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HOW TO BE A GOOD CONVERSATIONALIST BY AVOIDING TABOO SUBJECTS

HOW TO BE A GOOD CONVERSATIONALIST BY AVOIDING TABOO SUBJECTS

It’s Emyli, America’s Dating Coach for Men. Today we’re covering part three of our three-part conversation series. Today we’re gonna talk about what NOT to say on a date. 

If you missed the first two parts of my conversations series, make sure to start with what to say on a date. Then check out how to tell a story that demonstrates your value to your date. Throughout the course of the first two episodes, you’ve learned how to become a good conversationalist on a date. And we’re going to learn more right now. 

Why is this important? Because meaningful conversation is the key to effective seduction and there are precise techniques that anyone can use to master effective communication.



So how do you do it?…

In this episode of EmLovzTV you’re going to learn what to avoid discussing during your first or second date conversations.

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Are you asking me why this topic is so important during the dating phase of your life. It’s simple- women want guys who enjoy their life, have a good balance, and keep their friends and family close. So make sure you follow these 3 tips for what not to say on a date: 

Love your work

No one wants to hear about how much your life sucks. If you hate your work, friends, or family, don’t tell your date about these negative aspects of your life. This is exactly what not to say to a woman on a date.

Work to improve any area in your life that you find lacking. Women are attracted to happiness and fulfillment, not to anger or depression. If any area of your life isn’t up to par, make a plan to resolve these issues to increase your attraction level.

Whether you’re on a hot date or out on the town, you’re going to be perceived in a certain way depending on how you carry yourself. If you hit the bars after spending a miserable eight hours at a mediocre job that makes you want to jump out the window every five minutes- your body language is going to show that.

Get Some Work Swag

You won’t be walking in with confidence; you’ll be hunched over, tired, exhausted, and bored. No woman is going to want to join you in that lifestyle. Being happy and fulfilled in your work translates into your personal life. It affects your enthusiasm and the way you speak. It also affects the way you feel about yourself, how you stand, the places you go, and the people you meet.

Your work affects every single aspect of your life. It is not just some job to pay the bills. You need to make sure that your work is something you are passionate about, or something that inspires you. Make sure your work actually pays you what you’re really worth. Lastly, make sure your work allows you to live the type of life you were born to live.



It is not selfish to have the job you want; it is necessary. If you don’t have it yet, you better have a plan because high value women don’t waste time on men whom they perceive are not “going somewhere” in their lives. Without inspiration, life is dull. Find some or you’ll never get your girl.

Work-Life Balance

You also want to have a healthy balance between work and play. A woman wants a man who is financially stable, but he must also be creative and have plans to build a future on. For example, he should be capable of creating a rich and colorful life for his mate—a life as replete with adventure and excitement as with security and stability.

You must get passionate about everything so that your mate in turn can be passionate about you. Make sure that you don’t spend all of your time at work. During your off hours, get involved in a new hobby that keeps you socially active and gets you out of “work mode.” Make the hobby something unique to the type of person you are and what you love to do. Maybe that’s joining a baseball team, a Sunday slosh ball tournament, or an outdoor barbecue brigade.

Start doing more of what you love with good people whom you enjoy. This way, the next time you meet a hot brunette at a coffee shop and she asks, “What do you like to do for fun?” you’ll have something better to say than “My job keeps me busy” or “I don’t have time to have fun.” If you give this boring answer, you’ll probably get rejected by her

Keep Your Friends Close

Another important factor in seduction is your friendships–the type of people whom you surround yourself with. If you’re going out with your boys for the night to try and pick up chicks, make sure that you really like the people with whom you’re “rolling.” Nothing is more attractive to a woman than a man who has high social value and is well liked by his peers.

If you walk into a bar with a group of your closest friends, and you’re laughing and telling stories from “back in the day,” she’s going to hear and feel the positive energy you’re exuding. Everybody wants to have fun, and you’ll notice that the more fun you’re having while in the social scene, the more that people will naturally be drawn to you.

It’s like moths to a flame. Instead of going out with just whomever, go out with a group of people you really enjoy and make your only priority to “have a good time.” People want to be a part of what is most fun, so make it your goal to choose the best friends you can to surround yourself with.

Ditch the “negative Nellies, they’re only going to drag you down and keep you from getting what you really want. Select better friends. This will naturally allow you to create good conversation topics with a woman if you meet her in this way. 

Spend Some Time with Your Family

Lastly, your family relationships significantly affect how women perceive you. If you treat your mom or your sister poorly, that poor treatment translates into how you’re going to treat your girl. Respect the women closest to you in your life: they’re the most influential aspects of your character.

If you have a bad relationship with any family members, strive hard to improve these relationships. Women are attracted to men from strong families, especially if the men in question were raised well and taught how to be respectful towards women.

Also, if a man had a sister and was protective of her, he is conditioned to protect women. Make no mistake, this is a big deal. Women are very aware of incongruence in your character. All areas of your personal life must be fulfilling to you or you cannot be truly fulfilling to her.

And now we’re finally through our 3 part series on how to be a good conversationalist with women! 



Serious About Reaching Your Dating Goals? 

Wanna speed up rate at which you find your next girlfriend? Or maybe you have a specific dating situation you want help with? Feel free and book a New Client Skype coaching session on my calendar. I love working with smart, hardworking men who like to reach their personal goals!

And keep up the good work because You Deserve the Perfect Partner!

With Love,

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