Wondering how to approach women with their friends or who might be in a group?

Sometimes approaching a group of women is like approaching a hydra.

Except this hydra is drop-dead gorgeous and has five heads, heads with lips, lips that can verbally rip you to shreds and make you question ever talking to a woman again.

Luckily, you don’t need any special assistance from the gods to approach a group of women.

I mean sure, I’ve helped hundreds of men such as yourself address their fears and find the woman of their dreams but no, I’m not Cupid. I don’t carry a bow and arrow.

Instead, I’m equipped with 1) knowledge and 2) the insider information that you only get from being a woman.

That’s right; I have the cheat codes.

How To Approach Women With Their Friends

First things first.

I’m offering to teach you how to approach women.

That’s it.

I’d argue that if you’re thinking of approaching a woman and friends with the mindset of “I’m gonna flirt with her” or “I’m gonna take you home” you’ve already failed.

I say that for two reasons.

For one, you’ll psyche yourself out.

You’re putting too much pressure on yourself when you turn the situation into a win or lose scenario.

Instead, you’re simply approaching a group of women because you’re interested in them.

Hell, how do you even know you’re that interested in them until you start talking to them?

This is the first rule.

Enter every interaction with zero expectations.

No expectations means that you’ll never lose.

Never losing means that you’ll be more inclined to approach women and turn that hydra into a group of well-meaning nymphs.

The All Or Nothing Approach

You can be tempted to treat the situation like a hunter. 

Waiting until that perfect moment when the Doe walks away from her crew so you can have some alone time with her.

Don’t do this.

It’s creepy, increases pressure, and most importantly won’t work.

She’s here with her friends.

For her to ditch her friends in favor of spending alone time with some guy she met on her way to the bathroom you’d have to pull some pretty quality game out of your ass (more on quality game pulled out of ass later).

Instead, approach the group as a whole.

When the girls are out on the town or even in the coffee shop they’re a unit. In order to get one to like you, they all will have to like you.

Not to mention that talking to every girl in the group will 1) get rid of a possible cock-block situation 2) disguises your true intent making you look novel and interesting and 3) plant possible seeds that you can harvest later.

Approaching the group and becoming the life of the party will increase your perceived value.

How many other guys in the bar have the kind of balls you’re walking around with?

Give The Less Attractive Girls More Attention (aka Governing Dynamics: Ignore the Blonde)

Giving attention to the less attractive friend will boost her opinion of you (so you win her approval) while simultaneously making the attractive one jealous and wanting to compete for your attention and validation because she’s used to receiving it and she’s investing time in looking good specifically so she gets your attention.

By not giving it to her, you reverse her expectation, confuse her, make her curious about you, and make her feel as though you are more valuable than she is.

Do not give her any validation or approval.

Do not compliment her in any way.

But of course, as we see in “The Beautiful Mind” clip below while governing dynamics has its place at some point you have to go for gold (or in this case the blonde).

Don’t give the woman you’re really after any special attention until she strikes first OR until you’ve already invested enough time in winning over her friends.

This is a delicate strategy that must be balanced gently. Be too nice to the friends and they might get annoyed when you start talking to the girl you’re really interested in.

When in doubt make your move and have no regrets.

As a wise man once plagiarized, “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”

Challenge Her To A Game To Get Her By Herself

It’s not just that games inherently provide the perfect dynamic to flirt in (although very true) rather you just need some alone time. 

Most likely you’re picking her up in a bar.

If that’s the case challenge her to any bar game nearby:

— Billards

— Skee ball

— Darts

— Arcade games

The goal here isn’t to kick her ass at billiards thus sending your self-esteem to the roof.

Instead, it’s about getting some alone time to build up attraction.

It’s here that you’re free to turn on the charm.

If there are no games available you can ask her to accompany you to the bar, outside to quickly look at something cool, or offer to tell her a secret in a more private place.

Try The Hitch Method

Hitch is the most successful fictitious dating coach that Hollywood ever created.

He’s genuine (for the most part), has morals, and is extremely good at his job as we’ll see in this clip.

Now, am I advising doing exactly what he did?

YES!

In a sense at least.

Pretending a patron is an employee and throwing her some cash will more likely than not result in the loss of 20 dollars than in getting her phone number.

What I am advocating for is an unconventional way to get your foot in the door, one that in no way involves flirting.

Some other unconventional ways include:

— Asking her to verify something you heard today

— Taking a poll and asking her a question about womanly things

— Ask her if you should add a certain photo to your dating profile (“Would you swipe right on this photo?”)

— Asking her the name of the song that’s playing because for some reason you think humans are more reliable than Shazam

— Asking her what she thinks of your new pup (then showing her your dog’s Instagram).

— Tell her you saw her at the “super awesome place doing the super awesome thing” and think that she’s awesome because of it (FYI you didn’t see her there, this is just an in)

— Confess that you bet your buddies you could get her number (as seen here)

You Look Familiar/Do We Know Each Other?

The hardest part is just saying hello.

Most guys fail because they don’t try.

They think, “look at all these other guys at the bar/cafe/club/party. They have a much better shot than me.”

The thing is, most guys won’t even try.

You’re not competing with those other guys, but rather yourself.

The only 100% certain way that you lose is by not opening your mouth.

So while “You look familiar, do we know each other?” is a cliche line, it’s easy to use, remember, and has the appearance of authenticity.

Throw A Football, Frisbee, Or Other Ball Into Her Group’s Area

Not all ways to make the first contact have to be smooth.

Some are a bit cruder, and that’s perfectly fine.

Again, your goal is simply to make contact. This is always the hardest part.

Sometimes the easiest way to touchdown is well, with a touchdown.

Use Man’s Best Wingman

Dogs are allowed everywhere nowadays.

Cafes, bars, restaurants, parks, parties, hotels — literally everywhere.

Objectively speaking all dogs are both cute and will inevitably receive attention when they strut their stuff past the single ladies.

This is evidence by Match.com that found that of the 1,200 people surveyed, 1/3rd said they “had been more attracted to someone because they had a pet.”

It’s this information that has also led thousands of dating app users to post photos of themselves with dogs that aren’t their own.

The ruse is so commonplace it even has a name, dogfishing.

If you feel your pooch isn’t already enough of a babe magnet you can increase their attention-grabbing powers by dressing them up or showing off their skills in a public place.

Author, anthropologist, and Match.com advisor Helen Fisher says that: