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Dating Tips for Jewish Men Looking for Love

Dating Tips for Jewish Men Looking for Love

Here at emlovz, I work with students from all walks of life.

Throughout the years, I’ve learned a lot from my Jewish male students, which is why I wanted to create an article on dating tips for Jewish guys.

Many Jewish parents want to keep their rich culture alive. For that reason, they often urge their children to date within the Jewish community.



Although it’s great to have a niche when it comes to romance, dating exclusively within your community can feel limiting. To help you navigate the modern Jewish (and non-Jewish dating scene) I’ve assembled the the most impactful steps my Jewish have taken to finding their long-term partner. 

Conflict of Interest

Oftentimes, people swipe right indiscriminately.

This leads you to end up matching with people whose values are out of alignment with your own. After a few lines of banter, you realize that the woman either:

  • Doesn’t share your cultural or religious views
  • Has spiritual or religious views that contradict your own

Lucky for you, I have some expert dating tips for Jewish guys that will provide you with plenty of dating options within your own culture (if that’s what you really want). I’ll also provide some tips on optimizing your success so that you can deepen connections with the people you meet and find the woman of your dreams!

Dating Tips for Jewish Guys

#1: Attend Jewish-Sponsored Events

A simple Google search can offer you a ton of options when it comes to finding Jewish-sponsored events — dating or otherwise. You can also look up events on websites like Eventbrite.com or join Jewish groups on Meetup.com. 

But perhaps the easiest way of all would be to see what events the Temple or Synagogue you belong to is putting on. You can also ask family, friends, and acquaintances if they know of any upcoming events where there are bound to be a lot of people attending.

Another event you may want to consider attending is a late-night Shabbat.

#2: Speed Dating

If you wanted to you could attend a speed dating event every night of the week – especially if you live in a place like NYC.

But perhaps not all speed dating events are your style.

If you’d prefer to date Jewish women, attend a Jewish speed dating event. 

At the time of writing this article the next Jewish speed-dating event on the calendar is sold out… for women. There are still spots available for men. That means you my friend will be in high-demand.



As a refresher, speed dating works something like this…

You go on a series of brief dates (often only five minutes long). At the end of each date you score the woman you just dated. At the end of the date, you give your date scorecard to the organizers. Should you and someone you dated indicate mutual interest, you will both be notified via email and provided their contact info.

The Jewish speed dating group I linked above claims 70-80% of participants have at least one match.

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Tip #3: Go To Temple

It may seem strange to go to the temple in order to pick up women. You don’t want to come off as one of those guys from Wedding Crashers. But hear me out.

Going to Temple is a great way to connect with your faith and enhance spiritual wellness. And if your Jewish faith is important to you, what better place to meet someone who shares your values? Introduce yourself to people who are interesting. The following can increase your chances of success:

  • Going to Temple every week so you get a feel for the people who go routinely
  • Practice good eye contact and smile at women you find attractive before introducing yourself

If you want to meet a Jewish woman that shares your values and comes from a similar cultural background there is no place better to look than within your local religious community.

Tip #4: Jewish Meetups on Meetup.com

I touched on this in some of the previous tips but let’s delve a little bit deeper. I always recommend Meetup.com, whether I’m dolling out dating tips for Jewish guys or anyone else looking for love.

Find Jewish Meetups that are meaningful to you. Make it your goal to have three meaningful conversations with women at each event. Don’t put pressure on yourself. Consider this practice and you’ll notice that, as you continually put yourself out there, your anxiety will become less and less and your approach will be finessed.

And remember, you’re only having conversations. You’re not going into every interaction with the objective or stealing a kiss, flirting, or even getting her number. Naturally, as you two bond escalating will come naturally. Simply aspiring to have a conversation is a good enough goal for now. Desiring anything more could set you up for failure and discourage you from interacting.

Remember that a lot of people who join Meetup groups are looking to put themselves out there and often are a bit introverted as well.

In fact, in my experience, I’ve noticed that certain people use Meetup as a way to work on combatting social anxiety. It’s an easy and pressure-free way to work on your social skills and meet some potential friends and dates along the way.



Tip #5: Try Out Jewish Dating Sites And Apps

You may not realize there are a bevy of dating sites and apps created specifically for Jewish culture. Some of these offer their own dating tips for Jewish guys as well. Many of these are geared toward marriage-minded singles.

The two Jewish-specific apps we recommend our students use are Jdate and JSwipe. 

There are also JWed and JPeople meet, but with niche apps you best stick with the ones with the most users.

Founded in 1997, Jdate was the original Jewish dating platform. It now claims to be responsible for more than half of all Jewish relationships that started online. Jdate is straightforward. It asks users for basic info like name, age, and height, how often you go to a place of worship, and boom you’re on your way to finding a lovely single Jewish woman.

JSwipe is similar however it feels a lot more like Tinder and thus attracts a younger audience. Known as Jewish Tinder its users are more interested in finding short-term relationships than Jdate users.

But of course these are just the niche apps. There are apps like Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge that you should also download.

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Tip #6: Use Dating App Filters

Niche Jewish dating apps aren’t your only option.

Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge should also be in your toolkit.

Tinder because it has the largest amount of users of all dating apps. If you want to filter out non-Jewish women, simply write in your profile that you’re looking for someone that shares your religion.

Bumble and Hinge allow you to filter via religion. If you pay for Bumble Premium ($59.99/month) you can filter via religion. Hinge also requires users to pay to filter via religion.



I’d say you should only pay for these options if your profile is already competitive. If not, it’s not likely that you’ll perform that much better after applying certain filters.

Tip #7: Be Cautious Of The Want-To-Be Matchmaker

I agree that you should tap into friends, family, and acquaintances to mine for dates.

The issue is when people come out of the woodwork and try to set you up. When Mrs. Hoffman, the woman that always smiles at you all too affectionately at Temple suddenly wants to set you up, be wary.

Does this woman really know you well enough to set you up? I’m sure she has the right intentions, but if you can’t vet women prior to dating them do you really want to take the chance? Do you really want to waste precious time and money investing in a woman that you dislike the second you set eyes on her?

Only trust those close to you for their romantic guidance.

Many people are more than willing to play the role of Cupid, but use your smarts before you agree to any blind dates set up by someone that doesn’t know you all too well or has a shaky track record of setting people up.

#8 Find Women While Enjoying Your Hobbies

This is a true story.

I have a friend who does community theatre. She’s dated more than a few guys that she met in plays. In fact, it’s not at all uncommon for actors to date other actors. Look at all those famous costar relationships you see splayed across magazines!

She revealed to me that two of the biggest reasons she found herself engaging in showmances for two reasons — proximity and common interests.

When you’re constantly around the same people, it’s natural for romance to ensue at an increased rate. You relate to each other, get to know each other and honestly, it’s just more convenient.

So what are your main hobbies?

Maybe you love baseball, or kickball, love to jog, hike, or work out. Whatever the case may be, start meeting women while doing what you love most. Meeting women with interests similar to your own means you’re meeting compatible women that you’re likely to be highly attracted to.



Also when you’re out and about meeting these women, set goals for yourself. Maybe that goal is to greet every woman in your group. That’s a low bar and one I might recommend to someone new to dating. Once you’re a tad more confident you can set a goal of asking for a number or flirting with one or two women.

Push your comfort boundaries, even if you’re just brushing the edges of that boundary.

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Tip #9 Know Yourself & What You Want

Do you know the type of woman you want to date?

What does she look like, what are her hobbies, how does she spend her Sundays?

At emlovz one of the very first things we require our students to do is create an ideal girlfriend persona.

You’ll list her traits, background, hobbies, appearance, etc.

Doing so centers your dating efforts. Instead of being distracted by the wrong women and searching in the wrong places, you’ll be laser-focused on attracting your ideal partner. Knowing who your ideal partner is and going after her also will prevent you from settling.

Tip #10: Network with Your Jewish Friends

Network with your other Jewish friends and colleagues. Let them know that you are looking to meet someone who shares your faith and interest in Jewish culture. Ask for introductions – don’t be shy about it. 

The difference between networking among friends, colleagues, and acquaintances, and having someone playing matchmaker is that the former takes your preferences into consideration.

Being proactive and asking if your friends know a lovely woman who is x, y, and z, will yield better results than a random person coming up to you claiming they’ve found the one.

Your friends know who you are, what you’re looking for, and will have your best interests at heart. Lean on them to help find your next girlfriend.

Tip #11: MegaDate

FYI, you can apply all these tips when looking to find a Jewish girlfriend. There’s no need to choose one over the other — try them all!



The more dates you can racket up the better. When you date people concurrently (i.e., date more than one person at a time), you’re practicing a dating strategy known as MegaDating.

Why Does MegaDating Work?

MegaDating is the main strategy I used during my 100-date experiment. It worked for me and it can work for you too!

When you MegaDate, you see firsthand that there are a lot of fish in the sea. This gives way to an abundance mindset. And when you view the dating landscape as one of abundance, you avoid settling for the mediocre, chasing after women, or getting hung up on the idea of “the one.” Moreover, MegaDating is straight up fun!

If you’re wondering where you’ll go on all these dates, just check out these 53 amazing NYC date spots.

If this sounds daunting, don’t worry. It doesn’t have to be. Remember, I’m here to walk you through all the steps that come with MegaDating and all the other facets of the dating world.

Tip #12: Hire a Dating Coach Who’s Worked w/ Jewish Students

You can also hire a dating coach who’s worked with plenty of Jewish students — like me!

Benefits of Hiring Me as Your Dating Coach

During my 100-date experiment, I gained a wealth of knowledge on all the intricacies of the dating world. I learned what worked and what didn’t. Throughout the experiment, I not only discovered a lot about the people around me — I learned about myself and grew into the person I wanted to be. This led me to a long-term, compatible partner. Years later, my boyfriend and I are still going strong.

And since my experiment, I’ve continued to educate myself on all aspects of dating. I use my knowledge and expertise to help men (just like you) increase their confidence and find lasting love.

Some of the benefits of hiring me as a dating coach include:

  • Accountability: You don’t have to rely on your willpower as the sole source when it comes to continually putting yourself out there in the dating world. I will hold you accountable, and accountability is a big predictor of success.
  • Reach your goals faster: Together, we will create an individualized action plan to help you overcome your dating roadblocks and crush your goals.
  • Support when dating gets rough: With me as your dating coach, you will have the benefit of seeing the dating world through an entirely different lens. And — after years of experience and seeing tons of success stories — I can promise you that dating truly can be fun. Lots of fun, in fact!
  • Insight into what women are thinking and what they REALLY want: When you hire a female dating coach like me, you will get a firsthand look at what a woman wants, what she is thinking and why women do the things they do.
  • You won’t make the same mistakes that everyone else is making: I’m here to give you a major edge over the competition. As a dating coach, I have vast experience with the trial-and-error aspects of dating, has seen what works and what doesn’t, and has a shrewd knowledge about how to avoid common and subtle mistakes
  • Proven success: You’ll know that you’re in good hands when it comes to hiring a dating coach like me because my methods have proven to be successful. You can check out some testimonials from previous students at the bottom of the emlovz homepage.

When we team up, you don’t just get access to me, but rather my entire team.

  • Tom – Co-founder and leads the Man Cave, a twice-monthly event where students come together to talk about the single dating life.
  • Hailey – Celeb stylist who specializes in getting you looking spiffy for your hot date
  • Brooke, Cat, and Audrey – Mock date specialists that will help you practice and refine the skills you learned in our program in a safe space. You’ll receive feedback at the end of each date.
  • Aundrea – Health and fitness coach to help you get in shape and feeling good about your body
  • Mia – SM specialist who will help you optimize your SM accounts
  • Tilly – Sex coach here to help you get the most out of your sex life

emlovz can help you find the right person in months if not weeks.



If you want to learn how just check out our Masterclass or book a 1-on-1 appointment so we can chat about your goals and show you how emlovz can help you achieve them.

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