How To Never Get Flaked on By a Woman Again – In 6 Easy Steps
Women can be flakier than Grandma’s apple pie — and not nearly as sweet.
You’re probably here because a woman flaked on you recently.
First of all, it’s happened to everyone.
Don’t believe me, just check out this graph.
Being ditched last minute isn’t a uniquely you thing, but it is a uniquely male problem, one we’ll try to solve hopefully using less complex math than seen above.
Getting a woman to go out with you is simple, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy.
Ya see, your job is to convince her that going out with you is the most fun thing she can do on any given day.
So how do you do that?
Let’s break it down…
How To Never Get Flaked on By a Woman Ever Again
Make Your Dates Sound Better Than Binging Netflix
Let’s just be real, she probably flaked on you to watch Bridgerton (who hasn’t really?)
Yeah, my dude Simon Basset slays.
If the option is between cafe at Starbucks with a stranger or watching Simon Basset court the hell out of Daphne Bridgerton while in the comfort of her bed, which do you think she’ll choose.
Considering you two probably matched on Tinder and she’s more familiar with her sketchy downstairs neighbor than she is with you, you’re gonna have to pitch her a pretty awesome first date idea in order for her show.
So what does a compelling first date that she can’t possibly say no to look like?
Here are a few suggestions:
— Hike a trail she’s never been on before
— Sip wine and gorge on cheese while watching the sunset at the beach
— Mini-golfing… hell yeah
— Rock climbing or indoor climbing
— Bowling… it’s simple but she hasn’t done it in years and it reminds her of her childhood
— Hit the zoo
There are really three things you want to keep in mind when creating that perfect date idea.
1. Is it easy enough for her to say yes to?
By this I mean is it easy for her to get to as well as do. Not everyone wants to drive an hour to then go paintballing. Make sure the date is close to her house or office and isn’t too taxing (unless that’s what she wants)
2. Is it something she’s interested in?
There’s a reason you’ve never been curling on a first date. No one will want to spend time with someone they barely know doing things they don’t want to do.
Now, things someone doesn’t normally do and things someone doesn’t want to do are two separate things. Women love adventurous, unique date plans, they just don’t want to do things that are no interest to them. That’s why it’s on you to learn about what she’s into and go on a date that incorporates those interests.
3. Is it cheap and brief?
This rule really only applies to first dates.
First dates are nothing more than introductory meetings between two strangers. They’re interactions where both parties can feel each other out to see if they have chemistry. This is why you don’t invite strangers out for steak dinners on first dates.
If you’re following MegaDating guidelines, first dates will last no longer than an hour with no more than $10 being spent.
Wouldn’t it suck to agree to a 3-hour date that involves dishing out over $100 on someone who you know you’re not interested in the second their ass hits the chair?
Be smart and follow MD guidelines.
How You Sell Is Just As Important As What You Sell
If the most successful ad-man in history, Dan Ogilvy were a single man on Tinder he would NEVER message a woman, “hey, wanna get a drink sometime?”
As Ogilby says, an awesome product (or date idea) — like tickets to see HAIM — still won’t be purchased unless it’s wrapped up like a present.
Tell me which TDL sounds better?
“Hey Jan, wanna watch some live music this Friday?”
OR
“Jan! Just snatched up the last tickets to see HAIM (they just played at the Grammy’s so they’re kinda a big deal) and I want you to come rock up with me. You in? It’s this Saturday at 7pm.”
Before asking her out write out your date pitch 3-5 times.
This is how you never get flaked on by a woman again.
This may sound excessive but Ogilvy used to write 20 headlines per piece of copy.
He knew that without a solid headline, no one would bother reading the article or buying the product.
Once you’ve nailed your line, you coulllld shoot her a text, but everyone does that.
Stand out by calling her or at the very least leaving her a voice message.
Don’t Eat Shrimp If She’s Allergic
Whether you met her at a party or on Hinge, you should know at least a couple things about the woman you’re about to ask out.
If you don’t, maybe you should.
I’m not saying you should know her entire family genealogy and can see into the depths of her soul before taking the plunge.
What I am saying is that there should be at least one tidbit you know about her that will be useful in planning a first date.
Does she like running, drinking coffee from obscure countries, hiking, yoga, making fun of poodles or shaming people in wearing masks?
Use what you know to build an awesome first date idea.
The last thing you’d want to do is plan an epic ice cream date only to learn that she’s lactose intolerant.
Listen to what she’s passionate about and use what she’s written in her profile to construct an awesome first date.
Some women aren’t big into talking about themselves.
Not a problem.
Simply message her…
“Tell me something cool about yourself.”
If she doesn’t respond, message back with, “There’s nothing cool about you? I don’t believe it.”
Another favorite of mine that you can use to get women talking is…
“Hey Sam! Tell me a secret about yourself, something your mom doesn’t know about you”
Peeling back the layers early on will make it easier to ask her out on an awesome date. It also makes it easier to weed away women that aren’t your type.
This Deal Is Ending Soon So Come On Down! (read in sales-y car commercial voice)
If she doesn’t go on this date with you she’ll never have the chance to do so again (it’s probably not true but just play along).
Starbucks is available all hours, every day of the week, on pretty much every street corner.
But the dog surfing championships in Pacifica happens only 1 day out of the year.
If you’re inviting her to the latter, she’ll have to seriously consider missing out on the opportunity if she’s feeling iffy the day of or day before the event.
But if she flakes on coffee or something she could easily reschedule to a different day for, then it makes it easier for her to get out of it if a better opportunity is presented.
You want your dates to be one-in-a-lifetime adventures rather than something banal that she can do on any Tuesday of the week.
But this isn’t always possible.
Which is why regardless of the date idea you’ll need to create a sense of urgency.
Tell her that you finally have a Friday off and that this is the only day in the near future you can go out.
Or inform her of this really cool deal or even that’s coming up and make it seem like it’s the last of its kind.
FOMO can convince even the most red-eyed binge-watcher to get their asses off the couch and date a complete stranger.
You’re Not Always Available Because You Have A Life
A man with an empty calendar isn’t desired.
A man in high demand is sexy.
Look at your calendar right now.
Pick three days within the next two weeks and make sure you’re busy.
Busy meeting friends, busy with trivia, with yoga class, with training for that 5k you’ve been wanting to run, so busy living the life you want to live that not even the Jessica Biel could pry you away from your schedule.
Inform her of your busyness.
Tell her that you have meditation on Thursday and a trip on Saturday so if she can’t go out this Friday she’ll have to wait and if she waits the chance may never come up again.
Why she asks?
Because you’re a busy man full of rich relationships and you don’t have time to wait around for a stranger that’s dragging her feet.
A happy byproduct of forever being busy is that you’re living your life, forming new relationships, and most likely meeting single women worthy of your time.
Express Disappointment By Using The Word “Disappointed”
You know how when your parents got mad at you growing up.
Wasn’t it always way worse when they said “I’m not mad, I’m just disappointed?”
The same is true in dating.
If a woman knows that you are disappointed, she will feel bad for being the cause of that disappointment and will want to make it up to you. This gives you the leverage and creates a bit of internal pressure for her to seek out your approval.
If she flakes last minute, you should say something like “Wow, I’m disappointed to hear that, especially because it’s too late for me to invite a friend/someone else and I don’t really want to go alone.”
Now she starts thinking about her bad behavior and begins to learn about your boundaries.
Never say “oh it’s cool,” when a woman disappoints (and disrespects) you because it sets the tone that she can walk all over you and therefore, you’re not important or valuable.
Expressing disappointment demonstrates your value to her.
The Real Key How To Never Get Flaked on By a Woman Again..
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