Matchmaking has been around since the Old Testament.

In Genesis, Abraham’s servant, Elizier, selected a bride for Abraham’s son by putting eligible young women through the “camel test.” Of the women that draw water from the well Elizier and his camels are loitering at, only one woman, Rebekah, gives a portion of the water she fetched to Elizier and his ten camels. You know she’s a keeper when she draws water in the desert for you and your ten camels… at least that’s how Abraham sees it. 

Biblical figures weren’t the only people of antiquity to lean on matchmakers. Before the age of swiping, the ancient Greeks, Chinese, and Aztecs all called upon the expertise of matchmakers. Even the now unintentionally celibate Japanese once held massive orgies during the Nara period that were created and championed by matchmakers.

But just because the ancient art of matchmaking has endured doesn’t mean it’s right for you. 

Matchmaking –and even mating in general- used to be simple. Princes only married princesses that would strengthen the bond between two kingdoms, female common-folk were paired up with men that had land, and most young city lovers in the 1930s would marry someone that lived within a five-block radius of their childhood home.

Nowadays you’re not limited to a choice group of far off princesses. Even though the databases of NYC matchmakers are infinitely larger than those of bygone matchmakers, most “big-time” matchmakers fail to provide their clients with compatible matches. 

As we have seen, matchmaking is an ancient practice that has always had willing single men and women enlist the services of a sage matchmaker for their expertise. Throughout the years, matchmaking has evolved, but never quick enough. 

Despite most matchmakers employing outdated practices to find love, matchmaking is still is an appealing practice. Men and women that use matchmakers pass the responsibility of searching for love on to someone else.

No more bar-hopping or online dating. Instead of wading through the muck to get to the lover on the other side, a matchmaker will build you a bridge. While it sounds nice in theory, there are more than a few issues that arise when seeking the employ of a New York City matchmaker.

Tips for Hiring a Matchmaker in NYC

If matchmakers employed the same techniques they use today 50 years ago, every single New Yorker would be seeking their knowledge. The issue is that matchmakers are using obsolete dating techniques in a fast-paced romantic environment.

Matchmakers mostly use limited databases to find you a suitor. Dating applications operate in much the same way, the exception being that their dating pools are being swum through by millions of people while a matchmaker might only have a few hundred lounging around in their pool.

Not All NYC Matchmakers Have Your Best Interest in Mind

In 2014, Aubrey Ruben paid celebrity matchmaker Richard Easton $100,000 to set her up with compatible men that were marriage material. Their contract guaranteed 15 high-quality introductions within 13 months. Instead Ms. Ruben –still a Miss by the way- went on two dates within the 13-month period.

Ms. Ruben said that both dates she went on were horrible. The second man she dated made it clear that he wasn’t looking to get married and even questioned why Ruben was pursuing marriage. Ruben later took her celebrity “matchmaker” to court. It turns out that not only did the man she hired have zero matchmaking experience but that -fun fact- he also tortured his neighbors while living in the West Village. WTF!

Review your NYC matchmaker online before dishing out tens of thousands. This should be a no-brainer.

What’s not a no-brainer is inspecting the contract, and checking to see if you’re guaranteed a specific number of introductions within a specified time or your money back. This match tally gives matchmakers incentive to find you people to date. Although as we learned from Ms. Ruben’s experience, just because an NYC matchmaker hooks you up with someone doesn’t mean you’ll be compatible.

Chat Up Their Clients

If you’re serious about hiring a matchmaker in NYC you should invest in the vetting process. Of course you’ll want to check for online reviews, but they can only offer so much by way of feedback.

Ask for the contact information of three of their clients. When you ask for client info you’ll likely receive the contact information of their satisfied clients. But if they can’t provide basic information such as this, then you can ascertain that they’re hiding something.

If you do get your hands on an email address or phone number, ask to meet the client in person. Ask probing questions about the process to figure out if this matchmaker is worth the price tag or if you can replicate their success/process without emptying your bank account.

How Large is Their Database?

Just because there are around 1 million single women in NYC doesn’t mean that your NYC matchmaker will pre-screen each individual woman as she tries to find you the one.

Matchmakers function as your pre-date proxy. They put in the necessary work to find you a date. However, they’re not canvassing every house in your neighborhood, knocking on doors and interviewing every single woman. Rather, they look to their finite database for your next partner. Well, at least, that’s how some matchmakers go about their business.

NYC Matchmaking: The New Way

Matchmaking is in dire need of a makeover.

One of the many reasons leaning on a professional to set two people up doesn’t work is because at least one person being set up on the date is lacking the dating skills to take advantage of the situation. 

Setting up an inept dater with a woman is like a friend hooking you up with a software developing job interview when you know absolutely nothing about coding. It’s awesome that you got this interview that could land you a 200k position, but what good is that if you next to nothing about software development?

Dating is something that might not come naturally to everyone. Chances are if you’re using a matchmaker, that person might be you.

A matchmaker introduces you to women, that’s it.

Once you have their contact information it’s up to you to have a successful first date, escalate sexual tension on date two, and close the deal on date three.

That’s why here at emlovz we pair coaching with matchmaking. 

We would never put the woman of your dreams in front of you without equipping you with the skills needed to woo her. That’d be cruel. 

Matchmaking companies that promise to matchmake without offering to coach are primed for failure.  

Through a series of coaching sessions, I’ll teach you how to act on a first, second, and third date, how to use a TDL, how to use touch to escalate sexual tension, and ultimately how to find a girlfriend. 

What use is dating compatible women if you kamikaze every date by nervously talking non-stop about work and how disappointed you are in Space Force. 

Our Matchmaking is Different

Recall the disaster story of Aubrey Ruben. She paid a celebrity NYC matchmaker $100,000 for a 13-month membership. Granted, she sought the help of a celebrity matchmaker, but still, what she paid was at the higher end of the spectrum.

The prices of NYC matchmakers can range, but none are cheap. According to Timeout.com, the best matchmaker in NYC, Agape Match, starts their matchmaking service off at a base of $15,000 for 10-15 matches. Hunting Maven charges $25,000 while Modern Love Club will run you $15,000 for 15 matches. Even at the cheaper end of the scale you’ll still be paying around $1,000 a match. At this price point you’d expect that each date will be wifey material.

The clients of mine that have tried old-school matchmakers say that this is one of the biggest issues. For more than $1,000 a date you expect the person sharing a bottle of wine with you to be utterly perfect. When they’re not, you feel cheated. 

Not only is our matchmaking-coaching service more economical for what you get in total, but we also promise to find you compatible dates on a consistent basis.

Don’t fret over dishing out small fortunes just for the chance of going on a few dates with semi-compatible women on an irregular basis. 

When you team up with us at emlovz, you’ll be enlisting the help of a team of trained recruiters that aren’t limited to searching through a static database to find your next date.

Instead our team search through your social networks and local area in order to find women we think are compatible. In this way, clients aren’t limited to a small pool of potential daters.

We should also mention that every potential date is put through a background check to ensure that we aren’t setting you up with any crazies. We promise never to set you up with a woman that has a history of stalking unrequited lovers. 

Why You Should Hire a Coach AND Matchmaker

Unlike a one dimensional matchmaker, a dating coach will teach you how to flirt. I’ll show you how to write a profile that would make even Shakespeare jealous, what to say to a woman to persuade her to come back to your place, will teach you how to woo a woman with your hands, and all the other skills necessary to fall in love in the modern world of dating.

When you and I team up, you’re dating philosophy will be informed by MegaDating. When you enroll in the 3-month Signature Program you’ll learn the intricacies of the philosophy. For now, I’ll give you a taste.

First Date

• No more than $10

• Should last no more than 1 hour

Second Date

• Must be active

• Free

• Plenty of physical touching

Third Date

• No monetary or time restrictions

• The date location should be set up close to your home

These are just the bare bones of my 3-month coaching program. And it’s not even touching on the add-on matchmaking portion of my services.

If you want to learn what NYC matchmakers will never teach you, book a new client 1-on-1 Skype session with me today. During our session, we’ll diagnose your dating obstacles, create an action plan, and discuss my coaching program and matchmaking services in more detail.