“Jen! I could use a bowling partner this Thursday at Balls R Us at 8 pm. Ready to kick some butt?”

This now gives her something she can definitively accept or decline.

A TDL is so much more powerful if said in person. But considering you’re interacting with a ghost, the next best thing is a voice memo.

A voice memo humanizes you, pulls at her heartstrings, and is so much more impactful than a lifeless text.

Stand out from the crowd and be vulnerable by letting her hear the intonation in your voice as you ask her out for the last time.

2. TDL via Phone Call

If they pick up, it means they want to talk to you.

Texts are easy to ignore but phone calls aren’t.

They’re so much more personal and meaningful (plus it’s nice to receive a call from a real human as opposed to a robocall every once in a while).

The second she picks up, you know she wants to go on a date with you.

When she does, get right to it and ask her out with a TDL. Spell out your date, make it sound awesome, and wait for a response.

Be sure to call her when she’s likely to pick up (i.e. after work). If she doesn’t answer, leave a voicemail, and don’t call back.

3. “I realize you’re probably not interested and that’s fine – all part of the dating journey. That said, do you have any feedback for me so I can improve and find the right person for me?”

Make sure you only use this after you’ve tried 3 times to invite her out using a TDL. Don’t just send a text like this because she didn’t respond to your “Good morning” text.

If you’ve sent this, you’ve given up on going out with her.

You’ve waved the white flag and just want feedback. She has valuable insight that you want. It’s possible this isn’t the first (or last) time you’ve been ghosted. Mine her for information to ensure this doesn’t happen again.

4. “And the best texting award goes to…”

Is it sassy — yes. A little mean-spirited even, sure — but that’s the point.

Look whether ghosting is considered evil or well-intentioned is a grey area that depends on how you were ghosted.

But whatever the case may be, you’ve done everything you can to get a response from this person but they still prove elusive. You’ll have to use alternative means to elicit a response.

Be playful, be witty, do what you need to do to get a response without being creepy or mean.

5. “Taking a break from dating are ya?”

Which message is more likely to receive a response?

“Why haven’t you texted me back?”

Or…

“Taking a break from dating are ya?”

The latter isn’t aggressive, seems genuinely curious, and isn’t a dating request.

It tacitly acknowledges that it’s okay that she’s been distant. Chances are she’ll respond in kind, tell you where her head is at, and might even sign up for a date.

6. “Damn girl, didn’t take you as the type to ghost.”

You don’t need to tread lightly with ghosts.

Unlike your favorite ghost story from your youth, this ghost probably won’t come back to haunt you if you’re sassy with them.

Calling out her ghosting behavior might be the seance you need to get a reply.

She may feel shitty and offer you an explanation. Now all you need to do is decide whether you want to go out with someone that has already acted callously towards you.

7. “Natalie, I feel like we’re drifting apart ;)”

This might be humorous depending on how long you’ve been seeing the message recipient.

This is the kind of message you’d send a close friend or a woman you’ve been dating for some time. She may see the humor in it and respond.

But hey, if she doesn’t you can always fall back on MegaDating.

8. “What’s up Casper?”

The absolute best way to convince her to tap out a response is to make her LOL.

Getting all aggressive isn’t the way to bring her back from the dead.

The text above calls her out in a humorous and non-confrontational way.

9. “Damn girl, I’m looking for a boo, not a ghost 👻. Where you at Natalie?”

Maybe we’d have more luck getting in touch with apparitions if we ditch mediums and instead hire more stand-up comedians.

10. “Hey stranger, long time no talk. (TDL)?”

Don’t waste your time trying to figure out the most perfect message.

A one or two-word response is progress, but if she doesn’t ultimately want to go out with you it doesn’t matter.

Go for the jugular and ask her out with a TDL.

Remember that first dates should be:

• Free
• Daytime dates
• Last no longer than one hour

Chances are the person you’re going out with on a first date is a complete stranger. So why would you want to be roped into spending $100+ and various hours with a person you may have nothing in common with?

Keep things brief.

If you like them, ask them out using a TDL at the end of the first date so they’re not put off by the length of the first date.

11. “Just wanted to check-in and see how not answering my texts is going?”

LOL.

This text is too good to not respond to.

It pokes fun at the situation while calling it out.

12. “Just dropping you a line to see how not texting me back is going?”

Same idea, different wording, hopefully, a better result.

13. “Thank you for the 15-day free trial.”

Keep your head high.

Just because she suddenly became incapable of responding to your texts doesn’t mean you have to be rude. Plenty of women will ghost you over the years.

According to a bankmycell survey, 56% of men have been ghosted.

There’s a damn good chance you’ll be ghosted again and again.

Start practicing what to text her after being ghosted so that when a woman you actually care about ghosts you, you know exactly what to say to resurrect her.

14. “Hey I forget whose turn it is to not text the other person today. Text me back and let me know, I’d hate to be the one to forget.”

Just another funny meta reminder that you’re being ghosted, but that you’re still a fun guy.

FACT: Fun guys are much more likely to receive texts from ghosts than un-fun guys. 

15. “One last try before I bug off and launch my (whatever thing you’re into) empire. (TDL)”

Remind her that you’re a force.

You’re ambitious, funny, and don’t have time for her.

Texting her every other day is tiring. But giving her a countdown is sexy. It shows that you’re not going to wait around for her resurrection.

16. “The John Mayer show starts at 8 p.m. this Friday, I’ll pick you up at 7. Whoops, sorry, wrong person.”

This is a personal favorite.

It’s a faux mistake text.

Of course, you meant to message her. And of course, you meant to remind her how kick-ass your life is without her.

She might just see how amazing your life is and want in. This TDL gives her the perfect chance to sign up for your next adventure.

17. “This article I read said that this line always gets a response from a ghost. Can I tell it to you?”

Just because she responds doesn’t mean you want her to.

Chances are she isn’t serious about dating you. She may respond to your witty text but then ghost you a few days later. She’s fickle, disinterested, and is best left in limbo.

18. “It was a pleasure meeting you. Best of luck in your dating life.”

RIP Hailey, or Jenny, or Andrea.

Allow yourself to move on by sending this last text.

The thing is, this non-threatening, lovely parting text is really likely to get a response. It’ll probably be a one-word response, but still.

If she does respond, ask yourself if you really want to date a woman that is clearly lukewarm at best about you.

What To Text Her After Being Ghosted: The Resurrection

One of these texts might just hold the key to resurrecting a ghost.

But let’s stop talking about bringing her back to life and talk about how we’ll give your dating life a second coming.

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