask that you expand on your reasoning for wanting to end things.

#12 When They Were Rude

You don’t have to hold back. If the person was an a**hole, tell them they were.

Try to use tact, but be blunt.

Someone needs to tell them off because chances are they either don’t know they were rude or are too apathetic to care. Either way you’re taking one for the team by calling them out.

Ideally, your comment will be the kick in the ass they need to change — probably not, but it’s worth a text.

You Just Sent One of These Breakup Texts, What Now?

Now you’re as free as a bird — one that’s single and ready to get their date on.

So what do you do?

Well, you can continue to meet the women you’ve been meeting, perfect your breakup skills and wind up forever alone, OR change tactics.

Changing tactics looks like MegaDating, making an awesome dating profile, MegaMessaging, and following the MegaDating blueprint for first, second, and their dates.

If you’re looking for a change, our dating program, Dating Decoded could be right for you.

To learn more let’s chat via a 1-on-1 Zoom conversation. During our talk I’ll learn about your romantic goals and I’ll determine if Dating Decoded is right for you.