What does it mean when a woman stares at you? So glad you asked because that’s what we’re going to cover in this article. But first, let’s look at how staring plays out in the modern dating landscape.

First, the pandemic has made so many of us emotionally illiterate.

As if reading a female’s subtle flirtatious gestures wasn’t hard enough, it’s been compounded by being a hermit for over a year.

Now that COVID feels like a distant nightmare it’s time to get back out there and flirt again.

But that rust isn’t going to shake itself off.

To help you transition back into the real world, let’s decipher what it means when a woman stares at you.

The stare is the most primal of all flirtatious gestures and it’s often the first one she’ll give to indicate interest.

Misinterpreting a look could result in an awkward interaction or missed connection.

So together, let’s figure out what does it mean when a woman stares at you.

What Does It Mean When A Woman Stares At You?

There are many ways to interpret a stare.

But there’s something each stare has in common; interest.

It doesn’t mean this interest is romantic or even positive, but it does mean you’ve piqued her curiosity. Instead of chatting with friends, looking at her phone, or staring at another man, it’s you who has won her attention.

This attention can be leveraged to dive deeper into the interaction.

To further the interaction simply say to her:

Everything good?

Did I notice you looking at me?

Do I have something on my face?

Ideally, you have a hint as to why she’s staring and can shape your opening line around that. But even if you don’t have the perfect line it doesn’t matter. 

Saying something is always better than saying nothing. Don’t let your chance with her slip by. Guaranteed you’ll fantasize about the many ways that interaction could have gone had you said something. But you didn’t.

You’re probably afraid to strike up a conversation because you have a win-or-lose mindset.

If you don’t get her number, you lose.

Let’s reframe that.

Let’s say that simply by saying something–ANYTHING–you win. 

Saying something not only opens the door to a deeper connection but will make you more comfortable with striking up conversations with strangers IRL. The more you talk to them, the more confidence you’ll have and the better you’ll become at chatting with strangers.

But it’s understandable that before opening your mouth you’d love it if you could understand why she’s staring in the first place.

She’s Into You

If she’s staring into your eyes, it means it’s on. Unless you’re in a professional or medical setting this is almost always the case. If you’re in a social setting such as a bar, party, club, festival, gym, or another event, it means she wants you to approach her.

Her stare is a green light.

Seize this opportunity to go talk to her and if you’re nervous, reframe the impending interaction. It’s just a simple conversation with an interesting person. This will take away the stress and expectation you might normally place on flirting.

When you do approach her, allow the context and situation to guide the conversation. Ask her how she knows the host. Start with a question about something she’s wearing. Or say that you caught her looking and now she has to tell you her name.

How you approach depends on the context and signs she’s given you.

She Thinks You’re An Interesting Specimen

Just because she’s staring doesn’t mean she’s romantically interested in you.

It may not mean she thinks you’re a 10 or wants to strike up a conversation.

However, it does mean she’s interested in you or what you’re doing.

Maybe you’re dancing like a goofball at a party, just cracked a wild joke she overheard, or are wearing her favorite band t-shirt. Whatever the case may be she’s staring at you because you’re interesting and wants more information.

That’s perfect.

Take this chance to approach her.

Don’t come on too strong but try to use why you think she was staring at you to guide the early stages of the conversation.

Perhaps tell her… I couldn’t help but notice you checking out my dance moves, want to know my secret? 

If she’s taken aback by your approach don’t be discouraged. She might be shy or embarrassed that you caught her staring. Be a gentleman, smile, and ask her questions. Soon enough she’ll open up.

She’s Getting Her Flirt On

Staring at you from across the room is intentional, especially when her gaze lingers when your eyes connect.

Few women will actually do this but it’s not such a rarity that it never happens.

Women aren’t quick to stare because it’s a pretty vulnerable thing to do. They risk feeling rejected if you don’t come talk to them after you lock eyes.

It’s important to note that women are naturally passive with men. Giving you the eyes is as direct as she’s going to get in most cases.

Lack Of Eye Contact Doesn’t Mean She Isn’t Into You

It’s too black and white to assume that no eye contact means she isn’t into you.

Women may be interested but avoid eye contact. It’s because they want to avoid awkward and vulnerable positions. No one wants to be that person caught ogling another human. That goes for both women and men.

A woman may decide to avoid eye contact because staring may make her feel desperate or that she’s too available. She doesn’t want to do that, she wants to play the game.

That includes a bit of chasing.

Being caught drooling with her eyes means the game has ended before it started.

She’s trying to play it cool by keeping her cards closer to her chest.

Just because she isn’t staring doesn’t mean she isn’t looking. It doesn’t mean she isn’t stealing glances when you’re unaware. 

You Have Something On Your Face

While all interest can be leveraged and used to spark a conversation, that doesn’t mean she’ll be up for chatting with you.

Maybe she was caught gazing at you because she thinks your political shirt is scandalous or because you have something in your teeth. Or maybe you just look astonishingly like her cousin who she hasn’t seen in years.

There are a million reasons.

Chances are however you can more or less figure out why she’s staring.

Do you know that you’re a spectacle?

Are you wearing a tux at Subway, are you all wet from the rain, did you get an outlandish haircut?

Does your appearance or character draw attention from men and women?

These are signs that she may not want to strike up a romance but considers you a spectacle.

You’re Worth Talking About

Remember the last time you were with friends and there was a woman or person that caught your eye. You had to point this person out but didn’t want to catch their attention. You tried to be discreet when pointing them out but your friend was a bit too obvious.

Instead of looking at them on the DL they pointed and stared.

Casual.

Look sometimes for good or bad people will talk about you.

You won’t know why until you make conversation with them.

If you feel odd about approaching why not ask your super social friend to break the ice for you. Tell them a group has been looking at you and that they should go over and make friends. You’ll then swoop in a second later when it’s less awkward to do so.

What To Do About Her Attention?

Now that you know the answer to the question ‘what does it mean when a woman stares at you,’ what will you do about it?

The first step is identifying what kind of stare it is.

Instead of knowing exactly why she’s staring, simply indicate whether the stare is a negative one. If she’s staring because she hates your Bernie Sanders shirt, then maybe you don’t talk to her. But when you only have a stare to go on, identifying good from bad can be difficult.

This is why I advocate talking to her. Chances are that the more social a situation (bar, party, restaurant, social event, yoga, gym), the higher your chances that she’s into you. Not only this, but it’s less awkward if you approach in these settings.

When in doubt just say hi.

Don’t go in with the intention of flirting, rather, simply have a conversation with someone that has piqued your interest.

Simply saying hi should go down as a win.

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