Searching for questions to ask a girl to get to know her (so she falls in love with you)? I got you covered here, but first here’s a fact for you.

Fact: Daniel Carnegie was the most liked human being to ever live.

Perhaps even more beloved than Mother Theresa or Gandhi (Gandhi was after all kind of a racist) Carnegie knew the secrets to make people like him.

He was so good at making friends and influencing people that he wrote a book about it. A book that has gone on to sell over 30 million copies.

But Carnegie’s conversational advice doesn’t just apply to platonic relationships, but romantic ones as well.

You see, one of Carnegie’s best and most applicable pieces of advice was to simply be a good listener, but even more specifically:

While the questions/comments above are bound to work with some women there’s one opening message that has a higher response rate than the rest.

And what is that line?

Tell me something cool about yourself.

I know it’s a request instead of a comment but it serves the same purpose as a question.

While the line may not sound amazing it works.

Here’s a screenshot of a Bumble conversation my client had recently where he uses the line in question.

The beauty is that this woman hadn’t written much on her profile about herself.

Now my client had something to work with.

Instead of talking about himself, he took Carnegie’s advice and asked her yet another question about her favorite topic.

Throw in a splash of audacity and this is what happened.

Keep in mind that each question you ask on a dating app should be building to the big-daddy of them all, “Can I have your number?”

Also props on asking for her IG and phone number. Many dating app users won’t post many photos or will only post the best photos. Getting their IG will give you a better idea of not only who they are and what they like, but what they look like as well.

Well done sir.

First Date: Questions To Ask A Girl To Get To Know Her

Everyone has their own goals when going on a first date.

However, you should always have two goals you want to accomplish.

1) Get to know the person sitting across the table from you and 2) build chemistry.

Asking her pertinent and probing questions will help accomplish both of these goals.

And hey, that’s not me talking, it’s just science.

In 1997, psychologist Arthur Aron split pairs into two groups. One group was given a set of superficial questions (read: the kind you normally ask on a first date) and the second was given deeper questions.

At the end of the experiment, those that had asked deep, probing questions reported feeling closer to their partner than those that asked superficial questions.

This is the case because according to Harvard research, talking about oneself in a deep manner stimulates the same regions of the brain that light up when you have sex or eat gourmet food.

So exactly what types of questions should you be asking?

— What hobbies would you like to get into if you had the time/money? (Did you pick up any hobbies during the pandemic?

— What’s one of your dealbreakers?

— If you could go back to college and study something else what would it be?

— What relationship advice would you give your 18-year-old self?

— What did you do last Sunday/ what did you want to do last Sunday?

— What’s the last habit you tried to pick up/stop?

— What’s the last song you straight-up belted?

Just because these are good questions doesn’t mean you should ask them.

Wait… what?

That’s right.

If she’s telling you about her work it would be weird if you responded with, “What’s your go-to karaoke song?”

There’s no need to write a list of these questions and carry them around with you.

The idea is simply to ask questions that will get her to open up.

Always pose questions that arise (or at least seem to arise) organically.

Broaching a question that goes against the grain could be jarring.

The last question you may want to ask on a first date involves using a TDL.

TDL stands for time, date, location.

Use this format whenever asking a woman out:

Second Date Questions To Ask A Girl To Get To Know Her

If you’ve made it all the way to a second date, congrats.

Matching is easy, giving out a phone number too. But agreeing to see someone again confirms that she’s into you.

With that in mind, it’s time that we heat things up a bit.

Continue to get to know more about her by asking these kinds of questions on a second date:

— What made you decide to go on a second date with me?

— Do you have any weird quirks like practicing what you’re going to say on a phone call before you make it?

— How long do you wait before kissing someone?

— What’s your favorite part of a man’s body?

— Do you see yourself living here in 5 years?

— What did you learn during the pandemic?

— Share with me something you like about me and I’ll do the same to you.

— What’s your best humblebrag achievement?

Again, these questions shouldn’t be thrust out of the blue, but rather tactfully slotted into the conversation.

As you can see, some of these questions are sexier than ones you might ask on a first date. Only ask sexual questions if you feel the vibe is right.

Third Date Questions To Ask A Girl To Get To Know Her

By the time a third date rolls around you two should have a pretty good idea if your relationship has a future.

You should also be expecting to get romantic.

And nothing says romance like questions that pull at the heartstrings.

If you’re a follower of MegaDating you’ll know that third dates are different.

Not only is the possibility of having sex fairly high, but the date itself has no monetary nor time limits like first and second dates.

This means that your date should probably take place close to your home, involve a fancy dinner, and a fun after-dinner activity such as dancing, ping-pong, pool, or some other activity to get you two moving.

Keeping the context in mind here are the best questions to ask on a third date:

— Who’s in your top five? (top five guys they want to bang/marry)

— What’s your guilty pleasure?

— Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share … “

— When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

— If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

— What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

Turn The Light Off

Before we turn the lights off on this conversation remember that each question you ask has two purposes.

To figure out if you’re interested in this person.

And to build rapport and attraction.

As Carnegie would suggest, be genuinely curious about what the other person is saying. Not only because it builds attraction but because you don’t know how you feel about her and the only way to help you decide is to listen with intent.