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How to Use Dating Apps in Your 40s and 50’s (for Men) – The Best Apps to Try

How to Use Dating Apps in Your 40s and 50’s (for Men) – The Best Apps to Try

How to Use Dating Apps in Your 40s and 50’s (for Men) – The Best Apps to Try

Dating apps are such a romantic game-changer that even Pew Research recently tried to play the role of matchmaker.

In their research, they found that 12% of all marriages started online, confirmed that women receive way too many messages and that even seasoned daters have tried their hand online.

To be specific 38% of those between the ages of 30-49 and 19% of those ages 50-64 have at least one time logged into a dating site or swiped on a dating app.

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Being that dating apps are 24/7 singles clubs it makes sense that singles 40+ are using dating apps.

Why look anywhere else when you can find compatible women while leisurely scrolling through prospects on your couch?

But knowing that online dating is en vogue and figuring out how to use dating apps as well as which dating apps to use is a whole different story — one we’re about to tell.

In this article we’ll break down:

  • The best dating apps for older men
  • Which photos to choose
  • How to create a great written bio
  • How to message women online
  • Exclusive online dating group

How To Use Dating Apps In Your 40s and 50s

Using a dating app is straightforward.

All apps require users to sign in, provide photos and written input, and allow correspondence within the app.

But that’s not what you’re here for.

You’re here to learn how to optimize dating apps.

We’ll show you how to outcompete other online daters.

But first, let’s talk about the best dating apps for men in their 40s and 50s.

Best Apps For Men In 40s and 50s

First up is Hinge.


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Hinge is widely known as “the dating app designed to be deleted.”


Well because that’s their motto.

Despite the catchy copy, the app’s features really do align with its values.

Of the most popular dating apps in the US (Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge) Hinge is by far the least superficial.

Some anti-superficial features include:

  • 10 likes a day (no blind liking)
  • Anti-ghosting reminders
  • Ability to like and comment on written portions of bio
  • Users must complete 3 prompts
  • Personality/lifestyle filters
  • Requires users to scroll past written prompts and bio to see more photos

Being that it forces users to look past superficial beauty it attracts a large number of singles looking for serious long-term relationships. 90% of users are in their late 20s and 30s. I should also mention that Hinge has a more balanced gender ratio than Tinder and Bumble.

This could be the app for you if you’re looking to meet women in their late 30s.


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Bumble is Tinder’s woke, feminist twin sister.

To understand Bumble you have to understand its founder, Whitney Wolfe. Wolfe co-founded Tinder back in the day but left after being sexually harassed.

She ended up suing Tinder and launching her own app, one that puts women first.

As expected, Bumble and Tinder are super similar — with a few key differences.

For one, Bumble requires women to message first. 

If she doesn’t message within 24 hours after the match is made, the connection is lost forever (unless you have a paid membership and decide to revive it).

Bumble’s also unique in that it attracts users that aren’t as lascivious as Tinder. Bumble’s the second most popular app in the US. While it generally caters to a younger crowd its sheer volume of users means there are still plenty of users in their 30s and 40s.

Facebook Dating

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Facebook Dating launched in the US in 2019.

It was only a matter of time before the most popular social media company in the states decided to create a dating feature.

I’d like to tell you that FB Dating is one of the most-used apps for singles in their 40s and 50s but I can’t. Facebook has been incredibly reticent when it comes to numbers.

That being said… it’s Facebook.

We’re sure there are oodles of singles on it.

The coolest aspect of this fairly new FB feature is that the world’s leading social media company has the ability to autogenerate a profile for you. 

best dating apps for men in their 40s and 50s

Finally, Facebook uses its all-knowing powers for good.

This is great news for you guys out there that are not only wondering how to use dating apps but how to create compelling profiles.

The ease of building a profile makes it nearly impossible not to sign up for Facebook.


best dating apps for men in their 40s and 50s

Didn’t think you’d see Tinder on this list did you?

Look, this is a list of the best dating apps for older single men. If I had to pick the one app you absolutely had to download it wouldn’t be Tinder.

However, if you’re going to have an arsenal of dating apps on your phone (which you should) Tinder should 100% be on that list.

It doesn’t matter that it’s principally used by young singles (90% of whom are men).

There are nearly 8 million Tinder users in the USA, almost twice as many as Bumble, the next most popular app.

While 95% of users will be in their 20s and 30s. 5% will be older. 5% sounds like nothing but it’s still probably more users than you’d find on age-specific sites like SilverSingles and Senior Match.

Coffee Meets Bagel

I first found out about Coffee Meets Bagel after their failed Shark Tank pitch.

Despite not receiving any offers — and being called gold diggers — the app went on to be pretty successful.

So successful in fact that I’m recommending to older men that have no idea how to use dating apps.

CMB is a must because it caters to an older crowd — CMB claims 90% of users are looking for serious relationships — without being too difficult to use.

But what really makes it stand out is that every day you’re sent a handful of super compatible profiles picked out by an algorithm. That’s romance in the 2020s for you.

CMB does the work for you.

The League

If only there were a place for all the pretty people to mingle online.

For the pretty, successful, ambitious, 6-figure, CEOs, and world-beaters.

The League brings that place to life – or at least to the app store.

best dating apps for men in their 40s and 50s

I guarantee you The League has the most CEOs, Ivy League grads, and founders per capita than any other app on the market.

After struggling to find a man that equaled her professional success, founder Amanda Bradford did the most ambitious thing possible; she created an app that would attract the kind of hyper-successful man she’d want to date.

To give you an idea of who uses The League, here’s a snippet from a LinkedIn post the founder wrote.

” 98% have college degrees, 8% are pHDs, 30% have advanced degrees, 14% are director-level or higher, 21% are managers, 13% are CEOs, founders, co-founders or owners, and over 39% are estimated to be making six figure salaries. And this is all with an average (and median) female age of 29.

These are high-achieving women that are likely to continue working post marriage and post children (if they choose to have them). The men they (we) want to be matched up with on The League are educated, ambitious, accomplished and confident enough in themselves to desire a female partner that has the drive and intellect to reach high levels of professional success, even if it eclipses his own.”

If you’re looking to meet a successful woman that can match your appetite for success in the boardroom then The League is for you.

Pose Like A Professional

It doesn’t matter how anti-superficial the app is or how against superficiality the users are — photos matter.

So much so that if you don’t have a kickass roster of photos, you’ll likely be kicked to the left (that’s dating app talk for rejected).

All popular apps highlight the user’s photos.

It doesn’t matter if you’re on Match or Tinder, your photos are your first impression.

With that said, it’s vital that you choose a lineup that captures who you are and shows her why she should swipe right.

Do so by abiding by the following:

  • Post photos that don’t obscure your face
  • Only take HD shots
  • The first photo should be a portrait
  • Have at least 1 hobby shot
  • Show off your animals
  • Group shots are great but only after a 3rd picture
  • Travel pictures are encouraged
  • No selfies

But what if you don’t have any quality photos to upload?

That’s where our team of dating app photographers comes in.

We have three photographers based across the US that are ready to swoop in and snap a few pictures for your new dating profile.

However, if you want to go it alone, here are four-ish steps you can take to snap better dating photos.

Draft A Shakespearean Profile

Write a profile that even the greatest of literary flirts would be envious of.

Writing the perfect profile is all about putting who you are front and center.

Most guys online refuse to fill out a profile.

So by putting in an ounce of effort you’re already outdoing thousands of men in your area.

Our coaching program, Dating Decoded will equip you with the skills you need to write a profile Nicholas Sparks himself would want to plagiarize.

We know exactly what women want to read in a profile. We know how to leverage keywords to attract the females you’d be most attracted to, weed out gold diggers, and identify red flags. Our program will teach you everything you need to know in order to match with, court, and set up first dates, control sexual escalation throughout the second and third dates, and much more — with the goal of helping you find your next relationship.

Master The Art of Messaging

Just because she swiped right on your profile doesn’t mean she wants to go out with you — hell it doesn’t even mean she’s willing to chat with you.

One of the four pillars that make up our program involves teaching our clients the tactful art of messaging via a dating app.

Figuring out the right way to court women online shouldn’t be trial and error. You don’t want to waste your time sending sub-par messages to above-par women.

We’ve spent countless hours and have had countless conversations with women online. I know exactly what women want to hear (let’s not forget that I am one).

Our four-pronged program uses a variety of tools to refine your dating chops both online and IRL.

We’ll take you from match to TDL in just a few messages.

Join The Club

You don’t need to go it alone.

Learning how to use dating apps as an older man can get pretty lonely.

Wouldn’t it be awesome to turn dating into an adventure instead of a chore?

Enroll in our dating program and you’ll join a group of men just like you.

Our online community gives you and your fellow single friends a chance to chat it up, share wins and losses, and strategize all in the name of finding your perfect partner.

Learn more about my program by booking a 1-on-1 call.

Together we’ll discuss your goals and figure out if Dating Decoded is right for you.

Let us demystify the dating app dynamic for you and teach you what you need to do to start attracting women online.

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