Day: September 17, 2023

10 “A Non-Negotiable…” Bumble Prompt Responses for Guys Looking for LTR’s

a non-negotiable bumble

Bumble has dozens of features all aimed at helping you stand out.

It allows you to post six photos, verify your profile, include up to five interests, link to your Spotify, write a bio, and add a number of other data points that offer granular details about your life.

But if you were to open the app and scroll through a user’s profile, the feature that takes up the second most digital real estate is Bumble Prompts.

Bumble Prompts are used to highlight your personality, signal your interests, and help you stand out.

While it may be a nuisance to fill out three prompts with detailed responses, doing so will really make your profile stand out.

There’s a reason they take up about half your profile. Bumble knows the importance of using prompts to help humanize yourself and connect with strangers.

So what’s the best way to respond to these prompts?

Let’s show you how to let your personality shine through when we provide examples for the “A non-negotiable…” Bumble Prompt.

A non-negotiable… Bumble Prompt

The best responses are granular, offer up details about yourself, and will make her see you as a complex, interesting person worthy of spending the rest of her life with — or at least worthy of a swipe right.

So what does this look like in practice?

Here are ten examples of a non-negotiable… Bumble Prompt.

1) Talk About Your/Her Future

At this point she knows nothing about you.

You’re just another card in a deck of literally thousands.

With seven men for every three female Bumble users, she can be patient and take her time in picking someone to swipe right on. To convince her you’ll have to really stand out. Do so by painting a picture of your shared future.

What does it look like?

Include your hobbies, interests, values, and whatever else you think would paint an accurate picture. This prompt response not only paints that picture but is a new take on the American dream. Two kids, a picket fence, and yearly trips to the most out-there festival in the world aren’t what our parents would have fantasized about, but it’s our time to be adults and live the life we want to live.

Allow her to really see your shared future.

2) Invite Her Out

A Hinge study a while back found that male users that posted a photo of them with their dog far outperformed the average photo.

There’s just something about a man and his best friend that make women go nuts.

If women love to see it in photos they’re going to love to read about it in Bumble prompts as well. If you both have dogs, a low-stakes, cheap, and easy first date is to hit the dog park. Chances she already goes on occasion – and typically does so alone. Invite her to the park and be sure to bring something intoxicating to drink as you two enjoy yourselves while giving your dogs a chance to get out of the house.

This a great first date idea because it gives you two something to discuss as opposed to a dinner date that doesn’t lend itself to conversation.

I also love this prompt response because it’s already asking a woman out. Dating apps should be used to meet women in the real world as opposed to merely racking up matches online.

3) What Are You Into?

Too many men use these prompts to list out all the things they want in a woman. What they don’t realize is that these responses should and often do say more about who we are than what we’re looking for.

With that said, you should be willing to list out your preferred hobbies – even if they’re uncommon.

Sure, most women don’t play volleyball and may not care to. That’s fine. You want to attract a woman that shares your interests rather than one that swipes right despite having nothing in common with you.

Not to mention that just because she might actively participate in your uncommon interest doesn’t mean she wouldn’t be up to trying or is turned off by your interest.

4) Tell It Like It Is

Not every response needs to be so dramatic.

Sure we’re talking about non-negotiables, but when you’re scrolling through a stranger’s profile you don’t want to be bogged down by a litany of serious non-negotiables.

Serious non-negotiables turn women off before they get a chance to know you.

Your goal with the a non-negotiable Bumble prompt is to convince her to swipe right on your profile AND to message you. Remember that the only way conversations start on Bumble is if the woman initiates them.

Men aren’t given the capability of messaging first.

5) Get Your Groove On

Music is an easy way to quickly bond with a stranger.

One of my students loves telling me how he always asked to view his date’s Spotify account to see if they’re compatible. He even goes as far as creating a Spotify Blend to determine compatibility. It’s a fun and quick way to share music and measure compatibility (musical compatibility anyways).

Talking about music and your desire to see live shows is an easy way to invite her in. If you choose to answer a prompt by making your music preferences known feel free to cast a wide net by listing various musicians.

6) The Travel Bug

Something about nearly dying during the pandemic has just made everyone want to travel. People are done with surviving and want to live out their days like Anthony Bourdain.

Talk about your travel bug, all the places you’ve been and want to go, and invite her to join you.

This is also a great way of saying, I have a solid job and can support a family, without saying it explicitly. Too many guys want to flash their cash or brag about how much they make. Yet there are other ways of saying that you’re wealthy without saying, I make $200,000 a year.

7) Taking Things Slow

She wants to know what life with you would look like — so tell her.

How do you intend to spend your Sundays?

How will you unwind after work?

What music will you listen to as you two eat dinner together?

Be as detailed and granular as possible when filling out your a non-negotiable Bumble Prompt.

8) Get Political

Some people would say not to talk religion or politics on a first date — I disagree.

In fact, it’s best to let your politics be known before the first date.

Nowadays, Democrats and Republicans don’t date each other.

They’re even more incompatible than Sox and Yankee fans.

Use these Bumble Prompts as filters. Filters that you can use to repel some while attracting others.

Also keep in mind that while most of these prompt response examples have been written in jest, you can 100% write about serious non-negotiables you have – just try to be creative when writing about them.

9) Drammmaaa

Don’t hold back who you are.

Show her your true colors now so that you’re attracting compatible women.

If you’re more into futbol than football, vegan wings instead of meat wings, and prefer Bob Dylan to his many covers it’s best to tell her now.

10) Que Dices Chica?

Flex your polyglot skills in a humble way by talking about the way you want to raise your children.

By even mentioning children you’re signaling that you want a serious relationship.

This will turn some on while others off, and that’s perfectly fine.

Your goal here isn’t to attract every woman on Bumble, but only those you can realistically have a relationship with.

Next Steps

Now that you have some prompt response examples to inspire you it’s time to get writing.

Take your time and pick a few Bumble Prompts to respond to. Create drafts, run them by friends, and always be sure to put your personality on full display.

Make sure each of your prompts behaves differently. You don’t want three overly serious prompts or three purely humorous prompt responses.

Once you have your responses picked out it’s time to choose quality pictures for your profile.

While Bumble is one of the least superficial dating apps on the market it still places a special emphasis on photos.

Take your time shooting and choosing HD photos that clearly show her what you look like as well as your many hobbies and passions.

After you’ve completed your profile and are scoring matches it’s time to get your chat on.

This is the most difficult part. Guys just have no idea how to have a quality conversation online that leads to a date IRL.

In our program, Dating Decoded we’ll show men not only how to create the perfect profile but how to communicate with women online in a way that leads to a first date.

Once you start scoring dates we’ll help you manage all these dates and ensure that your dates are successful.

Our program is immersive, in-depth, and takes commitment – but don’t worry. You’ll have a team of coaches and fellow students to support and guide you along the way.

Soon enough you’ll be going on 10 dates a month just like our student Naeem.

To book a call today to learn how to revive your dating life, just click here.

How To Turn A Woman On Sexually With Tilly Storm

How to Turn a Woman on Sexually

Women aren’t some unsolvable puzzle.

But I can understand how men can feel that way. For centuries men have been fed the wrong advice when it comes to courting and more specifically, turning a woman on sexually.

Doctors have chronically invested little into understanding women, sexual education is better learned via Netflix than in the public school system, and men today are still giving crap advice like helping other men find the holy grail of women pleasure, the G-spot (which by the way doesn’t even exist).

So it’s no surprise that when it comes to sex, there’s an orgasm gap that sees men orgasm nearly 100% of the time whereas women orgasm just 65% of the time.

To help bridge that gap, demystify the secrets of female pleasure, and help improve not only her sex life but yours as well we consulted with our sex coach Tilly Storm to answer some of the most often asked questions regarding how to turn a woman on.

How To Turn A Woman On

Tilly Storm is a holistic sex and intimacy coach and host of The Multiorgasmic Mama Podcast since 2017.

Coach Foundation recognizes her as one of the top sex coaches in the world and her podcast has an audience of over 250,000 listeners.

As a sex coach she knows a thing or two about teaching men how to turn a woman on.

We sat down as she answered questions men often have about how to turn a woman on as well sexuality in general.

What Is One Thing That A Man Can Say To A Woman To Turn Her On?

You think you know this one right?

You compliment her appearance or her personality and then drop the mic, right? Telling her she’s more beautiful than Scarlett Johansson and smarter than Marie Curie than walk away right?

Not exactly.

According to sex coach Tilly Storm, the one thing that turns her on is not what you were expecting to hear:

I’m here for you no matter what, or something along those lines.

Not at all what you were expecting right?

Tilly says that letting a woman know that you will accept the complex, robust, and multi-dimensional woman she is will turn her on emotionally and intimately.

Turn her on by telling her:

I fully accept you
I accept you however you want to express yourself, however you want to be

Of course, maybe you don’t whisper this into her ear while in the bedroom, but during intimate conversations bring this up. When you two are opening up to each other, tell her that you love her and that regardless of who she is, you will accept her.

Feeling comfortable with a man is what all women want. Once they are comfortable they will show you who they are and your relationship will thrive outside and inside the bedroom.

What Should You Do When A Woman Looks At You In A Social Setting?

Hold eye contact until she turns away.

Of course, only do this if you’re also interested in her. Sustained eye contact is a clear sign that she’s into you.

Tilly says that eye contact alone isn’t a good sign, but rather three touches of eye contact. If she seeks you out three times it’s a sign that you should approach.

So is eye contact a sign that she’s sexually interested?

Not necessarily, but she’s inviting you to come talk to her.

Take this opportunity to approach her with no fear.

Here are a few tips on how to approach a woman:

Don’t wait too long before approaching or the flame will die
Use a situational opener, not some random pickup line
Be direct, e.g. Hi I’m Dave. I’d kick myself if I didn’t come over here and say hi, what’s your name?
Be respectful
Acknowledge her friends
Reframe the situation. You’re going to talk to a woman you find interesting, rather than it’s a do or die situation, you either get her number or you fail
Don’t linger. If she’s not feeling it, move on

What Are Some Things Women Crave In Bed But Never Say Out Loud?

Learning how to turn a woman on is all about learning what she likes in the bedroom. But it’s not always easy to know what a woman is into between the sheets. So we asked Tilly what women want to say and do in bed but are afraid talk about:

A lot of women are afraid to be nasty and naught and say things that would deem them dirty or a slut. Some women are feeling more comfortable in that role and claiming their inner sluts. But there are still a lot of hangups.

To be clear, this isn’t all women. This is simply what Tilly feels a lot of women feel. They want to be that naughty woman and talk dirty, tell men what they want, and to be sexually liberated, but too often they feel they can’t behave this way with their partner.

Sexually liberate the woman you’re seeing by asking her what she likes in the bedroom. Ask her while you two are not in the bedroom. If she asks for something in the heat of the moment and you reject it this may result in a massive turn-off.

Talking prior to sex is like going into the bedroom with a gameplan. A gameplan is much better than winging it.

To release her inner dirty, Tilly says to tell her that she can be as much of a slut as she wants because it’s totally fine to express that.

What Should A Man Do If His Partner Doesn’t Like To Give Oral?

Tilly says this happens a lot with women who grew up in a strict religious environment due to what their religion says or the stigma around fellatio.

If it goes against their faith, drop it and move on. Be content with the sex life you have sans oral sex.

If she feels shame or fear around it, realize this is totally normal.

It all starts with having an open conversation. The best way to start it might be as simple as saying, hey, how do you feel about trying something new tonight?

This question should be popped outside of the bedroom. Ambushing her with this question in the bedroom could be pressure on her and make her uncomfortable. Plant the seed of oral sex in her mind and bring it up a couple of times to see if her opinions around it have changed. Plant the seed, talk about it, but don’t expect her to be down right off the bat.

How Should A Man Sexually Escalate Into Dirty Talk?

Be upfront.

Tell her that you’re into talking dirty and ask her if she’s okay if you talk dirty to her. Ideally, this leads to a conversation surrounding dirty talk and boundaries so you can gauge what works and what doesn’t.

Maybe she isn’t 100% for it, but again, it’s about planting seeds. She may feel vulnerable and uncomfortable but by voicing your desires in a safe space in a respectable way you two can grow to learn more about each other and feel open about trying new things.

How Can A Man Attract A Woman Without Saying A Word?

Eye contact, eye contact, eye contact.

Women are attracted to men that know what they want. If you make repeated, sustained eye contact in a way that indicates you want her to notice you she will be turned on. But this is all foreplay until you make the move and approach her.

When doing so Tilly says to walk up to her as slowly and confidently as possible.

What Are The Flirtiest Questions To Ask A Woman To Get Her To Want You?

Remember that it’s not all about you. Asking her a question about what she’s into is one of the best way to turn her on.

One thing women really enjoy is to know that you care about what they want and like and not just what you want to do to them.
So one thing that could be really great to talk about to create tension and a turn on and the desire for her to want to have sex with you is to let her know that in some way. So you can ask her, what is it that you like sexually? What are some of the best sexual experiences you’ve had?

When to ask her about her best sexual experience and what made it amazing all depends on the vibe. Tilly suggests asking on the second date, and if not, definitely by the third date.

Women always complain that men are selfish in bed. Tilly says that giving her cues off the bat that you’re interested in pleasing them can go a long way.

If a woman thinks you’re a caring lover, she’ll be super turned on and excited to see what’s in store when you two turn down the lights.

What’s A Good Small Penis Sex Position That Can Pleasure A Woman And Their Partner?

There’s not gonna be one position that is better than the other. Because having a small penis is not a big deal for the majority of women. Men thinks it’s a big deal, it’s not a big deal. It’s only a big deal because porn says it’s a big deal. It’s how you use your dick, that matters.

Even Tilly says in her personal experience she had sex with a woman with a smaller-than-average penis but it didn’t matter because he knew how to use it.

That being said if you want a straight answer, missionary is one of the best. You’re giving her plural stimulation. You have eye contact, vaginal penetration, AND clit stimulation. Doggie style also works because it’s easy to penetrate her and go deep with doggie. 90-degree angles are your friends.

What Are Some Early Signs That A Woman Is Sexually Interested In You?

Before going in for the kiss men should be on the lookout for signs that she is sexually interested. No one wants to go in for the big kiss or ask her to come back to your place without knowing her feelings about you.

Tilly says some signs that she’s interested in you include:

Blushing, indicating she’s nervous around you
Goes out of her way to help you
She’s close to you in proximity
She says she misses you or was thinking about you
Always fixes herself when she’s around you

What Do Women Secretly Want Men To Do?

Women want men to do lots of things to them sexually.

But oftentimes, they’re just too afraid to ask. If you really want to learn how to turn a woman on, ask her. The act of asking is a turn-on, and then doing as she commands is an even bigger turn on. What man doesn’t want to be the secrets to make a woman feel good in the bedroom?

As far as the most common things women secretly want men to do, Tilly says:

Women very often want to feel dominated – so hard. Especially if she has a career or runs a business or is in any position of power where she has to make decisions. I think this is why 50 Shades of Grey was so huge.

Being dominated isn’t something all women crave, but it’s the type of preference strong, independent, feminist women would keep secret.

To learn what she wants, you need only ask.

Next Steps

Tilly is one of the many coaches here at emlovz that will teach you how to turn a woman on. Our program, Dating Decoded is comprised of a team of coaches, including myself, that equip you with the dating and sexual skills needed to find a partner.

We teach students the shortcut to finding their ideal match by MegaDating. MegaDating is our dating philosophy and it shapes everything we teach here at emlovz. Simply put MegaDating is dating prolifically with the specific goal of going on 20 dates in 90 days. This will give you ample women to compare and contrast so you can refine not only your dating skills but also who your ideal partner is

To teach you how to quickly find highly compatible women in just weeks and become the most eligible bachelor in town you’ll have a team of romantic experts, each skilled in their own unique area to support you.

Emyli (yours truly), co-founder, curriculum developer, head coach, and I host two coaching sessions every week
Thomas, co-founder, and coach. He’ll lead the biweekly Man Cave event where men come together to talk dating, bond with one another, and support other single men
Cat, Brooke, and Audrey are mock date specialists. Go on a practice date with them (and receive feedback) before your next date
Hailey is your new stylist. She’s worked with celebs from every industry and is now about to raid your closet
Tilly is our sex coach. She’ll help you get the most out of your sex life so you and your partner are happier between the sheets
Aundrea is an award-winning fitness coach. Are you ready to eat right and build muscle?
Mia is our SM specialist. Revamp your SM profiles with her help and start meeting women online

And look, we realize the single life can be difficult. That’s why if accepted into join Dating Decoded, you’d be joining a community of supportive men and coaches who are there to listen, support, and encourage you as you navigate the single life.

Our program offers every student a lifetime membership (as if you’ll need it) so the support won’t stop until you’ve found your ideal partner.

If you’re ready to find your forever partner, book a Zoom session with our team today. Together we’ll talk about your dating history, your goals, and determine if our program is a fit for you.