Hiring a matchmaker to comb through the masses to find you compatible women to date sounds like a great idea. You can recline, watch some Netflix, and wait for her to give you a ring with the good news. But sounding great, and being great in practice are two very different things.

You see, not all matchmakers are created equal.

There are those matchmakers that will deploy a legion of date recruiters to look through dating pools far and wide to find you a date. And then there are matchmakers that will consistently set up men with women from their very limited dating pool that are more so available than compatible.

There are reasons aplenty why matchmakers should be treated like your high school ex that keeps hitting you up on Facebook. Which is to say, de-friended, blocked, and comprehensively ousted from your life.

That being said, not all matchmakers are the same. Together let’s explore the various types of matchmakers out there and answer your question of, “should I hire a matchmaker?”

Traditional Matchmakers Teach You Next to Nothing

Imagine if you team up with an old school matchmaker. A likely scenario is that at the end of the six month period (a common membership duration) you’ve gone on a total of six dates. The women were nice but you couldn’t see yourself dating any of them in the long run. What has your matchmaker taught you? What have these six dates taught you?

The best argument against using a 1990’s matchmaker can best be summed up by the age-old adage, give a man a fish, and you’ll feed him for a day, teach a man to fish, and you’ve fed him for a lifetime. At the end of the membership, you’re left to your own devices once again. Are you really more of a savvy dater than you were prior to these six dates? Doubtful.

Most matchmakers don’t offer consistent dating advice. Their sole purpose is to match you with people from their network that they think you’d be compatible with. You aren’t being taught how to navigate online dating, touch a woman, build sexual tension, converse, or how to have “the relationship talk.” Matchmakers are better for super busy men that are already experienced daters. But then again, if you’re a skilled man of romance, why would you have to resort to using a matchmaker?

Matchmakers find dates for you, that’s it. Dating coaches on the other hand will put a rod in your hand and teach you how to fish. The benefits of hiring a dating coach won’t wear off. However, the effects of hiring a matchmaker will wear off as soon as you stop making your outrageously expensive monthly payments.

Matchmakers rarely if ever pair coaching with matchmaking. Here at emlovz however, we marry the two. We realize that there’s no use in sending you out on the dancefloor without first teaching you how to boogie. Our weekly private or group based Zoom coaching sessions will equip you with the know-how needed to make every woman fall for you.

Be Wary of the Most Expensive Matchmakers 

The Thrillist published an article a few years back about the top matchmakers in NYC. Here are just a few of their prices so you can get a taste of what a matchmaker looks like in a big city.

• Three Day Rule: $7,500/6 months
• Janis Spindel Serious Matchmaking Inc.: $50,000-$500,000/1 year
• Agape Match: $15,000/six months (If you enter into a relationship that lasts more than six months you must pay a $5,000 success fee… talk about disincentivizing).

Perhaps some matchmakers would be worth the price tag if they introduced you to multiple compatible women a week, but sadly this isn’t the case. Most matchmakers connect their clients with one eligible dater a month.

To be clear, a connection doesn’t even mean a date.

A connection is simply providing contact information to the pair so they can begin a correspondence. Even if you end up hiring a matchmaker at the lower end of the price spectrum you still could be paying the equivalent of $1,000 for each date they set you up on.

When you team up with us, you’ll pay an economically friendly price justified by results. Forget about paying $1,000 for a single date. You also won’t waste your precious time – as your introductions will be made virtually. You decide who you want to meet in real life by using a TDL, which I’ll teach you what that means during a coaching session.

Limited Options

Matchmakers will likely only ever set you up with someone within their own network. I’ll admit that some companies have thousands of customers soliciting their services and thus thousands of people in their networks. The issue here is that no matter how many people in their social circle, it won’t compare to the people you’re able to meet via online dating, at cafes, bars, concerts, at work, through friends, etc. Using a matchmaker means putting a cap on the size of the dating pool.

Connecting daters from a shallow pool is an antiquated matchmaking strategy. When you enlist our help, we’ll scour the web (and of course any newly vetted singles in our database) to find women that we think are compatible. The dating pool we have to pull from is as deep as the single dating pool in your city.

Before Hiring A Matchmaker, Comb The Internet For Reviews And Ask To Speak With The 3 Most Recent Paid Male Clients

If you’re going to dish out thousands on a matchmaking service you should know damn well how effective the service is. Consult with Google and Yelp before signing away the next six months of your life. If there are no online reviews, ask why.

For every matchmaker you consider, Google their name along with the keyword, “lawsuits.” After looking for love through the help of a matchmaker, one woman filed a lawsuit after she spent $150,000 only to be set up with men who were “married, mentally unstable or felons.”

Ask as to the science of matchmaking. Make them explain the process to you. Even if their reviews are good, ascertain that they haven’t been taken to court, and that their process looks efficient. Create as accurate a picture of what your matchmaking experience will look like before you break the bank.

All Your Eggs Are In One Basket… Or Not

When you’re paying $20k for a six-month matchmaking service, you tend to stop trying.

Checking out of the game of life isn’t helpful. It creates a reliance on someone that has little incentive to find you a compatible match. What happens after your membership expires and you still haven’t found a romantic partner? If you’ve become reliant, it’s likely that you’ll once again hire a matchmaker to do your bidding.

Pairing coaching with matchmaking will instill you evergreen skills that you can use to meet and mine for dates without the help of our matchmaking services. It’s these skills that you’ll carry with you forever. Under my tutelage, you’ll learn how to tap into your social network to find dates, ask a woman out from your co-ed sports league, use a TDL, and of course, MegaDate.

You Feel Entitled To Chemistry

If you pay 6k for a 6-month membership that ultimately supplies one date a month, you’re effectively paying $1,000 for each date. At $1,000 a date, you expect each date to dazzle you. So when there’s little chemistry between you and Samantha you feel cheated.

Matchmaking isn’t a science, no matter how much old-school matchmakers tell you it is. Some of your dates just won’t work out. Going into each date with the expectation that you’re going to meet Wonder Woman doesn’t help much either.

Each date should be entered into with low expectations, but this is impossible to do when you’re paying a small fortune matchmaking services. An outrageous price tag doesn’t promise outrageously awesome women.

Your Dealbreakers Are Encouraged

During your first matchmaking session, you’ll be sat down at a table and asked to describe your perfect mate. Naturally, you’ll be asked to list your dealbreakers. When you’re searching for eligible women on your own, your list of must-haves isn’t as lengthy as when you let a matchmaker take the wheel. It’s easy to toss any number of women to the side when you’re given a piece of clay and asked to sculpt your perfect mate.

When you learn to pair MegaDating with matchmaking you’ll not only learn about the type of woman you’re attracted to but also the type of woman that’s realistically attracted to you. The only way to learn these are by becoming a prolific dater. It’s this new hobby of serial dating for the purpose of expediting the time it takes to find a meaningful partner that I specialize in.

Ditch The Traditional Matchmaker And Try A New Strategy

Let a professional dating coach and modern matchmaker guide you through the dating scene. Giving a traditional matchmaker the password to your heart is a lazy and often ineffective way to go about dating. Don’t give up the reigns to your dating life. Instead, let a dating coach breathe life into your romance by turning you into a dating maven.

When you team up with a dating coach like myself you’ll have a coach that will teach you how to catch fish on your own. We’ll throw away the dating crutches that matchmakers give their customers and will rewire you into a romantic juggernaut.

Let’s take a look at some of the benefits of teaming up with someone like myself opposed to a matchmaker.

Cost

You don’t always get what you pay for. Dishing $20-$30K on a matchmaker should translate to instant and everlasting love. Sorry to ruin the ending, but it doesn’t. I, however, can offer you better results for a more affordable rate. When we team up not only will you receive coaching, but if desired, also matchmaking services that you’re guaranteed to take advantage of when you leverage your new dating skills.

You’ll Learn

When you partner with me I’ll teach you how to use online dating, provide date feedback, offer text coaching, show you the date rules that get results, teach you the MegaDating strategy, how to rebound after a bad date, how to touch a date so as to build sexual tension, etc. These skills will be applicable even after our time has come to a close.

The questions still stands, should I hire a matchmaker?

Well, kind of.

You should hire me. With our hybrid coaching/matchmaker model, we ensure that you learn great dating skills and give you the opportunity to put those skills to work by setting you up with compatible, single women.

Need a bit more convincing? Book a new client 1-on-1 Zoom strategy session today to learn how together, we can turn you into a dating machine. During our intro session, we’ll discuss your dating history, talk about your roadblocks, create an action plan, and see if my 3-month coaching program is a fit for you!