How To Stop Pleasing People But Still Be Nice (In Dating)
Even before she finishes the request you feel your lips beginning to take form in the shape of a yes.
People-pleasing has become such a part of your identity that it’s now a knee-jerk reaction to requests.
You have a habit of appeasing people when in work, social, and romantic settings — but enough is enough.
You’re here to take back your autonomy and to start looking out for number one without coming across as callous.
If there’s one dynamic that brings out a people pleaser’s toxic habits more than any other, it’s that of a fledgling romance.
The fear of losing someone else and being rejected has a way of amplifying unhealthy behavior.
In this article, I’ll provide you with 7 actionable ways that will teach you how to stop pleasing people you’re dating.
How To Stop Pleasing People (While Dating)
Just because you’re working towards no longer putting another person’s needs ahead of yours even when it’s a detriment to your own well-being doesn’t mean you’re suddenly going to turn into a monster.
Aspiring to not please people doesn’t mean you’ll suddenly treat everyone like a rude snob.
It means you’re prioritizing your own happiness.
Being kind to yourself doesn’t mean you’re being rude to someone else.
Let me show you what I mean.
1) Do Not Go On Another Date If You Don’t Really Want To
If you’re single and MegaDating it means you’re going out with a ton of women in a short period of time.
As much as you’d like to never break up with these women at some point you’re going to have to reject one or two of them.
If not you’ll only end up hurting the both of you as you continue to invest time, money, and emotion into a relationship that already has an expiration date.
If you no longer want to see this person you can simply not message them after a date.
However, not all women get the message.
Some will poke and prod until you ask them out again.
If this is the case you’ll have to fight the urge to succumb to their desires.
Do so by letting her down easily.