How to Get a Girl’s Phone Number

Hey guys, its Emyli and you’re watching EmLovzTV, the place to be if you’re looking to meet and attract beautiful women. If you want to learn how to get a girl’s phone number in person, it’s super important that you completely avoid desperation. You don’t need her, she needs you!

In this segment of EmLovzTV, you’re going to learn how to get a girl’s number. Before we get to that, we’ll discuss why keeping your leverage is a critical factor in whether she hands over her number or not.

Have you ever wondered why guys that are “taken” are always in such high demand by single women? That’s because they give off the natural vibe that they already have what women are looking for. Such men have been pre-selected and every woman wants a guy she can’t have. Women work harder for men that don’t try to win them over.

A man instantly becomes non-threatening when a woman feels his “cool detachment” toward her; the woman assumes that he is not simply trying to “knock her skirt up” or to “get his.” Moreover, the woman more readily trusts him now that the barriers, which she “put up” to fend off undesirably single men, have been lowered. Now watch this week’s EmLovzTV episode and scroll down to learn even more.

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Don’t Throw Away Your Leverage

When you offer to initially buy a random girl a drink, even before she has invested any time in you, the drink buying gesture automatically puts her on a pedestal, placing her worth above yours. She has done nothing to prove herself to you, so by offering to give her something in exchange for nothing, it tells her that you’re easy to obtain and hence, of little value.

Diamonds are coveted because of their perceived rarity; you must embody this dynamic in your seduction strategy. Set your mind to believing that she already wants you because you are worth it. Always try and keep as much leverage as possible, especially in the early stages of courting.

Change Your Intentions

Change your intention when you’re in the field scouting for potential women to date. For instance, pretend that you already have a girlfriend and you’re not looking for anything. Set your mind to believing that you’ll be going home to the hottest woman on the planet that can’t wait to see you. Now let’s imagine you just met hottie at a coffee shop or bar. You’ve used this concept of pretending you have a girlfriend or at least that you are dating other people.

This conceit will subconsciously trigger this woman’s competitive side and make her more attracted to you. It will also lower her reactance and resistance to you because you will appear as if you do not want anything from her. A man who is not after a woman is considered “safe” and non-threatening. Women will more readily open up to a man who is not a threat. You’re now able to successfully build attraction with this lady- with the intention of getting her phone number in the next few minutes.

Naturally Convert More Conversations

Conversely, the woman you begin chatting with should begin sharing personal information with you. You’ve made her open up and become more vulnerable to you. After initiating conversation with a woman or a group of people, keep her hanging on the fact that you didn’t do what every other guy in the room has already tried. Yes, that could mean offering her a drink before you get to know her.

Always have a few good questions ready to go for moments like this. I’m not saying have a “canned approach” to building a conversation up. In fact, I recommend that you never use cheesy routines when getting to know women. Show her that you are interested in her, for example, by asking her if she regularly frequents the bar or coffee shop you are sitting at. Or maybe you ask her an observational question about the unique bracelet she is wearing. Keep it about her, and not you. See if she reciprocates and asks you a few questions. If she does, she is totally into you.

Use Curiosity to Get Her Number

Now that you’ve gotten her interested and talking with you, don’t be afraid to walk away during the height of the conversation. This is a great tactic when learning how to get a girl’s number in person. She now wants more from you and will start to wonder what’s more so important that you have to leave her.

Get her phone number and say something like “Hey, I’m really enjoying our conversation- but I need to get back to my friends (as you look to the other side of the bar). Give me your number so we can connect later.”

Chances are she’ll hand over her number very quickly to you. If you’ve followed all my tips, I bet later during the event she’ll want your attention and validation so badly– that she’ll come and find you. It will be easy to re-engage because of all the tension that built up in her mind after you left her.

Maintain Your Leverage

If you decide to re-engage her with conversation later in the evening; this time, neglect to buy her a drink. She will wonder who this person is (you) who is not employing the same “game play” so many other men take part in. At this point, it’s best to involve yourself in some sort of activity and challenge her and her friends to prove themselves (like at a game of pool, darts, or foosball).

You’ve already activated her radar and stimulated her competitive edge by neglecting to validate her good looks, so she’ll have to prove herself to gain your acceptance and validation. If you can get her friends in on the ruse, you will gain more points, especially if your guy friends are there with you, as you can then move into group social dynamics and chum up with her friends.

You can then move into validating her friends and making her want you more by acknowledging and validating them but taking your time before focusing your full attention on her. This ruse builds trust, lowers resistance, and sets the stage for the appropriate time allotment to “bait and hook” her.

And now you know a little more about how to get a girl’s number in person. Plus, you’ve learned a little more about improving your leverage and how to never be a desperate dater again!

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