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How to Find Your Soulmate

How to Find Your Soulmate

How to Find Your Soulmate

Hey, everyone! It’s Emyli, America’s Dating Coach for Men. Today, I am going to dig into the nitty gritty details on how to meet your soulmate and how to find true love. And it might not be exactly what you would think…

There are many things I learned about how to find your soulmate when I first embarked on my choice to do a 100 date experiment. Between 2011 and 2012, I met and dated over fifty men. Each one offering his own look on the world, opinions, and the opposite sex.

For many of my readers and clients, the mystery of how to find your soulmate can seem unsolvable. How exactly should you go about finding your life partner? The answers will soon be revealed.



I wanted true love in my life and I found the love of my life when I conducted this 100 date experiment. Sometimes, the things I was underestimating the most ended up being big turning points in my journey. I will elaborate more on this further. The following six tips and tricks can show you how you can meet your soulmate.

Keep an Open Mind

The world is constantly moving, breathing, and growing around us. The question is whether we are moving with it. While it’s okay not to keep up with every single trend that might come onto the scene, it’s not okay to remain only within the familiar.

For example, you might always go to the same cafe for lunch. Perhaps you check out the same Chinese restaurants and only stick to bars and theaters that you know and with which you are comfortable. Comfort is great, but it’s simply that. Comfortable.

In order to experience something that has the potential to blow your mind, you must step out of your comfort zone. If you are wondering how to find true love, you need to open your mind up. This means trying new things, meeting new people, and perhaps even trying to understand someone else’s differing point of view.

If you struggle with social anxiety, there are ways around that as well. The most important thing is to stay on the right path and keep your mind moving in a forward direction! If you ever feel like a fraud when you’re figuring out how to find your soulmate, don’t worry. It happens to the best of us!

Be Comfortable on Your Own

One of the first questions to ask yourself is: are you happy being single? If the answer is no, ask yourself why that is exactly. If you’re too busy being concerned about how to meet your soulmate and how to find true love, perhaps you’ve lost track of who you are without someone at your side. But trust me on this one, guys: before you can genuinely be with someone else and share happiness with them, you’ve got to be comfortable being single.

And I know, if you’re busy thinking about how to meet your soulmate, this can be a difficult suggestion to hear. But just because you should take some time being single, doesn’t mean you have to do it alone! Take a few minutes to look up information about your city. Find out what sort of wine tastings, old movie showings, and other events might be coming up. Check out MeetUp.com to find other people who share similar interests with you.

When you participate in activities which don’t revolve around dating, you’ll be able to better see who you really are. Seriously, you could find out some things you never knew about yourself. Perhaps you’re more extroverted (or introverted) than you had originally thought! You won’t truly understand your ultimate strengths and flaws until you spend time with yourself. And then you can focus back on how to meet your soulmate!

Analyze Previous Relationships

Whew, this one is a doozy. It’s may not be the first thing to pop into your mind when you’re wondering how to better yourself, but this tip is extremely important.

When I went on my 100 dates, it was easy to analyze how my most recent dates had gone right or wrong (FYI: I started taking notes about 20% into my experiment). But the further back in time I went, it got tricky remembering all the details. No matter what, my goal was to find true love. And sometimes, in order to get something that we want, we have to remember things that we don’t want.

So think back to how you met your last three girlfriends. Did you know how to find true love back then? What if you had met them each at bars? The relationships were fun and exciting during the first month or two. But then things changed whenever you started hanging out sober. Perhaps you didn’t want to go out with these women any longer- when you saw them in this new light. Or, did they chose partying over you? That’s gotta hurt but it’s important to learn from your previous errors. If you choose to enroll in EmLovz Academy, I will use some of these past mistakes in order to illustrate what not to do in the future.



For example, if you don’t want a girlfriend who’s going to want to go out for a drink on every day that ends in “Y”, maybe you should stop dating girls you meet in bars.

What I tell my clients is to make a specific goal: meet women in different ways. Don’t use the same channel to find all your dates.

Remember what I said about stepping outside of your comfort zone? This means that you’ve got to put yourself out there in a variety of ways. Find a new gym. Hit up your friends to see what sorts of events they’ll be going to and see if you can tag along. Visit new coffee shops. Try new dating apps.

The main goal is to explore each possibility you have of meeting new people. Don’t stick with what’s comfortable. Sometimes, you have no choice but to shake things up a bit and get things moving!

Megadate Frequently

If you aren’t familiar with the term “megadating”, let me give you a quick rundown. Megadating is when you date more than one person at the same time. Rather than getting hung up on one girl, you go out on dates with several women. Megadating is great because it allows you to get a fuller picture of what women are looking for and how you relate to them on a broad scale.

You can also try different tips out when you’re megadating and see how each woman might respond. Some might completely blow you off while others will be super into you! To be frank, sometimes it just depends on the girl. Not every trick in the book works on every woman in the world, unfortunately. We are destined to be enigmas!

Megadating emphasizes the art of dating large. It’s also a lot of fun if you do it right! Rather than seeing it as an unbeatable challenge, view it as a fun game. Tell your friends about megadating and try competing with them. There are a few rules to megadating. The first one is that you’ve got to try dating 15 women in a single month. The second one is that first dates should be under an hour. Don’t linger! Enjoy your time together and move on. Takes notes if you want to be like me! 🙂

What I found helpful when I was doing my 100 date experiment was to stack dates. Basically, you will plan multiple dates in a single day. Plan to meet one girl for lunch then bounce and head across town to meet another woman. It’s as simple as that! If you’re struggling to secure dates, you can brush up on my tips on how to ask a woman out online.

Analyze Current Women

So if you’ve made it to the megadating tip and you’ve been trying it out with great success, then here comes the next tip: analyze each woman you’re currently dating. After each date, grab your phone and write up some notes about pros and cons about the woman you just met.

Write down what it is you found attractive and appealing in them. Write down what drove you away or made you disinterested in them. Did one girl smile just enough and not talk about herself too much? That’s an obvious pro. Did she chew with her mouth open or rolled her eyes when you tried to explain something to her? That’s definitely a con.



Once you’ve got your list, cross reference them to see if you’ve hit any matches. Are you seeing patterns? Perhaps in 10 of the women you enjoyed going out with, you can tell that you are interested in confident attitudes, thoughtful conversations, and killer eyes.

Look at each of the cons on the lists. Can you find any similarities in them? This will be your record of what to avoid in women. Bad manners and rude behavior are usually not the tells of a happy relationship.

Continue analyzing each person. Delete those off your list who you don’t feel are a good match. Pretty soon, your list will narrow down with just a couple women, or perhaps even one. Are you missing this person on a daily basis? Perhaps you’ve found a potential soulmate!

Discover the Woman Who Makes You Happy

Now that you’ve comfortably spent time on your own, got to know at least 30 new women through various outlets and dates, and weighed how each woman made you feel, it’s time to make a decision.

Your ultimate woman is going to be one that makes you happy, confident, and isn’t afraid to let you know that she’s interested. If everything has gone well, she’s going to be the one with the longest list of attractive qualities and the shortest list of unappealing features. She’s the girl that you’ve truly missed when you’ve gone out with other women. You think about her and are always excited to receive her texts. So what do you think? Do you think you’ve found your soulmate?

“I want to find true love in my life,” you might say. And the answer may be right in front of you! Make a decision of which you can be proud. But if you’re still uncertain and still in the process of megadating, I can help you with that! Feel free to book a new client sessions with me today. I will help analyze your dates with you and work to find out how to create more success for you in your dating life.

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