Within the next 10 years, 34% of all newborns will be “ebabies” or children born to parents that met online.
If that’s the case where the hell are all the beautiful women of Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge?
It’s that question that we’ll be answering in the next five minutes.
I’m sure your follow-up question is, “how can I match with them?”
We’ll tackle that one too.
Let’s ditch the foreplay then shall we?
This is how to find beautiful women and how to get better matches on Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge.
The reason you’re not seeing women to your liking, nor matching with these women overlap.
Together, we’ll reveal the not-so-secret ways to optimize your profile so that you’re flirting with the women you want to be exchanging sexy emojis with.
ELO is Tinder’s version of cupid.
Except instead of stalking you on your way to work and shooting your ass with an arrow ELO takes a more laid-back and scientific approach.
ELO is Tinder’s desirability algorithm.
And while Tinder claims it no longer uses ELO it has also stated that:
I know we’re talking a lot about Tinder here, but it’s our hunch that all dating apps use their own version of ELO.
This my friend, is you.
Alright, maybe this isn’t you.
Maybe unlike the innovative (yet oh, so thirsty) person that created this contraption above, you just downloaded Bonfire and Tinder Auto Liker.
Whether you swipe right indiscriminately or not, the point is that it’s hurting your ELO score.
The algorithm knows if you’ve been bad or good better than Santa Claus. It knows when you’re asleep, awake, and when you’ve swiped right on an alien or other non-human dating profile.
It takes this into account.
If you swipe right on every single Hinge, Bumble, and Tinder profile, these apps will just show you any old woman that happens to satisfy your search preferences.
Train the algorithm by being pickier.
Only swipe right on women you’d date.
This will train the algorithmic cupids of these dating apps to only show you a certain type of woman.
So keep that swipe finger holstered until a woman you can actually see yourself dating pops up.
Believe it or not, you’re not a bad-looking dude.
Thing is, when you take photos like this, you convince people that you’re a bad-looking dude.
Or maybe you don’t convince them you’re ugly, just too sweet for their liking.
A recent Hinge study found that selfies are 40% less likely to receive a like than selfie photos. If you want to get not only more swipes but right-swipes from women you’re interested in, you’re going to need to change up your photo game and that means following the best photo practices for me.
So if you’re trying to figure out how to get better matches on Tinder, Bumble, or Hinge…..and you have no idea where to start when it comes to creating a new photo roster — take these quick tips into account:
1) First photo should be a headshot with a nice background
2) Second photo should be a full-body shot
3) Include 1-2 group shots but slot them in only after the second photo
4) Include one hobby photo
5) Slot in one “GQ” style photo (think fancy)
6) Wear different clothes in each shot
7) Smile!
8) Only use HD quality photos
Even if you follow the aforementioned tips you still might wind up posting photos that are less than flattering.
To ascertain if what you’re posting is what the ladies want to see, you have two options.
You can either ask your female friends for feedback or ask strangers.
I recommend the latter.
Photofeeler is a photo-ranking website where complete strangers grade your photo in three different categories.
You can pick any trait you’d like to be graded on.
I recommend only posting photos that have an 8+ score in at least one category. Wait until you have 10 votes to post a new photo on your online dating account.
As far as taking photos that you think are worthy of posting, the next time you’re out and about ask a buddy to snap a photo or two.
Or you can always hire a professional.
How many women have you swiped past that have written absolutely nothing in the bio?
Chances are a great many.
And it’s vexing, right?
I mean, sure all dating apps are superficial, but it’s not like she’s helping to buck that perspective.
Guess what.
She can say the same the same exact thing about you.
Your lack of a written bio is killing you.
How do you make her comfortable?
By humanizing yourself.
This means taking photos that show what you look like and writing a bio that demonstrates your character.
This is what you’ll have to do to attract women in general.
However to attract women you’re compatible with you’ll have to:
— Use specific keywords
— Be polarizing
— Not be afraid to stand out and talk about how weird you are
Written bios should:
— Talk about your likes
— Be specific
— Make her laugh (or at least giggle)
— Be 5-10 sentences
— Should humanize you and give her an idea of who you are
— Not talk about tacos, The Office, or margaritas
— Not talk about what everyone else is talking about
— Be grammatically correct
The one point I’d really like to emphasize is that of being polarizing.
You don’t want to attract every woman on dating apps.
There’s little point in attracting women you’re not compatible with. That’s why you should write about your love affair with Ping Pong, you’re salsa dancing ability, and your political views.
Being specific will weed out people you don’t share common interests with. Doing so will save you time and will put you in front of people you’re most interested in.
Chances are you’ve doing things backwards for a while now.
In order for your fortunes to reverse itself, you’ll need to give your account some time.
No immediate gains will be made considering your ELO score is already pretty low.
Changing your score takes time, so trust in the process and wait it out.
One thing you definitely don’t want to do is to delete your profile.
Doing so may result in a shadowban or permanent ban from dating apps.
A shadowban is when the dating app doesn’t inform you that you’ve been banned. Instead, you’re simply not permitted to receive new messages or matches.
It’s pretty painful and happens when an app has caught you trying to game the system by deleting and re-downloading the app.
Are you only swiping on women 10+ years younger than you?
If so I can’t say that’s surprising.
Men are naturally attracted to women younger than themselves. 538.com shows us that the average age difference of a heterosexual couple is 2.3 years with men almost always being older than women.
The thing is, most relationships that are 10+ years apart don’t work out.
There’s no reason to even pursue a woman 10+ years younger than yourself because as studies show it probably won’t work out.
If you’re wondering why you’re not seeing beautiful women on the app and why the few you do so don’t swipe right on you, this could be why.
Change your expectations and start swiping to women that are within 10 years of your age. Immediately you’ll start to see your ELO score rise and matches stack up in your match inbox.
If you live in a city, this next point doesn’t really apply to you.
Unless of course you live in or a city that has a blue dot next to it (heavily male-dominated cities).
If there are few women around you, chances are you won’t be able to get better matches on Tinder.
To expand your horizon you’ll need to literally expand your search preferences. Each and every app has this option but not all offer Travel Mode.
Travel Mode gives users the ability to swipe away in any city in the world.
For those that live in small towns but are thinking of moving or are willing to meet people that live far away, this option is for you.
At the end of the day, dating online is a numbers game (one that leans heavily male).
Sometimes there just aren’t enough women to go around in your town or city. If that’s the case you’ll have to adapt.
Even uploading one new photo can make a dramatic change to your swiping experience.
Tinder, Bumble, and the like take into account how often you use the app as well as how often you update your profile.
An updated profile will typically mean that you’ll be shown to women that have formerly swiped left on you.
It’s as if these apps see your profile as new once again.
This is a quick and easy change you can make that can have a serious impact on the type of women you’re seeing on these apps.
However, as we’ve gone over, it’s not the only change you can make.
Revamping your profile so that you get better matches on Tinder and other dating apps is no easy venture.
And that’s why our emlovz coaching program exists!
Curios to better understand how our coaching program can help you get better matches on Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge?
If so, feel free and book a new client coaching session with one of our coaches today. During the intro call, we’ll discuss your dating goals, create a strategy, and determine if you’re a fit for our program.