Ahh Bumble, the idealist feminist app that for all intents and purposes is Tinder, but with slightly more chicks.

Look, Bumble wants you to think it’s a female-first app, but in reality the only thing female-first about it is how messaging works.

Don’t get me wrong though, Bumble should 100% be in your pocket.

It’s the second most widely used app in the US, is a favorite in these states, and has a more mature user-base that isn’t wholly fixated on finding a late-night booty call.

Bumble’s hive is surely buzzing – that is of course why you use it.

But there’s just one issue you’ve been having of late. For whatever reason, you’ve seen your Bumble matches unmatch you and disappear.

Is this just some giant conspiracy to get you to pay for the app? No, it’s not.

But it might be a number of things such as you being blocked, unmatched because you watch Frasier, etc.

Let’s explore the many reasons why you might have had a Bumble match unmatched. But first, let’s take a look at why you definitely weren’t unmatched.

Bumble Match Unmatched: When It’s Out of Your Control

Girls First

Women hate being bombarded by messages via dating apps. Ask your female friend to open a dating app right now and it’s likely that she can show you a host of messages waiting to be responded to.

In an effort to do away with such inundation — Bumble thought it was best to only allow conversations to begin should a female message first.

That means that even if you receive a new match, you’re not able to message her until she hits you up first. If she opts to not shoot you a message within the first 24 hours after a match the match will disappear.

This is a well-known feature of Bumble.

It isn’t that a woman is un-matching you, rather time simply expired.

It may sound dumb, but just because a woman matched with you doesn’t mean she actually wants to talk with you. A LendEDU study found that 44% of those surveyed reported primarily use dating apps to boost self-esteem.

Maybe she doesn’t want to date you, she just wants that hit of dopamine she gets from matching.

Considering this didn’t happen to you, where you were automatically unmatched after 24 hours of radio silence, let’s answer the question of why your Bumble conversation disappeared?

Why Your Bumble Conversation Disappeared

She May Have Met Someone Else

As we’ve noted before, ladies get hella more matches than dudes.

I’m talkin’ exponentially more matches than guys.

If you’re a lady, it’s just easier to meet dudes. You can recline, throw your line out and wait all of 30 seconds before you get a bite. We can pick and choose who we want to match with, chat, with, date, and ultimately be in a relationship with.

We meet guys all the freakin’ time.

At the cafe, while jogging, online — we could be wearing a “don’t talk to me I’m on my period” shirt, and dudes would still approach us.

That in mind, is it really that surprising that she may have met someone else?

Answer: no… it’s not.

If she did, it makes sense that she unmatched you.

And no, don’t start thinking it was something that you did to let this happen. Rather, another guy just got to her first.

She Didn’t Like Something You Said Or Did

You can’t please everyone, nor should you want to.

Sometimes people just aren’t a good fit for you. The more specific and detailed your profile, the more polarizing it will be and the less you’ll match with women who don’t vibe with you.

Chances are you said something that weirded her out early on, leading you to searching Google for why your Bumble match unmatched you. Here’s the thing though, while she did unmatch you, that may not have been the wrong decision.

Look, far too many guys get passed on because they’re dull.

They message “hey,” “hi,” or “how’s your day,” and pray that she responds.

Don’t be that guy.

It’s difficult to say, but some companies estimate that 80% of Bumble users are male. With such competition, it’s vital that you do whatever you can to stand out.

This means creating a kick-ass roster of photos, penning a Bumble bio even Clooney would be jealous of, and of course, using witty — and sometimes racy — icebreakers.

If what you said did happen to cross the line, don’t be surprised if she unmatched you. The last thing she needs is a questionable dude pinging her messages every other day.

She’s Overwhelmed

A Bumble match disappearance isn’t merely a virtual play card that is no more. It’s a real person that most likely made a conscious decision to severe a link.

She may feel overwhelmed.

Overwhelmed because she’s constantly getting hit up by dozens of guys every day.

Look, women get a lot more messages than men. It can become necessary to narrow down the list. Sometimes you go on a swiping spree because you’re feeling super lonely one day. Then all of a sudden, you wind up with an inbox full of messages and too many people to respond back to. Feeling overwhelmed, you might try and unmatch with as many as possible to narrow down the options. This is a reality for women.

Part of her romantic cleansing involves unmatching dudes from Bumble. Even if it doesn’t actually do much to alter her romantic life and keep the dudes at bay, it still feels like something. It’s this feeling of romantic control that she may be after when she gives you the boot.

She Could Have Deleted Her Account, Effectively Unmatching You

But she was the one!!!

Sorry, but she wasn’t.

She may have deleted the app. And yes, it’s most likely to no fault of your own. The fault lies with other guys. The men that message “hey” or those that think having her sit on their face is her ideal first date (it never is).

Perhaps she had a bad date, got rejected, ghosted, or friend-zoned.

Whatever the case may be she’s over it.

And when she’s over the app, she’s over you.

While you may love dating apps, not everyone does.

According to Pew Research, 42% of those that have used dating apps reported having an overall negative experience with apps. Dating apps aren’t for everyone. Quite often you need to invest countless hours simply to score a quality match. And even then the chances of getting a response are super low.

She’s burnt out.

Don’t take it personally when you discover that a Bumble match unmatched you.

Sometimes it’s not you, it’s the app.

She’s Been Blocked By Bumble

Why?

She was a freakin’ scammer that’s why.

Maybe she was a bot, sent lewd photos to someone, or offended another user who reported her.

Ever match with a woman and think, “wow, jackpot!” The chick’s smoking hot went to Harvard and is way out of your league.

Yeah, sorry to break it to you, but life ain’t that grand. The universe isn’t watching over your romantic prospects, and 10s don’t randomly match with you and strike up a conversation.

Chances are she was banned for being too good to be true (read: a bot, sex worker, scammer).

There’s also a possibility that there’s a glitch in the system. That for whatever reason she got banned by accident. 

Let’s also not forget that she’s interacting with massive douchebags on a daily basis. Not everyone is looking for a long term relationship like you. It’s more than likely that some dude she never responded to, got pissed, reported her, and ruined your chances of ever meeting this woman.

Even though she did nothing wrong — according to everyone except Chad — the app doesn’t have an unlimited amount of time to deal with complaints, so the algorithm just blocks the user to keep things simple. 

There Are Other Women Out There

So one woman unmatched you on Bumble.

So. Freakin’. What.

Look I know that it’s more difficult for guys to get matches than women. I also know that because of this it’s easy for dudes to fantasize about women they’ve matched with but never met.

There’s only one way to address this unhealthy obsession — MegaDating.

MegaDating is all about dating multiple women simultaneously.

But how?

Considering most new couples meet online nowadays you should concentrate most of your time and energy on meeting women via dating apps. Instead of investing all your time on a single app (Bumble) flex your fingers and try swiping on five dating apps.

Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge must all be downloaded. Other options include Facebook Dating, Match, OkCupid, Coffee Meets Bagel, Happn, etc.

Tinder should be downloaded because it’s the most popular dating app around. By around, I mean in the entirety of the United States. Sure, only 50% of Tinder users have ever met up with a match, but it doesn’t matter. With all those single fishies swimming around you might as well drop a line and see what happens.

The other must-have app is Hinge.

Hinge is different from other dating apps in that it isn’t designed to addict you.

Allow me to explain.

Hinge claims that it’s “designed to be deleted.”

This design plays out in a number of ways.

For one, users are able to utilize uber-specific search filters. Don’t want to date a super pious woman, fine, don’t like Republicans, fine too. Hinge allows you to filter out people you’re not compatible with, thus saving you a ton of time.

Hinge also only grants users 10 likes a day. This way they’re not clicking away all day. Lastly, the app gives users a slight nudge if they haven’t responded to a message in a while. It’s because of these features that Hinge attracts a more mature dater, one that cares more so for a long-distance relationship than a superficial romp in the sack.

MegaDating is about more than just swiping away online.

It involves turning these matches into dates.

To do this you’ll use a TDL, suave conversation starters, and a host of other skills.

Moving Forward

There’s only one way you’re going to master these skills.

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