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Who Is The Best Dating Coach & Matchmaker in San Diego?

Who Is The Best Dating Coach & Matchmaker in San Diego?

When we talk about the most happening places in the United States, San Diego rarely makes the cut.

San Diego might derive most of its popularity from its proximity to another city, Tijuana.

And hey, it makes sense that San Diego is constantly overlooked considering it lives in the shadow of other CA cities like San Francisco, Los Angeles, Orange County or even Silicon Valley (for its jobs).



However, “America’s Finest City” has a lot going for it.

San Diego is America’s 8th most populous city, was home to Dr. Seuss, has a thriving craft beer scene, and some of the best beaches the country has to offer.

In this article we’ll profile the city and have a look at the best dating coaches in San Diego.

San Diego By The Numbers

The southernmost city of CA has a pretty even gender ratio.

50.34% of its residents are male and 49.66% female. But this stat doesn’t exactly paint a clear picture of the single scene. According to Bloomberg City Lab, there are 1,101 single males for every 1,000 single females. This comes out to about 50,000 more single males than females. Such a ratio means men need to work that much harder to get a woman’s attention.

The gender disparity doesn’t end there though. Oddly enough the median age for females is nearly two full years older than the median male age. But what the city may lack in a favorable demographic it makes up for in SD date ideas.

Even though men may have to try a bit harder to impress the women they’re courting, the big D still gets some of the best marks for its dating scene. A WalletHub study published in 2019 found that San Diego was the 4th best city for singles. In a study of 182 American cities, San Diego ranked 8th in “Fun & Recreation Activities” and 17th in “Dating Opportunities.”

San Diego is the 11th most dog-friendly city in the states. It has the most dog parks and dog-friendly restaurants per capita. If you’re single and have a pooch to help you wingman, San Diego is the city for you.

Don’t worry about weather canceling your dog-related dates. San Diego is known for its kick-ass weather and abundance of rain-free days.

It’s these sunny sky days that are perfect for the beach. San Diego is close to both Newport and Laguna Beach, two of the nicest beaches in the US if not North America. If you don’t feel like driving out of town to hit the beach, no worries, residents have access to over 24 local beaches.

Best Dating Apps for San Diego Locals

It’s no surprise that America’s most popular dating app is also the most used online dating app in California.



When thinking of the laid back Cali stereotype, it’s Tinder that best aligns with the Cali persona.

Tinder is for the young and free. Its most popular age bracket is singles between the ages of 18-24. That being said, Tinder still boasts hundreds of thousands of users older than 24 that use the app. If you’re a male living in San Diego, and you’re under the age of 35 I’d recommend using the app.

When Tinder users outgrow the app and graduate to a more serious online dating app, they often choose Bumble. Bumble caters towards singles that are now looking for more serious long-term relationships. Joining a part of the beehive means signing up for the app that claims to be “100% feminist.” In practice what this looks like is requiring women to message first. While the prospect of sitting back and waiting for women to message first, expect quite a bit of “hey” messages. Now you know how they feel.

Another app that’s gaining popularity within the San Diego community is Hinge. The dating app that’s “designed to be deleted” claims to set itself apart from other dating apps in 8 unique ways. Some of these ways include the creation of detailed profiles, probing prompts, an algorithm that presents you with a profile you’re highly compatible with every day, limited likes, and more.

I recommend using up to 5 apps when in San Diego. Each app’s design and purpose attracts a certain type of user. To make sure you’re appealing to a broad range of single women, download 5 apps.

That being said, downloading apps doesn’t guarantee you’ll score a date.

Dating coaches, like myself, help refine your dating game.

You can helplessly fish around the online dating pools or you can enlist the help of a dating coach to help hone your fishing game. Here are the best dating coaches San Diego has to offer.

The Best Dating Coach In San Diego (& Matchmaker)

Being the best dating coach in San Diego doesn’t mean you have to be in SD.

The best coach is the one that can best equip its students with effective dating skills. A quality dating coach will teach you how to approach women both online and IRL, how to create a bond, ask them out, how to meet a woman, teach you effective date 1-5 rules, how to follow-up with a woman after a first date, and much more.

A dating coach will give you skills that you can carry with you for the rest of your life. Therefore, the best dating coach that services SD singles isn’t in San Diego, she’s in San Francisco.

That’s right, I’m talking about us here at emlovz.



emlovz offers both coaching and matchmaking options!

We offer an in-depth 12 week coaching program in both private and group formats (sessions held via Zoom). For those of you who qualify, we also offer a matchmaking add-on. It’s this rare combination of teaching you how to date and supplying you with compatible women that is rare to find among dating services.

When it comes to matchmaking, we deploy a team of e-recruiters to comb the web in search of the most compatible women near you. We don’t pull from a limited database of women like other “local” matchmakers.

Once you’re sitting down to eat across from potentially the woman of your dreams, we won’t leave you tongue-tied. Before setting you up we’ll teach you how to make a woman feel comfortable on a date, how to ask her out with a TDL, and how to MegaDate.

While we consider ourselves to be the best dating coach to service San Diego singles, there are other options.

San Diego Dating Coaches: Best Of The Rest

Sapphire Dating is one of the first names to pop up on the list of the best dating coaches in San Diego. Sapphire offers three different dating packages to single men and women. Each program offers unique features such as date diagnostics, makeovers, and a dating bootcamp. Sapphire is located in San Diego proper.

Stephen Nash is another coach located in south California. In-person and online Nash promises to completely revamp your dating philosophy. Nash starts with every client by getting them to “understand the true nature of attraction between men and women.” The podcaster and blogger has a 7-step process that is guaranteed to land you a girlfriend.

Good Gentleman rounds out our list of Southern Cal-based dating coaches. Ruby, the owner, and founder of the Good Gentlemen vows to turn nice men into good men. This Ted-x speaker uses a 5-step approach that consists of 12-15 modules in order to turn your dating life around. In this 1-1 coaching experience, Ruby promises clients that they’ll finally meet the girl of their dreams, will gain a unique awareness of their skills and strengths, will attract women that interest them, reduce the rejection rate, and no longer be nervous when meeting a woman.

What Now?

These San Diego matchmakers and coaches all promise to completely turn your dating life around. Through coaching and insider information they promise to help you become a 21st century Don Juan.

However, what they don’t offer is the opportunity to find you, compatible single women. And they don’t offer the extensive options of 1-on-1 personal support that emlovz does. For example, we have an ongoing group coaching program where you’ll meetup weekly with 8-12 guys via Zoom who are going through the same issues you are!

Sure the aforementioned dating coaches of SD will teach how to flirt and overcome dating nerves, but they don’t put in the dirty of work of finding you a woman to date this Friday.

With all the learning going on, finding women to date on your own could quickly lead to burn out. Allow us at emlovz to both teach you how to date effectively and set you up on dates.



Book a 1-on-1 Zoom appointment today so that we can begin to rewire your dating habits.

The first topic we’ll cover is MegaDating. As we’ve touched on, MegaDating is the dating of various women at the same time. Dating multiple women simultaneous has a host of benefits. It quickly does away with dating-related fear, prevents you from settling, shows you what type of women you’re interested in, increases your confidence, and will ultimately expedite the time it takes to find a woman of merit.

As discussed, private or group based Signature Program includes 12 coaching sessions over a three month period. We’ll begin by crafting your ideal girlfriend before we dive into how to attract the type of woman you’re interested in.

Next we’ll tackle Date Development and Social Strategy. You’ll also learn how to kill it online, alternatives to online dating, how to converse with women IRL, how to touch women, make them feel safe, build sexual tension and more.

We invest in our careers, bodies, and diets… but not in our love lives -why not?

With a professional wingwoman on your side, you’ll quickly see yourself in a new light, and will learn that you’ve always been a suave romantic, you just needed a little provocation to express that part of you.

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